Note: Sharing To Show Off VS Informing To Inspire

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 There is a difference between sharing a story or information to purposely show off and informing something with an aim to inspire or warn others. Three examples of cases to clarify how they are different: 

1] A social media user posts multiple photos of an exotic dish they've made. It is riyaa / showing off if the actual purpose of uploading those pictures is to flaunt their culinary skills and intentionally make their stalkers jealous. On the other hand, they'd be helpful if they generously include the full recipe, share some cooking tips, and encourage others to try it out. 

2] A frequent traveler has an online collection of photos of the various places they've been to. They may be guilty of riyaa / showing off if they intend to display how rich they are that they can travel anytime, and publicize how they're more fortunate than certain individuals because they've traveled to more cities than others did. It's not riyaa / showing off if the motive behind the pictures and videos of their trips is meant for viewers to enjoy and feel as they've already visited those areas they went to. Think of a vlogger who gives you a tour around an interesting park or village so you don't have to go there anymore since you've already seen what it's generally like, or to help you decide whether or not that place is worth visiting someday. 

3] A motivational coach or writer shares some of their life experiences on their Facebook timeline, website, books, blog, or an article. It would be riyaa / showing off if their content is deliberately designed to impress particular readers or trigger jealousy to inflate their ego and pacify their insecurities. It would be inspirational, beneficial, and uplifting if the info they shared can persuade others to do the same good deed they've mentioned to motivate for Allah's sake or to avoid their mistakes which they're trying to warn people against. 

A large spatula is useful when you use it for frying or mixing. It could be viewed as weird if somebody uses it daily to scratch their back and it turns into a threat if it's used as a weapon. Same item... same appearance... its outcome changes according to its user's intention.

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📖 Ma'qil Ibn Yasar RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: I departed with Abu Bakr RadhiAllahu 'anhu to meet the Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam, and the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "O Abu Bakr, there is idolatry (shirk / polytheism) among you more hidden than the crawling of an ant." Abu Bakr RadhiAllahu 'anhu said, “Is there idolatry other than to make another god alongside Allah?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "By the One (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hand is my soul, there is idolatry more hidden than the crawling of an ant. Shall I not tell you something to say to rid you of it both minor and major? Say: 'O Allah, I seek refuge in You that I associate partners with You while I know, and I seek Your Forgiveness for what I do not know.'"

Source: Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 715

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Mahmud Ibn Labid RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, my greater fear for you is the lesser idolatry (minor shirk/polytheism)." They said, “What is the lesser idolatry, O Messenger of Allah?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "It is ostentation (riyaa). Allah the Almighty will say to them on the Day of Resurrection, when people are being recompensed for their deeds: 'Go to those for whom you made a show in the world and look, do you find any reward with them?'"

Source: Musnad Ahmed 23119

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Sa'eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam came to us while we were discussing the False Messiah (the dajjaal). The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Shall I not tell you about my greater fear for you than the false messiah (dajjaal)?" We said, “Of course!” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "It is hidden idolatry (minor shirk / riyaa), that a man stands for prayer and beautifies his prayer when he sees another man looking at him."

Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 4204

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Albani

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/02/poem-good-deeds-must-be-done-sincerely.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-reminder-to-myself-and-others-to.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/02/note-importance-of-doing-good-deeds.html 

Tips: Some Advice On Learning And Understanding The Arabic Language

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 When I was around thirteen years old, I remember shopping with my family at Obeikan Bookstore to buy some books and cassettes for learning French language. Despite the French books and dictionaries I bought to assist me with French class at Manarat Al-Riyadh school, I still can't communicate well in that language because in my opinion there's no reason to learn it. I didn't have plans to work in France nor marry some guy from Paris. As for Arabic, Alhamdulillah, while some people learn the language of the Noble Qur'an in an actual academy or university, with Allah's Will I was able to learn some Arabic when my late parents (Allah yarhamhuma. Ameen.) enrolled me at Al-Yamamah School where I was the only Filipino student among Saudis and other Arabs. They also signed me up for evening classes which were regularly conducted at Dar-Adh-Dhikr and WAMY (World Assembly Of Muslim Youth). Watching the news and shows in Arabic, including those Fatawa programs that are broadcasted live, and street interviews in Arabic are some of the things I often did that helped me improve in my comprehension Alhamdulillah. Looking up the meanings of some Arabic words and occasionally browsing the dictionary to learn some new terms are also important for those who are serious about learning the Arabic language.

📋 Some tips for those who are interested in learning Arabic language so they can Inn-sha-Allah read Arabic text even without the vowels:

1] Fix your niyyah/intention and have a purpose. Anything aspired or done for Allah's sake can Inn-sha-Allah be achievable and worthwhile. From the reasons to learn Arabic are to better understand Allah's Words (The Noble Qur'an in the original way It was revealed) and to be able to comprehend useful Arabic articles and Jumuah/Friday sermons/lectures delivered in the Arabic language.

2] Attend Arabic classes online or ones that are available around your area, or learn Arabic through self-study and careful research.

3] Have an Arabic dictionary and thesaurus, install Arabic dictionary applications or frequently study the meanings of Arabic words via Google Translate.

