POEM: Why Smart, Loyal And Tough Muslim Wives Are Okay With Polygyny

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💚 As one of the servants of Allah the Almighty, 

As the first wife of my one and only dear hubby, 

As a grateful Muslimah fine with polygyny, 

And on behalf of brave Muslim wives who sincerely 

Believe that responsible men with financial means 

And intelligence have every right to be married 

To up to four wives, I confidently confirm these:

~•~

Yes, I love my husband for Allah's sake patiently, 

I love him more than my ego, not for his money; 

I love him more each time I witness a clear increase 

And improvement in his faith/Imaan and piety; 

I love him more as he inspires me indirectly 

To say more Du'a when I miss him regularly, 

And when he moves me to boost my personality.

~•~

Because I love him for Allah more than luxury, 

More than titles, credentials and cars that are fancy, 

More than the urge to form smart comebacks if ever he 

Does things which supposedly upsets or offends me, 

I'm absolutely fine if he wants to remarry, 

For our family's growth with Allah's Will and Mercy, 

And to see my soulmate pleased as his smiles bring me peace.

~•~

I don't oppose polygyny since undoubtedly 

Allah the Most Wise legislated the male species 

From among humankind and Muslim communities 

To be wed to at most four wives, not to be greedy 

Sexually, but for the welfare of humanity, 

To help more adult females become wives legally, 

And to lessen the number of broken families.

~•~

By welcoming polygyny for Allah, I seek 

To prove that my need for Allah outweighs what I feel, 

To show that my satisfaction with my spouse is real 

Despite him being busy and absent frequently, 

And to frustrate shaytan our worst enemy who seeks 

To weaken the Muslim nations through disunity.

Loathing polygyny is done by the proud and weak.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 4252

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1159

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi

Ali Al-Qari said, "That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala."

Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātih 5/2125

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

https://abukhadeejah.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/10/Righteous-Wife-P1-WEB-7.3-Print-Complete.pdf

📝✨ Sharing my research paper 

Inn-sha-Allah in Arabic language as sadaqa jaariyah (the topic I chose at Markaz Ibn Al-Qayyim Islamic institute was about the negative consequences of divorce): 

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1NtHxopYvOsSp5ySaMWBTssWU-B8x4xmw/view

✅ Some advice in English language on how divorce is not always the best solution,

PDF document which you can Inn-sha-Allah share as sadaqah jaariya: 

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1X6s2MS9EBIz0HMBGh8sWpnXQlEvjq3Bs/view?usp=drive_open

📝 Text:

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1W-Elcz21NmuOygqYIO8TG68W-Bczvxwr/view

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2024/07/poem-to-my-daughter-and-her-half-sister.html

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/note-mindset-of-ideal-muslim-wife-who.html

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/poem-mindset-to-cope-with-polygyny.html

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/note-my-answer-to-what-made-you-accept.html

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/11/poem-from-signs-of-pious-wives-is-they.html

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-why-im-okay-with-polygyny.html

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/tips-advantages-of-polygyny-for-man-and.html

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/02/poem-confessions-of-wife-who-welcomes.html

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/11/tips-seven-things-to-tell-yourself-to.html 

Poem: Some Advice To My Daughter And Her Half-Sister Regarding Polygyny

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💚 To my loving daughter and Zara, her half-sister, 

Some tips from one who, for Allah's sake, loves your father, 

Truly even if he was married to another - 

And to each wife who may have thought, wondered or uttered 

"I do not oppose polygyny. As a matter 

Of fact, I know it's halal - a test for tough lovers.

I'm not as strong as them. It's not for me but others."

~•~

Without a doubt, Allah the Most Wise gave men the right 

To be married legally to a max. of four wives, 

Not to spoil men while some wives suffer, complain or cry, 

But to increase the number of pious kids worldwide, 

Or to strengthen ties between different clans and tribes,

Or train men to show wisdom in managing their time, 

Or teach women to control their feelings and tame pride.

~•~

Polygyny may not appeal to most at first, but 

For something to be the correct choice it's not a must 

For it to be the most common or most well thought of.

Often what seems strange or unpopular is what's loved 

By our Creator Allah the Almighty above 

If that action involves humans humbly giving up 

Selfishness and the kind of attachment that destructs. 

~•~

Really loving your husband for Allah doesn't mean 

"You can have only one wife. That wife is only me. 

Keep just one wife. You exclusively belong to me." 

But real love for Allah's sake can state confidently:

"Dear husband, I'm here as your wife for Allah Only. 

That you have a right to remarry I do believe, 

And seeing you lawfully happy brings inner peace."

~•~

Your spouse loving another doesn't mean you're loved less.

Take moments when they're together as chances to rest, 

Opportunities to enhance strength to pass brief tests, 

And self-reminders that you're doing your very best 

For Allah to stay loyal, preserve this blessed marriage, 

And prove your patience outweighs emotional distress, 

Aware of Jannah's bliss, eager to be rewarded.

~•~

While I can't convince all to welcome polygyny, 

I advise myself and all to bravely, patiently 

And sincerely accept Allah's Qadr/Destiny - 

That Allah granted many males the ability 

To love and care for more than one woman faithfully.

So persevere if Allah decreed that you would be 

One of your husband's wives. After each challenge comes ease.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 4252

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1159

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi

Ali Al-Qari said, "That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala."

Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātih 5/2125

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2024/07/poem-to-my-daughter-and-her-half-sister.html

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/note-mindset-of-ideal-muslim-wife-who.html

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/poem-mindset-to-cope-with-polygyny.html

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/note-my-answer-to-what-made-you-accept.html

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/11/poem-from-signs-of-pious-wives-is-they.html

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-why-im-okay-with-polygyny.html

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/tips-advantages-of-polygyny-for-man-and.html

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/02/poem-confessions-of-wife-who-welcomes.html

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/11/tips-seven-things-to-tell-yourself-to.html

📝✨ Sharing my research paper 

Inn-sha-Allah in Arabic language as sadaqa jaariyah (the topic I chose at Markaz Ibn Al-Qayyim Islamic institute was about the negative consequences of divorce): 

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1NtHxopYvOsSp5ySaMWBTssWU-B8x4xmw/view

✅ Some advice in English language on how divorce is not always the best solution,

PDF document which you can Inn-sha-Allah share as sadaqah jaariya: 

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1X6s2MS9EBIz0HMBGh8sWpnXQlEvjq3Bs/view?usp=drive_open

📝 Text:

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1W-Elcz21NmuOygqYIO8TG68W-Bczvxwr/view

Note: Sharing Some Lessons Learned From Some Outings Around Philippines (Picnic, Museum etc)

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

📝 3 Quick lessons learned to share for Allah's sake from some recent outings here in Davao city Philippines:

1✨ When planning group outings usually not all of the members of a group of friends are able to meet up eventually either because some of them are extremely busy with numerous tasks while others are spending their vacation in a different village or city. Lots of patience, forgiveness and understanding are required if you want any friendship and connection for Allah's sake to last longer or forever 

Inn-sha-Allah in both worlds. 

I was looking forward to having a meaningful conversation face to face with a sister in Islam before she'd travel with her daughters to Singapore but we arrived so late at the playground in Coastal Road due to the traffic jam in the afternoon during rush hour and because the driver needed to change his route when he reached the wrong destination probably due to miscommunication. So we only had around one hour to join the sisters for the picnic before the playground at Coastal Road closes at around 8 PM or 8:30 PM. Alhamdulillah, at least I was able to charge my cellphone with the taxi driver's charger during the lengthy ride from Wisdom Islamic School to Coastal Road.

✅ Lesson to share: If your destination is very far, it is much better if you book a GrabCar with a fixed price instead of going there with a regular taxi that would charge you according to each meter covered and duration of the journey. It is also possible for some GrabCar drivers, not all taxi drivers, to let you use their chargers to charge your cellphone if you politely request them to allow you to charge your gadget for free. Be willing to pay extra cash if they ask for a small amount since strangers have every right to charge you for using their personal belongings which aren't intended for charity or public use unless they're that helpful and humanitarian.

2✨ Alhamdulillah, after our swift get-together at the play area in Coastal Road, Allah the Most Wise destined that I would reconnect with some childhood friends whom I haven't seen in a very long time. They're childhood friends who grew up with my brothers and I in eastern Saudi Arabia (Dammam and Al-Khobar) and were visiting from Cotabato. We enjoyed some memorable moments Alhamdulillah together and went to Poblacion Market Central after visiting the National Museum of the Philippines at People's Park (opening hours from 9 AM to 5 PM and currently free admission). 

One of my older cousins gave me two items for free from their souvenirs shop even though I tried my best to insist that I give her the payment to support her store for Allah's sake (her souvenirs store is located at the first floor of Poblacion Market Central and from the souvenirs being sold there include fans, handbags, wallets and other accessories ideal as gifts for those who haven't traveled to the Philippines yet). 

May Allah the Almighty always bless all the halal businesses of atti Umaira Abangon and keep her contented and happy always in this world and the afterlife in Jannatul Ferdaus with Allah's Mercy. Ameen.

✅ Lesson to share: I was actually thinking of abruptly cancelling the meet-up with the sisters at Coastal Road, like a Pakistani sister in Islam had to cancel meeting up with us as she had plenty of other responsibilities, when I saw the price of the GrabCar was around 500 pesos but I decided to fulfill my promise for Allah's sake despite the large fare, specially since I need to budget nowadays if I intend to purchase several gifts for some graduating loved ones, while believing that Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala can substitute that amount of money spent with something much better in the future. Alhamdulillah I believe that the amount of money spent was compensated for with the delicious meals kindly given by the wife of the Turkish chef from Turkish Kebab House, from the childhood friends who let me have a sleepover with them Alhamdulillah and one of my dear older cousins who really insisted that I take those two items from her souvenirs store without needing to give any payment.

Very often you must sacrifice or surrender some things which you think are so essential in order to achieve certain things that Allah the All-Knowing knows could benefit you more somehow, and if you have a heart that's eager to be generous towards others for Allah's sake whenever you can, Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala eventually rewards you in both worlds or if not in this world sooner then 

Inn-sha-Allah in the hereafter later.

3✨ If you're serious about meeting up with someone, don't simply send them a text message but also do your best in attempting to reach out to them by contacting as many mutual friends as you can who can notify them of your messages. I have a strong feeling that some users occasionally mute their notifications with me if they can't put up with my verbose messages which may emotionally drain those who generally prefer communication that's concise. So what I did was send messages to other users who are hopefully okay with reading essays and long messages and Alhamdulillah we were able to meet up after so many months and for one of them several years of not having seen each other.

✅ Lesson to share: Sometimes Allah the Most Loving may want some people to realize that you're still on good terms with them and for them to feel that you're not deliberately ignoring them at least permanently, Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala decrees that you go through certain challenges or situations just so you can put effort in reaching out to those Muslims and being humble enough to inquire from them. If we truly despise a person, we wouldn't want anything to do with them nor would we exert energy to generate questions because enemies typically mistrust each other and mutually regard each other as "incompetent" or "insignificant". Going out of your way to ask a Muslim some questions in general shows you perceive them as reliable enough to help you or follow your instructions. If some are not always capable of helping you out since no human is absolutely flawless or available 24/7, then for Allah's sake strive to maintain patience with contentment.

Poem: Righteous Friends Even If Only Few Are From Allah's Many Blessings

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Good friends, even if they're few, are from Allah's blessings. 

With Allah's Will our faith/Imaan level gets strengthened 

In their presence and we pray for them in their absence. 

Reminders to fear Only Allah, to stay patient, 

And to learn Islam are from our discussions often.

~•~

Instead of gossiping and spreading lies, they mention 

Only truth and what pleases Allah the All-Knowing.

They're blessed with inner strength to refrain from backbiting - 

When they err and forget now and then since they're humans, 

They quickly resort to Tawbah sincere repentance.

