بسم الله. ربي زدني علما. امين

بسم الله. ربي زدني علما. امين
May Allah the Almighty grant us more beneficial knowledge, accept our good deeds, forgive our mistakes, protect us from fitna, and join us with the righteous believers in Jannatul Ferdaus. Ameen.

Thursday, January 12, 2023

Note: Some Admirable Things That My ESFJ Husband Has Done / Often Does

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Seven (among countless) admirable things which my dear husband has done as an ESFJ 3w2 personality type: 
1] Offering some sweets and candies to several young males after he carried out circumcision. His willingness to circumcize male Muslims for free. MashaAllah.
2] Being usually the one to cook and prepare our meals during the first weeks of our marriage, while I did the dishes near him and often set the table. To this day I acknowledge the fact that he's a much better chef than I try to be. 
3] The cute disappointed look on his face when he tried his best to drive me to the residence of some Tausug acquaintances and it took him a long time trying to locate it until I later insisted that I'd walk to their house since it was just a few steps away. 
4] His agreement to take an MBTI personality test when I requested him to and his patient listening or attentiveness when I quickly described what the ESFJ personality means. 
5] His loving gestures whenever he sometimes feeds me with his right hand while he's enjoying a meal. 
6] Washing by hand some of my niqaab and clothes and teaching me how to properly do laundry while here in the Philippines and once in Malaysia. Giving advice on how to do house chores instead of arrogantly criticizing. 
7] Occasionally allowing and inviting some of the students to ride with him and his kids when driving to their neighborhood from school and oftentimes giving us random car rides when he isn't busy or in a rush to go someplace.
✅ Some qualities that are common among ESFJ types, if they are healthy and not insecure: 
➡️ It brings them joy whenever they succeed in being helpful and generous.
➡️ At times a lot of them are capable of sensing or accurately guessing how an individual is actually feeling, and if that loved one or stranger isn't in a good mood the ESFJ too can experience the same sentiment. 
➡️ In general ESFJs can either be very talkative or quiet, humourous or serious, fully engaged or somewhat reserved depending on the circumstances and purpose. To get along with an ESFJ, display genuine care that is not only restricted for them but also demonstrate empathy to their family.
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📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The best of you are the best to their women."
Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 1978
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."
Source: Sahih Muslim 1467
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 
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Wednesday, January 11, 2023

Note: Some Signs That A Male "Adult" Is Too Immature To Marry

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 
🗒️ Seven signs of emotionally immature male adults - a "man" with at least three of these is not really marriageable: 
1] They're older than twenty years old yet they enjoy making fun of people's flaws and gossiping like insecure and inwardly distressed females. 
2] They have very bad control of their emotions, since their ego/pride is obnoxiously a lot bigger than their ability to distinguish between what is logical and what is irrational. Whatever they feel within themselves must be vocalized most of the time, almost in the same way as some uncivilized children blurt out nonsensical comments whenever they're compelled to describe someone or something. 
3] They're a lot older than twenty yet they are miserable enough to sign up for multiple fake accounts to stalk or nosily spy on female users who are not even interested in them. The marriage proposal of a male "adult" who wastes most of his lifetime interfering with others' lives instead of focusing on his goals isn't worth accepting. 
4] They quarrel with females a lot as if they were also an overly sensitive girl or jealous woman. A real man knows how to keep his composure even if several women are nagging him. 
5] They often childishly persuade others, particularly young kids, to misbehave and cause trouble. Instead of educating the youth to maintain good manners, they coerce the latter into acting like troublemakers to be distracted from whatever is bringing them misery. Because they're disappointed in themselves, they wish everybody around them would suffer similarly. 
6] Although they're much older than twenty, they still believe in the silly importance of taking photos of their materialistic joys, unreasonably expensive beverages and fancy meals, frequently showing off what they ate and drank almost in the same way as a kindergartner excitedly flaunts his opened lunchbox for his teachers and classmates to envy. 
7] They're greedily selfish and so self-entitled, terribly reluctant to share when there's an opportunity to practice generosity. 
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📖 Abu Dharr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Fear Allah wherever you are, follow a bad deed with a good deed and it will erase it, and behave well with good character towards the people."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1987
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to At-Tirmidhi
📖 Abdullah bin Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "The Muslim is the one from whose tongue and hands the Muslims are safe." 
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 10 
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi
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Tips: Don't Allow Grudge To Disrupt Your Inner Peace

