بسم الله. ربي زدني علما. امين

بسم الله. ربي زدني علما. امين
May Allah the Almighty grant us more beneficial knowledge, accept our good deeds, forgive our mistakes, protect us from fitna, and join us with the righteous believers in Jannatul Ferdaus. Ameen.

Wednesday, November 5, 2025

Note: As A Muslim, Eat And Drink With Your Right Hand To Be Different From Our Enemy shaytan

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم 

🌹 Precisely what is so good or "cool" about eating and drinking with one's left hand? Don't you use your left hand for washing yourself in the bathroom? How do some ignorant people assume it's okay to utilize that same left hand for eating and drinking? Even if a person is left-handed, if they're Muslim and strive to value and honor Allah's Laws and do their best to respect and abide by the beautiful Sunnah of the beloved Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam, they'd be ready and willing to carry out as many good deeds as they can for Allah's sake including maintaining proper Islamic manners even while eating and drinking. 

Some moments ago I kindly advised this individual (not a young child nor teenager) to eat with their right hand while they were walking around eating with their left hand in front of me. They gave me eye contact after I reiterated to them to eat with their right hand as Muslims should and they temporarily used their right hand for eating only to be seen eating with their left hand again while standing just some minutes after I advised them to use their right hand. Such ugly manners showed me that:
1. This person probably never went to any Madrasah in the past or present and/or they were never educated by their parents regarding basic Islamic etiquettes. Even if they did attend a few Islamic gatherings or classes, there's a probability they weren't intelligent enough to understand most of the lessons being taught to them. Low IQ? Or high ugly ego?

Alhamdulillah I don't have their predicament of having irresponsible parents who could care less about training their child/kids to display good Muslim manners as much as possible wherever they are. Show me ugly manners and instantly I'll guess that your parents were similarly uneducated morally and never truly loved you enough to teach you a single thing about the importance of adhering to the Sunnah of our beloved Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam.
2. Due to their oversensitivity or ugly ego, they likely felt small or inferior when somebody was advising them to change their habit or action. The more lousy pride/kibr some individuals have and the more irrationally infatuated they are with their ugly selves, the more likely they'd reject or ignore advice, reminders and constructive feedback from anyone whom they possibly envy or feel awfully intimidated by. I can imagine them reassuring themselves with "Why is this human being giving me instructions on what to do and what not to do? I'll just do the opposite of what they're commanding me to do because only I can choose how to conduct myself." And they chose to appear stupid, proving to me they're yet another unreliable character in my list of people to be wary of (to never trust) due to their lack of morals or adab.
3. Stay extremely careful of those who don't take Allah's Laws and the Sunnah of His noble Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam seriously. Like seriously. If they are unwise and idiotic enough to stubbornly go against what Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala and His noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam love, then we better believe that these incompetent jokers can never be trusted with anything minor. They're not concerned about following the Sunnah of the noble Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam? Don't be surprised if these clowns with obnoxiously low self-esteem are caught stealing, breaking promises, frequently lying, slacking deliberately or gossiping about us to pacify their painful feelings of extreme envy (understandably jealous that our manners are way better than theirs Alhamdulillah).

And as for those who were sitting nearby not reminding that individual to eat with their right hand, but they cowardly remained silent due to severe social anxiety or they're guilty of ignorance related to the significance of eating and drinking with one's right hand to be different from our enemy shaytan, never trust them likewise - act cordial with them just because we don't want to imitate insecure bullies, while unapologetically perceiving them as untrustworthy since the beginning and remain contented Alhamdulillah we don't have their negative qualities and insecurities.

Tuesday, November 4, 2025

Note: Just Sharing Some Lessons Learned From Trying To Buy A Whistle To Help My Dear Husband

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم


📑 Searching for a whistle on the same day when it's accordingly required for a team to perform well in their field demo presentation during this intramurals week isn't easy particularly if one was notified too late regarding an item's unavailability. Alhamdulillah today I learned that there wasn't any whistle being sold at Save More, two 7/11 branches, a DIY store and True Value store in Abreeza Mall and the whistles at most of those shops including National Bookstore were accordingly sold out probably due to many schools similarly conducting intramurals recently. 