~•~

Instead of forcing you to do something upsetting 

Or unsettling, they advise for your well-being, 

Share some suggestions so you're closer to improvement, 

And you're frequently mentioned in their supplications, 

Eager to hear you thrive and make the right decisions.

~•~

Instead of secretly envying your achievements 

Or judging you based on your weight gain and appearance, 

They're glad when you're smiling, worried when you're complaining, 

And your triumphs or halal earnings don't threaten them.

They're genuine when they shower you with compliments.

~•~

Instead of planning meet-ups just for entertainment, 

Even if your gatherings are not very frequent, 

They gather for Allah to exchange information 

That can cause their faith Imaan levels to be strengthened.

Righteous friends, even if few, are from Allah's blessings. 

~•~

They don't deal with emotional manipulation. 

"Selfish", "rude" and "manipulative" don't describe them.

They're kind and value honesty even when joking. 

They're a mirror to you and you're a mirror to them - 

Pious friends wish to see you in a good condition.

~•~

You know that someone's a friend and from Allah's blessings 

If they inspire you to become a better Muslim, 

Despite some of their delayed replies and shortcomings. 

Loving them for Allah makes you very forgiving.

Pray that in Jannah Paradise there's a reunion.

~•~

📖 Mu'adh Ibn Jabal RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "Allah the Exalted said: 'Those who love each other for the sake of My Glory will be upon pulpits of light and they will be envied by the prophets and the martyrs.'"

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2390

Grade: Sahih

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are conscripted soldiers. They come together upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject." 

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109

Sahih Muslim 2638 

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

💎 Reminder to read Surah Al-Kahf every Jumuah Friday and include the Muslim Ummah in your Du'as.

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-true-love-for-allahs-sake-and.html

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/note-on-being-one-of-allahs-allies.html

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/07/poem-some-questions-to-ask-yourself-to.html

Poem: Sincere Love For Allah's Sake Does Not Feel Disappointed Easily

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم 

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 When questioned, "For how long can you stay patient with your husband?"

My response is - for as long as Allah keeps my spouse breathing,

So long as we survive under the same skies as our ceiling,

I'll keep loving him for Allah, without even regretting.

~•~

With devoted patience I accept what Allah has destined.

Instead of deriding my soulmate whom Allah has chosen,

I appreciate his best traits, among which is he's Muslim,

Intrigued by his passion for his work and care for his patients.

~•~

For Allah I'll continue waiting for my man's improvement,

In the same way it takes time to see a seed's development,

With the excitement felt before Maghreb by Muslims fasting,

Or when the sun greets the horizon after a dark evening.

~•~

Sabran ya nafsee, pass Allah's tests with bittersweet patience.

Pleasing Allah is our mission. This world isn't permanent.

Solve every problem you face with Sabr and supplications.

Embrace rewarding patience with acceptance and contentment.

~•~

I can wait even if my man has passed age sixty-seven,

Even if Allah Wills that my husband marries more women -

Until he returns to Allah or I return beforehand,

Eager to meet Allah in Jannah Pleased that I stayed patient.

📖 Abu Sa’id Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu anhu narrated that some people from the Ansaar asked Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu alaihi wa sallam, and he gave them. Then they asked for charity again and he gave them. Then they asked again and he gave them until all he had was gone. The Prophet SallAllahu alaihi wa sallam said, “If I had anything, I would not withhold it. Whoever refrains from asking others, then Allah will make him content. Whoever would be independent, then Allah will make him independent. Whoever would be patient, then Allah will make him patient. There is no gift that is better and more comprehensive than patience."

Source: Sahih Bukhari 1400

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Bukhari

www.TheNobleQuran.com 

📚 Some of the English-speaking Salafi/Sunni speakers who call towards the Qur'an and Sunnah of the noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam. Try to research and listen to their lectures on YouTube attentively:

Abbas Abu Yahya

Abdul Hakeem Mitchell

Abdulillah Lahmami

Abu Adam Jameel Finch

Abu Hafsa Kashiff Khan

Abu Hakeem Bilal Davis

Abu Humayd Saalim

Abu Idrees

Abu Iyaad Amjad Rafiq

Abu Khadeejah Abdul Wahid

Abul Hasan Malik

Abu Muadh Taqweem Aslam

Abu Muhammad Al Maghribi

Abu Talha Dawud Burbank

Abu Uways

Anas Waters

Anwar Wright

Hamza Abdur Razzaq

Hassan Somali

Moosaa Richardson

Mustafa George

Raha Batts

Rasheed Barbee

Rayaan Barker

Sa'eed Rhana

Umar Quinn

Uways at-Taweel

List of Arabic-speaking scholars of today whose Islamic lectures we can benefit from:

- Imām Abdul-Aziz Ibn Bāz

- Imām Muhammad Nasiruddin al-Albani

- Imām Muhammad Ibn 'Uthaymīn

- Imām Muqbil bin Hādī Al-Wādi'i

- Imām Ahmad An-Najmī 

- Shaykh Sāleh Al-Fawzan

- Shaykh Hassan ibn 'Abdul-Wahhāb Marzooq Al-Bannā

- Shaykh Sālih Al-Luhaydān

- Shaykh 'Abdul-Muhsin Al-'Abbād

- Shaykh Rabi' ibn Hādī Al-Madkhalī

- Shaykh 'Ubayd Al-Jābiri

- Mufti Shaykh 'Abdul-'Azīz Āl-ush-Shaykh

- Shaykh Sālih Āl-ush-Shaykh

- Shaykh 'Abdullāh Al-Bukhari

https://www.youtube.com/user/sharhussunnah/videos 

📖 Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “I have left you with two matters which will never lead you astray, as long as you hold to them: the Book of Allah (The Noble Qur'an) and the Sunnah of his beloved Prophet Muhammad (SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam).”

