Poem: It's Not A Big Deal If You Got Deleted From A Group Chat

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📝 Some tips from an INTJ on what you can say 

To yourself if you found out you got kicked out one day

From a group chat with members who don't want you to stay, 

So you can move on confidently without dismay, 

Far away from fakery, toxic vibes and false claims: 

~•~

"They deleted you from that group? So what? It's okay - 

For behaving like real bullies and pals who are fake, 

And for partaking in gossip or deranged debates 

The pointless group's members are not at all being paid.

Their lies and absolute nonsense won't enhance your faith. 

~•~

So don't fret about why they didn't want you to stay. 

You're like a diamond often abandoned by snakes, 

A treasure chest with pearls in the middle of a bay 

But some clowns don't know your value so they walk away, 

And "pirates" who evade you just dress up for cosplay.

~•~

Don't question your self-worth. You can't force people to change 

Nor urge them to connect if your goals are not the same. 

They're insecure; you're confident. You're honest; they're fake. 

In building true friendship there's no way if that's the case.

You're pro self-improvement; they'd rather deteriorate.

~•~

They're obsessed with gossip and mocking people's mistakes; 

You love minding your own business and thrive in your lane. 

You display integrity; fakes you intimidate. 

It's a blessing actually to be dismissed by fakes. 

Your time in detecting their motives they kindly saved."

~•~

📖 Suhayb RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Amazing is the affair of the believer, as there is good for him in every matter. This is not the case for anyone but for the believer. If he goes through ease (or happy moments), he thanks Allah and it is good for him. If he goes through difficulty, he shows patience and it is good for him."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2999

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe (not guilty of backbiting, telling lies, and knowingly committing injustice). The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. 

By the One (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: 'Allah has decreed what He wills.' Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

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https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/06/poem-five-signs-of-emotionally.html 

https://personalitygrowth.com/how-rejection-impacts-each-personality-type/

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Note: The More You Love Your Husband The More You Think Of Him And Include Him In Your Du'as

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💚 Eleven thoughts which you as a Muslim wife may often think of and relate to when missing your husband who's busy with work, employed in a different city or if you're in a polygynous marriage:- 

1. "I wonder how my dear husband is doing at this time. Is he asleep or awake?" 💭 

2. "Alhamdulillah I woke up early for Salat Al-Fajr today. I hope my husband already prayed." 💭

3. "Alhamdulillah, nice weather this morning. I wonder what the atmosphere is like where my dear hubby is, and if he's sleeping right now or wide awake?" 💭

4. "This food/drink is something which my husband would really like. I wish he was here so we could enjoy this meal together." 💭 

5. "Washing the dishes, doing the laundry and cooking are good opportunities for me to think of my dear husband and reminisce about all the amazing experiences we've enjoyed." 💭 

6. "Alhamdulillah, instead of feeling jealous and insecure whenever I notice couples demonstrating their love for one another publicly, the deep-seated loyalty I have for my beloved husband and genuine appreciation for him only increase." 💭

7. "This reminds of that time when my dear husband also........... I wish I could rewind that memorable instance again." 💭

8. "My husband would definitely love this... I wish he were here with me." 💭

9. "Alhamdulillah I'm truly contented staying married to my dear husband. In so many ways he has been such a blessing and an inspiration to me." 💭

10. "I miss my dear husband's Qur'an recitation voice. Listening to him recite is one of the main sources of inner peace. I wish he was here with me."  💭 

11. "Every time I hear somebody calling the Adhan, it reminds me of how my husband's Adhan voice is so much better and more comforting. In Jannah Paradise 

Inn-sha-Allah I look forward to spending the rest of my life with him." 💭

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts the month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter (Jannah) Paradise from any gate she wishes."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibban 4252

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife." 

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A woman is married for four things: her wealth, her family status, her beauty, and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman otherwise you will be a loser."

Sahih Al-Bukhari 5090

In-book reference: Book 67 Hadith 28

USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 7, Book 62, Hadith 27

https://abukhadeejah.com/characteristics-of-a-righteous-wife-in-light-of-the-quran-and-sunnah-part-1/

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/poem-what-happens-when-allah-most-wise.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-how-i-prove-my-love-to-my-husband.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/02/poem-divorce-may-lead-to-regret-if-you.html 

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Note: Seven Signs That Your Dear Husband Is An Awesome Father To Your Child/Children

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💚 Seven signs that your husband tries his best to be a good father to your child/children even if he is very busy with work and other responsibilities:- 

1. He tries his best to pray the obligatory Salahs/prayers in the Masjid, especially Salat Al-Fajr and Salat Al-Jumuah, regularly. [✓]

2. He does what he can to wake his family and child/children up for Salah, particularly Salat Al-Fajr, despite his tiredness and sleepiness. [✓]

3. As much as possible he ensures that his income is halal and none of his earnings comes from haraam sources - he never goes near wealth which is knowingly stolen. He does what he can to ensure that all his debts are paid on time. [✓]