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📝 Five things which you can do to avoid feeling overwhelmed by unreasonable grudges, how to have patience with someone's presence so your inability to like them doesn't disrupt your inner peace: 
1] Remember that they are Allah's servants who are prone to making mistakes, and know that Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala will question them about their actions on the Day of Judgment. 
2] Understand that they may also have critics or enemies of their own (from some relatives, clients, colleagues etc.). Since you're not the only human being on earth who has an issue with them, failure to establish a meaningful connection with them shouldn't be a major problem. 
3] Feel sorry for them if whatever they're doing online or offline which bothers you at times is triggered by depression or low self-esteem. Maybe they are struggling with some kind of personality disorder or difficulty that compels them to act in a manner which you disapprove of. 
4] If they're a neighbor, colleague or casual acquaintance (whom you're not interested in being close to for some reason), try to recall at least two instances when they did something which you genuinely appreciated - for instance, when they gave you a ride to attend a conference or gathering together, when they shared with you some personal info about themselves believing that you are indeed a trustworthy person, and when they went out of their way to buy you a drink or offered something which they hoped you would like etc. Often recalling the favors and kind gestures which people have done can remove or lessen negative feelings towards them. 
5] If you and this person have the same archenemy, namely shaytan, while you both sincerely strive to become better Muslims every night and day, then don't waste your energy despising them. Simply unfollow their social media posts and unapologetically minimize unnecessary conversations with them if you are not comfortable with their vibes. No need to stalk their Facebook profiles nor gossip about them, so you can 
Inn-sha-Allah enjoy inner peace and contentment. 
Patiently accept Allah's Qadr/Destiny of preventing certain souls from befriending you. Maybe your association or affiliation with them could have resulted in more fitna/trials than actual blessings. 
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📖 Anas ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: We were sitting with the Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam and he said, "Coming upon you now is a man from the people of Paradise." A man from the Ansaar came whose beard was disheveled by the water of ablution and he was carrying both of his shoes with his left hand. The next day the Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam repeated the same words, and the man came in the same condition. The third day the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam repeated the same statement again, and the man came in the same condition. When the Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam stood up to leave, Abdullah ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu followed the man and he said, “I am in a dispute with my father and I have sworn not to enter my home for three days. May I stay with you?” The man said "yes".
Abdullah RadhiAllahu 'anhu stayed three nights with the man but he never saw him praying at night (Tahajjud). Whenever he went to bed, he would remember Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) and rest until he woke up for the morning prayer. Abdullah RadhiAllahu 'anhu said that he never heard anything but good words from his mouth. When three nights had passed and he did not see anything special (extraordinary) about his actions, Abdullah RadhiAllahu 'anhu asked him, “O servant of Allah, I have not been in a dispute with my father nor have I cut relations with him. I heard the Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam say three times that a man from the people of Paradise was coming to us and then you came. I thought I should stay with you to see what you are doing that I should follow, but I did not see you do anything special. Why did the Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam speak highly of you?” The man said, “I am as you have seen.” When Abdullah RadhiAllahu 'anhu was about to leave, the man said, “I am as you have seen, except that I do not find dishonesty in my soul towards the Muslims (no desire to deceive any Muslim) and I do not envy anyone because of the good that Allah has given them.” Abdullah RadhiAllahu 'anhu said, “This is what you have achieved and it is something we (many people) have not accomplished.”
Source: Musnad Ahmed 12286
Source: Sahih (Authentic) according to Ibn Kathir
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Tuesday, January 10, 2023

