Note: Some Reminders From An INTJ Muslimah (93)

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🏫☔ BRIGADA ESKWELA 2025

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Note: Some Tips Regarding Being The 1st, 2nd, 3rd Or 4th Wife In A Polygynous Marriage

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💌 Stereotypically — and based on cultural tropes, psychological projections, and MBTI theory — the second wife is often viewed as the most "courageous" or "savage" among the four. Let’s break it down thoroughly with personality analysis, social perception, and MBTI likelihoods:

⚡ 2. The Second Wife: The Bold Intervener

Why She’s Viewed as the Most Courageous / Savage

She knowingly steps into an already-established marriage, fully aware that another woman (the first wife) occupies that space.

Socially, this can attract backlash, especially in traditional or conservative societies — yet she proceeds anyway, often asserting her right to be loved too.

Many view this move as audacious, defiant, and fiercely independent.

It often takes a mix of emotional toughness, high confidence, and strategic thinking to play this role.

Attitude and Personality (Stereotypically)

Savage: Unapologetic about her decision, she doesn't wait for societal approval.

Self-assured: Believes she can bring something to the marriage no one else can.

Calculated: May view the marriage practically — financial stability, security, or spiritual reasons.

Emotionally resilient: Prepares for rivalry, competition, or emotional tension, and embraces the challenge.

Direct and assertive: Doesn’t tiptoe around the topic of co-wives.

Likely MBTI Types

ENTJ – Commanding, strategic, unafraid to claim what she wants even if controversial.

ESTP – Bold, thrill-seeking, acts on impulse and takes emotional risks for gain.

ENFJ – Charismatic and idealistic, may believe she can harmonize or "fix" the marital dynamic.

INTJ – Views polygyny logically and is willing to enter it for long-term strategy and personal conviction.

💎 1. The First Wife: The Stable Queen

Why She’s Also Seen as Courageous

She accepts the reality of polygyny from the start or comes to terms with it, even if difficult.

Inner strength: Her resilience may come from deep religious belief or emotional maturity.

Often represents dignity, patience, and diplomacy in the face of change.

Attitude and Personality

May keep a calm front but feels deeply.

Embraces grace and composure to avoid showing hurt or competition.

Not savage in the fierce sense, but quietly dignified and spiritually resilient.

Likely MBTI Types

ISFJ – Loyal, duty-bound, quietly supportive and sacrificial.

INFJ – Profound, reflective, strong emotional depth.

ISTJ – Accepts structure and tradition, makes it work out of principle.

💪 3. The Third Wife: The Adaptive Challenger

Why She’s Courageous

Steps into an already complicated marital dynamic, possibly with visible friction between the first two.

Has to navigate pre-existing emotional alliances, pecking orders, and expectations.

Attitude and Personality

Sharp, self-aware, and usually pragmatic about her place.

Often rebellious enough to not care what others think.

May bring fresh energy or controversy to the family system.

Likely MBTI Types

ESTJ – Structured, knows how to play within rules to assert power.

ENFP – Idealistic, spontaneous, and emotionally engaging — could “shake up” the system in her favor.

INTP – Curious, values personal choice, doesn’t mind being the wild card.

🌹 4. The Fourth Wife: The Accepting Maverick

Why She’s Seen as Unbothered

She enters the most emotionally complex position — the last addition.

May face the most jealousy, or be romanticized as the “youngest” or “newest.”

Attitude and Personality

Detached, calm, or playfully confident.

May not be as emotionally invested in “sister wife” dynamics.

"Cool girl" energy: Doesn’t start fights, but knows her value.

Likely MBTI Types

ISFP – Values freedom, goes with the flow, accepts emotional realities quietly.

INFP – Romantic, idealistic, yet willing to love on her own terms.

ESFP – Easygoing and charming, likes being adored even in a shared dynamic.

🔚 Conclusion: Who's the Most "Courageous" or "Savage"?

