Tips: Some Tips To Prepare Oneself For Ramadan

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Some tips to prepare oneself for Ramadan:

1] Review your knowledge about the virtues and importance of fasting in Ramadan. Read some articles from reliable sources or listen to Islamic lectures about why Muslims fast in Ramadan and how to be prepared for this blessed month.

2] Put in your heart and make the intention that you eagerly look forward to fasting in Ramadan, not out of habit but to sincerely obey Allah’s Command as a dedicated Muslim.

3] Look back on how you performed in the previous Ramadan and reflect on how you can

Inn-sha-Allah perform much better than before in this upcoming month.

4] Ensure that you have completed fasting all of your missed obligatory fasts.

5] If you habitually fast every other Monday and Thursday, continue doing so for Allah’s sake particularly since it is still Sha’baan.

6] Prepare in advance your Ramadan schedule, Inn-sha-Allah with an aim to be more productive, focused and aware of which tasks need to be prioritized.

7] Sincerely from within, for Allah’s sake, forgive every human being who has mistreated you in the past and, if you’re strong enough, unblock all of the users who are currently on your lists of blocked users (on social media). It doesn’t make sense to request Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta’aala for things you want and need while purposely blocking a large number of individuals. Although you’re not closely associated with some people anymore, it is recommended to maintain good manners with every soul whom Allah the Most Wise decrees you’d meet.

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📖 Ibn Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Whenever the Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam saw the new crescent moon, he would say, "Allah is the Greatest! O Allah, bring it over us with safety and faith, peace and Islam, and guidance to what our Rabb (Allah) loves and is pleased with. Our Rabb (Allah) and your Rabb is Allah." ["Allahu Akbar. Allahumma ahillahu 'alaynaa bil-amni wal Imaan, wa as-salaamati wa al-Islaam, wa at-tawfeequ limaa Tuhebbu wa Tardaa, Rabbunaa wa RabbukAllah. Ameen."]

Source: Sunan Al-Dārimī 1729

Grade: Sahih li ghayrihi according to Al-Arna’ut

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever fasts the month of Ramadan due to faith (Imaan) and (sincerely) seeking reward (from Allah the Almighty), his previous sins will be forgiven. Whoever stands in prayer during the Night of Decree (Laylat Al-Qadr) due to faith and seeking reward, his previous sins will be forgiven."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 1901

Sahih Muslim 760

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The five prayers, Friday to Friday, and Ramadan to Ramadan will expiate the sins committed between them, as long as the major sins are avoided."

Source: Sahih Muslim 233

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/04/note-start-fasting-for-allahs-sake-in_10.html

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/04/hadith-virtues-of-ramadan.html

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/04/tips-some-suggested-tab-titles-or.html

https://abukhadeejah.com/fasting-in-ramadan-what-does-it-mean-why-do-we-fast-what-is-gained/

https://abukhadeejah.com/important-ramadan-fasting-and-moonsighting-questions-to-the-scholar-the-sheikh-dr-salih-al-fawzan/

➤ Ramadan Qur’an reading schedule:

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1DctF-0MbCL0S6b0f489XN4JIP6_nktD6/view?usp=drivesdk

➤ Ramadan Qur’an reading schedule (recommended for Muslim kids and those who are still learning how to read Arabic text):

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1j7sMHjd3_2MWSc-mbkGfbzadsRZkNzIr/view?usp=drivesdk

Note: INTJ Personality Types And Holding Grudges

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📜 Question: As an INTJ personality type, do you hold grudges?

📝 Answer: While there are a number of individuals whom I despise for Allah's sake, my resentment isn't due to emotional reasons. It's possible for me to continue loving some Muslims for Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aa, such as my spouse and relatives, even if they've done or said things in the past which many people may find "offensive". What causes me to be disinterested in building a friendship with some females is when they've clearly indicated they are untrustworthy, unreliable and too toxic to interact with that attempting to connect with them brings more disadvantages to my overall well-being than merits. 

Three examples of acquaintances whom I had to unfriend unapologetically, without specifying their names: 

1] Someone who proved that they can never be trusted by making the mistake of asking me to collect change for a certain amount of money. After searching around for some change, I realized that she already paid the delivery guy using some of her savings and the payment he received was a lot more than the actual price of items she ordered on our behalf. She could've waited until I arrived. What caused me to dislike her even more is the fact she's willing to purchase products online without asking for any receipt. 