Note: INTJ's Thoughts On ISTP And ISTJ Personality Types

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

🗒️ Question: As an INTJ-A personality type, what do you like and dislike about ISTPs and ISTJs? How do you differentiate between those two personality types? 
📝 Answer:
🔹What I like or admire about some ISTPs: 
•¶ Their alertness and attentiveness when they're interested in something or when they are being vigilant. Their ability to notice important details. 
•¶ Their adaptability and willingness to adjust to different circumstances when necessary. 
❎ What I dislike about some ISTPs: 
¶• How some ISTPs may not believe the story or information you're telling them until they receive and fully understand all of the details.
¶• How a lot of ISTPs seem irritated and grumpy - most of the time from my perspective - when you're trying to ask them for clarification. Most ISTPs may appear grouchy if they believe that the answers to certain questions are already obvious. 
🔹What I like or admire about some ISTJs: 
•¶ Their general calmness or quiet demeanor, especially during social events a lot of ISTJs can appear very formal and well-groomed. While ISTJs are capable of expressing anger, it usually takes a lot of time for them to lose their temper since most of them are good at being reserved and uninterested in getting involved with matters which don't concern them directly.
•¶ Their ability to be organized and prepared when they aren't stressed out. 
❎ What I dislike about some ISTJs: 
¶• How stubborn many ISTJs can be when they have finalized their decision regarding something.
¶• How some ISTJs, from my observation (specially one female ISTJ), have a tendency to feel extremely envious of particular individuals and when they do get jealous they become evidently competitive or insecure and prone to gossiping with other xxSJ types. 
📑 How to differentiate between ISTPs and ISTJs: 
•|° ISTPs in general are more generous or more altruistic than ISTJs, from what I've observed. For instance, if you request an ISTP and ISTJ to buy you a tray of eggs, the ISTJ may purchase what you requested and expect you to pay them back with the exact price while the ISTP not only bought you the products you asked for but gives you other freebies and informs you there's no need for any payment, if they're close friends with you. 
•|° ISTPs are more receptive to new ideas and suggestions than most ISTJs. 
•|° ISTJs seem to have more patience with people and more willingness to dutifully attend large gatherings than some ISTPs who don't always enjoy socializing. 
📑 Do you get along better, as an INTJ, with ISTPs or with ISTJs more? 
➡️ It depends on their interests, likes and dislikes. Getting along with ISTJs and ISTPs is unlikely to happen if most of their goals and values differ from mine, if they secretly view me as a threat and they struggle with even an ounce of jealousy. If a family member or colleague is an ISTP or ISTJ type, I often keep my distance to avoid pointless arguments and drama yet I'm willing to defend and support them if ever they require assistance. 
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📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe (not guilty of backbiting, telling lies, and deliberately committing injustice). The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. By the One (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."
Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515 
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut
📖 Abu Dharr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Fear Allah wherever you are, follow a bad deed with a good deed and it will erase it, and behave well with good character towards the people."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1987
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to At-Tirmidhi
💻📱 MBTI and cognitive functions tests, to discover your MBTI personality type if you don't know it yet:
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Saturday, January 7, 2023

Tips: Let Your Loving Your Husband For Allah's Sake Be Much Bigger Than Your Ego

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 
💌 Three things which you can do when any of your husband's actions may at times be disappointing or questionable, to protect your marriage and continue appreciating your soulmate for Allah's sake patiently: 
1] Imagine being in a social experiment show or prank episode in which shaytan is the actual perpetrator behind your husband's confusing acts. Your husband only misconducts himself because the accursed shaytan is the one compelling him (your zawj) to do this and that - a bit like a nosy spy who despises himself so much so that he's desperate to spoil others' joys and the only time this obnoxious outsider feels delighted is when you overreact emotionally to your husband's errors or display the reaction that our archenemy shaytan expects. Avoid behaving in a way that would cause shaytan to feel "accomplished" for his evil plots. Instead, apply astounding empathy, courageously forgive your other half for Allah's sake, encourage yourself to recall all of the sweet and admirable things he has done and given to you in the past and present, and acknowledge the truth that he's just like you in being a human who's prone to making mistakes every now and then. 
2] Steadfastly pray for and hope for better days to come. A few moments of misunderstanding or disappointment shouldn't urge you to cowardly quit a blessed journey (marriage) which Allah the Most Wise has destined and planned even before you and your dear spouse were born. Part of truly loving each other for Allah's sake is to be consistent in genuinely pardoning one another and preventing ego/pride/kibr from ruining a beautiful connection. If your husband acted distant or grumpy on a particular date, look forward
Inn-sha-Allah to witnessing his positive transformation and progress in the future. 
3] Confidently remind yourself that your husband isn't supposed to be "perfect" twenty-four-seven and this temporary earth is definitely not "heaven". A strong and stable connection with Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala is what can measure and influence how happy you actually are from within. Eternal happiness can't be derived from being attached to another mortal who's imperfect like you are. Way better than being happy is to be sincerely contented with the innumerable blessings which Allah the Most Wise chose to grant you, and from those special gifts is your beloved husband whom you refuse to give up on because your loving him for Allah's sake and desire to reunite with him in Jannah Paradise tremendously outweigh any drama and imperfection.
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📖 Umm Salamah RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Any woman who dies while her husband is pleased with her, she will enter Jannah (Paradise)."
[At-Tirmidhi, who classified it as Hadith Hasan]
Riyad As-Salihin 286
In-book reference: Introduction, Hadith 286
📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."
Source: Sahih Muslim 1467
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
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