Source: Al-Muwaṭṭa’ 1661

Grade: Sahih (Authentic)

🗂️ Just sharing some PDF books and documents as sadaqa jaariya 

Inn-sha-Allah which you and others can occasionally read and benefit from 

Inn-sha-Allah so your faith Imaan levels can be strengthened:

https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/17bcwBZE9fKy2kATblygJVrKdgmeqFQu7

✅ Some advice on how divorce is not always the best solution,

PDF document which you can Inn-sha-Allah share as sadaqah jaariya: 

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1X6s2MS9EBIz0HMBGh8sWpnXQlEvjq3Bs/view?usp=drive_open

📝 Text:

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1W-Elcz21NmuOygqYIO8TG68W-Bczvxwr/view

🇵🇭 Tagalog Filipino translation of the above summarized reminders by dear sister Fatima Sherl bint Ismun:

https://drive.google.com/open?id=1XJZNtqXmeFrYs4xJiCHzgV3TWe6L3hKX&authuser=0

Note: Reminder to recite Surah Al-Kahf every Jumuah Friday and include the Muslim Ummah in your Du'as.

Poem: No Way Do I Get Jealous Of People Who Are Materialistic

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

🌻 Call me "weird" or "liar" - it's your freewill to express 

Your thoughts/opinions while I state I can't get jealous. 

I'm not one to waste energy feeling envious 

Of others' lives. Allah the Most Wise knows when to bless 

His servants and how some gifts are temporary tests.

~•~

Accusing Muslims who trust Allah, stay contented, 

And believe that this whole world is only a brief test, 

Of "envy" - is like claiming spiderwebs and cobwebs 

Are the perfect choices to secure mosquito nets. 

Such claim is but a lie, and lies are free from logic.

~•~

Tell me, how does it feel to be jealous? Describe it. 

When seeing some people do something better upsets 

Your ego? When such emotional distress suggests 

You to despise the envied persons and you gossip 

About them so your rumors make you feel "accomplished"?

~•~

When you feel desperate to make them feel excluded 

Because seeing them fail or fall brings you happiness? 

When you become a bully and act more obnoxious - 

Eager to spoil the joys of those who make you jealous?

When you rant about them yet ignore their messages?

~•~

When your blood pressure rises every time you witness 

Them online and offline enjoying peace or success?

Is that how jealousy feels? When they share some knowledge, 

You assume they're showing off or suspect their motives, 

And resent you're not like them in being ambitious?

~•~

Is that how envy feels? Coz I can't relate to it.

I'm not the kind to act oppressive and negative 

When witnessing other Muslims enjoy Allah's gifts.

As for unbelievers whom Allah has not guided, 

Why would I envy the deluded and misguided?

~•~

Let them paint their hair with pure gold; I won't feel jealous. 

Let them flaunt and brag; I won't wish to have their riches, 

Particularly if they're conceited narcissists 

Who are ignorant/insecure and lack good ethics.

Envy is from shaytan's traits; no thanks, I don't want it.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Beware of envy, for it devours good deeds just as fire devours wood or grass."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4903

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Suyuti

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Envy consumes good deeds just as fire burns wood. Charity (Sadaqah) extinguishes sinful deeds just as water extinguishes fire. Prayer is the light of the believer and fasting is his shield from the Hellfire."

Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 4210

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Ibn Asakir

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever wrongs his brother in his honor or anything else should resolve the matter today before it cannot be resolved with gold and silver coins. If he has good deeds to his credit, they will be taken from him according to the measure of his injustice. If he has no good deeds left, he will bear the evil deeds of the one he has oppressed."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 2317

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Bukhari

https://www.troid.org/love-for-your-brother-what-you-love-for-yourself-no-envy-no-hatred/

https://m.soundcloud.com/salafi-publications/evil-consequences-of-envy-by-abu-khadeejah

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/07/poem-please-dont-assume-i-envy.html 

Poem: Please Don't Be Delusional Assuming I'm "Jealous" Of Them

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

✅🌻 You, if you're a hater who claims I'm "jealous", clearly 

Don't know me, and you're lying if you claim I'm guilty 

Of envy. Do you ever hear me so jealously 

Gossiping about those who may have more gifts than me?

Do you see me acting like an overgrown bully, 

Conducting outings and excluding those I envy?

No? Then don't lie. It's unwise to lack integrity.

~•~

Don't be like a talking parrot that speaks aimlessly, 

Accusing lions of envying sheep or monkeys, 

Blabbering nonsense without knowing the whole story.

As one who believes that Allah the Most Wise fully 

Controls everything and gave tests to His slaves fairly, 

I don't encourage envying friends and family. 

And envying one's rivals is sheer absurdity.

~•~

I can't relate to feeling jealous; trust me, really - 

Why would I want what someone has when Allah decreed 

That for them, and envy is an evil quality 

Which suits our enemy shaytan who hates it when we 

Humbly accept Allah's Qadr with patience and peace.

Jealous people act rude and gossip regularly.

Don't guess I'm "jealous" when bad traits don't appeal to me.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Beware of envy, for it devours good deeds just as fire devours wood or grass."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4903

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Suyuti

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Envy consumes good deeds just as fire burns wood. Charity (Sadaqah) extinguishes sinful deeds just as water extinguishes fire. Prayer is the light of the believer and fasting is his shield from the Hellfire."

Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 4210

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Ibn Asakir

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever wrongs his brother in his honor or anything else should resolve the matter today before it cannot be resolved with gold and silver coins. If he has good deeds to his credit, they will be taken from him according to the measure of his injustice. If he has no good deeds left, he will bear the evil deeds of the one he has oppressed."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 2317

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Bukhari

https://www.troid.org/love-for-your-brother-what-you-love-for-yourself-no-envy-no-hatred/

https://m.soundcloud.com/salafi-publications/evil-consequences-of-envy-by-abu-khadeejah

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/07/poem-please-dont-assume-i-envy.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2023/06/poem-shame-on-you-if-you-guess-i-get.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2023/01/poem-to-those-who-enjoy-gossiping-about.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2024/04/poem-expect-some-childish-bullying-when.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2024/02/poem-im-not-jealous-of-any-female-stop.html

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2024/12/poem-envy-is-evil-trait-i-dont-want.html

Poem: Always Contented For Allah's Sake With The Man Whom Allah Chose As My Dear Husband

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💚 Though we're different, I love my spouse for Allah's sake.

Our love story is special. Not all tales are the same.

