Note: Some Signs You And Your Husband Are Close

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 Some of the things that your husband does or has done which indicate you're close to each other and he deserves respect:
1] Waking you up for Salah at times when he gets up before you. At least once he woke you up while you had your monthly period. Seeing his partially surprised or guilty look for disturbing your sleep is just adorable.
2] Cooking for you when he isn't busy, buying what you've ordered, or bringing edibles when he comes home from work.
3] Being your Imaam while you try to hold back tears of joy as you pray behind him.
4] Listening to you read from the Noble Qur'an or an Islamic book.
5] Patiently hearing your stories, rants or complaints and giving you some advice or a loving hug to comfort you.
6] Allowing you to keep one of his personal belongings like his jacket, coat etc. for sentimental reasons.
7] Making you fall in love with him every time he displays charisma in being playful with children and fluffy cats.
8] Frequently calling you 'beautiful' and having no problem with seeing you without make-up.
9] Not being disgusted with your feminine issues. Knowing that you're having your monthly period and tolerating your frequent mood swings.
10] Advising you to forgive your parents, siblings and other individuals whenever he notices that you're not in good terms with them temporarily.
11] Cheering you up and making jokes to hear you laugh especially when he catches you not feeling well emotionally.
12] Not caring about your weight gain. Finding you pleasant or cute regardless of how heavy you weigh.
13] Letting you pat, playfully smack or massage him and not getting annoyed by your weird side.
14] Lovingly reminding you to wear the hijaab/niqaab before you go outdoors.
15] Apologizing to you and saying sorry whenever he thinks he has hurt you.
16] Feeding you by his right hand when eating or insisting that you try some snacks he enjoys.
17] Drinking from the same glass or mug you drank from, enjoying your direct and indirect kisses.
Whenever you and your husband go through a misunderstanding, try to imagine if you were in his place and realize that his tendency to make mistakes, forget, delay, cancel or offend you once in a while could result from tiredness, overwork and excessive stress. Remember all the loving things and favors that your husband has shown you. Realizing he is a human being too, with flaws and limited strength, you should strive to help him obey Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, guide him to being a pious Muslim spouse, and don't give up on him so you can
Inn-sha-Allah be granted entry to Jannah Paradise together.
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."
Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 4252
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhī 1159
Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi
Ali Al-Qari said, "That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala."
Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātih 5/2125

Note: 3 Ways To React When Insulted

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 If someone makes an offensive remark about your looks, jokes about your current weight in a way that is intended to insult you, or intentionally says something insulting to get a reaction out of you, you have three ways to respond:
1] Ask them a rhetorical question like "Is that your tactic of emphasizing you're jealous and insecure? Or are you trying to imply that you had a miserable upbringing, which explains why you lack good character?", "Are you describing yourself? What do you gain by saying those awful nonsense?", or "What? Please repeat that. And? Your point is? Are you done demonstrating how your manners are so low?" to assist them in rethinking what they said.
2] Be patient, ignore their lame insults that indirectly reflect their own self-hate, and walk away from their negative vibes. Consider them as merely an acquaintance or stranger whom you are no longer interested in getting close to. Maintain basic courtesy with them, and do not let their impudent misbehavior lower your morals.
3] Agree with them as though their contemptuous slurs didn't impact you at all. Example: If told "You are ( insert adjective here that is meant to offend you )" answer with "Yeah I need to work on that. Thanks for pointing it out." or "She is so etc." when you walk away, turn around and say "Yes you're right. Do you have any tips so I can improve myself? I didn't know that criticizing people and giving advice were your hobbies."
In general as a Muslim you don't need to carry out revenge on those who insulted, mistreated or expressed their envious hatred towards you when you are aware that Allah's Justice always prevails at the most befitting time.  When some gossip and backbite about you, rather than copying their obnoxious conduct so there are two impolite idiots instead of one, earn rewards by striving to practice patience for Allah's sake. Sensing that a user posted a ridiculous status update on their timeline ranting about how weird or ignorant you are isn't an invitation for you to post your own passive-aggressive message. Simply unfollow them on social media and avoid interacting unnecessarily with those who can't add any significant value in your life and faith/Imaan.
Encountering haters, critics and troublemakers doesn't indicate you're not loved by Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala but He loves you so much that He wants to strengthen your ability to have Sabr and upgrade your status in Jannah Inn-sha-Allah.
The beloved Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam, the best of all human beings, was considered as a "magician", "liar" or "lunatic" by a number of hypocrites and unbelievers yet he SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam didn't address those disbelievers with derogatory names.
Be better than your opponents and rivals by maintaining noble manners for Allah's sake sincerely, and refuse to participate in immature tit-for-tat games.
📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "I guarantee a house on the outskirts of Paradise for one who leaves arguments even if he is right, and a house in the middle of Paradise for one who abandons lies even when joking, and a house in the highest part of Paradise for one who makes his character excellent."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4800
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi
📖 Abdullah bin Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "The Muslim is the one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 10, Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If two people exchange harsh words, it is against the instigator (the person who started the fight) as long as the wronged one does not transgress."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2587
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

