Poem: Alhamdulillah. Sharing A Thank You Note To Two Out Of A Number Of Sisters In Islam

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📜 Alhamdulillah. May Allah the Most Kind bless these 

Dear sisters in Islam Safiyyah and Arcelie 

Who've taught me a lot directly and indirectly, 

May Allah reward them for their generosity,

Their willingness to meet up often though they're busy 

With their jobs, learning Islam and with their families, 

And for their patience with all sorts of trials. Ameen.

~•~

From the reasons why I love them for Allah Only, 

In spite of not seeing each other as frequently 

As we'd like, due to busyness, are: Regularly

Striving to do what they can to please Allah truly, 

From praying Tahajjud and performing charity 

To listening to lectures when opportunity

Arises, and they despise gossiping, just like me.

~•~

Just like me, for Allah's sake, they try their best to be 

Better Muslimahs whose faith and 'Aqeedah / belief 

Must remain sound, while steering clear of hypocrisy, 

While avoiding debts and treating people unjustly. 

I like how both of them deal with many tasks wisely, 

And they're with the few who are fine with polygyny, 

And they strive to be true friends despite being busy...

~•~

...busy acquiring knowledge through sources trustworthy, 

Managing multiple businesses productively, 

And responding to clients/recipients patiently. 

Regardless of hectic schedules and the time they need 

To spend in educating their kids responsibly, 

They're able, with Allah's Will, to occasionally

Meet up to help each other and others in the Deen.

~•~

📖 Mu'adh Ibn Jabal RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "Allah the Most Exalted said: 'Those who love each other for the sake of My Glory will be upon pulpits of light and they will be envied by the Prophets ('alaihim as-salaam) and the martyrs.'"

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2390 

Grade: Sahih 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are conscripted soldiers. They come together upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject." 

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109

Sahih Muslim 2638 

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah (The Almighty), hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Musa RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, the parable (similitude, example) of good company and a bad company is only that of a seller of musk and a blacksmith. The seller of musk will give you some perfume, you will buy some, or you will notice a good smell (pleasant scent). As for the blacksmith, he will burn your clothes or you will notice a bad smell."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5534, Sahih Muslim 2628

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to An-Nawawi

https://abukhadeejah.com/only-true-friends-and-righteous-companions-will-benefit-you/

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-true-love-for-allahs-sake-and.html 

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https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/04/note-eleven-qualities-of-good-muslim.html 

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Note: Eleven Out Of Many Loving Things Which My Dear Husband Has Done As An ESFJ-A

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💚 Eleven cute and sweet things which my dear husband has done, as an ESFJ 3w2, that inspired me to love him even more for Allah's sake (Alhamdulillah):

1🔹 Frequently cooking and preparing many of our meals during the first weeks of us getting married (our marriage Alhamdulillah took place in Shawwaal, after Ramadan. He was 28 while I was 20 that time) Alhamdulillah while I set the table and did the dishes.

2🔹 Playing badminton with me before he became busy with work and being admirably patient with how I'm not really good at sports in general. 

3🔹 Answering a lot of my questions whenever he's in the mood to talk even if some of them are so random and weird. 

4🔹 Feeling visibly upset when he tried his best to send me with one of his cars to the house of a Tausug family for a visit and he had a tough time searching for their residence, then looking so concerned when I told him it's okay I can try walking to their place since it's not far away. 

5🔹 Cheerfully making the Korean finger heart gesture when saying goodbye to us after we quickly visited him at the clinic where he works as a medical doctor. 

6🔹 Thoughtfully reminding me to make sure that I pray all of my prayers as properly as I can with Khushoo' tranquility. 

7🔹 Encouraging me to be more lenient, empathic and understanding towards others. 

8🔹 Easily telling jokes and observing how his cute sense of humor makes him more handsome whenever he tries to share some smiles and laughter. 

9🔹 Regularly buying souvenirs for his family and loved ones after arriving from a long trip or travel (even for some of his colleagues at the clinic he works in) whenever he can afford (like when he traveled to China some years ago and Saudi Arabia recently).

10🔹 Accepting some of the strange requests I often ask him to do like that time when I asked him to have his voice recorded so I can use his recording as the sound for my cellphone alarm and when he accepted my invitation to take some MBTI personality and enneagram tests online.

11🔹 When he lovingly demonstrated and taught me how to wash clothes by hand (including several of my niqabs) since I was more accustomed to using the washing machine back in Riyadh city.