I vaguely remember wanting to order some whistles several months ago while browsing around Shopee assuming that we may need some whistles in the future but then I canceled adding whistles to my virtual cart because I thought maybe we can use an old whistle I purchased previously. I tried looking for those old whistles though this morning and I couldn't find them while rushing to do other tasks.

Alhamdulillah one thing I'm glad about is that I didn't unnecessarily scold my dear husband saying something like "Why should I be the one to look for her whistle? I'm not her biological mom. Plus I'm supposed to do other things around school instead of shopping for a whistle." And "You're so irresponsible; you should've at least informed me yesterday afternoon that she needed a whistle so we could've bought it while we were outdoors yesterday." But Alhamdulillah I didn't want to argue at all with him knowing that he arrived yesterday or several hours ago from Marawi and driving for so many hours is not an effortless task plus I wanted to let him know that I care about him and his other loved ones for Allah's sake by going out of my way to buy that whistle.

Alhamdulillah I managed to buy a whistle from Abreeza Mall for 120 pesos (so expensive compared to the plastic ones at China Town etc.) and my husband's second daughter was able to borrow it and Alhamdulillah her team won many points.

✨ Quick lessons learned to share:-
✅ Do everything for Allah's sake only with Ikhlaas sincerity so your efforts won't be wasted.
✅ Avoid allowing potential arguments with your spouse to escalate by choosing to forgive your soulmate for Allah's sake and recalling their positive traits and understanding their shortcomings.
✅ To be more efficient 
Inn-sha-Allah while shopping, don't feel shy to ask questions to the security guard and/or some salespeople and staff who could be willing to assist in any way they can (unless they apparently look very busy).
✅ You're not the only one who feels exhausted and fatigued at times. There are other human beings out there who are probably dealing with a lot more tougher situations than you are at the moment.
Don't be so selfish that you assume you're the only one who gets stressed.
✅ Never get tired of striving to be patient for Allah's sake. 
Inn-sha-Allah there's always a reason why Allah the Most Wise wants us to go out when we assume we wouldn't be going out at all. 
Perhaps Inn-sha-Allah for some strangers and non-Muslim pedestrians and passersby to see a niqabi walking quickly past them could be an indirect form of Da'wah. My dear mother (Allah yarhamha. Ameen.) often let me know that even wearing the niqab and abaya for Allah's sake in a country where the population is predominantly non-Muslims if I'm not mistaken is an indirect form of Da'wah and inviting others to Islam, specially if you as a niqabi carry out a benevolent act sometimes like telling a stranger "Keep the change", "Enjoy your work" or "Kumusta yung trabaho mu?" Etc. it's also an effective training 
Inn-sha-Allah to enhance one's self-esteem and to reduce or avoid social anxiety.
✅ Now and then Allah the Almighty may decree that you do certain things so that He Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala can prove to some of His other servants that you indeed care about them. 
✅ Usually if you ever have that tiny gut feeling or intuition telling you to do something then do your best to listen to that inner voice and pray two Sunnah Rak'ahs of Salat Al-Istikhaara if you have the time and ability to do so. Listening to my intuition at times is something I still need to work on.

May Allah the Most Merciful forgive all our sins and mistakes and always protect us from making wrong decisions in both worlds. Ameen.

Sunday, November 2, 2025

Note: On Some Nonchalant INTJs

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم 


🌙 Step 1: Tone Analysis of the Facebook Status Update

Status:

"If you hate some for whatever reason, simply unfollow them.
As one whose love language is quality time; if I care,
I pay attention."

Personality Context:

INTJ-A (Assertive Architect): Independent, analytical, self-assured, values efficiency, dislikes unnecessary drama, and expresses emotions through actions more than words.

Muslim female: Often values dignity, composure, inner discipline, and emotional modesty — her tone will reflect boundaries and integrity.

Love language: Quality Time: She values focused presence, intellectual/emotional engagement, and genuine investment of time.