Note: Tips On How Not To Be That Extremely Jealous Wife

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 Answering a sister in Islam who asked for advice on how to deal with feeling extremely jealous whenever she notices females liking and reacting to her husband's status updates. Posting my response here in case other wives can relate. Alhamdulillah as I've mentioned before, I am not "Facebook friends" with my husband and brothers, though I genuinely love them for Allah's sake, because I don't want them commenting on my posts or responding to others' comments and whatnot. Yes I regularly communicate with my husband on Facebook messenger application, yet when it comes to knowing what he posts on his timeline and paying attention to who tags him etc. I choose to be completely unaware, indifferent and oblivious, not because I don't care about his online presence but to protect myself from unnecessary drama, since I can imagine myself getting into a dramatically furious debate every time a female colleague or acquaintance from his college years would comment or react to a status update of his.
Whenever I check my husband's timeline on browser to send him a direct message, I willfully refuse to scroll down his timeline, even if I notice a part of the topmost status update from one of his Facebook friends, and they happen to be female, tagging him along with several other users. "Ignorance is bliss" can be useful in cases like these, where not having all the facts concerning a circumstance is a way of protecting yourself from needless emotional stress.
Alhamdulillah I also don't scan through his mobile phones even if he makes them easily accessible for me, although I can visualize my husband at times communicating with some females due to a necessity, seeing how he works as a medical doctor.
From my perception, one of the signs you truly love your spouse for Allah's sake is to decisively trust them and display that you recognize the potential in your other half in being trustworthy, just as you'd like it if your soulmate doesn't mistrust and suspect you. Generally it is improbable for a decent person to show willingness in being close to someone who finds it difficult to trust them. If you can't trust me, then why should I trust you? If you constantly assume I shouldn't be trusted, why would I bother investing love and energy on somebody who rejects my loyalty and reliability?
🔸 Tips on how not to be that obsessively protective wife who jealously hates it when other women interact with her husband:
1] Always trust Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala Who sees everyone and everything. Understand that even if you hired some individuals to spy on your husband, to ensure he isn't cheating on you or flirting around with others, you still won't have all the intricate details of what your husband is doing when you and your recruited forces aren't watching. Let Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala deal with His servants.
2] While being triggered with feelings of jealousy is a natural tendency for many females, acting irrational upon envy indicates massive insecurity and lack of self-esteem.
Wives who are confident in themselves, while trusting Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala at all times, do not behave with an annoyingly clingy and possessive attitude.
Children who don't want their favorite toy destroyed or lost is a cute and understandable thing, while seeing a kid have tantrums each time another child tries to converse with the plaything seems like they were brought up to be awfully paranoid, selfish or unsympathetic. Be your husband's faithful wife who trusts him, not one to overreact feeling threatened by other female species.
3] Respectfully remind your husband to lower his gaze as a pious Muslim is expected to, and let him know that wherever he goes, he's always being watched by Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala while there are special Angels assigned to record every statement he purposely says and every action he chooses to do.
4] Include your husband in your loving Du'as often, praying that Allah the Most Merciful keeps his faith/Imaan strong and protects him from anything that can lead to fitna.
5] On Judgment Day Inn-sha-Allah all of the deeds of Allah's servants can be revealed if Allah Wills. So if your husband ever did anything that he shouldn't have done in this world, eventually you'll discover it on the Day of Resurrection. You don't need to act like a female investigator who scrutinizes her subject's every move.
Your husband should be your sweetheart who can accompany you in your journey towards Jannah Paradise, not a subject matter to investigate 24/7.
📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever Allah provides with a righteous wife, Allah has assisted him in half of his religion. Let him fear Allah regarding the other half."
Source: Al-Mu’jam Al-Awsat 992
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Suyuti
📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."
Source: Sahih Muslim 1467
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."
Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 4252
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

Hadith: On Avoiding Materialism

📖 Ibn 'Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Be in this world as if you were a stranger or a traveler along a path."
Ibn 'Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhuma would say, "If you make it to the evening, do not wait for the morning. If you make it to the morning, do not wait for the evening. Take from your health for your sickness, and from your life for your death."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6053
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Bukhari
📖 Anas ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever is concerned about the Hereafter, Allah will place richness in his heart, bring his affairs together, and the world will come to him although he is reluctant for it. Whoever is concerned about the world, Allah will place poverty between his eyes, disorder his affairs, and he will get nothing of the world but what is decreed for him."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2465
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Zayd ibn Thabit RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever makes the world his most important matter, Allah will confound his affairs and make poverty appear before his eyes and he will not get anything from the world but what has been decreed for him. Whoever makes the Hereafter his most important matter, Allah will settle his affairs and make him content in his heart and the world will come to him although he does not want it."
Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 4105
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