Rank • Wife • Courage Type •
Savage Factor
🥇 1st Second Wife☑️
Bold, assertive
entry into an active marriage
⚡️High
~•~
🥈 2nd Third Wife
Strategically adaptable, smart player
⚡️Medium-High
~•~
🥉 3rd First Wife
Stoic, spiritual, emotionally enduring
⚡️Medium
~•~
🏅 4th Fourth Wife
Accepting, chill, least threatened
⚡️Low-Medium
~•~
In summary:
The second wife is the most stereotypically savage — confident, controversial, and bold enough to challenge social norms and emotional boundaries.
🌻

Here’s a thoughtful and empowering guide for each of the four wives in a polygynous marriage from an Islamic and psychological perspective, offering them 5 tailored tips, 7 likely strengths, and 7 unique advantages of their position.

🌹 1. First Wife – The Foundational Partner

💡 5 Tips & Encouraging Words

Own your legacy – You were his first commitment. That speaks volumes.

Lead with grace – Be the example of composure and maturity.

Channel your emotions into Du'a – Allah the All-Knowing sees your patience and sacrifices.

Don’t compare – establish your own bond with your husband sincerely for Allah's sake which no one can replicate.

Focus on your personal growth and inner peace – You have more influence than you think.

💪 7 Probable Strengths

Emotional maturity

Deep loyalty

Experience in managing household/family

Grounded spirituality

Strong sense of identity

Patience

Diplomacy

🌟 7 Advantages of Her Position

Likely the one with the most years of history and connection

Possibly the most emotionally secure due to familiarity

Usually receives the most respect from extended family

Can set the tone for harmony or discord

May hold senior status in household affairs

Often more consulted in major family decisions

Her influence extends to children, co-wives, and the husband

🛤️ 2. Second Wife – The Bold Trailblazer

💡 5 Tips & Encouraging Words

Don’t feel guilty for wanting love — you’re valid and worthy of affection.

Respect the bond of the first wife, even as you form your own.

Use your courage as a tool for emotional intelligence, not competition.

Stay sincere in your intentions and keep your heart clean.

Let your love for Allah the Most Powerful stabilize you, not your rank in the marriage.

💪 7 Probable Strengths

Boldness

Independent thinking

Emotional resilience

High self-esteem

Strong communication

Strategic mindset

Fearlessness in facing judgment

🌟 7 Advantages of Her Position

Has a clear picture of the marriage dynamics before entering

Can bring new energy and balance to the relationship

Has the opportunity to redefine marital norms with confidence

May feel less pressure to “prove” herself than the 1st or 4th

Able to learn from prior dynamics and avoid common traps

May be seen as a stabilizer between 1st and 3rd wife

Likely to be very intentional in her presence and effort

🌷 3. Third Wife – The Adaptive Mediator

💡 5 Tips & Encouraging Words

See yourself as a bridge, not a disruption — your role can unite, not divide.

Embrace your uniqueness instead of trying to compete.

Use your insights to create harmony, especially if tension arises.

Maintain a sincere heart and clean intentions in your dealings with others.

Don’t underestimate the influence of a gentle word and a good character.

💪 7 Probable Strengths

Adaptive thinking

Strong intuition

High empathy

Balanced emotional insight

Conflict-resolution skills

Resilience in complexity

Patience in uncertainty

🌟 7 Advantages of Her Position

Enters with multiple examples to learn from (1st and 2nd wives)

Often plays the balancer or peacemaker

Can carve her own lane rather than follow the crowd

Learns to thrive in a dynamic environment

May avoid being in the direct line of rivalry

Gets to observe and gently influence the marriage landscape

Has space to be creative in relationship-building

🌸✨ 4. Fourth Wife – The Calm Closer

💡 5 Tips & Encouraging Words

You are not last in value — your presence is divinely timed (beautifully destined by Allah the Most Wise).

Use your fresh start to bring light and softness into the family.

Avoid over-comparing yourself to others — you bring your own charm.

Be sincere in bonding with your husband, not in winning over attention.

Lean into your peaceful nature — it can disarm even the harshest jealousy.