While similar souls get along, love is a strange case.

How opposites may attract I can appreciate.

____________________

We have proved wrong how 'Leos and Capricorns don't click' ,

Zodiac star signs anyways are just jokes and myths.

Astrologers can't determine who we can't be with.

What lead to love are shared goals, patience and right belief.

____________________

I believe my spouse is from Allah so I accept,

Faithfully I love my man without any regret.

I'm his gift while he's a blessing in disguise and test.

Through him I've learned 'on earth not all things can be perfect.'

____________________

Yet to me he's 'perfect'; I'm content with our marriage.

When onlookers debase him, I face hate with courage,

Loyalty increases and love refuses to budge.

I stay as my man's wife till God sends him back above.

____________________

My man doesn't need to be wealthy to impress me;

He as my other half is enough to keep me pleased,

He taught me patience as I strive to teach him our Deen.

May Allah make our union inspire others. Ameen.

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A woman is married for four things: her wealth, her family status, her beauty, and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman (otherwise) you will be a loser."

Sahih Al-Bukhari 5090

In-book reference: Book 67 Hadith 28

USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 7, Book 62, Hadith 27 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Thawban RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whenever a woman asks her husband for a divorce without a strong reason, the fragrance of Paradise (Jannah) becomes forbidden for her."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 2226

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut 

📖 Jabir RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, shaytan places his throne over the water and he sends out his troops. The closest to him in rank are the greatest at causing tribulations (mischief, trouble). One of them says: 'I have done this and this.' shaytan says: 'you have done nothing.' Another one says: 'I did not leave this man alone until I separated him from his wife.' shaytan embraces him and he says: 'you have done well!'" 

Source: Sahih Muslim 2813 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

https://abukhadeejah.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/10/Righteous-Wife-P1-WEB-7.3-Print-Complete.pdf

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/10/note-intj-muslim-wife-on-divorce-fierce.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/09/poem-if-my-husband-wanted-divorce-id.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/poem-demerits-of-divorce.html

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/poem-love-your-husband-patiently-for.html 

📋 Some advice on how divorce is not always the best solution,

PDF document which you can Inn-sha-Allah share as sadaqah jaariya: 

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1X6s2MS9EBIz0HMBGh8sWpnXQlEvjq3Bs/view?usp=drive_open

📝 Text:

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1W-Elcz21NmuOygqYIO8TG68W-Bczvxwr/view

🇵🇭 Tagalog Filipino translation of the above summarized reminders by dear sister Fatima Sherl bint Ismun:

https://drive.google.com/open?id=1XJZNtqXmeFrYs4xJiCHzgV3TWe6L3hKX&authuser=0

🗂️✨ Just sharing some PDF books and documents as sadaqa jaariya 

Inn-sha-Allah which you and others can occasionally read and benefit from 

Inn-sha-Allah so your faith Imaan levels can be strengthened:

https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/17bcwBZE9fKy2kATblygJVrKdgmeqFQu7

Poem: If Your Marriage Is A Blessing That Leads To Allah's Love Then Don't Be Quick To Divorce

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

📝 While divorce for some females symbolizes "freedom" 

And "the best choice" to "escape" from a "loveless romance", 

I view it as a testament and confirmation

That an ex-wife's love wasn't real from the beginning. 

If it were true, she'd find solutions to stay with him.

~•~

While most regard divorce as the "correct decision" 

If the spouses can't deal with disputes, discontentment, 

And frequent absence, I see it as an evidence 

That they weren't determined enough to keep fighting

For their marriage and overall they lacked inner strength.

~•~

While divorce shows "courage" according to some women, 

To me it indicates cowardice and impatience, 

Selfishness in having too many expectations, 

Insincerity when defeated by distractions, 

And banality when unable to solve problems.

~•~

With the fact that divorce is lawful I've no problem. 

It's illogical though for a man and his woman 

To agree on breaking the beautiful connection,

Which Allah the Most Wise destined, for trivial reasons. 

Why disconnect a link when it's clearly a blessing?

~•~

Why follow the crowd that decides based on emotions? 

Why treat marriage like half-finished meals thrown by children

Who don't know the importance of proper consumption? 

If your spouse can get toxic, don't quickly discard them. 

Train them to improve and wait for their development.

~•~

Your husband ain't food that you can throw in the dustbin

When loving him can't be done to your satisfaction. 

He's a human, just like you, with flaws and shortcomings. 

Pass Allah's tests in marriage with lots of trust in Him 

And with the sort of patience that won't think of quitting. 

~•~

While divorce is viewed by some as the "right solution" 

To incompatibility and disappointments, 

I perceive it as a cowardly move or action 

Confirming that one's love wasn't really genuine. 

Links which lead to Allah shouldn't be quickly broken. 

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A woman is married for four things: her wealth, her family status, her beauty, and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman (otherwise) you will be a loser."

Sahih Al-Bukhari 5090

In-book reference: Book 67 Hadith 28

USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 7, Book 62, Hadith 27 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Thawban RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whenever a woman asks her husband for a divorce without a strong reason, the fragrance of Paradise (Jannah) becomes forbidden for her."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 2226

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut 

📖 Jabir RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, shaytan places his throne over the water and he sends out his troops. The closest to him in rank are the greatest at causing tribulations (mischief, trouble). One of them says: 'I have done this and this.' shaytan says: 'you have done nothing.' Another one says: 'I did not leave this man alone until I separated him from his wife.' shaytan embraces him and he says: 'you have done well!'" 

