بسم الله. ربي زدني علما. امين

بسم الله. ربي زدني علما. امين
May Allah the Almighty grant us more beneficial knowledge, accept our good deeds, forgive our mistakes, protect us from fitna, and join us with the righteous believers in Jannatul Ferdaus. Ameen.

Tuesday, July 5, 2022

Note: Why A Lot Of INTJs Are Not Very Likable / Approachable

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 
📑 Three reasons why a lot of individuals whose MBTI personality type is INTJ are not very popular or approachable: 
1] They're not afraid of standing out or behaving differently from the crowd.
If a person is desperate to be liked by a particular group, they'd do whatever they can to change certain aspects of themselves to be on the same level as all the group's members, making sure to avoid any act which could bring about their ejection. Most INTJs would remain unaffected if they got kicked out of a team or a clique rejected them because they stood by their values and didn't bother acting in a way that contradicts who they truly are. 
2] They tend to be intimidatingly honest, outspoken and straightforward, not caring at all about how strangers perceive them. 
A person who is eager to be your friend would refrain from saying statements which you may regard as offensive or questionable. An INTJ on the other hand would unapologetically tell you the truth or readily give feedback which could offend most people since they're not into sugarcoating words and pretending to be whom they aren't. Spoiling you with flattery and insincere compliments is something which many INTJs are not interested in doing if they actually despise your vibes. 
3] They don't chase people nor bother mending the unfixable. 
If you intentionally excluded an INTJ from a trip, meeting or gathering, nine times out of ten don't expect them to tearfully ask why you didn't invite them. They'll probably analyze all the reasons why it's a blessing they didn't join an outing filled with actors, liars and gossipmongers, and they'd refocus on something else that's far more important, and distance themselves from your insecurities further with contentment. 
While some individuals would beg for your attention, an INTJ who can sense that you're ignoring their messages on purpose would gladly quit attempting to connect with cowards who are obviously too unconfident or different. 
Most INTJ Muslims would rather enjoy serene solitude with Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala than pretend to be besties with somebody who's just a phony, nuisance or distraction.
~•~
📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated that the Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The Mufarridun (the isolated or those who like to isolate themselves) have gone ahead (in gaining rewards)." He was asked, "Who are the Mufarridun?" He SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam replied, "Those men and women who remember Allah much."
[Sahih Muslim]
Arabic/English book reference: Book 16, Hadith 1436 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his best friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are troops collected together. They come close upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109
Sahih Muslim 2638
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

Sunday, July 3, 2022

Note: Five Reasons Why Some People Can't Thank You And How To Deal With Ingrates

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Five reasons why a person would refuse to thank you after being kind to them, why some individuals are ingrates: 
1] They are awfully stressed out, worried about personal issues, or very depressed. Somebody who is emotionally wounded or immensely unhappy from within may struggle to thank people for the favors done to them. 
2] Undeniably they are so jealous of you - envious that you have meritorious qualities or capabilities which they lack, that they perceive you as clearly more confident or accomplished than them, or that your good character overall surpasses theirs. The more an individual is guilty of obnoxiously envying you, the more challenging it becomes for them to defeat their inferiority complex and the more intimidated they feel that they're incapable of expressing gratitude. 
3] They may have had a lousy upbringing. Their parents didn't do well in taking care of them. Due to failing at educating them about proper manners, they are ignorant of the virtues of thanking people. 
4] They have the potential to be thankful but only selectively. They're probably the kind of person who won't thank you if they genuinely can't appreciate what you gave them or what you did to ease their circumstances. 
5] They abstain from showing thanks if their low self-esteem compels them to wrongly assume you're being nice just to make them feel small or to display you're somehow a lot "superior". 
✅ Three tips on dealing with ungrateful people: 
1] Avoid them for Allah's sake as much as possible, to protect your faith Imaan and prevent them from taking your generosity for granted. Withhold your companionship from those who have enough pride / kibr / arrogance to display ingratitude. 
2] Be different from them while thanking Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aa that He didn't make you an insecure ingrate. 
3] Since you understand the feeling of being unappreciated or not thanked, make sure that you strive to remain grateful to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala then to His servants whenever you can. 
~•~
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever does not thank the people has not thanked Allah."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4811
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Ahmed Shakir