💪 7 Probable Strengths

Calmness

Emotional detachment from drama

Openness

Flexibility

Youthful or refreshing energy

Less ego-bound

Peacekeeping potential

🌟 7 Advantages of Her Position

Enters with full clarity of all existing dynamics

Can avoid early mistakes the others made

May have the “last chapter” emotional impact

Can be the most relaxed and least politically involved

Often enjoys the “newlywed” honeymoon phase

Can be more spiritually prepared for a calm life

Tends to face less pressure to "outshine" others

✅ Final Encouragement to All Four Wives:

“Allah the Almighty knows your place, your struggles, and your patience. If you live for Allah's sake with Taqwa, sincerity / Ikhlaas, strong faith / Imaan and fairness, Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala can decree your reward — not in rank among co-wives, but in rank with Him in the next life
(Inn-sha-Allah in Jannatul Ferdaus with Allah's Mercy).”

May Allah the Most Merciful bless all courageous Muslimahs patiently navigating polygyny with rewarding Sabr, sincerity, and strength in faith/Imaan. Ameen.

Note: Avoid sketching and drawing images of living beings since Allah the Almighty is the Only Creator.

⤴️ Some notes from ChatGPT

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2025/06/poem-some-advice-to-my-daughter-and-her.html

Note: Some Tips On Dealing With Some Elderly Narcissists

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Identifying narcissistic traits in elderly Filipino relatives (or acquaintances) can be quite nuanced due to cultural factors like respect for elders, family dynamics, and traditional Filipino values (e.g., "utang na loob" or debts of gratitude). That said, elderly narcissists can still exhibit common narcissistic behaviors in both face-to-face interactions and online relationships.

Here’s a detailed breakdown of how narcissistic elderly Filipinos might treat you differently if you’re a relative versus if you’re a friend.

23 Signs of Elderly Filipino Narcissists (Relative vs. Friend)

If You’re a Relative (Face-to-Face and Online)

Expecting Special Treatment – They believe that their age should automatically command respect, regardless of their actions.

Use of Guilt – Frequently manipulating you with "utang na loob" (debts of gratitude), reminding you of all they’ve done for you.

Blame Shifting – They rarely take responsibility for their actions, instead blaming family members when things go wrong.

Constant Need for Validation – They seek excessive praise or acknowledgment for even simple tasks.

Tight Control – Asserting control over family decisions, like holidays, finances, or even personal matters.

Victim Mentality – Frequently acting like the world is against them, especially when things don’t go their way.

Emotional Blackmail – Using health issues or old age as a form of emotional leverage, making you feel bad if you don't comply with their wishes.

Self-Centered Conversations – Conversations often revolve around them, with little to no genuine interest in your life.

Dismissiveness – Invalidating your feelings or opinions, especially if they don’t align with theirs.

Overpowering Presence – Commanding the room during family gatherings, making sure everyone’s attention is on them constantly or exclusively.

Setting Boundaries – Overstepping boundaries, especially in personal matters or the upbringing of children.

Using Family as Tools – Treating you as a resource for money, labor, or emotional support without genuine reciprocity.

Manipulating Generational Gaps – Using the difference in age as an excuse for treating you as inferior or more “ignorant.”

Favoritism – Playing favorites among siblings, often using it to create tension or elicit favor from specific individuals.

Guilt Tripping – If you don’t agree with them, they’ll make you feel as though you’re disrespecting the entire family or your ancestors.

Undermining Your Relationships – Trying to get in the middle of your personal relationships or friendships, sometimes criticizing your choices.

Sense of Entitlement – Believing they deserve more attention, time, or money simply because they’re elders, often ignoring reciprocity.

Public Humiliation – Calling you out in front of other family members or their "friends" online and/or in real life to assert dominance or show superiority.

Minimal Acknowledgment of Your Achievements – While they expect praise for their accomplishments, they rarely congratulate you, particularly due to their insecurities, misery and/or intense jealousy.

Seeking to Be the "Head" of the Family – Insisting on making all major family decisions, even if it's detrimental to others.

Monopolizing Conversations – Dominating every conversation, often interrupting others when they try to speak.

Conditional Love – Showing affection only when you’re doing something for them, but withdrawing "love" or attention if you don't appear "useful" to them.

