بسم الله. ربي زدني علما. امين

بسم الله. ربي زدني علما. امين
May Allah the Almighty grant us more beneficial knowledge, accept our good deeds, forgive our mistakes, protect us from fitna, and join us with the righteous believers in Jannatul Ferdaus. Ameen.

Friday, December 23, 2022

Tips: Advice On How To Deal With Removal From Some Chat Groups Like A Boss

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

📑 Five thoughts to reflect on to deal with removal from online forums or chat groups like a boss, to not feel affected when some users delete you as a "participant" and "member": 
1] Alhamdulillah for so many years I've been capable of thriving without them. Why should I worry at all if these individuals who are too different from me don't want me around them? I'm not a clingy leech nor adhesive item.
2] Whether they deleted me on purpose or mistakenly, I can 
Inn-sha-Allah contentedly benefit and learn from other communities, websites and content which are way more deserving of my time and attention. If a chat group goes bye-bye, there are still tons of resources and alternatives which we can learn from. 
3] I totally understand how if I were the host or administrator of a chat group, I would delete users whom I perceive are acting inappropriately, being obnoxiously idle, or going against group harmony. It's their right to cancel my "membership" if my presence mostly worsens their inward misery. I don't intend to be a troublemaker and bully. 
4] I like to think of insecure individuals who deliberately go out of their way to exclude you every so often as "jealous" - justifiably envious of how Allah the Almighty blessed you with several gifts and blessings which He Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala didn't grant them. For instance, they envy how you're dedicated, loyal to your spouse and/or creative while they are ethically below average or unproductive, or they struggled with lousy upbringing while your beloved parents are loving and well-educated. 
5] It's not a crisis if some individuals can't welcome you to a group or gathering. You'd probably do the same thing to somebody whose language is incomprehensible to you or whose actions seem uncomfortably confusing. 

Maintaining a strong or special connection with Allah the Most Wise is a lot more meaningful and rewarding than wanting approval from His imperfect servants. 
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📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2664
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 
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Thursday, December 22, 2022

Note: My Response To "How Do You Choose Your Close Friends?"

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📜 Question: Regardless of your MBTI personality type, how do you choose your friends, or when would you consider somebody as a "good friend"? 
📝 Answer: As an introvert (INTJ) I generally don't walk around actively or desperately searching for friends. I believe that it's possible
Inn-sha-Allah to thrive in both worlds without numerous long-lasting friendships, particularly if not every individual whom you're destined to meet can be regarded as completely honest and reliable. I also don't wait nor yearn for anybody to interact with me several times until they reach the point when we both consider each other as "friends". 
Alhamdulillah I'd say that while I have a lot of acquaintances of various tribes and nationalities, only a small number of them are individuals whose personal lives I genuinely care about for Allah's sake and out of that select few there could be less than a handful whom I'd regard as actual friends even if they probably perceive me as merely an acquaintance. 
How do I select my friends? Definitely not at random and not according to similarity. Just because someone is around my age, wears the niqaab when outdoors, can speak English fluently, was born in Saudi Arabia like I was or they enjoy writing poetry occasionally, it doesn't mean that I'll automatically become enthusiastic about befriending them, as if my main mission in life is to gather as many clones or carbon copies as I can to form some kind of battalion. 
What I'd usually do if I must categorize people is I would disqualify a person from being a "potential friend" once they've done any of these: 
1] if they deliberately lied to me more than once. 
2] if they caused me to waste time doing something pointless, absurd or unproductive more than once. And if they ignorantly insist that I indulge in bid'ah or polytheistic acts.
3] if they're boring conversationalists online and offline, if they don't know how to have deep conversations, if you feel as though you're tediously interviewing or investigating them whenever you attempt to have a meaningful dialogue. 
4] if I overheard them cowardly backbiting about me or criticizing any of my loved ones, especially my dear husband. 
5] if we've known each other's names for more than five years but so far neither of us have taken the initiative to spend time together outdoors at least twice. 
6] if they regularly show signs of nervousness or discomfort whenever they speak with me, as though they're guilty of something and trying to conceal it. 
7] if they have a tendency to act overly emotional and passive-aggressive, if they've complained to any of my relatives about me instead of discussing the problem with me directly - I'd regard the snitch as someone whom I can't trust anymore because any information I try to share with them could be misconstrued. 
I'd consider someone as a friend if: 
1] I openly make effort to support their halal business or hobbies whenever I can online and/or offline. 
2] I don't feel bored asking them questions about themselves and their interests etc. 
3] I oftentimes go out of my way to visit them (at least once a year), send them a message (at least once every three months or so) or ask for their advice. 
Trying to maintain connection with lots of people can drain your energy if you're an introvert. So don't be surprised if some introverts aren't very likable or approachable, specifically if amassing fans or supporters isn't one of our primary goals.
~•~
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi
📖 Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu said: "A righteous companion is better than loneliness, and loneliness is better than an evil companion. A good writer is better than one silent, and one silent is better than an evil writer."
Source: Rawdat Al-‘Uqalā 56
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Monday, December 19, 2022