Source: Sahih Muslim 2813 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

https://abukhadeejah.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/10/Righteous-Wife-P1-WEB-7.3-Print-Complete.pdf

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/10/note-intj-muslim-wife-on-divorce-fierce.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/09/poem-if-my-husband-wanted-divorce-id.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/poem-demerits-of-divorce.html

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/poem-love-your-husband-patiently-for.html 

📋💚 Some advice on how divorce is not always the best solution,

PDF document which you can Inn-sha-Allah share as sadaqah jaariya: 

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1X6s2MS9EBIz0HMBGh8sWpnXQlEvjq3Bs/view?usp=drive_open

📝 Text:

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1W-Elcz21NmuOygqYIO8TG68W-Bczvxwr/view

🇵🇭 Tagalog Filipino translation of the above summarized reminders by dear sister Fatima Sherl bint Ismun:

https://drive.google.com/open?id=1XJZNtqXmeFrYs4xJiCHzgV3TWe6L3hKX&authuser=0

🗂️✨ Just sharing some PDF books and documents as sadaqa jaariya 

Inn-sha-Allah which you and others can occasionally read and benefit from 

Inn-sha-Allah so your faith Imaan levels can be strengthened:

https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/17bcwBZE9fKy2kATblygJVrKdgmeqFQu7

Poem: Confident Muslimahs Trust Allah The Almighty

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

🌻 She's a different kind of savage with Allah by her side,

A colorful box of myriad feelings she's able to hide,

Unaffected by jealous foes and their delusional lies,

In a world where only a brave few can enjoin what is right.

~•~

So long as it's the truth, she can go on speaking with delight,

Yet knowing her limits, she can befriend silence anytime,

When her soul's language can't be understood by those with closed minds,

She goes quiet while reciting from the Qur'an day and night.

~•~

She's not bored; she's curious, busy learning to become more wise.

"Lonely" doesn't define her if she shuns liars who backbite.

Her honesty intimidates folks who envy and tell lies,

Like when zebras in stripes take flight once a fierce lion arrives.

~•~

"She only has Allah" is a fact that keeps her satisfied,

Unmindful of what her vile opponents make up from behind.

Du'as while oppressed, while fasting or while praying past midnight,

And Dhikr, are priceless gifts that keep her smiling from inside.

~•~

An odd combo of sweet and sour, who plays fair all the time,

With real intentions that can't be recognized by the unwise,

She doesn't care if by society she's "in" or disliked,

Since her concern is Allah's Love and home is in Paradise.

~•~

📖 Ibn Umar RadhiAllahu anhuma narrated that the noble Messenger of Allah SallAllahu alaihi wa sallam said, “Be in this world as if you were a stranger or a traveler along a path.” (Sahih Bukhari 6053)

📚 Some of the English-speaking Salafi/Sunni speakers who call towards the Qur'an and Sunnah of the noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam. Try to research and listen to their lectures on YouTube attentively:

Abbas Abu Yahya

Abdul Hakeem Mitchell

Abdulillah Lahmami

Abu Adam Jameel Finch

Abu Hafsa Kashiff Khan

Abu Hakeem Bilal Davis

Abu Humayd Saalim

Abu Idrees

Abu Iyaad Amjad Rafiq

Abu Khadeejah Abdul Wahid

Abul Hasan Malik

Abu Muadh Taqweem Aslam

Abu Muhammad Al Maghribi

Abu Talha Dawud Burbank

Abu Uways

Anas Waters

Anwar Wright

Hamza Abdur Razzaq

Hassan Somali

Moosaa Richardson

Mustafa George

Raha Batts

Rasheed Barbee

Rayaan Barker

Sa'eed Rhana

Umar Quinn

Uways at-Taweel

List of Arabic-speaking scholars of today whose Islamic lectures we can benefit from:

- Imām Abdul-Aziz Ibn Bāz

- Imām Muhammad Nasiruddin al-Albani

- Imām Muhammad Ibn 'Uthaymīn

- Imām Muqbil bin Hādī Al-Wādi'i

- Imām Ahmad An-Najmī 

- Shaykh Sāleh Al-Fawzan

- Shaykh Hassan ibn 'Abdul-Wahhāb Marzooq Al-Bannā

- Shaykh Sālih Al-Luhaydān

- Shaykh 'Abdul-Muhsin Al-'Abbād

- Shaykh Rabi' ibn Hādī Al-Madkhalī

- Shaykh 'Ubayd Al-Jābiri

- Mufti Shaykh 'Abdul-'Azīz Āl-ush-Shaykh

- Shaykh Sālih Āl-ush-Shaykh

- Shaykh 'Abdullāh Al-Bukhari

https://www.youtube.com/user/sharhussunnah/videos 

📖 Abu Nu’aym reported: Fudayl ibn ‘Iyad, may Allah have mercy on him, said, “If you mix with people, mix with those who have good character; it only invites to good. Do not mix with those who have bad character, for it only invites to evil.”

Source: Ḥilyat Al-Awliyā’ 11728

📖 Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “I have left you with two matters which will never lead you astray, as long as you hold to them: the Book of Allah (The Qur'an) and the Sunnah of his Prophet (SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam).”

Source: Al-Muwaṭṭa’ 1661

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Ibn Abdul Barr

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “The strong believer is more beloved to Allah (The Almighty) than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala), and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.’ Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills.”. (QaddarAllahu wa maa shaa-a fa'al) Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan.“

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/02/poem-when-youre-contented-with-allahs.html  

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/02/poem-signs-of-people-who-are.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/11/note-typical-qualities-of-intj-females.html 

Note: Marriage Is A Blessing And Test Which We Must Take Seriously. Never Give Up True Love For Allah's Sake That Easily.