They Pretend to Care – They act concerned about your well-being, but only if it benefits them in some way.

If You’re a Friend (Face-to-Face and Online)

False Flattery – Complimenting you excessively to get something in return, but not really meaning it.

They Can’t Handle Rejection – They get very defensive or act annoyed when you don't want to hang out or when you say no.

They Play the “Wise Elder” Card – They constantly drop "life lessons" that seem condescending, as if no one could possibly have as much wisdom as they do.

Condescending Behavior – Talking down to you like you’re younger or less experienced, even if you’re of the same age or older.

Overbearing Advice – Offering unsolicited advice, which feels more like a lecture than genuine care or helpful concern.

Always One-Upping – They frequently try to one-up your stories or experiences to make their own seem more impressive than yours and others' lives.

Hidden Criticism – Masking their criticism under the guise of humor or "friendly advice," but it’s clear they think you’re inferior.

Superficial Care – Expressing concern about your well-being in a way that feels scripted and self-serving, not authentic.

Selective Friendship – Only keeping friends who flatter them or who they can use for something (status, attention, resources).

A Lack of Empathy – Unable to truly sympathize with your struggles or accomplishments unless they can somehow benefit.

Ignoring Boundaries – Calling or messaging you excessively, especially online, disregarding your personal time and space.

Subtle Manipulation – Sending passive-aggressive messages that guilt-trip you into doing what they want.

Envy Disguised as Support – Acting like they support your achievements but secretly feeling envious and competing with you.

Using “I’m Old” as an Excuse – Regularly using their age as a reason to avoid responsibility or to get special treatment in the relationship.

Telling You What to Do – Constantly directing your choices or criticizing your decisions, often undermining your autonomy.

Inconsistent Affection – Showing interest or affection only when it benefits them, and pulling away when you need something from them.

Appealing to Your Sympathy – Using their old age or personal struggles to manipulate you into feeling guilty for not giving them attention.

Interrupting and Dominating Conversations – They steer conversations to focus on their issues and rarely let others share.

Never Apologizing – Even when they’re wrong, they can never bring themselves to say sorry, and will instead justify their actions.

Online Comparison – Constantly comparing themselves to your life on social media, subtly competing for attention or validation.

Lowkey Insults – Making subtle digs at your lifestyle choices or appearance, framed as “jokes” or “constructive feedback.”

Appearing Generous – Making grand gestures to appear selfless, but only because they expect something in return (e.g. your outward support, attention and compliments).

Feeling Superior – Exhibiting superiority when it comes to lifestyle, history, or experiences, dismissing your opinions as unworthy.

11 Examples of How They Treat You:

1. Online Compliments That Feel Empty:

They may shower you with likes or comments on your posts, but these comments feel insincere or manipulative, like they’re simply trying to maintain the relationship for their own benefit.

2. The Elder Who Disregards Your Boundaries:

An elderly relative may constantly show up at your house without prior notice, ignoring your requests for personal space, especially if they want something from you.

3. The “I’m Old, I Deserve This” Attitude:

They may frequently say, “I’m already old, I deserve to be treated a certain way!” and expect special privileges like extra attention or resources, without any regard for your time or needs.

4. Using Sympathy for Manipulation:

In a family group chat or in-person, they may say, “At my age, I can’t do this anymore, I hope you can understand” to guilt-trip family members into doing something for them, despite being fully capable of doing it themselves.

5. Highlighting Their Sacrifices:

They often remind you of all they've done for you, invoking "utang na loob" to manipulate you into fulfilling their wishes, even if you didn’t ask for their sacrifices.

6. Redirecting Conversations to Their Glory:

Every time you try to share your personal achievements or successes, they somehow find a way to redirect the conversation back to their own accomplishments or struggles.

7. The Flattery That Feels Wrong:

They may give you compliments that seem excessive or over-the-top, but they always come with an undercurrent of wanting something in return, like attention, validation, or special treatment.

8. Baiting You to Disagree:

They may make an outlandish statement, just to see if you’ll challenge them, so they can have the satisfaction of putting you “in your place.”