Note: Survey - Random Questions On Love And Marriage

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 •[ Marriage life survey ]• 
1] How old were you and your husband when you both married? 
🔹 I was 20 years old while my husband was 28. 
2] In three ways how are you and your husband so different? 
🔹 My MBTI personality type is INTJ while his is ESFJ. Alhamdulillah I was born in Saudi Arabia while he grew up in Southern Philippines. While I enjoy desserts, he prefers salty edibles. 
3] Mention three aspects that make you and your husband nearly similar to each other? 
🔹 We both aren't fans of corn (mais). The jobs we wanted when we were still at school aren't precisely the occupations we have at the moment. If I'm not mistaken, my husband was initially interested in becoming a pilot but then after some time decided to be employed as a medical doctor. As for me, I aspired to major in psychology back then but Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala planned that I'd focus on studying more about Islam. Alhamdulillah my husband and I similarly enjoy helping others out whenever we're given the chance to assist and advise. 
4] What is one funny or interesting thing you can't forget about your wedding?
🔹 There wasn't any wedding cake as we wanted to keep the joyful occasion closer to the Sunnah of the beloved Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam. I remember my husband trying to feed me pancit bihon (noodles) while I felt awkward as I wasn't accustomed to being fed by another adult. 
5] Who did your makeup on your wedding day? 
🔹 A Visayan I think beautician who was hired to apply cosmetics on the brides (it was a mass wedding, with three grooms and three brides). Since I didn't want to look clownish, I later on erased half of the heavy makeup which she applied. 
6] After marrying each other for Allah's sake as a number of years have passed by, how are you and your husband different from when you were single? 
🔹 Alhamdulillah, with Allah's Will, my husband played a huge role in inspiring me to quit feeling insecure about my weight and body image. Through him Alhamdulillah I've learned to be more confident, understanding of people with special needs, and appreciative of actual inner beauty. I've seen him gradually progress as well Alhamdulillah, for instance he reads from the Noble Qur'an more often than before, avoids staring at non-mahram females as much as he can, and he doesn't wear neck chains anymore. 
7] What advice can you briefly give to Muslim wives and husbands to ensure that their marriages can thrive in both worlds? 
🔹 Always do everything sincerely for the sake of Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala with dedicated patience / sabr and consistent gratitude / shukr. Understand that perfection and complete happiness can only be found in Jannah Paradise. Include your spouse in your Du'as regularly and remind yourself that you married a human being, so don't be surprised if some of his actions upset you occasionally. True love for Allah's sake doesn't give up that easily. Instead of comparing your soulmate's development to other individuals, contentedly concentrate on the countless blessings of your unique love story.
~•~ 
📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "O young men, if you are able to support a wife, get married. Verily, it lowers the gaze and guards chastity. Whoever is not able to do so, he must fast as it will restrain his passions (desires)."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 1806 
Sahih Muslim 1400
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 
~•~
📖 Umm Salamah RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Any woman who dies while her husband is pleased with her, she will enter Jannah (Paradise)."
[At-Tirmidhi, who classified it as Hadith Hasan]
Riyad As-Salihin 286
In-book reference: Introduction, Hadith 286
📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."
Source: Sahih Muslim 1467
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 
📖 Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "I have left you with two matters which will never lead you astray, as long as you hold to them: The Book of Allah (The Qur'an) and the Sunnah of His Prophet (Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam)."
Source: Al-Muwaṭṭa’ 1661
Grade: Sahih (Authentic)
📚 Some of the English-speaking Salafi/Sunni speakers who call towards the Qur'an and Sunnah of the noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam. Try to research and listen to their lectures on YouTube attentively:
Abbas Abu Yahya
Abdul Hakeem Mitchell
Abdulillah Lahmami
Abu Adam Jameel Finch
Abu Hafsa Kashiff Khan
Abu Hakeem Bilal Davis
Abu Humayd Saalim
Abu Idrees
Abu Iyaad Amjad Rafiq
Abu Khadeejah Abdul Wahid
Abul Hasan Malik
Abu Muadh Taqweem Aslam
Abu Muhammad Al Maghribi
Abu Talha Dawud Burbank
Abu Uways
Anas Waters
Anwar Wright
Hamza Abdur Razzaq
Hassan Somali
Moosaa Richardson
Mustafa George
Raha Batts
Rasheed Barbee
Rayaan Barker
Sa'eed Rhana
Umar Quinn
Uways at-Taweel
🧾 List of Arabic-speaking scholars of today whose Islamic lectures we can benefit from:
- Imām Abdul-Aziz Ibn Bāz
- Imām Muhammad Nasiruddin al-Albani
- Imām Muhammad Ibn 'Uthaymīn
- Imām Muqbil bin Hādī Al-Wādi'i
- Imām Ahmad An-Najmī 
- Shaykh Sāleh Al-Fawzan
- Shaykh Hassan ibn 'Abdul-Wahhāb Marzooq Al-Bannā
- Shaykh Sālih Al-Luhaydān
- Shaykh 'Abdul-Muhsin Al-'Abbād
- Shaykh Rabi' ibn Hādī Al-Madkhalī
- Shaykh 'Ubayd Al-Jābiri
- Mufti Shaykh 'Abdul-'Azīz Āl-ush-Shaykh
- Shaykh Sālih Āl-ush-Shaykh
- Shaykh 'Abdullāh Al-Bukhari
📜 Free e-books of some of my Islamic poems which you can download and print:
🗂️ Da'wah According To The Noble Qur'an And Sunnah Of The Beloved Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam. (Summary - PDF not for sale)
📁 Just Sharing Islam (1st ebook of 103 selected Islamic poems - PDF not for sale)
📂 Journeying Back To Jannah (2nd ebook of 135 selected Islamic poems - PDF not for sale)
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever travels a path in search of (beneficial and authentic) knowledge, Allah will make easy for him a path to Paradise."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2699
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
✅Note: Reminder to recite Surah Al-Kahf every Jumuah Friday, Surah Al-Mulk each day and night, and include the Muslim Ummah in your Du'as.
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Saturday, December 17, 2022

Note: From The Signs That A Muslim Husband And Wife Love Each Other For Allah's Sake Truly

