Tips: Some Advice From An INTJ Personality Type On Not Caring About How People Perceive You

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📜 Question: What is your secret to not caring at all about how most people see you? How is it possible that you continue doing certain things without worrying about people's opinions? 

📝 Answer: 1] Patiently persist in living life only to please and worship our Creator Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala Who has full control over everything and everybody. Why should you care about appearing likable 24/7 to all of Allah's servants when many of them struggle to respect themselves? 

2] Understand that you shouldn't feel afraid of or overly worried about how people view you, as they themselves also have their own set of fears, trials and worries, while all human beings are accountable for what they voluntarily choose to do. 

3] Believe that when some individuals wrongfully accuse you of doing something which you're against or they misjudge you in some ways, it's because they're obviously ignorant of what you actually do when they are not properly observing or their intense jealousy of you provokes them to deny that you're capable of doing the right thing. 

4] What goes around comes around. Allah's Justice always prevails if not sooner or later in this world then surely some time on the Day of Judgment. Anybody who purposely tries to make your circumstances difficult will 

Inn-sha-Allah witness the consequences of their intentional actions. Frequently plotting against those who sincerely strive to be closer to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala can be a double-edged sword. 

5] Consistently remind yourself of your actual goals, purpose and mission in this world. The more you adamantly support the reasons behind what you do sincerely for Allah's sake, the less you become easily influenced by how other fellow slaves perceive you. 

~•~

📖 Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever seeks Allah's Pleasure by the displeasure of the people, Allah will suffice him against the people. Whoever seeks the pleasure of the people by displeasing Allah, Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) will leave him to the patronage of the people."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2414

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: 'Allah has decreed what He wills.' Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim  

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Poem: Deluded Narcissists, Don't Flatter Yourselves - I Am Not Jealous Of You And Your Lies.

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ If I could send a note to deluded narcissists 

Who embellish their stories with obvious tales and fibs, 

Expecting me to envy their tangled narratives, 

I'd say "Please, don't inflate your pride with your false guesses. 

I don't wish to be you. Quit assuming I'm "jealous". 

~•~

Alhamdulillah. With Allah's gifts I'm contented. 

I don't compare myself to those who are impious, 

Insecure, discourteous, prone to feeling jealous 

Of others or who truly can never be trusted. 

Why should I envy fakes and actors with foul motives?

~•~

Please, your lies don't impress me. They're just ridiculous. 

I smile when hearing you brag to remain courteous, 

Nodding now and then like an empathic teacher does 

When presumptuous students boast about their projects, 

Desperate for praise even if they could be pathetic.

~•~

Narcissists tend to lie a lot to seem impressive, 

And they want to know you're "jealous" so their depressive 

Moods can dissipate when their ego gets inflated. 

If I were jealous, I'd indulge in childish gossip, 

Acting like a bully who's tactless and oppressive. 

~•~

Jealousy is a feeling I don't wish to possess, 

Specially if it shows that one is discontented

With the gifts which Allah the Most Wise chooses to give. 

Fully content with my spouse whom Allah selected, 

I'm not one bit jealous of any actor's marriage."

~•~

📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "No one who has the weight of a seed of arrogance (atom's weight of kibr) in his heart will enter Paradise." A man said, “But a man likes to have nice clothes and nice shoes.” The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah is Beautiful and He loves beauty. Arrogance (kibr) is to disregard (or reject) the truth and to look down on the people."

Source: Sahih Muslim 91

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "You must be truthful. Verily, truthfulness leads to righteousness and righteousness leads to Paradise. A man continues to be truthful and encourages honesty until he is recorded with Allah as a truthful person. And beware of falsehood. Verily, falsehood leads to wickedness and wickedness leads to the Hellfire. A man continues to tell lies and encourages falsehood until he is recorded with Allah as a liar."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5743 

Sahih Muslim 2607

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

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https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/communication-success/201608/8-common-narcissist-lies

Tips: Advice On How Not To Regret Your Choice To Disconnect From Toxic People

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

📑 Three tips to not feeling regretful at all with your decision to quit trying to maintain friendship with certain individuals who are (ex-friends) too toxic for you: 

1] Firmly believe that Allah the Almighty always has complete control over everybody and everything. If Allah the Most Wise wanted you to connect with some people, He Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala would've allowed the connection to develop so it continues even until your reunion in Jannah Paradise. There's no use in insisting to remain as "close buddies" with those whom Allah the All-Seeing knows aren't actually wholesome for you. 

2] Recall the very reason why you decided to discontinue being interested in building a connection with that former "friend". The quality of your lifestyle and strength of your faith/Imaan may be negatively impacted by frequently socializing with untruthful, gossipy and untrustworthy individuals. 