9. Claiming They Know Best:

They’ll use their age and “wisdom” as a way to dismiss your opinions or ideas, telling you things like, “I’ve lived longer, so I know better.”

10. Playing the Victim Card:

Anytime you disagree with them, they act as though they’re the victim, saying things like, “At my age, I don’t deserve to be treated this way.”

11. Oversharing for Sympathy:

They may post lengthy, overly dramatic statuses online about their struggles, expecting sympathy from their followers, but without offering any real emotional support in return.

These signs can be subtle or more overt, depending on how deeply entrenched the narcissistic behaviors are, but they’ll often revolve around self-interest, **lack of empathy**, and entitlement, whether they’re interacting with family or friends.

Elderly narcissists, like narcissists of any age, tend to behave based on what serves their ego, control, or emotional needs. Their treatment of others is usually conditional and transactional—based on perceived usefulness, loyalty, admiration, or submission.

Here are 11 ways elderly narcissists typically treat you:

If they like you or find you useful to them:

Overly Friendly and Charming (Love-Bombing Style):
They may flatter you excessively in the beginning of the connection, spoil you with compliments, or show artificial warmth to draw you into their circle or keep you compliant.

Frequent Guilt-Tripping in a ‘Loving’ Tone:
They may emotionally manipulate you into doing things for them by playing the "I’m just an old person who needs help" card.

Selective Praise in Public:
They’ll speak highly of you in front of others—but usually to reflect positively on themselves (e.g., “See how well I raised/helped her?”).

False Sense of Closeness:
They may act as though you're like family or their "favorite," giving you a sense of exclusivity to secure your loyalty.

Offering Favors with Strings Attached:
They might help you or give small gifts, but expect long-term emotional or practical payback.

Using You as a Narcissistic Extension:
They’ll show you off as an achievement (“Look how successful she is, thanks to me!”) only or mainly to boost their ego if doing so makes them appear "important" or "superior".

Controlling but Framed as ‘Caring’:
They micromanage or interfere in your life under the pretense of concern, subtly exerting power over your decisions.

Subtle Triangulation:
They may compare you favorably to others (“You’re the only one who really understands me”), making you feel special.

Conditional Generosity:
They'll give or support you—but only if it ensures loyalty or instant gratitude. If you withdraw or do anything which upsets them, so will their fake "generosity".

Dependency Creation:
They try to make you feel obligated to them, keeping you in a cycle of service, flattery, or emotional debt.

Playing the Victim to Secure Sympathy:
They’ll guilt you into staying close by telling stories of betrayal by others, casting themselves as the misunderstood elder.

If they dislike you or see no use in you (or you unintentionally offended them):

Cold Withdrawal and Passive-Aggression:
They may suddenly become distant, give the silent treatment, or act overly formal and detached.

Backhanded Compliments or Subtle Insults:
They’ll diminish your worth indirectly (“You’re too sensitive for someone your age,” or “I guess not everyone can be helpful.”)

Exclusion and Favoritism:
You’ll be left out of gatherings, decisions, or praise—they’ll lift others up in front of you to make you feel inferior.

Rewriting the Past to Paint You Badly:
They may suddenly reinterpret previous good moments as manipulation or betrayal on your part.

Spreading Rumors or Twisting Narratives:
They gossip or subtly undermine your reputation in the family or community, often pretending concern.

Withholding Affection or Support:
If they used to offer help or validation, they'll stop—coldly and without explanation.

Minimizing Your Struggles or Needs:
If you try to explain yourself or reconcile, they'll invalidate your feelings, often with dismissive remarks like “You're making a big deal out of nothing.”

Blaming and Guilt-Tripping:
They'll find ways to make your supposed failure a moral flaw (“After all I’ve done at my age, this is how I’m treated?”)

Victimhood Role Reversal:
They may twist the situation so they appear as the wronged party—even if your offense was accidental or unknown to you.

Emotional Blackmail:
They may threaten estrangement, badmouth you to others, or even imply they’ll cut you from wills or legacies.

Persistent Grudge Holding:
Unlike others who eventually move on, they may bring up your mistake years later to remind you of your supposed unworthiness.

