Links: Some Beneficial Islamic Lectures On SoundCloud

🔊 A few playlists of Salafi lectures on marital or family affairs out of many available playlists:

1✅ Building a Happy Muslim Family

https://on.soundcloud.com/Lif9ycyUFRuVk9Ji9

2✅ A Woman’s Guide to Raising a Family

https://on.soundcloud.com/CsmWBjKZed8FzwLe7

3✅ The Responsibility of Fatherhood and Advice to Sisters Raising their Sons Alone

https://on.soundcloud.com/TNsmu68dTjHTbuM2A

4✅ The Importance of Islamic Cultivation 

https://on.soundcloud.com/KAjhbbMpQyuJ3eKU6

5✅ Life of a Young Muslim 

https://on.soundcloud.com/Q3PuFFdrQFC9yvQM6

6✅ Readings from “A Beautiful Example of that which has come Concerning Women”

https://on.soundcloud.com/toerZ4joh8w2HkfcA

7✅ The Characteristics of a Righteous Muslim Wife

https://on.soundcloud.com/Xp7bNqZHQtJgA7dS9

8✅ Establishing an Islamic Home

https://on.soundcloud.com/dFerxAN4npDqYkR49

Poem: To my dear daughter Hajar and to her half siblings

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 To my daughter and her half siblings, some tips from me, 

From your dad's first wife who loves him for Allah truly: 

Dear Hajar, Yusuf, Zara and, if Allah decrees, 

To your future half siblings if your dad remarries, 

Some random advice as I care for your well-being:

~•~

Firmly believe that our goal in life is to only 

Worship Allah the True King Who made the lands and seas, 

And the blessings which Allah gave us must be our means 

And tools to sincerely please Allah the Almighty. 

Serving just Allah is our topmost priority.

~•~

Never be a slave to foul desires, society 

And brief feelings which distract us from integrity. 

When happy, thank Allah. When sad, keep calm, persevere, 

And seek at least one merit amidst difficulties, 

Such as moments to speak to Allah more frequently.

~•~

When angry, say some Dhikr, drink water, take a seat 

Or have a nap, and analyze very carefully

The outcomes of overreacting due to fury. 

When you make mistakes, as you're human undoubtedly, 

Do Tawbah, learn from your faults, pray for Allah's Mercy.

~•~

As for jealousy, overcome it by patiently 

Accepting Allah's Qadr and believing that He 

Gives what He wants to whom He wills with wisdom that's clear 

And obvious to Him Only. Allah the Almighty 

Always knows what's best for us while we can be naive.

~•~

Educate yourself about Islam regularly 

Through resources which are valid, safe and trustworthy. 

Learn Arabic as well so you can effectively 

Understand Allah's Words, the Qur'an, so when you read, 

With the Tafseer, in your faith Imaan there's an increase.

~•~

Maintaining high grades and collecting college degrees 

Are less important than good manners and righteous deeds. 

Not looking "flawless" or failing board exams really

Isn't a big deal. What matters most importantly 

Is we pass Allah's tests and deserve Jannah's entry.

~•~

If you were to choose your career, my advice would be 

To select the one which you believe can bring you near 

Allah's Love while the workplace doesn't cause you to leave 

Or neglect your values and responsibilities, 

Specially our duties to Allah the Almighty. 

~•~

Know that real bliss isn't in earning money swiftly 

Nor in having many fans from friends and family, 

But true happiness can be found with Allah Only. 

Strong connection with Allah can surely guarantee 

Serenity and contentment enjoyed thoroughly.

~•~

Dear children of my husband, care for your families, 

Always forgive each other, pay visits frequently, 

Remind each other to pray to Allah faithfully

And to never let pride/kibr defeat unity. 

shaytan is amused when Muslims argue aimlessly.

~•~

Be brave enough to pardon, even if inwardly 

It hurts. Unpleasant feelings subside eventually. 

People, things, earth and emotions are temporary. 

Stay connected to Allah and you won't feel empty. 

Pray we meet in Jannah where joy is for eternity. 

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "When the human being dies, his deeds end except for three: Ongoing charity, beneficial knowledge (which he shared with others and left behind), or a righteous child who prays for him."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1631

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/poem-encouragement-to-bring-up.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/11/hadith-virtues-of-raising-righteous.html 

🗂️ Da'wah According To The Noble Qur'an And Sunnah Of The Beloved Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam. (Summary - PDF not for sale)

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1TxcfC6YawDkCh94m-4swRJk7jYbnhFlX/view?usp=drivesdk

📁 Just Sharing Islam (1st ebook of 103 selected Islamic poems - PDF not for sale)

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1U012hrM67qh3IFgEx8QYo4XtByA29YT8/view?usp=drivesdk

📂 Journeying Back To Jannah (2nd ebook of 135 selected Islamic poems - PDF not for sale)

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1TxjFxF8gey4ZtjG_WZqjBrpRNpm3lJcL/view?usp=drivesdk 

https://abukhadeejah.com/twelve-steps-in-cultivating-our-children/

https://abukhadeejah.com/how-the-righteous-cultivate-their-children-ebook/

https://salaficentre.com/tag/children/

Note: Some Phrases Which Most INTJs Would Never Say

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

📝 Some phrases which most INTJs would never say: 

1] "Let's become instant besties!"

