Note: Five Reasons Why Some People Can't Thank You And How To Deal With Ingrates

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Five reasons why a person would refuse to thank you after being kind to them, why some individuals are ingrates: 

1] They are awfully stressed out, worried about personal issues, or very depressed. Somebody who is emotionally wounded or immensely unhappy from within may struggle to thank people for the favors done to them. 

2] Undeniably they are so jealous of you - envious that you have meritorious qualities or capabilities which they lack, that they perceive you as clearly more confident or accomplished than them, or that your good character overall surpasses theirs. The more an individual is guilty of obnoxiously envying you, the more challenging it becomes for them to defeat their inferiority complex and the more intimidated they feel that they're incapable of expressing gratitude. 

3] They may have had a lousy upbringing. Their parents didn't do well in taking care of them. Due to failing at educating them about proper manners, they are ignorant of the virtues of thanking people. 

4] They have the potential to be thankful but only selectively. They're probably the kind of person who won't thank you if they genuinely can't appreciate what you gave them or what you did to ease their circumstances. 

5] They abstain from showing thanks if their low self-esteem compels them to wrongly assume you're being nice just to make them feel small or to display you're somehow a lot "superior". 

✅ Three tips on dealing with ungrateful people: 

1] Avoid them for Allah's sake as much as possible, to protect your faith Imaan and prevent them from taking your generosity for granted. Withhold your companionship from those who have enough pride / kibr / arrogance to display ingratitude. 

2] Be different from them while thanking Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aa that He didn't make you an insecure ingrate. 

3] Since you understand the feeling of being unappreciated or not thanked, make sure that you strive to remain grateful to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala then to His servants whenever you can. 

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever does not thank the people has not thanked Allah."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4811

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Ahmed Shakir

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Poem: What Undue Jealousy Does

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

📑 With thorns on both sides, envy is like a spiky coat 

Which when worn brings its wearer and critics discomfort. 

It's an abhorrent trait, adored by shaytan our foe, 

And it causes the jealous to loathe whom they don't know. 

Jealousy is ugly yet it's widespread in this world.

~•~

Real envy can cause you to "cringe" or prompt eyes to roll 

When hearing the voice of people whom you're jealous of. 

It forces you to obsess over somebody's faults, 

Prevents you from befriending those with similar goals, 

And urges you to act rude or have some souls ignored.

~•~

Foul jealousy invites you to think of spiteful thoughts

Such as "look at her again, she's clearly showing off!", 

"They're all narcissists. Don't pay attention to their words." 

And "To us, he's a loser, no matter what he does.". 

Envy can make you view gems as nothing more than dust.

~•~

Envy is the culprit in causing friends to split up, 

In preventing neighbors from wanting to interact, 

And in provoking teachers into acting unjust. 

It can drive you to recall people's faults they forgot

And it cheapens the price of gifts you already have. 

~•~

Acting on envy may equal doubting Allah's Love 

And Wisdom in distributing His blessings on earth. 

Jealousy disturbs the heart. With it you can't relax. 

Thank Allah for the good things you've got, don't watch lame vlogs, 

And aspire to reach Jannah where bliss forever lasts. 

~•~ 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Look at those below you and do not look at those above you, for it is the best way to not belittle the favors of Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala)."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6125

Sahih Muslim 2963

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Do not envy each other, do not outbid each other, do not hate each other, do not turn away from each other, and do not outsell each other. Rather, be servants of Allah as brothers. The Muslim is the brother of another Muslim. He does not wrong him, nor humiliate him, nor look down upon him. Righteousness (piety) is here," and he Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam pointed to his chest three times. The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "It is enough evil for a man to look down upon his Muslim brother. The entirety of the Muslim is sacred (inviolable) to another Muslim: His life, his wealth, and his reputation (his honor)."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2564

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Faith (Imaan) and envy do not combine within a believing servant."

In another narration, the Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Greed and faith are never combined in the heart of a servant." 

Source: Sunan Al-Nasā’ī 3109

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

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Links: Encouragement For Those Not Performing Hajj To Fast Sunnah Fasting On The First Days Of Dhul-Hijjah Especially On Yawm 'Arafah

📖 Hunaydah Ibn Khalid RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Some of the wives of the Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said that he would fast the first nine days of the month of Dhul-Hijjah, the day of Ashura, and three days of every month, which would be the first Monday and Thursday of the month. 

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 2437

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

Allah the Almighty knows best. 

Al-Nawawi said, "It is part of the Sunnah (for those Muslims not performing Hajj/pilgrimage) to fast the first nine days of the month of Dhul-Hijjah."