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📑 Allah the Almighty knows best. Seven signs that a Muslim husband actually loves his wife for Allah's sake even if they can't always be intimate or close to each other as often as they would like: 
1] He tries his best to regularly read her messages and answer her calls despite being busy or tired, even if many of his responses are delayed at times. 
2] He patiently listens to her whenever they have a chance to discuss matters face to face and offers whatever tips or words of reassurance that he can provide when she asks for his advice. 
3] He encourages his wife to have the strength to forgive others for Allah's sake and to be at peace with her parents, siblings and relatives instead of coercing her to go against her own family.
4] On a regular basis he mentions his wife in many of his prayers and supplications, beseeching Allah the Almighty to preserve her faith Imaan and well-being.
5] He is contented with his wife's beauty and body size or at least he doesn't keep arrogantly nagging her on striving to look "flawless". 
6] He allows her to massage, poke and tease him playfully from time to time. 
7] If ever he knowingly upsets or offends his wife, he goes out of his way to straightforwardly apologize or does something compassionate to compensate for his mistake.
✅ Seven signs that a Muslim wife sincerely loves her husband for Allah's sake even if they can't always be intimate or beside each other as often as they would like: 
1] She strives to avoid all of the means which could result in fitna and adultery, including making sure that none of the users on her Facebook "friends lists" is a male non-mahram. 
2] She ensures that she never acts like a flirt to anybody besides her dear husband, controlling her gaze whenever she can and refusing to stare at non-mahrams online and offline.
3] She does what she can to educate her husband more about Islam and the correct 'Aqeedah, occasionally sending several useful links to Islamic articles or lectures which her husband can benefit from. 
4] On a regular basis she mentions her husband in many of her prayers and supplications, beseeching Allah the Almighty to preserve his faith Imaan and well-being. 
5] She isn't a gold-digger at all. Whatever amount of allowance she receives from her husband is okay for her as long as she believes that his earnings are halal / lawful. 
6] She readily gives him gifts, edibles or items she hopes her husband would appreciate without wanting anything in particular in return. If ever she feels that she is unable to completely meet her husband's needs and permissible wants, for Allah's sake she lets him know that she is fine with him being married to up to four legal wives, while reminding him of the importance of treating his multiple spouses with wisdom and justice to the best of his ability. 
7] She encourages him to do more good deeds which can lead to Jannah Paradise including praying with the congregation in the Masjid (specially Salat Al-Fajr and Salat Al-Jumuah), performing Hajj pilgrimage, doing charity frequently, training their children to become better Muslims and maintaining harmonious connection with their relatives etc.
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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1159
Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi
Ali Al-Qari said, "That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala."
Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātih 5/2125
📖 Ibn 'Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "I was shown the Hellfire and (found) that the majority of its dwellers were women who were ungrateful." It was asked, "Do they disbelieve in Allah?" (or are they ungrateful to Allah?) He SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam replied, "They are ungrateful to their husbands and are ungrateful for the favors and the good (charitable deeds) done to them. If you have always been good (benevolent) to one of them and then she sees something in you (not of her liking), she will say, 'I have never received any good from you."
Sahih Al-Bukhari 29
In-book reference: Book 2, Hadith 22
USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 1, Book 2, Hadith 29 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."
Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 4252
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 
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Tips: How We Should Treat shaytan And his demonic allies

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📝 Suggested ways to treat our archenemy shaytan and his demonic allies, including those who act as obstacles to our goals: 
1] Occasionally educate yourself about them for Allah's sake through reliable sources. Understand well their motives. Be aware of all their tactics and schemes. 
2] Refuse to be influenced by them in any way. Do not instantly believe or take too seriously most of what they do and claim. 
3] Do not wish to be like them. Do not imitate their negative and unpleasant traits. They don't deserve to be admired. You're a lot better than them because of your faith Imaan and special connection with Allah the Almighty. 
4] Do the exact opposite of what they want or expect you to do. Disobey their instructions if their orders entail disobedience to our Creator Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. Stubbornly ignore enemies' commands and suggestions to carry out anything that is evidently immoral or unreasonable.
5] Avoid their bad presence as much as you can online and offline. Do not pay attention to any of their social media posts, comments and videos etc. especially if your attentiveness to their nonsense only inflates their contemptible egos. Refrain from befriending them without being naive of their foul intentions.
6] As much as possible resist the urge to compliment them. Do not display signs of granting approval to their actions unless giving them some flattering words is your technique of deluding or confusing them. 
7] Never trust them. Sworn enemies and potential foes must never be trusted.
8] Warn your loved ones against opponents whenever you can. 
9] Increase your Du'as to Allah the Most Powerful, asking Him Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala for more guidance and protection from shaytan's evil plots. 
~•~
📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
Al-Azimabadi said, “That he hates for the sake of Allah does not mean he harms the one he hates. Rather, the hatred is for his unbelief and disobedience.”
Source: ‘Awn Al-Ma’būd 4681
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi
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