💌 Seven possible reasons why some of your loved ones, friends, colleagues and neighbors can't always check up on you, so you won't feel insecure about where you stand in their lives:
1] They may be busy at the moment with their work, school assignments, projects, business or meetings offline, so much so that it's difficult to grab the opportunity to ask how you're doing, because by the time they've completed a task, they're either too tired to initiate online conversations or they have other tasks to complete.
2] They consider you very intimidating or you generally give off unapproachable vibes. Imagine yourself as a frightening dragon who lives in a gigantic tower that doesn't have a ladder nor staircase and your freakish abode is surrounded by tall brick walls overlapping a garden of thorny trees and prickly vines. It would take large amounts of courage or eagerness for some individuals to skillfully climb and reach out for a quick greeting.
3] They currently struggle with severe shyness or social anxiety. Attempting to start a casual dialogue with anybody online and offline often makes them nervous or edgy.
4] From observing your frequent updates and logins, they believe that you're already doing well and there's absolutely no need to inquire about your well-being. Maybe if you disconnected from social media for several weeks, they'd seem more concerned and try to contact to ensure you're okay.
5] They probably feel that sending you a random message may be annoying for you, or they assume that your inbox contains numerous unanswered messages and they're refraining from messaging you so your stress doesn't escalate. It's their way of showing you they care by respecting your privacy and space.
6] They don't regard you as close enough yet for them to chat with on a regular basis. Just as you'd rather sit beside a family member in an airplane than next to complete strangers, you'd find it artificial or uncomfortable to maintain small talk with a stranger whom you're not interested in, particularly if there's no significant purpose in regularly chatting.
7] They're the kind of introverts who refuse to make the first move regarding social niceties. Visualize them as being feral cats that don't bother approaching humans unless the latter got something visibly valuable to offer them. They have a preference for keeping their distance and staying in their lane than getting out of their comfort zone to socialize unnecessarily.
📋 How to deal with loved ones, including your spouse working in another city or country, who cannot check up on you as often as you'd like:
• Practice tons of empathy and patience with them for Allah's sake.
• Remember the wonderful moments and enjoyable times you've had together.
• Frequently include each other in your loving Du'as, especially when praying Tahajjud, every Jumuah/Friday, and while fasting Sunnah fasts.
• If direct communication with them is not easy, you can request some of their relatives or friends to forward your salaams to them.
• With patient anticipation, pray that Allah the Most Merciful reunites you and your Muslim loved ones in Jannah Paradise where you can talk to each other for however long you desire.
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📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, the best people to Allah are those who are the first to greet with peace."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 5197
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "You will not enter Paradise until you have faith and you will not have faith until you love each other. Shall I show you something that, if you did, you would love each other? Spread peace (salaam) between yourselves."
Source: Sahih Muslim 54, Grade: Sahih
📖 Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "No Muslim servant supplicates for his brother behind his back but that the angel says: 'And for you the same.'"
Source: Sahih Muslim 2732
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
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