🔲 It usually takes a long time for several INTJ personality types to regard someone as an actual friend, since they are typical introverts who are very selective regarding who they pay attention to. Even if an INTJ may perceive you as a potential confidant, it can sometimes be tricky to confirm if they've already formed a friendship with you or if they still see you as a complete stranger. 

🌼 From the signs that an INTJ Muslim feels at ease with you: 

1• Whenever there's an opportunity to meet, some INTJs would frequently go out of their way to prolong conversations with you and inquire more about yourself, not to seem obnoxiously inquisitive but to educate themselves about you as they are interested in strengthening the meaningful connection for Allah's sake. 

2• They regularly ask you for advice and likewise welcome tips or feedback from you. This rarely occurs if the INTJ doesn't consider you trustworthy and part of their tiny circle of carefully selected close friends. 

3• They enthusiastically teach you or inform you about topics which they're familiar with and occasionally share some helpful links or knowledge that they hope you can benefit from. 

2] "I feel offended that they think I'm weird." 

🔳 INTJs aren't afraid of standing out and differing from the crowd. In fact, some INTJs would gladly and intentionally try to look unconventional or different as ensuring group harmony twenty-four-seven and ignorantly following trends don't really intrigue them. 

3] "Of course people's opinions about me matter a lot." 

🔲 No they don't.

4] "Forget about doing the right thing. What matters is that we all pretend to agree with each other and get along happily ever after."

🔳 INTJs are from the 16 MBTI personality types who are truly concerned for their values, beliefs and integrity, regardless of people's emotions and perceptions. Making enemies doesn't upset them, so long as they are aware of the fact they're not purposely committing any serious offense. 

5] "I always know everything." 

🔲 While INTJs are intuitive and often amazing at guessing games, from the aspects of being Muslim is to firmly believe that Only Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala knows about all things and everything about His servants. 

~•~

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe (not guilty of backbiting, telling lies, and deliberately committing injustice). The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. By the One (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut

📖 Ali Ibn Husayn RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, part of perfection in Islam is for a person to leave what does not concern him."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2318

Grade: Sahih li ghayri (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/10/tips-five-types-of-people-we-can-avoid.html

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/note-choosiness-of-most-intjs-when-it.html

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/09/tips-3-things-that-intj-personality.html 

https://personalitygrowth.com/what-your-natural-communication-skills-are-like-based-on-your-personality-type/

Note: On Patience With My Dear Husband And Pickiness When It Comes To Choosing My Close Friends

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📜 Question: As an INTJ, why is it so easy for you to forgive your husband in spite of his numerous mistakes or frequent delays in answering many of your messages while you become completely disinterested in befriending certain individuals after they disappoint you more than thrice? Aren't they human beings also who deserve a lot of chances for reconciliation? 

📝 Answer: Allah the Almighty knows best. It's because I'm very selective when it comes to choosing who I can regard as close friends for Allah's sake. I imagine my husband being a precious diamond and valuable gift granted to me by Allah the Most Wise, as a trust which I should strive to keep and carry with me on this special journey to our Creator Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. In contrast, the people whom I occasionally meet and communicate with are like bamboo stems or long rods made of metal or wood which could be useful for constructing bridges leading to a particular goal - in a way that is meaningful and positive, not manipulative. If a person turns out to be insincere and unreliable, they'd be like a torn down plant or damaged tool which isn't useful despite multiple attempts to restore it. No peace can be found in trying to reconnect with somebody whose disconcerting presence often reminds you of their selfishness, bad motives and unreliability. Better to find a different route to your destination than to build a flimsy bridge which could result in swift destruction. 

My husband can also be likened to an incredibly expensive fountain pen given to me as a souvenir from another loved one. The writing instrument being costly but refillable and its case being decorated with pure gold cause me to feel reluctant about discarding it that easily. On the other hand, the people whom Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala wants me to interact with are like coloring pencils. If they're blunt, broken or not sharpened while I don't have a sharpener or have no reason to color anything, attempting to connect with them can be challenging, especially if one must be careful regarding colored pencils which can't color properly or don't have pigment (actual substance or significance) in them. 

My understanding of true love is to continue loving the man whom Allah the All-Knowing wisely selected as your other half and soulmate, only for Allah's sake, with patience (Sabr) and gratitude (Shukr), until one of you is brought back to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala for the evaluation on how well you passed Allah's varying examinations. 