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 According to my late mother (Allah yarhamha. Ameen.) through a friend of hers back in Saudi Arabia, this guy (the woman's nephew) instantly felt "in love" with me when he saw me as a bridesmaid at my older cousin's wedding. He, who was accordingly employed in Madinah that time, was actually serious about getting married that he even requested for a formal meeting with my family at one of our apartments in Riyadh city. I remember my mother asking me to smile upon seeing him or seem a bit friendlier, to behave more femininely instead of boyish, as if she could sense that I'd meet him (in the presence of my family, not one-on-one) with an unimpressed scowl or glare at him angrily so he'd get turned off. I was around fourteen years old then, still struggling with bulimia which somewhat affected my ability to make logical decisions. So as soon as the guy left, I blatantly told my mother that I wasn't willing to marry him mainly because of his clean-shaven baby face, plus he was as tall as I was or probably several inches shorter. My late father (Allah yarhamhu. Ameen.) even laughingly agreed with me on how the suitor looked baby-faced and he let my mother know that there was no need to compel me to marry if I didn't want to.
When I was around seventeen or eighteen years old, one of my male "childhood friends" whose parents were close friends with mine since our stay in Al-Khobar and/or Dammam, visited us with his father to express his interest in marrying me. Without even analyzing the pros and cons of accepting his marriage proposal, I quickly rejected it because, being aware that he was two or so years younger than me, I preferred marrying a man who's a lot older with more life experience.
Some time before we moved to the Philippines from Riyadh city, I received another marriage proposal from the son of one of the Pakistani friends of my mother. Again I declined the proposal, even unplugged the cords of all the telephones around the house (back when cellphones weren't common yet) so his admirably ambitious, lovingly supportive and eager mother would give up telephoning us regarding her son's marriage proposal. My reason for not accepting his proposal was my ignorant misjudgment that he may be a boring spouse due to him being obviously a shy type of guy. At one of the gatherings we attended with other South Asian friends and families, I recall having a quick glimpse of him looking at me from a distance while he was with other guys his age. While I thought his general appearance was okay, I was the type of girl who'd go for a guy who's more domineering, charismatic, and sociable, one who wouldn't hesitate to take the lead, a bit like a stereotypical "alpha male". I pray that Allah the Most Merciful forgives all my mistakes and bestows on all those guys and their loved ones happiness, contentment and peace in both worlds. Ameen.
As you can tell, a lot of female teenagers may reject a marriage proposal for silly reasons - maybe the guy isn't good-looking enough, according to their standards, or he's not tall enough, or there's no instant attraction in the initial stages, unaware yet that genuine love can't be enjoyed before marriage but true love is learned after one has become legally married.
Concerning early marriage, it is possible for a female teenager to enjoy marriage life if she strongly believes that she's making the right choice, without an ounce of potential remorse, in accepting the marriage proposal of a sincere, mature, financially stable, capable and responsible Muslim man who genuinely wishes to marry her for Allah's sake, not just for how she looks outwardly.
Whether the young husband and his wife temporarily stay at the house of his parents or his wife's parents until he can afford his own residence, or the young Muslim couple are blessed by Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala with their own housing, and whether one of them is still studying or they're both pursuing their education, what matters is that their marriage ultimately leads to Allah's Love, keeps their faith/Imaan strengthened, and preserves their modesty.
Marrying at an early age doesn't make one's marriage any better than the marriages of those who got married in their thirties and older. From among the common reasons why some Muslims decide to marry in their teens are their willingness and preparedness to get married, eagerness to avoid haraam relationships and fitna through lawful marriage, and possibly so their parents can see their cute grandchildren before Allah the Most Wise takes their souls back to Him.
Allah the Almighty knows best.
~•~
📖 Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Marriage is part of my Sunnah. Whoever does not act upon my Sunnah is not part of me. Give each other in marriage, for I will boast of your great numbers before the nations. Whoever has the means, let him contract a marriage. Whoever does not have the means should fast, as fasting will discipline his impulses (desires)."
Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 1846
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: I said, “O Messenger of Allah, should women be asked for their consent (permission) before marriage?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Yes." I said, “Indeed, sometimes a virgin is too shy to speak when asked.” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Her silence (not refusing nor complaining) is her consent (sign that she accepts the marriage proposal)."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6547
Sahih Muslim 1420
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-while-not-every-woman-gets-to.html
https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/11/note-arranged-marriages-vs-forced.html
https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/10/note-survey-on-love-and-marriage.html
💚

🌻 Some advice on how divorce is not always the best solution,
PDF document which you can Inn-sha-Allah share as sadaqah jaariya:
https://drive.google.com/file/d/1X6s2MS9EBIz0HMBGh8sWpnXQlEvjq3Bs/view?usp=drive_open
📝 Text:
https://drive.google.com/file/d/1W-Elcz21NmuOygqYIO8TG68W-Bczvxwr/view
🇵🇭 Tagalog Filipino translation of the above summarized reminders by dear sister Fatima Sherl bint Ismun:
https://drive.google.com/open?id=1XJZNtqXmeFrYs4xJiCHzgV3TWe6L3hKX&authuser=0
🗂️✨ Just sharing some PDF books and documents as sadaqa jaariya
Inn-sha-Allah which you and others can occasionally read and benefit from
Inn-sha-Allah so your faith Imaan levels can be strengthened:
https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/17bcwBZE9fKy2kATblygJVrKdgmeqFQu7

Poem: Divorce Is Not Always The Best Solution

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

✅ To Muslim husbands and wives who married sincerely 

To please Allah the Almighty, some advice from me - 

A wife, who married my male cousin at age twenty 

After rejecting other proposals previously - 

From one who's been a wife for about seventeen years 

And who's one of the few who welcome polygyny,

My advice: Stay firm. Strengthen your 'Aqeedah / belief.

~•~

Keep learning about Islam. Steadfastly persevere.

Study more about our Deen with your spouse frequently.

If your spouse is often busy, then consistently

Pray to Allah to guide them more, and regularly 

Share links to Islamic lectures, writings they can read,

And inspire them to learn more even indirectly.

As your knowledge grows, your faith Imaan levels increase.

~•~

As the faith Imaan in your heart grows, you can succeed, 

With Allah's Will, you can succeed very easily 

In managing the various emotions you may feel -

Anger won't control you when your spouse is in fury,

Sorrow's visits would be brief, jealousy won't come near, 

Your contentment won't be spoiled by insecurities, 

You become stable when your faith level isn't weak.

~•~

Increase your trust in Allah and say Adhkaar daily, 

More Dhikr with Du'a means enhanced tranquility, 

And effective shield against black magic / sorcery, 

And evil eyes from those guilty of intense envy. 

Protect your marriage for Allah. Take it seriously.

Agreements with Allah must not be taken lightly.

Allah loves the patient. shaytan likes disunity.

~•~

shaytan is delighted by disputes, disharmony, 

And marital discord when drama starts due to greed, 

Acting selfishly, proud, impatient or too needy, 

When one spouse asks the other "do you really love me" 

As if they haven't accepted Allah's Destiny.