Note: Tips On How To Get Over A Crush

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 To have desires is part of being human. To suppress or defeat evil desires shows you're a striving Muslim. While being hesitant to fall in love is a blessing in disguise for many, several individuals tend to catch feelings easily. Once someone has captivated them or emotionally entered their hearts, it can be difficult to stop thinking about that crush even if they're already married, after several years went by, or they moved to another city.
🔸 Signs you are attracted to someone, despite internally or outwardly denying it:
1] You like them a lot not in a platonic way but sensually. So if you were granted permission to be passionate with them, you'd do so.
2] They preoccupy your mind, imagination and fantasies so much so that merely thinking of them distracts you from properly carrying out daily tasks.
3] You marvel at how a quality or characteristic of theirs amazes you, how they somehow make you feel special, or you're intrigued by how you both are very similar in many ways.
4] You're nervous when they're around, overly concerned that they don't get turned off by you, or you find their presence somewhat overwhelming. Understand they're also humans with myriad imperfections, hence you must quit overestimating and obsessing over them.
5] You sometimes pray to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala that He removes your feelings of attraction.
🔸 Tips on how to get over those who aren't halal/lawful for you:
1] Try the "out of sight, out of mind" tactic, so they can be forgotten. Avoid or minimize going to the places where you know they frequently go to. Unfriend or unfollow them on social media if doing so brings you closer to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, even if this choice may upset them.
Both of you can Inn-sha-Allah be rewarded for striving to implement patience.
2] Lower your gaze when they're around and when quickly noticing photos of themselves online. Don't keep staring at their faces, bodies and pictures no matter how much you want to.
3] Recall their negative qualities that may turn you off so you no longer find them attractive, or recount all the reasons why it's impossible for you to be romantically together.
4] People who wish to lose weight avoid excessive food even if they normally enjoy overeating whenever they like, yet they have the stamina to stay away from eating excessively in order to achieve their goal to become physically fit. If they can do that, just as you're able to resist eating and drinking while fasting, you too have the ability to detach from the urge to commit zina - a major sin.
5] Constantly remind yourself of the consequences of acting upon sinful thoughts and inappropriate feelings. Imagine actually having done what you desire to do with the person you're crushing on behind closed doors and then instantly regretting your wrong decision in this world or the next.
6] Acknowledge the fact that daydreaming or fantasizing about being in an affair with your crush is irrational. If it's something that can never happen in real life, must never take place, or it is one of shaytan's tricks which eventually directs you to massive remorse, don't bother entertaining those nonsensical illusions.
7] Get married sincerely for Allah's sake to preserve your modesty and focus on loving the soul whom Allah the Most Wise selects as your spouse.
8] If you still can't forget those whom your heart regards as "irresistible" or "unavoidable", admit you really adore them while knowing what your boundaries and restrictions are. The similitude of avoiding what you desire is that of a diabetic who intentionally refrains from excess sugar and carbohydrates which they'd freely enjoy if they weren't struggling with diabetes. Although they relish sugary foods and carbs, they distance themselves from what can cause their health condition to decline. 

Respect yourself enough to leave what Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala has prohibited.
9] Do what you can to be prepared for death and look forward to being granted entry Inn-sha-Allah to Jannah Paradise, where all wishes and desires can be fulfilled.
10] Make sincere effort to fast Sunnah fasts regularly like on Yawm 'Arafah and every other Monday and Thursday. Fasting is another way to effectively discipline your soul, training your nafs to gain inner strength in avoiding what should be avoided.
11] Realize that if you genuinely love that particular soul whom you admire, wouldn't you want what is best for them? Getting into zina will only result in you two being exposed to humiliation in both worlds, so why jeopardize your faith/Imaan and dignity by pursuing what is clearly haraam/forbidden.
Staying patient for Allah's sake as you ignore those whom your heart desires or struggling with feeling heartbroken in dunya is better than fulfilling animalistic urges then eternally regretting.
📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas’ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "O young men, if you are able to support a wife, get married. Verily, it lowers the gaze and guards chastity. Whoever is not able to do so, he must fast as it will restrain his passions."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 1806,
Sahih Muslim 1400
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Sahl Ibn Sa’d RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever guarantees for me what is between his jaws and his legs, I can guarantee for him Paradise."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6109
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Bukhari
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah has pardoned my nation for what occurs within themselves (evil thoughts or feelings), as long as they do not speak of it or act upon it."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6287
Sahih Muslim 127
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
Ibn Al-Qayyim said, “Know that passing thoughts are not harmful. Indeed, they are only harmful if they are sought after and engaged. For a thought is like a passerby on the road; if you ignore him, he will depart from you.”
Source: Al-Jawāb Al-Kāfī 1/157