4. He shows support and encouragement for his child/children whenever he can, frequently encouraging them to attend Islamic classes and loves it when he notices the enthusiasm of his loved ones to join him in learning more about Islam. [✓]

5. He tries his best to be an effective listener, educator and counselor with noteworthy empathy to both his wife (or multiple wives) and child/children regardless of his frequent busyness, eager to instil upright character and excellent manners in them also by striving to set a good example. [✓]

6. He is remarkable at joking and being charismatically playful with his wife (or multiple wives) and child/children, intelligently understanding when to take certain matters seriously and when to lighten up. He is a compassionate giver and receiver of warm hugs and reassuring words. [✓]

7. He strives for Allah's sake to be protective of his wife (or wives) and child/children, ensuring the safety of their overall well-being including their spiritual wellness in terms of their faith/Imaan. These negative adjectives "arrogant", "selfish", "unprincipled", "immature" and "egocentric" do not describe him at all. [✓]

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📖 Abdullah Ibn Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Every one of you is a shepherd and is responsible for his flock. The leader of the people is a guardian and is responsible for his subjects. A man is the guardian of his family and he is responsible for them. A woman is the guardian of her husband's home and his children, and she is responsible for them. The servant of a man is a guardian of the property of his master and he is responsible for it. No doubt, every one of you is a shepherd and is responsible for his flock."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6719

Sahih Muslim 1829

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "The most complete of believers in faith are those with the best character, and the best of you are the best in behavior towards their women."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1162

Grade: Sahih 

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https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/06/note-some-signs-you-and-your-husband.html

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/11/note-eleven-questions-to-ask-yourself.html  

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/09/poem-five-signs-that-your-husband-does.html

https://www.salafisounds.com/the-father-and-mother-as-shepherds-over-their-flock-al-adab-al-mufrad-of-imam-al-bukhari-lesson-by-abu-khadeejah-abdul-wahid/

Note: Seriously How Can You Tell That An INTJ Loves You? When They're Forgiving And Enjoy Chatting With You

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📝 If you're wondering how would most INTJs prove 

Their genuine care without declaring "I love you", 

Observe the following, you know that their love is true 

When they gaze at you directly while speaking to you

And rather than glaring they'll attempt to smile or soothe.

~•~

Be certain that an INTJ by choice loves you

When they're able to withstand all silly things you do 

At times, they don't mind your late replies, and they're amused 

By corny jokes you share, and the trials you go through

Amplify their loyalty and sympathy for you.

~•~

They won't ditch you quickly, when INTJs love you. 

If you've spoiled a chapter many times, they'll start anew - 

Rewinding the story, loving each journey with you, 

Wanting you to not quit since they won't give up on you. 

Projects with a purpose aren't easily eschewed.

~•~

When an INTJ enjoys conversing with you, 

Asking random questions about yourself, what you do, 

And curiously inquiring about your current moods, 

You can tell they're contented with connecting with you,

Counting you as a friend if they often defend you. 

~•~

Instead of seeming too serious, quiet and aloof, 

INTJs would adjust themselves when they love you, 

Patiently wait for you to catch up, hope you'll improve, 

And cherish your value with resolute gratitude. 

They're choosy; so it's fine if they're loved by very few.

~•~

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah (The Almighty), hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

Al-Azimabadi said, “That he hates for the sake of Allah does not mean he harms the one he hates. Rather, the hatred is for his unbelief and (bad character) disobedience.”

Source: ‘Awn al-Ma’būd 4681

📖 Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu said: "A righteous companion is better than loneliness, and loneliness is better than an evil companion. A writer is better than one silent, and one silent is better than an evil writer."

Source: Rawdat Al-‘Uqalā 5

https://abukhadeejah.com/characteristics-of-a-righteous-wife-in-light-of-the-quran-and-sunnah-part-1/

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/10/tips-marital-things-you-can-relate-to.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2023/04/note-11-ways-intj-shows-they-love-you.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2023/05/note-5-things-which-some-intjs-cant.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/02/poem-friendship-with-intjs-what-are.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2023/09/note-intjs-dont-play-hard-to-get-if.html 

https://personalitygrowth.com/intj-loyalty-what-being-loyal-means-to-the-intj/

Links: Islamic PDF "The Four Foundations Of Shirk" English Translation

📂 Islamic PDF document English translation of the book on "the four foundations of shirk / polytheism" - original book in Arabic language written by sheikh Muhammad Ibn AbdulWahhab and explanation by sheikh Salih ibn Fawzan ibn Abdullah Al-Fawzan, May Allah the Most Merciful have mercy on them, accept their good deeds and make them and all of us among the people of Jannatul Ferdaus with Allah's Mercy. Ameen. 

(as sadaqa jaariyah, document not for sale):

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1kSLJX8VJnC6rpy9bE8ptKM-nMu0T5k52/view?usp=drivesdk

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