Stay married for Allah. Accept what Allah decreed.

Believe that your spouse was chosen to suit your journey.

~•~

A marriage which appears to strangers as "unhappy" 

But with love purely designed to please Allah Only 

Is much better than the failures of most divorcees, 

Is more decent than seeing sad broken families 

With children who are confused by love that's incomplete,

Or kids who feel like cargos as they recurrently 

Spend time with their separated parents tirelessly.

~•~

Though divorce is lawful, it's the awful choice to me - 

I hate it more than how most wives hate polygyny. 

If I were to be divorced, I'd rather remarry 

The same first husband whom Allah wisely chose for me, 

To show that loyalty meant to serve Allah Only 

Can be so much stronger than shaytan's desire to see 

The Muslim Ummah suffer as divorce rates increase.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A woman is married for four things, i.e. her wealth, her family status, her beauty, and her religion. So you should marry the religious (righteous Muslimah) woman (otherwise) you will be a loser." 

Sahih Al-Bukhari 5090

In-book reference: Book 67 Hadith 28

USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 7, Book 62, Hadith 27 

📖 Thawban RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whenever a woman asks her husband for a divorce without a strong reason, the fragrance of Paradise (Jannah) becomes forbidden for her."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 2226

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut 

📖 Jabir RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, shaytan places his throne over the water and he sends out his troops. The closest to him in rank are the greatest at causing tribulations (mischief, trouble). One of them says: 'I have done this and this.' shaytan says: 'you have done nothing.' Another one says: 'I did not leave this man alone until I separated him from his wife.' shaytan embraces him and he says: 'you have done well!'" 

Source: Sahih Muslim 2813 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

https://abukhadeejah.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/10/Righteous-Wife-P1-WEB-7.3-Print-Complete.pdf

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/10/note-intj-muslim-wife-on-divorce-fierce.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/09/poem-if-my-husband-wanted-divorce-id.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/poem-demerits-of-divorce.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/10/poem-divorce-is-permissible-but-its.html 

https://youtu.be/a55_gXRWnUI

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/09/tips-5-probable-reasons-why-shaytan.html

🌻 Some advice on how divorce is not always the best solution,

PDF document which you can Inn-sha-Allah share as sadaqah jaariya: 

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1X6s2MS9EBIz0HMBGh8sWpnXQlEvjq3Bs/view?usp=drive_open

📝 Text:

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1W-Elcz21NmuOygqYIO8TG68W-Bczvxwr/view

🇵🇭 Tagalog Filipino translation of the above summarized reminders by dear sister Fatima Sherl bint Ismun:

https://drive.google.com/open?id=1XJZNtqXmeFrYs4xJiCHzgV3TWe6L3hKX&authuser=0

🗂️✨ Just sharing some PDF books and documents as sadaqa jaariya 

Inn-sha-Allah which you and others can occasionally read and benefit from 

Inn-sha-Allah so your faith Imaan levels can be strengthened:

https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/17bcwBZE9fKy2kATblygJVrKdgmeqFQu7

Poem: May Allah Have Mercy On Dear Sister Morsida Pandao One Of Our Teachers Here At Wisdom Islamic School. Ameen

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

📝 About six days have gone by since she has passed away - 

A colleague whom I couldn't visit for Allah's sake 

While she was confined at a hospital for some days. 

Though sister Morsida may not read these words, I pray 

That Allah the Almighty reunites us someday 

In Jannah Paradise where there will be no dismay, 

No stress, no tiredness, no worries, no aches and no pain.

~•~

I miss her, even though we were not close friends per se. 

I miss her teaching and the smiles she had on her face, 

And despite me not being approachable she stayed 

Cheerful, easygoing and vibrant on many days. 

In many ways, with Allah's Will, she would motivate 

Her students to love learning through games they often played, 

And often she read Qur'an and at the Masjid prayed.

~•~

Inn-sha-Allah from now on I shall include her name 

With the names of loved ones whom I care for Allah's sake - 

Every now and then I'll try my best to supplicate 

And pray for her well-being and that for sure someday,

With Allah's Will, I hope Jannah is our meeting place. 

May Allah forgive her, widen and brighten her grave, 

And destine we meet in Jannah with a calm embrace. Ameen.

~•~

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Three things follow a deceased person (to the person's grave). Two of them return and one remains. His family, his wealth, and his deeds follow him. His family and wealth return, but his deeds remain (with the dead in their graves)."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6149 

Sahih Muslim 2960

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "When the human being dies, (the rewards of) his deeds come to an end except for three: Ongoing charity, beneficial knowledge, or a righteous child who prays for him."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1631

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

📖 Ibn 'Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Take advantage of five before five: Your youth before your old age, your health before your illness, your riches before your poverty, your free time before your work, and your life before your death."

Source: Shu’ab Al-Imān 9575

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Ibn Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: A woman came to the Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam and she said, "My mother has died and she owed a month of fasting." The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Do you think if she had a debt you would repay it on her behalf?" She said "yes." The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The debts of Allah are more worthy to be repaid."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 1902

Sahih Muslim 1132

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The martyr is forgiven for every sin except debt."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1886

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://www.abukhadeejah.com/visiting-graves-and-the-ruling-on-women-visiting-graves/

https://www.salafisounds.com/prepare-yourselves-for-death-and-the-day-of-judgement-khutbah-by-abu-khadeejah/

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/tips-good-deeds-that-benefit-dead-in.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/04/poem-some-lessons-derived-from-recent.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/12/poem-some-advice-on-how-to-deal-with.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/06/hadith-warning-against-wailing-being.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/03/tips-stages-of-bereavement-and-some.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/poem-seven-things-to-do-to-respect.html 

🗂️✨ Just sharing some PDF books and documents as sadaqa jaariya 

Inn-sha-Allah also on behalf of my dear parents, relatives and sister Morsida Pandao which you and others can occasionally read and benefit from 

Inn-sha-Allah so your faith Imaan levels can be strengthened:

https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/17bcwBZE9fKy2kATblygJVrKdgmeqFQu7