2] An older female who frequently tells stories about random moments she enjoys with her husband, as if indirectly she's emphasizing that her spouse is better than mine, when I'm not desperate to compete with her (or anybody else concerning marriage) in the first place. I loathe how she's incapable of teaching me anything about Islam yet when it comes to describing numerous times how fabulous her husband is, she acts all pretentiously enthusiastic and talkative. Looking forward to learning something valuable and gaining advice from somebody in their 40s only for them to act more immature than kindergartners flaunting their colorful scribbles isn't worth tolerating. 

3] An individual whose name I've been acquainted with for more than five years. Alhamdulillah after giving her countless chances to reform, I decided to regard her as another stranger when she'd persist in doing the same mistakes which I warned her against. No decent individual would want to be besties with troublesome clowns that take pleasure in disturbing the peace and tossing tomatoes at them. 

Although I've forgiven all of those who have intentionally and unknowingly disappointed me before, specially before the noble month Ramadan returns, I refuse to indulge in gossiping about them, doing what I can to spoil their public image and plotting ways to get even. I'll still answer their salaams, meet them with a polite smile and provide assistance if necessary, without eagerness to become "close friends", particularly after discovering that they're mostly a bad influence. 

If you wish to be closer to Allah the Almighty and join those believers who make it to Jannah Paradise without any penalty, it is illogical to waste your energy and resources on forming connections with anybody who's not authentic, supportive and trustworthy.

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📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah’s noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is not stung twice from the same hole." 

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5782 

Sahih Muslim 2998 

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/poem-three-reasons-why-we-cannot-click.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/02/tips-ways-to-tell-if-your-grudge-is-due.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/09/note-five-reasons-why-we-cant-vibe-well.html 

https://personalitygrowth.com/heres-how-long-you-hold-a-grudge-according-to-your-personality-type/ 

https://personalitygrowth.com/how-you-handle-feelings-of-resentment-based-on-your-personality-type/

Tips: Advice On How Not To Regret Your Decision To Discontinue Building Friendship With Some People

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Five tips to not feeling regretful at all about your decision to stop trying to stay friends with certain people: 

1] Recall all the negative qualities of those ex-friends and the very reasons why you've finally decided to emotionally disconnect from them. 

2] Appreciate the good outcomes of detaching from those toxic individuals. Acknowledge the fact that the blessings and benefits of no longer being close to them outweigh the disadvantages of discontinuing such unreliable connection. 

3] Totally unfollow their social media accounts and don't bother asking anybody about details regarding their current circumstances. If somebody informed you of their wedding or recent travel to another country, refrain from collecting any information which won't improve your overall well-being. Nothing valuable can be obtained by frequently attempting to make sense of nonsensical nightmares.

4] Patiently accept that Allah the Almighty decreed such connection to cease at some point. If Allah the Most Wise saw any goodness in them for you and your faith / Imaan, the friendship would've remained intact. 

5] Contentedly understand that the cessation or disappearance of a character's role from one chapter does not signify a story's ending. If you were able to survive in your younger years without them, your choice to quit considering them as a friend after less than five years mustn't be a problem, especially if their vibes and presence fail to inspire you to become a better Muslim.

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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is not stung twice from the same hole."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5782

Sahih Muslim 2998

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan." 

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-allah-almighty-controls-all-things.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/03/poem-no-regrets-in-cancelling.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-tips-on-how-not-to-regret-letting.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/09/poem-toxic-friendships-which-we-cease.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/11/note-five-signs-indicating-it-is.html 

Tips: Nine Likely Reasons Why Some Females Feel So Jealous Of You

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Nine probable reasons why some females envy you, and their intense jealousy compels them to treat you disrespectfully: 

1] They despise the fact they're single, while you married ahead of them. Or they are disgruntled divorcees who envy your strength in maintaining loyalty and patience for Allah's sake with your husband. 

2] They aren't as capable or competent in understanding and communicating in Arabic language as you (Alhamdulillah). Or they dislike how you, with Allah's Will, were able to study abroad or take courses in learning Arabic language while they haven't been given the opportunity to learn Arabic from reliable sources. 

3] They feel jealously threatened by your confidence and assertive personality. Seeing you confidently do certain things which they can't makes them feel "inferior". 