As an INTJ-A, your approach to dealing with narcissistic individuals—especially elderly ones—is rooted in logic, emotional detachment, and boundary enforcement. Your instinct to avoid seeking their opinions or trusting them is spot-on from a self-preservation and strategic standpoint. Elderly narcissists often use advice-giving as a power move or guilt trap, so withholding that opportunity limits their leverage over you.

Now, here are 29 practical, emotionally intelligent, and assertive ways to deal with elderly narcissistic relatives—especially from an INTJ-A perspective:

🧠 Mental & Emotional Strategy

Detach Emotionally – Don’t take their manipulative behaviors personally. See them as patterns, not personal attacks.

Don't Expect Change – They rarely change, especially in old age. Expecting otherwise is wasted energy.

Manage Your Reactions – Stay calm. Never give them the emotional reaction they’re fishing for.

Observe Patterns, Not Excuses – Focus on how they behave, not what they claim.

Stay Fact-Based – Use logic in interactions. Keep conversations focused on facts, not emotions.

Don't Over-Explain – They often twist your words. Keep responses short and precise.

Disengage Strategically – If provoked, exit the conversation gracefully instead of arguing.

🛡️ Boundary-Setting

Set Clear Boundaries – Define what’s acceptable and unacceptable behavior for you.

Enforce Consequences – Don’t just state boundaries—follow through when they’re crossed.

Avoid One-on-One Isolation – Narcissists thrive in private manipulation. Involve others in meetings if needed.

Limit Contact When Necessary – You're not obligated to stay close just because they're family.

Say “No” Without Guilt – You’re allowed to protect your time, energy, and space.

Keep Your Life Private – Don’t overshare. They may weaponize your personal info.

Don’t Ask for Advice or Approval – They’ll use it to control or discredit you later.

🧩 Communication Tactics

Use Neutral Language – Speak in calm, non-triggering terms to avoid escalation.

Avoid Defensiveness – Respond instead of reacting. Silence can be powerful.

Use the Grey Rock Method – Be boring and uninteresting if they bait you.

Practice Strategic Agreement – Nod, smile, and walk away when arguing is futile.

Don’t Try to Win Arguments – You won’t. Focus on protecting your peace instead.

Redirect Conversations – Shift topics subtly when conversations get toxic.

Avoid Justifying Yourself – You owe them no emotional validation.

💡 Long-Term Coping

Keep Evidence if Needed – For serious manipulation or financial interference, keep records.

Vent to Safe People, Not Them – Find a confidant or therapist—never share your feelings with the narcissist.

Focus on Your Goals, Not Their Drama – Don’t get sidetracked by their chaos.

Reframe Their Behavior – See them as emotionally stunted, not authoritative.

Avoid Playing the Hero – You can’t fix them. Protect yourself instead.

Limit Financial Involvement – Never loan money or let them use finances to control you.

Be Willing to Walk Away – Even from relatives. You have the right to choose peace.

Use Time & Distance as Tools – Space helps you think clearly and protect your identity.

From an INTJ-A standpoint, it’s not about revenge, submission, or unnecessary drama—it's about control, mental clarity, and conserving energy for what truly matters. You’re not cold or cruel for refusing to trust a manipulative elder—you’re wise for protecting your emotional well-being.
⤴️ Some notes from ChatGPT

Note: Random Lessons Learned After Attending 3 Days Event At SM Ecoland Here In Davao Philippines

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم 

🗒️✨ Alhamdulillah the 3 days-event/exhibit at SM Ecoland hosted by the National Commission on Muslim Filipinos (NCMF) went well. 3 quick lessons learned from attending the exhibit on all three days from June 16 Monday to Wednesday June 18: 

1✅ It is recommended and more convenient to perform wudhu/ablution before going outdoors whenever you can before wearing socks that fully cover one's ankles so when it is Salah/prayer time, you can just pray if you still have your wudhu/ablution or perform wudhu then simply wipe over your socks instead of struggling to properly wash your feet while several individuals are waiting for their turn to use the faucet or CR stall.