3] Remind yourself of how you're already contented with Allah's Love and that you don't require any of His servants' approval to thrive in both worlds. Appreciate the select few whom you genuinely care about for Allah's sake such as your dear parents, spouse, siblings, half siblings or foster siblings and at least two cousins from your relatives who don't misjudge nor feel jealous of you at all etc.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan." 

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi 

📖 Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu said: "A righteous companion is better than loneliness, and loneliness is better than an evil companion. A good writer is better than one silent, and one silent is better than an evil writer."

Source: Rawdat Al-‘Uqalā 56

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Note: Five Reasons Why Some People Are Easier To Talk To Than Others

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📝 Five possible reasons why you gravitate to certain individuals much more than with others and why it's not too difficult for you to have meaningful or long conversations with them: 

1] You have so many things and qualities in common, while you mutually don't feel envious of each other at all. 

✅ For instance you're both okay with polygyny, both of your parents passed away, you both resided in Saudi Arabia for several years, you are both the eldest of your siblings or you're an only child, you both enjoy researching about psychology and self-development, or you both can speak Arabic fluently etc. 

2] There are numerous aspects about them which you admire for Allah's sake, and likewise there's something about you which they find admirable or agreeable. 

✅ Example: You like how they're trustworthy and honest, while they respect your courage in accepting your husband's decision to stay married to more than one wife. Or you're amazed by their enthusiasm to generously share Islamic reminders and authentic knowledge regularly, while your carefulness with the way you utilize social media is one fact they love about you. 

3] You can sense that they refrain from purposely trying to make you jealous, insecure or uneasy, just as they are already at ease around you. They're not intimidated by you just as you're not threatened by their vibes in any way. 

4] They show willingness to become more acquainted with you for Allah's sake, while you're also willing to develop and maintain the connection. 

Two Muslims can Inn-sha-Allah connect well if both of them believe that networking and strengthening the link can bring them closer to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. 

5] Allah the Most Wise is the One Who destined your souls to actually feel comfortable around each other. 

You and some individuals can never "click" or amicably get along, even if you were colleagues or next-door neighbors, if establishing a strong bond with them isn't part of Allah's Qadr. 

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are like conscripted soldiers. They come together upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109 

Sahih Muslim 2638 

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Poem: Tired Of Jealous People Treating You Rudely? Feel Sorry For Them. They're Actually Unhappy.

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

🗒️ Letter to comfort Muslims who are often bullied 

Or treated rudely by those guilty of jealousy: 

Know that those who are blessed with faith and inner beauty

Don't roam around earth to bully and spread misery. 

Whoso treats you badly is jealous or unhappy. 

~•~

Maybe envy disturbs them because you look pretty; 

And knowing you're much prettier spoils their self-esteem. 

Or they're single while you're married, or your bravery

Seen in accepting your husband's choice to remarry 

Makes them feel insecure or emotionally weak. 

~•~

Or they're envious because to several countries

You've traveled, or Allah enriched you with piety 

And guidance to do more good deeds with sincerity. 

Or Allah granted you from your loving family 

Some relatives who advise you when necessary. 

~•~

Or those jealous people, they envy you intensely, 

Because the way you deal with others confidently

Causes them to doubt their self-worth and abilities. 

Or you strive to keep it real, while they're untrustworthy. 

Your honesty makes them feel inferior morally.

~•~

Most likely the fact that they envy you immensely

Is the reason why they treat you disrespectfully. 

Feel sorry for them. Perhaps Allah the Almighty

Doesn't love them enough to bless them with inner peace 

And true contentment with Allah's gifts dispersed wisely.

~•~

From the problems of the jealous: Persistent worry, 

Inability to relax because you clearly

Surpass, outshine and transcend them in ways aplenty, 

And constant urge to stalk your online posts spitefully - 

Bad energy from spite is too heavy to carry.

~•~

Tired of toxic people treating you obnoxiously? 

Let their discourtesy testify that jealousy 

Triggers them to misbehave to soothe despondency. 

While some envy your trust in Allah the Almighty, 

Others can't stand seeing you satisfied inwardly.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Do not envy one another, do not outbid each other, do not hate one another, do not turn away from each other, and do not outsell each other. Rather, be servants of Allah as brothers. The Muslim is the brother of another Muslim. He does not wrong him, nor humiliate him, nor look down upon him. Righteousness is here," and he Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam pointed to his chest three times. The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "It is enough evil for a man to look down upon his Muslim brother. The entirety of the Muslim is sacred to another Muslim: his life, his wealth, and his reputation."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2564

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Beware of envy, for it erases good deeds just as fire devours wood or grass."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4903

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Suyuti 

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