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."

Source: Sahih Ibn Ḥibbān 4252

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A woman is married for four things: Her wealth, her family status, her beauty, and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman otherwise you will be a loser."

Sahih Al-Bukhari 5090

In-book reference: Book 67 Hadith 28

USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 7, Book 62, Hadith 27 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/poem-what-happens-when-allah-most-wise.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/12/poem-what-is-it-like-to-love-your.html 

https://abukhadeejah.com/characteristics-of-a-righteous-wife-in-light-of-the-quran-and-sunnah-part-1/

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/03/poem-what-inspires-you-to-forgive-your.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/poem-demerits-of-divorce.html 

https://personalitygrowth.com/how-good-each-personality-type-is-with-forgiveness/

https://personalitygrowth.com/intj-broken-trust-dealing-with-trust-issues-as-an-intj/ 

Tips: Five Things To Avoid When Dealing With Bullies

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📝 Five things to avoid doing towards insecure or inwardly unhappy individuals who try to bully you to distract themselves from their miseries (Do not do these to sad bullies, as much as possible): 

1] Do not instruct or dare them to take their own lives. Do not do something so terrible that could cause them to feel suicidal nor say awful things to them such as "Obnoxious people like you are from the reasons why earth is currently an unpleasant place to live on. Why not do at least one productive act in your lifetime and kill yourself?" or "the entire universe would be at peace if you didn't exist. Your negative presence and despicable personality are absolutely meaningless. Kill yourself, please." 

Suicide and murder are major sins which we Muslims should avoid for Allah's sake. Only Allah the Almighty has every right to end the life of His servants anytime He chooses. 

2] Do not invent obvious lies against those bullies, even if they have lied about you several times. Spreading untruths or false rumors could eventually result in trouble, if not sooner or later in this world then perhaps in the next life. Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala knows best. 

❎ For example: If you say something like "Alicia Weirdoshaun only said those nasty nonsense as a strange coping mechanism to deal with being frequently neglected by both of her financially struggling parents who never went to high school, and she intensely despises how they're both jobless.", one or both of her parents may feel bitter towards you and some kind of feud occurs which could have been avoided.

3] Do not alter anything about yourself to appear "likeable" or "valuable" to those self-loathing bullies. Once you discover that a group of miserable trolls and clowns actually dislike you, relentlessly unfriend them and gladly disconnect from them for Allah's sake online and offline. True happiness can't be achieved by building feeble connections with fakes, pretenders and snakes. If most or all of the members of a childish clique act like useless twigs and/or dangerous leeches, unapologetically walk away. 

4] Do not copy them in their tomfoolery and absurdity. Do not turn into a bully nor become more tyrannical or troublesome than them, unless you're willing to face the bad consequences of misbehaving and confirming you're not contented with who you are.

A confused person acting disrespectful towards you, indicating their dissatisfaction with their insecurities or distressful conditions, isn't an invitation to participate in their lousy pity-party. Be a lot better than them by ignoring their nonsensical insults, and differ from their idiocy.

5] Do not stalk any of their social media posts nor thoroughly analyze any of their comments. Since those bullies have already proven to you that they can no longer be trusted, confidently refrain from giving weight to any of their unreliable statements and messages. Regard them as complete strangers whom you aren't interested in connecting with, almost in the same way you completely bypass products at grocery stores which you believe aren't essential or worthwhile for you. 

✅ Suggested ways to deal with bullies: 

1] Inform trusted loved ones and/or older adults about the bullying, without letting the bullies know. 

2] Say lots of Adhkaar and Du'a. Continue asking for guidance and help from Allah the Most Powerful while maintaining strong connection with Him Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. 

3] Avoid befriending toxic individuals as much as possible and refuse to be negatively affected by their irrational acts. 

~•~

📖 Ali Ibn Husayn RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, part of perfection in Islam is for a person to leave what does not concern him."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2318

Grade: Sahih li ghayri (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever kills himself with a piece of iron, his piece of iron in his hand will be thrust into his stomach in the fire of Hell forever and ever. Whoever drinks poison and kills himself, he will consume it in the fire of Hell forever and ever. Whoever throws himself off a mountain and kills himself, he will tumble into the fire of Hell forever and ever."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5442, Sahih Muslim 109

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe (not guilty of backbiting, telling lies, and deliberately committing injustice). The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. By the One (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/08/tips-what-you-can-do-when-youre-being.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/03/note-intjs-bullying-and-some-tips-on.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-dont-let-critics-decelerate-your.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/08/tips-what-grown-up-bullies-often-do-and.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-signs-of-immature-adults-what-it.html 

https://personalitygrowth.com/heres-how-indifferent-you-appear-based-on-your-personality-type/

https://personalitygrowth.com/heres-how-you-handle-bullying-based-on-your-personality-type/

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