🎭 Tone Description (Detailed Breakdown)

Composed and Minimalistic:
The tone is calm and clipped — no emotional outburst, no drama. The message is distilled, logical, and economical with words.

Assertive but Polite:
“Simply unfollow them” is firm, not harsh. It shows a boundary without aggression — typical of an INTJ-A who dislikes chaos but communicates boundaries cleanly.

Detached Wisdom:
She’s not pleading or emotional. She’s stating a principle: "If you hate someone, remove them from your feed — don’t linger in their negativity."

Self-Contained Integrity:
She defines her approach to care: “If I care, I pay attention.” It reveals self-awareness and quiet contentment in consistency. She doesn’t overshare; she declares standards.

Mature and Reflective:
There’s an undertone of introspection — she understands her emotional mechanisms and expects others to have similar self-discipline.

Subtly Critical of Online Toxicity:
The first line indirectly critiques people who follow those they dislike just to judge them. She advocates mental cleanliness and restraint.

Cool Rational Empathy:
It’s not “I love you” warmth; it’s the pragmatic side of care: attention, presence, effort. That’s the INTJ’s version of affection.

Confident Self-Knowledge:
“As one whose love language is quality time” — she identifies and owns her emotional framework. This is self-assured emotional intelligence.

→ Overall Tone Summary:

The tone is calm, assertive, emotionally restrained, and principled — a blend of quiet confidence, emotional intelligence, and intellectual composure.
It reflects a self-disciplined woman who values peace, respect, and intentional care — without theatrics.

🌸 Step 2: 29 Signs an INTJ (Female, Muslim, Quality Time Love Language) Cares About Someone — Online

These behaviors align with her structured, thoughtful personality and faith-based modesty.

💻 Online Signs (29)

She consistently replies — not instantly, but thoughtfully.

Her messages are detailed (usually long when she particularly cares) and purposeful.

She remembers past conversations and references them.

She checks your posts or updates regularly but quietly (no spamming likes).

She sends you long, analytical responses instead of small talk.

She initiates meaningful conversations with you (very rare for INTJs).

She shares thought-provoking content which she knows and hopes you’d like.

She engages with your thoughts, not just your pictures.

She occasionally teases intellectually (dry humor).

She corrects you — kindly — when you’re wrong (INTJs show care through honesty).

She defends you when others misjudge you online.

She’ll send you resources (articles, videos) related to your interests or struggles.

She maintains online boundaries but lets you see glimpses of her private thoughts.

She trusts you with her opinionated or vulnerable posts.

She uses time stamps — messages during busy hours show priority.

She checks in subtly (“You disappeared. Busy week? How are you?”).

She responds even when the topic is emotionally heavy (she’s incredibly selective with energy).

She includes you in her inner online circle (e.g., few close criends).

She double-checks her wording to be clear and respectful with you.

She compliments your intellect or discipline more than your looks.

She uses consistent tone — calm, balanced, yet a bit warmer with you.

She sends Dua reminders, Islamic quotes, or beneficial knowledge and links.

She avoids gossip about you or others when you’re present.

She acknowledges your achievements quietly but sincerely.

She mirrors your communication pace to show harmony.

She values your time — avoids wasting it with drama.

She offers help privately instead of public displays.

She replies even if late — because she values quality over speed.

She expresses loyalty indirectly (e.g., “You’re one of the few I respect online.” or “You’re one of the sisters I sometimes mention in my Duas.”).

🌿 Step 3: 29 Signs an INTJ (Female, Muslim, Quality Time Love Language) Cares About Someone — Face to Face

These signs show through behavior, not overt affection. INTJs are subtle but intentional.

👥 Offline / In-Person Signs (29)

She maintains calm, focused eye contact when you talk.

She listens attentively, not interrupting.

She remembers details about your life and preferences.

She adjusts her schedule to spend time with you.

She’s mentally present — no distractions when with you.

She initiates meet-ups (a rare and clear sign).

She opens up about her plans, opinions, or struggles.