4] Watch educational videos on YouTube that can assist you in learning Arabic, programs with Arabic subtitles or motivational videos with Arabic captions such as clips from this channel:

https://m.youtube.com/c/IsmaelovishMtvn1/videos 

Or 

https://youtu.be/rhKczOhM_dM 

5] Actually practice reading and communicating in Arabic with native Arabic speakers or someone who is likewise eager to learn Arabic. Memorizing some Du'as from the Noble Qur'an, understanding their meanings, and regularly saying them when talking to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala are other effective ways to be more fluent in Arabic language.

6] While studying Arabic, avoid comparing your level of competency to another speaker's fluency or speed of learning. Your goal to learn Arabic should be to bring you closer to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala through understanding Arabic materials that can help you become a better Muslim, not to compete with linguists for some worldly recognition.

7] Never stop learning the Arabic language as there's always beneficial information and knowledge you have yet to discover. Continuously review the lessons you learn and for Allah's sake try to share them with others whenever you find the chance to do so. 

🗒️ I admit I'm not 100% proficient at speaking Arabic since I'm still learning Alhamdulillah and I acknowledge the fact that there are many others who are more skilled and eloquent than I am in communicating in the Arabic language.

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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever travels a path in search of (beneficial and authentic) knowledge, Allah will make easy for him a path to Paradise."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2699

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

https://abdurrahman.org/2014/03/20/how-can-one-possibly-learn-and-understand-islaam-without-arabic-language/

https://abdurrahman.org/2014/03/23/means-to-learning-arabic-dawud-adib-transcribed/

https://maktabahuthaymeen.wordpress.com/2015/05/07/encouragement-to-learn-the-arabic-language/

https://maktabahuthaymeen.wordpress.com/2012/02/28/some-benefits-of-learning-arabic/

https://maktabahuthaymeen.wordpress.com/

Tips: Nine Things To Avoid For Allah's Sake To Feel Happier From Within

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Nine things to avoid, for Allah's sake, to avoid depression, as a Muslim:

1] Don't expect people to be constantly nice to you, to treat you like royalty, or to give you special attention at all times as though they don't have problems, trials, and worries of their own. 

2] Don't waste your lifetime spying on people's lives, watching pretentious vlogs on YouTube, and nosily interfering with irrelevant issues of people who have nothing to do with you. Focus on improving yourself, concentrating on pleasing Only Allah the Almighty, and don't care about how others perceive you. 

3] Don't gossip nor socialize with professional gossipers. Arrogantly backbiting about people, whether Muslim or non-Muslim, can make your heart feel uneasy, empty, and guilty due to the filthiness of the major sin of backbiting. 

4] Don't be too hard on yourself. Don't blame yourself for not being perfect. Forgive yourself for your human mistakes, and learn what not to do next time. Complete perfection can only be found in Jannah Paradise. 

5] Don't compete with those who seem to be succeeding in terms of worldly gains. Instead, motivate yourself to work harder by patiently doing as many good deeds as you can for Allah's sake, with moderation and consistency, to level up your status in Jannah Paradise. 

6] Don't ever be dishonest with yourself, with Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, and with anybody. By occasionally lying to people, you may always worry that someday your lies may be discovered and you'd be labeled as a 'chronic liar'. 

7] Don't hang out with the wrong kind of friends who could lead you to trouble, complicate your lifestyle, and distract you from what Allah and His noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam love.  

8] Don't behave in this dunya  as if you'll live forever. Understand that death can occur anytime and we must prepare ourselves for the actual meeting with our Creator Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. 

9] Don't forget the prayers and our main purpose in life, which is to worship Only Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala (not ourselves, not money, not people) and pass all of Allah's tests so we're deserving of Jannah Paradise. The stronger your connection is to Allah the Most Loving, the more often you say Dhikr, and the more you read from the Noble Qur'an regularly, the calmer you are, the farther you are from fitna, and the better you feel from inside, despite strangers guessing otherwise.

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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Nothing afflicts a Muslim of hardship, nor illness, nor anxiety, nor sorrow, nor harm, nor distress, not even the pricking of a thorn, but that Allah will expiate his sins by it."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5318

Sahih Muslim 2573

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If the sins of a servant are numerous and he does not have good deeds to compensate, Allah will afflict him with sadness as an expiation for him."

Source: Musnad Ahmed 24708

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Suyuti 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-dunya-wasnt-meant-to-be-easy.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/09/poem-ways-to-deal-with-depression-as.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/07/poem-what-does-actual-happiness-look.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/06/poem-different-faces-of-depression.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/poem-what-you-can-do-as-muslim-when.html  

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/note-dont-think-about-suicide-its-major.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/06/note-things-to-avoid-in-order-to-be.html 

Tips: 3 Things That INTJ Personality Types Can Do And 5 Things They Can't Always Do

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Three things that most INTJ personality types are good at: 

1] Quickly moving on and emotionally disconnecting from toxic individuals who can't bring any value to their future. 

2] Ignoring anything that distracts them from their goals and willfully refusing to notice details which they consider insignificant. 