~•~

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The best of you are the best to their women."

Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 1978

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://abukhadeejah.com/characteristics-of-a-righteous-wife-in-light-of-the-quran-and-sunnah-part-1/

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/07/note-esfj-husband-and-intj-wife.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/12/note-how-intj-wife-connects-with-her.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/07/note-esfj-husband-and-intj-wife.html 

https://personalitygrowth.com/a-better-understanding-of-the-esfj-male/

https://personalityhunt.com/esfj-3w2-the-complete-guide/ 

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Poem: Says This INTJ - So What If I Don't Have Many Friends? Integrity Matters, Not Fakery

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📝 Dear fellow Muslimah, dear fellow human being, 

Never feel "unworthy" nor question your self-esteem

If your pals are not many, if you don't have a team, 

Or if you've been kicked out of a group chat recently. 

We're here to serve Allah, not ensure His slaves are pleased.

~•~

Because not all people were brought up similarly, 

And since most of humankind are prone to jealousy, 

Prone to comparing their journeys to others' stories, 

Let's not expect to be liked by everyone we meet. 

It's true that not all souls connect with everybody.

~•~

One who's "besties" with all would be illusionary, 

An actor who's untrustworthy in reality, 

Devoid of values and beliefs they keep steadfastly, 

And lacking opinions or responsibilities, 

So they're always available, ready to agree.

~•~

Does that type of person exist? Only in a dream. 

Only in dreams or imaginations one may see 

Characters who vibe with everyone submissively. 

Even the Prophet Muhammad (SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam) himself was demeaned 

By those guilty of misbelief and hypocrisy.

~•~

So don't worry if our close friends are not that many. 

Making and keeping friends can be tough at times when we 

Stick to what we value while our traits trigger envy. 

In some societies if you're unique and sincere, 

Just few can understand you and match your energy.

~•~

And that's okay - not being liked by everybody. 

No way were we put on earth to be carbon copies. 

If ever you encounter someone who "feels sorry" 

That you sometimes appear "alone", "left out" or "lonely", 

Stay firm and unaffected by their absurdity.

~•~

Be like: So what if you think I'm "lonesome"? You clearly 

Reveal ignorance if you claim that large quantity

Of something implies its quality. That's just silly. 

Contentment with Allah's Love while having less friends means 

Less gossip and more free time to please Allah Only.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are conscripted soldiers. They come together upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject." 

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109

Sahih Muslim 2638 

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim  

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi 

https://abukhadeejah.com/only-true-friends-and-righteous-companions-will-benefit-you/

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-stay-connected-to-allah-and-youll.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2023/02/tips-how-to-tell-if-some-souls-werent.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/09/note-three-reasons-why-our-vibes.html 

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https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/01/note-some-factors-which-could-prevent.html 

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Hadith: Pray To Allah The Most Merciful And Ask Allah To Make Us Among Those Whom The Noble Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu alaihi wa sallam Intercede For

Allah the Almighty knows best.

📖 'Awf Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A visitor came to me from my Lord (Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) and gave me the choice between half of my nation entering (Jannah) Paradise or the intercession (shafaa'ah) in the Hereafter. I chose the intercession, and it is for whoever dies (upon Tawheed) without associating partners with Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala).”

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2441

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

Tips: Nine Comebacks When You're Told To Shut Up Or Stop Talking

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📝 Some comebacks when someone unreasonably tells you to "shut up" or "stop talking": 

1🔹 "Why should I obey your instruction?" 

2🔹 "I don't need the permission of anybody to speak or express my opinions. If you can't welcome freedom of expression, simply do not listen." 

3🔹 "You're just afraid of the truth. You don't want to spoil your delusions or misjudgment." 

4🔹 "Is that what your parents used to say whenever they caught you lying or misbehaving? Instead of training you to be a good listener, they instructed you to love silent treatment? I feel sorry for your neglect and lousy upbringing."

5🔹 "Is that your usual response when confronted with the truth? Why are you attached to ignorance?"

6🔹 "I can talk whenever I want to. Ordering me to be quiet doesn't change anything." 

7🔹 "Somebody has to say something to rectify ignorance. True speech must get involved. I don't want my loved ones to be like you in being delusional and misinformed."

8🔹 "Yes, I forgive you and your arrogant refusal to listen." 

9🔹 "Don't worry. You're forgiven - you and your ignorance."

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah (The Almighty) than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) 

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