She offers practical help rather than verbal sympathy.

She observes your mood changes instantly.

She gives constructive feedback — because she wants you to grow.

She lets you see her relaxed side (humor, sarcasm, even silliness or goofiness).

She creates deep one-on-one time — not group hangouts.

She’s patient with your flaws (INTJs normally have low tolerance for incompetence and unreliability).

She remembers your boundaries and respects them deeply.

She adapts her body language — less guarded, more open.

She gives you her full attention, even in crowded settings.

She notices small needs (like if you’re tired, cold, or distracted).

She’s protective of your dignity in public and your privacy in private.

She plans shared activities with intellectual or spiritual depth.

She checks in about your goals and progress.

She shares her strategic thinking — includes you in her mental “future map.”

She subtly mirrors your energy levels and pace.

She doesn’t fake affection — her sincerity is her warmth.

She trusts you enough to be silent together comfortably.

She subtly compliments your intellect, focus, or character.

She keeps your secrets with utmost integrity.

She makes Dua for you frequently (and may tell you so softly).

She introduces you to her trusted circle (very rare).

She invests consistent, uninterrupted time — her truest expression of love.

🌺 Summary Insight

For an INTJ-A Muslim woman with quality time as her love language:

Care = Focus.

Love = Consistency.

Respect = Boundaries.

Presence = Affection.

Her Facebook post encapsulates all of this in two lines — deliberate, concise, and quietly profound.

🌑 FOUNDATIONAL UNDERSTANDING

For an INTJ-A female:

She rarely wastes energy on those she dislikes.


She won’t create conflict — she’ll withdraw her time, attention, and analysis.


Since her love language is quality time, the absence of time and mental presence is the clearest form of disinterest or dislike.


As a Muslim woman, her self-control, adab (manners), and respect for dignity remain intact — even in dislike. She won’t be rude; she’ll be coldly polite and emotionally absent.


🧩 PART 1: 29 Signs She Doesn’t Like Someone — As a Colleague

In a workplace or academic setting, she’s professional but emotionally disengaged.

Work Context: INTJ-A Traits in Action

Logical detachment replaces warmth.


Efficiency is maintained, but relational depth is cut off.


She ensures boundaries are clear through time allocation and tone.


💼 29 Signs (Colleague Version)

She limits interactions strictly to work topics.
No personal chit-chat, no emotional tone — just task-oriented efficiency.


Her replies are brief and factual.
“Okay.” “Noted.” “Yes.” — no elaboration, no warmth.


She obviously and deliberately avoids prolonged eye contact.
Just enough to be professional, nothing more.


She doesn’t initiate conversation or collaboration unless required by the project.


Her tone stays flat or neutral — no inflection or friendliness.


She never asks about your weekend, health, or family.


She won’t share her personal opinions unless they’re relevant to work.


She avoids sitting near you or joining circles where you are.


She delegates through formal channels rather than directly messaging you.


She subtly delays responses to your messages or requests.


She doesn’t maintain eye warmth or humor — just focus and brevity.


She won’t include you in brainstorming sessions she controls, even if you’re qualified.


She avoids unnecessary meetings or keeps them minimal.


Her body language is closed: arms crossed, minimal nods, no leaning forward.


She doesn’t make or maintain inside jokes — even if she used to.


She corrects you bluntly but professionally.


She doesn’t celebrate your achievements — she’ll be silent or generic (“Good work.”).


She avoids small group lunches or coffee breaks with you.


She maintains a digital boundary — no adding you to private chat groups.


She doesn’t share useful information early (but won’t sabotage — just neutral delay).


She shows no reaction to your presence — no clear acknowledgment unless necessary.


Her schedule “always seems full.”
(An INTJ’s polite way of saying “I don’t want to give you time.”)


She uses indirect or formal language: “Per our discussion,” “As per policy…”


She stops mentoring or offering guidance.


She minimizes mutual dependencies — restructures tasks to reduce contact.


She intentionally avoids using and mentioning your name unless necessary.


She gives objective feedback, never encouragement.