4] They can't accept that you're a lot more good-looking, creative or individualistic than them. 

5] Your ability or eagerness to be generous, helpful, empathic, understanding and charitable for Allah's sake may cause them to feel small or deficient morally. 

6] They believe that your parents did a much better job than theirs at bringing up their kids and educating them well about Islam. Or they don't like how your mother and father strive to be supportive of you in becoming a more successful Muslim, while their own mom and dad are negligent or indifferent to their goals. 

7] They resent how Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala destined you to have a more interesting life story and background than them - for example, Alhamdulillah, you've traveled to several countries while they didn't, or with Allah's Will you have performed Hajj / pilgrimage while they haven't yet, or your parents are sincerely active in the noble field of Da'wah for Allah's sake while their parents are involved in earning money unlawfully.

8] They loathe your dedication and love for seeking authentic Islamic knowledge. They hate feeling insecure, unintellectual or ignorant whenever they notice you correcting mistakes and sharing beneficial information. 

9] They're trying to compete with others for Allah's Love and witness, from their viewpoint, that you've surpassed them in many ways. For instance, you're more courageous than them in accepting a polygynous marriage or your overall good character seems to outshine theirs since you refuse to misconduct yourself even when slightly jealous.

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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Faith and envy do not combine within a believing servant."

In another narration, the Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Greed and faith are never combined in the heart of a servant."

Source: Sunan Al-Nasā’ī 3109

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: I said, “O Messenger of Allah, who are the best people?” The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "One with a heart swept clean and truthful in speech." We said, “O Messenger of Allah, we know truthful in speech. What is a heart swept clean?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "One that is mindful of Allah and pure, in which there is no sin, nor aggression, nor envy." We said, “Who shows a sign of it?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "One who hates worldliness and loves the Hereafter." They said, “And who shows a sign of it?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A believer with good character."

Source: Shu'ab Al-Imān 4457

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-advice-on-how-to-deal-with-people.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/05/note-tips-on-how-to-deal-with-those-who.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/poem-seven-signs-that-indicate-jealousy.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/02/tips-ways-to-detect-jealous-people.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/note-avoid-envyjealousy.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/10/poem-some-reasons-why-insecure-or.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/12/tips-how-some-intjs-deal-with-jealousy.html 

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Note: More Rewards On Doing Charity (Zakah) On One's Poor Relatives Than On Strangers

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📜 Question: What is the ruling on paying Zakah for one's brother, or sister, or uncle, or auntie, and other relatives who are poor/needy?

📝 Answer: There is no problem if a male or female Muslim pays the Zakah on their needy brother, sister, uncle, auntie, and other poor relatives. According to some evidences, by giving them Sadaqah or Zakah (for Allah's sake) one receives the rewards of both doing charity and maintaining family ties, as it was reported that the noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "(the rewards of) Sadaqah on the poor is charity, and on one's relative is both charity and maintaining family ties." 

One's parents and children are an exception because one does not pay Zakah on them even if they were poor, but what is obliged upon them to do is to responsibly spend on them from one's money as much as possible, especially if one can't find anybody else to take care of their financial needs besides themselves. 

Allah the Almighty knows best.

From the Fataawa of sheikh AbdulAziz Ibn Baz (May Allah have mercy on him. Ameen.) 

📑 Lesson: You can do charity on poor relatives such as your siblings who are in need, your aunties, uncles, nieces, nephews and cousins. Your parents and children are not to be given Zakah (the obligatory charity, if one is financially capable) because it is your duty in the first place to spend on them and responsibility to make sure their needs are met.

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📖 Salman Ibn 'Aamir RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, charity (Sadaqah and Zakah) given to the poor has one reward, and charity given to one's family has two rewards: one for charity and one for upholding family ties."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 658

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Abu Mas'ud Al-Ansaary RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a Muslim spends on his family seeking reward from Allah, it is (regarded as) charity for him."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5351, Sahih Muslim 1002

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

https://binbaz.org.sa/fatwas/16269/%D8%AD%D9%83%D9%85-%D8%AF%D9%81%D8%B9-%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%B2%D9%83%D8%A7%D8%A9-%D9%84%D9%84%D8%A7%D9%82%D8%A7%D8%B1%D8%A8 

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