Although there was a designated area for Muslims to pray during the 3 days exhibit, the bathroom stalls don't have bidet spray or "balde" bucket for proper washing. So it's more convenient, despite the location being several steps away from SM Ecoland, to perform one's wudhu/ablution in the bathrooms of the Muslim community near the Masjid Jamjom 

https://www.facebook.com/MasjidJamjoom/ where females can more comfortably pray at the second floor without their niqab on if they normally wear the niqab when going out and when in the presence of non-mahram males.

2✅ Five different modes of reaching SM Ecoland here in Davao city from Wisdom Islamic School near Dumanlas Buhangin district:

1➡️ Ride yellow pedicab going to SPMC (10 pesos) then take jeepney route 4 (13 pesos) going to Roxas or near Mini Forest Boulevard then take another jeepney in front of the Salmonan basketball court/gym near the pedestrian lane (13 pesos) going to SM Ecoland.

2➡️ Ride yellow pedicab going to SPMC (10 pesos) then climb the bridge to get to the other side near some convenient stores and take jeepney with sign that says "SM Ecoland" to go straight to SM Ecoland (13 pesos) - I tried this mode but since it was very difficult to find jeepneys going straight to SM Ecoland (very rare to find one) we took a regular taxi instead.

3➡️ GrabCar with fixed fee which usually costs from 300 pesos and above. The drivers usually drive fast and often take shortcuts to reach the destination quicker, probably to save on fuel and/or have more time to collect as many passengers as they can so their earnings could increase. From the benefits of taking GrabCar, besides the ride being air-conditioned, is that a lot of drivers let you use their hotspot if you don't have internet data. One time a driver was even friendly and considerate enough to allow me to charge my cellphone with his charger.

4➡️ Ordinary taxi from Wisdom Islamic School or from SPMC going straight to SM Ecoland. Depending on the traffic and on the driver's method of reaching the passengers' destinations, the fee/fare usually starts from 200 pesos something. Not ideal during rush hour and if the driver is inexperienced or uncooperative regarding taking the most efficient routes.

5➡️ With personal vehicle or with a loved one or friend who is very generous enough to give you a ride to your destination for free.

3✅ After the closing program, a number of packed meals (accordingly biryani or kabsah) were being distributed to the attendees but with the officials being prioritized. Seeing how there were more guests and participants than the quantity of packed meals, not everyone at the venue was able to receive a box of early dinner. Alhamdulillah from this I was reminded that:

📝 No matter how much we want something or we're willing to take something, we shouldn't feel entitled to receiving that thing if we didn't specifically pay for it nor actively worked for it and if it was never destined by Allah the Most Wise for us to have it. 

Anyhow, biryani and kabsah can be easily bought from Labbayk restaurant, Dani's Palace, Brew-it cafe of sister Nusaybah 

https://www.facebook.com/thebrewitcafe/ 

and Turkish Kebab House, Chef Cengiz Place, of sister Ayse and Jannah's Kitchen (of sister Jannah Javier Umm Muhammad) as well as other sisters with amazing ability to cook a wide variety of delicious meals, including atti Narjis Umm Fatum Lari whose biryani some time after Eid Al-Adha was one of the best biryani dishes I've tried Alhamdulillah in a long time. 

JazakAllahu Khair also to dear sister Sherry (mommy vlogger and one of the moms of our former students here at Wisdom Islamic School) for being pleasantly supportive in subtle ways despite being a busy working mom🌼

Encouraging others including myself to also support Darussalam Bookstore by purchasing some of the books and accessories being sold there as well as at Taharah AlHalal currently located somewhere around Matina:

https://www.facebook.com/darussalamph/

https://www.facebook.com/p/%F0%9D%97%A7%F0%9D%97%94%F0%9D%97%9B%F0%9D%97%94%F0%9D%97%A5%F0%9D%97%94%F0%9D%97%9B-%F0%9D%97%94%F0%9D%97%9F-%F0%9D%97%9B%F0%9D%97%94%F0%9D%97%9F%F0%9D%97%94%F0%9D%97%9F-100085339011160/

https://www.facebook.com/WIS.Davao/