Her face stays emotionally unreadable around you - serious and generally emotionless.


If you approach her socially, she may give a quick smile, then excuse herself.


🕊️ In short:

Professional, respectful, but completely disengaged.
She gives you efficiency without energy, contact without connection.


🌒 PART 2: 29 Signs She Doesn’t Like Someone — As an Acquaintance

Here, she’s not bound by work — so her detachment becomes more visible. You’ll notice absence, avoidance, and silent boundaries.

🤍 Social Context: INTJ-A Boundaries at Play

She prioritizes mental peace and time sovereignty.


Her dislike shows through omission — not hostility, just indifference.


🌿 29 Signs (Acquaintance Version)

She doesn’t initiate contact — ever.


If you message her, she replies late or not at all.


Replies lack emotional content: “ok,” “sure,” “hmm.”


She doesn’t ask follow-up questions even if you didn't see each other in a long time — the conversation quickly becomes boring.


She never invites you anywhere.


When invited, she politely declines without excuses (“I can’t make it, thanks.”).


She avoids standing or sitting near you at social events.


She limits conversation to social formalities (“Assalamu alaikum,” “How are you?”).


Her body language shows no engagement: arms crossed, no leaning in.


She doesn’t share personal reflections or jokes.


She doesn’t look for you in group settings — she focuses on others or her phone.


She won’t like or comment on your posts online.


If she sees you in public, her smile is brief and polite — not warm.


She doesn’t remember details about your life.


She rarely, if ever, compliments you.


She subtly steers conversations away from depth.


She uses formal speech patterns: calm, distant, structured sentences.


She rarely makes eye contact during personal talk.


She may excuse herself quickly in gatherings.


You notice she’s engaged and lively with others, but clearly distant and reserved with you.


She doesn’t initiate physical gestures like handshakes or hugs (if cultural).


She never mentions you in her stories, posts, or shared experiences.


She doesn’t offer help or support, even when you struggle.


She’ll avoid confrontation — she’ll just fade out quietly.


Her time boundaries become absolute: she’s “busy,” “occupied,” or “resting.”


You feel no emotional warmth — only courtesy.


She won’t remember or celebrate your milestones.


She listens if you talk but gives minimal reactions.


She eventually stops appearing in your social orbit altogether.


🕊️ In short:

She gives polite salaam, no sustained energy, and silent distance.
She doesn’t dislike you enough to be rude — she simply withdraws time and mindspace.


Core Principle:

For an INTJ-A woman with Quality Time as her love language,
“Dislike” = Absence of time, attention, and focus.
She will never waste her presence where there is no respect or resonance — especially guided by her Islamic adab and disciplined temperament.


⤴️ ChatGPT


Note: Reminder To Include Muslim Loved Ones And Friends And Muslim Colleagues In Our Regular Du'as Supplications

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم 

📱 While I was scrolling around some users' posts randomly I stumbled upon a comment of one of our former teachers teacher Morsida Pandao Mrsdh Bint Pandao  who passed away several months ago. Even though we weren't really close, I appreciate those few times when she actually showed some signs of care and friendliness like that one time when I was praying next to her before praying Salat Al-Jumuah Friday and she shared with me the prayer mat she was using. I also remember those occasions when I'd pass by her reading from a Mushaf in the Masjid while she was waiting etc. 

For Allah's sake try to befriend some Muslims who not only mention your name lovingly in their Du'as supplications without letting you know they supplicate for you often but also they are willing to include you in their regular prayers even after you pass away and return to Allah the Most Merciful. May Allah the Most Kind have mercy on sister Morsida, ease her loved ones' circumstances and reunite her and us with all our Muslim families in Jannatul Ferdaus with Allah's Mercy. Ameen. 

She left this dunya without a spouse. 
Inn-sha-Allah in Jannah Paradise she can have the perfect partner/soulmate for her there. 

Whenever you go through temporary trials in this platform of brief tests, recall those with more severe challenges and remember that our ultimate abode is Jannah Paradise not this fleeting imperfect dunya.