3] Analyzing the pros and cons of different situations, determining a person's potential or motives behind certain actions (which is why most INTJs are seldom surprised when people disappoint them), and understanding the logical reasons to matters which not many understand, such as the virtues of polygyny and importance of steadfastness in marriage (such abilities come from Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala only, not from oneself).

❎ Five things which many INTJ personality types can't do: 

1] We can't feel "alone" or "lonely" at all when we're uninvited, excluded, rejected from a group conversation, assigned to carry out a task individually, or treated like social outcasts. Since we're one of the most independent of the introverts and we aren't clingy, solitude is something we gladly welcome, while sticking to one particular clique doesn't appeal to us really. 

Quiet moments are chances for us to reflect, research, read, browse through useful information, and spend quality time with those who deserve our loyalty, especially one's spouse and family. 

2] We can't cry over failed friendships nor feel hurt if somebody's acts signal they're unwilling to network with us. Since INTJs are intimidatingly selective regarding their choice of close friends, we have no problem in dismissing or walking away from those who fail to reciprocate our efforts or whose values don't align with ours. 

3] We are incapable of quitting something which we truthfully value, despite insults, mockery, and frequent criticism from those who misunderstand us. 

4] We can't pretend to be anybody's friend, if we genuinely don't find them interesting, relatable, or valuable. INTJs would never go out of their way to reach out or initiate any discussion with you if they sense you're somewhat fake, untrustworthy, or even the slightest bit envious of them.

5] We can't flawlessly deliver an impromptu speech in front of a large audience, particularly if we have to discuss a topic which we aren't familiar with. A lot of us would rather sit quietly and attentively listen to an eloquent speaker than be the lecturer on stage doing all the talking. 

The more you understand yourself for Allah's sake and accept your unique personality traits, the less you become influenced by what people do or claim about you.

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📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe. The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. By the One (Allah) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna’ut

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/07/poem-whats-it-like-being-muslim-and-intj.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/06/note-whats-it-like-to-be-intj.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/09/note-more-info-on-intj-personality-type.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/note-choosiness-of-most-intjs-when-it.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/10/tips-marital-things-you-can-relate-to.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/11/note-typical-qualities-of-intj-females.html 

https://personalitygrowth.com/intj-type-a-how-the-intj-a-personality-behaves/ 

📝 To discover what your MBTI type is, you're welcome to take these tests:

https://www.16personalities.com/free-personality-test

http://www.michaelcaloz.com/personality/ 

https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/5dab0e69919f5e0014ceba9f

https://www.personalitytestbirdy.com/test/personality-test/ 

https://www.truity.com/test/type-finder-personality-test-new

Note: What's It Like To Love Your Husband Who Loves You As Well As His Other Wife/Wives?

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

📜 Question: What is love like in polygyny?

📝 Answer: Love in polygyny is proven when you don't mind kissing the soft lips of your husband who has made out with another legal wife. A polygynous marriage life trains you to be extra tough and patient when there are nights in which you sleep without your husband by your side, and you're alright knowing he's laying right next to the other wife. You treat your co-wife's children like they're your own, as they're the half-siblings of your kids/child and altogether they're your husband's offsprings whom he strives to care for equally. When you hear your husband mentioning the name of the other wife, you feel slightly jealous due to undeniable love, but your faith is what causes you to patiently accept what Allah has destined.

Oftentimes you're tempted to check the text messages and conversations which go on between your husband and his other wife, yet your adult self prevents you from wanting to behave nosily and insecurely. At times you see yourself battling against the urge to confront the co-wife if she spent too much time with your husband or you restrain your anger when you discover that your husband and co-wife went to the same restaurant as you and he did earlier.

While you're aware of how your husband has the privilege to be married to up to four wives, you fulfill your duty as a striving Muslimah to patiently accept Allah's Destiny.

Just as there are different forms of weddings and love definitions, there are various types of polygynous situations. Some co-wives are close friends and see each other like sisters. Others secretly dislike one another but still manage to maintain courteous manners when they're together. Other co-wives prefer to imagine the other co-wife doesn't even exist so some of these fiercely in-love ladies may emphasize they're the exclusive zawjat/zawja or other half of a responsible husband who can afford to look after multiple wives for Allah's sake. Other co-wives are willing to connect but their husbands have a preference to keep them away from one another fearing that if he ever neglects any of their rights his co-wives may team up and plot against him.

Whatever is the scenario that you may find yourself in, ultimately you understand that your husband loves you and his other wives fairly equitably, and you're doing this solely to please Allah the Almighty, submitting to Allah's Will, obeying as much as you can from Allah's Commands and praying that your humble acceptance of polygyny is one of the keys which make you worthy of the highest station in Jannah namely Jannatul Ferdaus near Allah the Most High and His noble Prophets alaihim as-salaam.

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📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/poem-patience-for-allahs-sake-can.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/poem-to-those-not-strong-enough-to.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/note-seven-misconceptions-about.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/note-my-answer-to-what-made-you-accept.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/11/poem-from-signs-of-pious-wives-is-they.html