Source: Al-Majmū’ Sharh Al-Muhadhab 6/386

📖 Abu Qatadah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam was asked about fasting the day of 'Arafah (Yawm 'Arafah, the ninth day of Dhul-Hijjah) and he SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "It will expiate the sins of the previous year and the upcoming year." Then, the Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam was asked about fasting the day of 'Ashura (10th of Muharram) and he SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "It will expiate the sins of the past year."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1162

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

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Poem: Disconnecting From Toxic People And Liars Is A Blessing In Disguise

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📑 When Allah the Most Wise loves you, 

He grants you what's best, 

Such as eagerness to collect Islamic knowledge 

From authentic sources and guidance to pass His tests. 

Often Allah lets you meet souls who show disrespect 

So you grow stronger and learn to ditch what He detests. 

~•~

If ever you reflect on why certain people left, 

Why you and a few neighbors failed to deeply connect, 

And why some "friendships" were short-lived, know that you are blessed 

If you're close to Allah, He only wants to protect 

You and your faith from fitna and souls with foul motives.

~•~

Maybe you and so-and-so fought since Allah witnessed 

Their deep-seated grudge and envy of your countless gifts, 

Their false smiles, rehearsed lies, and wish to take advantage 

Of your kindness while their likes clash with your interests. 

Allah may not like them so you had to disconnect. 

~•~

Don't blame yourself if you were lied to. The dishonest 

Will get Allah's Justice and rewards for what they did. 

Ex-friends remind us that just Allah can be trusted. 

Although some "friends" exited, with Allah's Love persist. 

From the selfish and jealous - good manners don't expect.

~•~

When you're from those whom Allah loves, He grants you what's best 

And keeps you away from souls with malicious motives. 

Allah sees what's in the hearts of those He created. 

When you and so-and-so drift apart, don't stay upset. 

Allah's Will to send them away patiently accept.

~•~

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)." 

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albaani 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Love whom you love moderately, perhaps he will become hateful to you someday. Hate whom you hate moderately, perhaps he will become your beloved friend someday." 

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1997

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albaani 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are conscripted soldiers. They come together upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109, Sahih Muslim 2638

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

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Tips: Five Things Which Insecure Females Do And How To Deal With Them

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📑 Five things which an insecure female may do when she's jealous or intimidated by you, whether she's in her teens, twenties, thirties, forties etc.: 

1] Because she is insecure and envious, she finds it too difficult to congratulate when you achieve something, show support when you can benefit from some words of encouragement, and offer genuinely helpful tips when you ask for advice. 

2] She acts obnoxiously quiet and distant when you're thriving or in a good mood, yet when somebody criticizes you publicly or makes a joke at your expense, she quickly laughs and gets entertained by witnessing you in distress. 

3] Because noticing you happy saddens her, as she envies you, she'd do whatever it takes to depress, demotivate and demoralize you, for example by frequently ignoring your messages on a group chat or setting up a large social event, sleepover or outing while deliberately leaving you out. She's shamelessly desperate to upset you in any way so that your "sadness", "loneliness" or disappointments can prevent you from functioning well, attaining your goals, and succeeding in both worlds. 

4] She gossips about your flaws, faults and any of your attributes which she despises whenever she has the chance, assuming that by cowardly belittling you behind your back, the people who listen to her silly gossip would perceive her as more "superior". 

5] Spitefully she tries to keep track of your social media posts through somebody else's profile or a fake account, so she can amuse herself by reading negative news you share or nosily amass certain info which compel her to become more competitive jealously. 

➡️ How to deal with very insecure jealous females: 

1] Don't expect good manners, integrity, and support from them. 

2] Don't get surprised if they disappear from groups where you're discussed or mentioned positively, and when critics scold or make fun of you, they giggle and act talkative suddenly. 

3] Never feel affected, offended and bothered by their rudeness and frequent exclusion of you. Don't show them the kind of reaction they desperately want whenever they carry out their little tactics to disturb your inner peace which they really envy. 

4] Never doubt your own worth even after you've discovered that they've been gossiping about you. If they ridicule you for some aspects, recall how blessed you are, Alhamdulillah, that you don't struggle from their insecurities and inward misery which trigger their lousy conduct and rudeness. 

5] For Allah's sake, avoid needlessly socializing with them and don't bother stalking their social media accounts. If you stumble upon their comments or status updates, swiftly ignore and skip reading the entire content, as though briskly walking past unnecessary items on stores which don't interest you at all. 

~•~

📖 Abu Dharr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Fear Allah wherever you are, follow a bad deed with a good deed and it will erase it, and behave with good character towards the people."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1987

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to At-Tirmidhi

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe (not guilty of backbiting, telling lies, and knowingly committing injustice). The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. 

By the One (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut 

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