Saturday, July 2, 2022

Poem: What Undue Jealousy Does

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

📑 With thorns on both sides, envy is like a spiky coat 
Which when worn brings its wearer and critics discomfort. 
It's an abhorrent trait, adored by shaytan our foe, 
And it causes the jealous to loathe whom they don't know. 
Jealousy is ugly yet it's widespread in this world.
~•~
Real envy can cause you to "cringe" or prompt eyes to roll 
When hearing the voice of people whom you're jealous of. 
It forces you to obsess over somebody's faults, 
Prevents you from befriending those with similar goals, 
And urges you to act rude or have some souls ignored.
~•~
Foul jealousy invites you to think of spiteful thoughts
Such as "look at her again, she's clearly showing off!", 
"They're all narcissists. Don't pay attention to their words." 
And "To us, he's a loser, no matter what he does.". 
Envy can make you view gems as nothing more than dust.
~•~
Envy is the culprit in causing friends to split up, 
In preventing neighbors from wanting to interact, 
And in provoking teachers into acting unjust. 
It can drive you to recall people's faults they forgot
And it cheapens the price of gifts you already have. 
~•~
Acting on envy may equal doubting Allah's Love 
And Wisdom in distributing His blessings on earth. 
Jealousy disturbs the heart. With it you can't relax. 
Thank Allah for the good things you've got, don't watch lame vlogs, 
And aspire to reach Jannah where bliss forever lasts. 
~•~ 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Look at those below you and do not look at those above you, for it is the best way to not belittle the favors of Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala)."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6125
Sahih Muslim 2963
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Do not envy each other, do not outbid each other, do not hate each other, do not turn away from each other, and do not outsell each other. Rather, be servants of Allah as brothers. The Muslim is the brother of another Muslim. He does not wrong him, nor humiliate him, nor look down upon him. Righteousness (piety) is here," and he Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam pointed to his chest three times. The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "It is enough evil for a man to look down upon his Muslim brother. The entirety of the Muslim is sacred (inviolable) to another Muslim: His life, his wealth, and his reputation (his honor)."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2564
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Faith (Imaan) and envy do not combine within a believing servant."
In another narration, the Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Greed and faith are never combined in the heart of a servant." 
Source: Sunan Al-Nasā’ī 3109
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

Tuesday, June 28, 2022

Links: Encouragement For Those Not Performing Hajj To Fast Sunnah Fasting On The First Days Of Dhul-Hijjah Especially On Yawm 'Arafah


📖 Hunaydah Ibn Khalid RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Some of the wives of the Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said that he would fast the first nine days of the month of Dhul-Hijjah, the day of Ashura, and three days of every month, which would be the first Monday and Thursday of the month. 
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 2437
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 
Allah the Almighty knows best. 
Al-Nawawi said, "It is part of the Sunnah (for those Muslims not performing Hajj/pilgrimage) to fast the first nine days of the month of Dhul-Hijjah."
Source: Al-Majmū’ Sharh Al-Muhadhab 6/386
📖 Abu Qatadah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam was asked about fasting the day of 'Arafah (Yawm 'Arafah, the ninth day of Dhul-Hijjah) and he SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "It will expiate the sins of the previous year and the upcoming year." Then, the Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam was asked about fasting the day of 'Ashura (10th of Muharram) and he SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "It will expiate the sins of the past year."
Source: Sahih Muslim 1162
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

Poem: Disconnecting From Toxic People And Liars Is A Blessing In Disguise

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📑 When Allah the Most Wise loves you, 
He grants you what's best, 
Such as eagerness to collect Islamic knowledge 
From authentic sources and guidance to pass His tests. 
Often Allah lets you meet souls who show disrespect 
So you grow stronger and learn to ditch what He detests. 
~•~
If ever you reflect on why certain people left, 
Why you and a few neighbors failed to deeply connect, 
And why some "friendships" were short-lived, know that you are blessed 
If you're close to Allah, He only wants to protect 
You and your faith from fitna and souls with foul motives.
~•~
Maybe you and so-and-so fought since Allah witnessed 
Their deep-seated grudge and envy of your countless gifts, 
Their false smiles, rehearsed lies, and wish to take advantage 
Of your kindness while their likes clash with your interests. 
Allah may not like them so you had to disconnect. 
~•~
Don't blame yourself if you were lied to. The dishonest 
Will get Allah's Justice and rewards for what they did. 
Ex-friends remind us that just Allah can be trusted. 
Although some "friends" exited, with Allah's Love persist. 
From the selfish and jealous - good manners don't expect.
~•~
When you're from those whom Allah loves, He grants you what's best 
And keeps you away from souls with malicious motives. 
Allah sees what's in the hearts of those He created. 
When you and so-and-so drift apart, don't stay upset. 
Allah's Will to send them away patiently accept.
~•~
📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)." 
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albaani 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Love whom you love moderately, perhaps he will become hateful to you someday. Hate whom you hate moderately, perhaps he will become your beloved friend someday." 
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1997
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albaani 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are conscripted soldiers. They come together upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109, Sahih Muslim 2638
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim