Note: Understand That Not Everyone On Earth Will Like You

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 It is a misconception to assume that achieving fame or being approved by the masses indicates Allah's Love for someone. Just because some individuals, activities, pages, YouTube videos, or ideas are popular doesn't necessarily imply you must join the crowd and root for them. 

A person of decent upbringing and sound thinking wouldn't chill around a junkyard full of garbage bags which attract tons of flies, maggots, and mosquitoes. So if you wonder why several Instagrammers and TikTokers quickly gain more fans than some informative Islamic channels, you'd realize that souls which are so similar in terms of their values, goals, and personality gravitate to each other more easily than to those who are too different from them. 

The best of all human beings, namely the beloved Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam, was despised, unappreciated, and underestimated by his opponents from among the disbelievers, hypocrites, and apostates. 

It is impossible to be completely loved by each living thing on earth. For you to be lavished by everybody's approval and sympathy, you'd have to subserviently act in such a way that you meet every individual's demands, standards, and expectations, which means sacrificing a significant portion of who you truly are as a Muslim. Doing that, desperately trying to satisfy all of Allah's servants instead of concentrating on pleasing our Creator Allah the Almighty, would be inauthentic and disastrous to one's well-being. 

🌻 Three reasons why inevitably there will be a number of people on earth who may regard you as "toxic", "intolerable", "unlikable", "unworthy", and "annoying", despite being one of those believers whom Allah the Most Wise loves and promised Jannah Paradise: 

1] Envy: If there's something about you which makes them feel inferior, insecure, incompetent, jealous, or uncomfortably threatened in any way, they'd do whatever they can to stay away from you. 

2] Mismatch or clash of vibes: If their self-esteem, beliefs, and soul's energy conflict with yours constantly, tiring attempts to connect with them and understand their quirks could only lead to disharmony. 

3] Their assumption that your presence is not essential or useful yet in their lives: If you went shopping for eggs, bread, and toothbrushes, you'd prioritize purchasing those items and ignore the other products not because they lack value and functionality but you came there for your own necessities. You also purposely ignored the other merchandise as you couldn't afford them. 

Even if you're "too much" for some people or "not good enough", what's actually important is that we're special to Allah the Most Loving, just as He Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala loves Prophet Nuh 'alaihis salaam and supported him in constructing the gigantic ark despite Nuh's tiny following.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "When Allah loves a servant, He calls Angel Jibreel (Gabriel 'alaihis salaam) and He (Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) says: 'Verily, I love this person so you should love him.' Then Angel Jibreel loves him and makes an announcement in the heavens, saying: 'Allah loves this person and you should love him.' Thus, the dwellers of the heavens love him and he is honored on the earth.”

In another narration, the Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "When Allah is angry with a servant, He calls Angel Jibreel and He says: 'I hate this person, so you should hate him.' Then Angel Jibreel resents him and makes an announcement in the heavens, saying: 'Verily, Allah hates this person, so you should hate him.' Thus, they become resentful with him and he is hated on the earth (for that person's crimes, wicked actions, and evil qualities)."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3037 

Sahih Muslim 2637

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Mu’awiyah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "If Allah intends goodness for someone, He gives him understanding of the religion."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 71

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If Allah intends goodness for someone, He afflicts him with trials."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5321

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Bukhari 

https://binbaz.org.sa/fatwas/8807/%D9%85%D9%86-%D8%A7%D8%AD%D8%A8%D9%87-%D8%A7%D9%84%D9%84%D9%87-%D8%A7%D8%AD%D8%A8%D9%87-%D8%A7%D9%84%D9%86%D8%A7%D8%B3 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/05/poem-find-peace-in-allahs-love-not.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-what-to-search-for-to-know-if.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/02/poem-your-likes-and-followers-dont.html 

Note: Some Ways That INTJs Differ From ENTJs, INFJs, INTPs And ISTJs

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

🗒️ Comparing the INTJ personality type with ENTJ, INFJ, INTP, and ISTJ: 

🔲 INTJ (NiTe) vs ENTJ (TeNi) 

🔹 INTJs are more independent, solitary, and reclusive. A lot of them can be socially awkward and very selective when it comes to choosing friends. ENTJs are more charismatic, talkative, and domineering. They can be charming as hosts, managers, and leaders.

🔹 INTJs would rather lead behind the scenes and command a group only if nobody else is leading. ENTJs are eager to act as the boss whenever they find opportunity to be in a leadership position.

🔹 An INTJ would be more comfortable maintaining a blog or website than regularly uploading vlogs on YouTube. An ENTJ would appreciate public speaking more than sitting passively among an audience.

🔲 INTJ (NiTe) vs INFJ (NiFe) 

🔹 INTJs are generally unaffected by insults, misconduct, and negative feedback which most people may find offensive. INFJs are more sensitive and prone to feeling hurt when criticized.

🔹 INTJs mostly think about their goals, values, and what is important to them when making decisions. INFJs are more concerned about their loved ones and others' well-being than their selves.

🔹 An INTJ is likely to say "ignore your feelings.", "don't let emotions distract you. Crying won't solve this problem.", and "just do it. I don't care if some people get upset.". An INFJ would encourage you to "feel every emotion you're feeling thoroughly" and tell you "it's okay to cry. You'll heal from it eventually.".

🔲 INTJ (NiTe) vs INTP (TiNe) 

🔹 INTJs in general complete most tasks and get things done more than some INTPs. INTPs are okay with leaving an activity, assignment, and project unfinished, if they discover something else that's more interesting.

🔹 INTJs would rather do their job in a quiet environment peacefully than in a loud workplace with frequent interruptions. INTPs can still concentrate on their own work amidst all the noise and chaos.

🔹 To strangers, most INTJs appear serious, intense, or somewhat unapproachable, while INTPs are more laid-back, goofy, and not fussy about sticking to certain rules.

🔲 INTJ (NiTe) vs ISTJ (SiTe)

🔹 INTJs are more future-oriented, imaginative, and visionary than ISTJs who typically have better memories of the past, observation skills, and attention to details.

🔹 Since INTJs are good at efficiency, they're willing to skip steps, cancel ineffective plans, and ignore warnings if doing so leads to a goal or solves a problem much faster. Stereotypical ISTJs would ensure that they took every step and no process was left out when trying to achieve an aim.

🔹 An INTJ is likely to say "let's try a new way to do that.", "I'm not surprised that he's absent again. I knew we can't rely on him.", and "I've moved on. There's no turning back. Those who aren't part of our family tree are dispensable.". ISTJs on the other hand may find these statements relatable: "it is what it is. I'm not going to change our tradition.", "stick to the old ways, because that is how it has always been done.", and "rules are rules. There's no way to find yourself around them, when I'm assigned to make sure they're all followed.".

~•~ 

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "I guarantee a house on the outskirts of Paradise for one who leaves arguments even if he is right, and a house in the middle of Paradise for one who abandons lies even when joking, and a house in the highest part of Paradise for one who makes his character excellent."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4800

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi

 📝 To discover what your MBTI type is, you're welcome to take these tests:

https://www.16personalities.com/free-personality-test

http://www.michaelcaloz.com/personality/ 

https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/5dab0e69919f5e0014ceba9f

https://www.personalitytestbirdy.com/test/personality-test/ 

https://www.truity.com/test/type-finder-personality-test-new

Hadith: The Importance Of Responding To The Muaddhin When He Calls The Adhan

📖 Umar Ibn Al-Khattab RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "When the caller to prayer says, ‘Allah is the Greatest, Allah is the Greatest,’ then let one of you say, ‘Allah is the Greatest (Allahu Akbar), Allah is the Greatest.’ Then he says, ‘I testify there is no God but Allah,’ one says, ‘I testify there is no God but Allah.’ Then he says, ‘I testify that Muhammad (SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam) is the Messenger of Allah,’ one says, ‘I testify that Muhammad is the Messenger of Allah.’ Then he says, ‘Come to the prayer,’ one says, 'There is no power or might but in Allah. (Laa hawla wa laa quwwata illaa Billah)' Then he says, ‘Come to the salvation (to success),’ one says, 'There is no power or might but in Allah. (Laa hawla wa laa quwwata illaa Billah)' Then he says, ‘Allah is the Greatest, Allah is the Greatest,’ one says, ‘Allah is the Greatest, Allah is the Greatest.’ Then he says, ‘There is no God but Allah,’ one says, ‘There is no God but Allah,’ from his heart and he will enter Paradise."

Source: Sahih Muslim 385

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://youtu.be/ROfd6AoadZ0 

https://m.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLhGptZX2tQ1q7oAy4EkdU_hkhK-2EhpIQ

Note: For Allah's Sake, Speak To Your Husband Respectfully

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Three examples of scenarios to demonstrate there are better ways to speak with your husband to show him the respect which he deserves, and to avoid unnecessary arguments that could lead to marital abuse: 

1] If you notice your husband resting on the sofa, watching vlogs on his cellphone or playing some games to de-stress, instead of saying: 

🚫 "So that's what you do all day? A baby in a lazy adult's body likes to waste its lifetime spying on strangers' lives because your life is that awfully low, pathetic, and meaningless? Stop wasting your curiosity on people who have nothing to do with you, loser, and walk to the Masjid now." 

🗨️ say, "Darling, did you hear the Adhaan? It's time for Salah. You can perform wudhu (ablution) and pray first, then relax with me later for a while.".

2] If you caught your husband quickly closing some applications and he switches to an Islamic program once you entered the room, instead of saying: 

🚫 "I saw that, you lying jerk. Stop acting as if you're innocent. You're talking to strange women again, huh? If not with females, then you must be flirting with some faggots, yes? Who were you chatting with a while ago? Tinky-Winky? Dipsy? Laa-Laa? Po?" 

🗨️ say, "Honey (or just state his real name to lessen the cringe effect), you know that Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala sees us all the time, right? Well, I'm just reminding you to ensure that online and offline we, as Muslims, must strive to have Taqwa at all times. Allah the All-Knowing is the One Who rewards and punishes, not jinn nor humankind." 

3] If your husband, on one stormy night, arrives late from work to inform you that he lost his job, instead of saying: 

🚫 "Yo! What took you so long?! You had me waiting for ages! No dinner tonight because I gobbled up all the food and left nothing for you, because why should I babysit a boring guy who's more useless than the tiny eraser on a cheaply designed pencil? I'm not speaking to you until you've found a new profession.".

🗨️ say, "Dear husband/zawjee [or lovingly address him with his nickname], I understand you're incredibly tired. We can discuss about what happened at work tomorrow 

Inn-sha-Allah afternoon when you feel more energetic. This is only a brief test from Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. Alhamdulillah you still have Islam, you still have me - your loyal wife - and our adorable kids.". 

🗒️ Not every single emotion must be acted on. Sometimes it's wiser to keep certain feelings to yourself while maintaining a cheerful countenance whenever you interact with your husband. That's not being fake and hypocritical, but courageous and determined to please Allah the Most Wise, through patiently respecting your husband, much more than pride and selfish desires.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1159

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi

Ali Al-Qari said, "That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala."

Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātih 5/2125 

📖 Narrated Abu Sa'eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: On Eid-ul-Fitr or Eid-ul-Adha, Allah's Messenger SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam went out to the Musalla. After finishing the prayer, he delivered the sermon and ordered the people to give alms (charity). He said, "O people! Give alms." Then he went towards the women and said. "O women! Give alms, for I have seen that the majority of the dwellers of Hell-Fire were you (women)." The women asked, "O Allah's Messenger! What is the reason for it?" He replied, "O women! You curse frequently, and are ungrateful to your husbands. I have not seen anyone more deficient in intelligence and religion than you. O women, some of you can lead a cautious wise man astray." Then he left. And when he reached his house, Zainab, the wife of Ibn Mas`ud, came and asked permission to enter It was said, "O Allah's Messenger! It is Zainab." He asked, 'Which Zainab?" The reply was that she was the wife of Ibn Mas'ud. He said, "Yes, allow her to enter." And she was admitted. Then she said, "O Prophet of Allah! Today you ordered people to give alms and I had an ornament and intended to give it as alms, but Ibn Mas`ud said that he and his children deserved it more than anybody else." The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam replied, "Ibn Mas`ud had spoken the truth. Your husband and your children had more right to it than anybody else."

Sahih Al-Bukhari 1462

In-book reference: Book 24, Hadith 65

USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 2, Book 24, Hadith 541 

https://www.abukhadeejah.com/what-makes-a-man-happy-and-what-makes-him-miserable/ 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/poem-love-your-husband-patiently-for.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/07/poem-dear-muslim-wife-understand-that.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/09/note-patiently-understand-and-empathize.html 

Poem: Why I Don't Get Tired Of Loving My Husband For Allah's Sake

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 If I was asked by someone "why do you love your spouse? 

Why stay loyal to him when he's not always around?", 

I'd respond smilingly, not with a discontent scowl, 

"I love him for Allah's sake. Through this marriage I've found 

Enhanced faith and eagerness to strive for Al-Ferdaus. 

~•~ 

Do I love him for the money he gives every now 

And then? No. For his job that would make many wives proud? 

No. For the way he treats me like I'm his queen he crowned? 

No. For the jokes he tells whenever my moods are down? 

Nope. I never married him to wipe my tears and frowns. 

~•~

I married him for Allah. Please note I'm not about 

To lie, as doing so would be morally unsound. 

I view my husband as a gift from Allah. That's how, 

With Allah's Will, I manage through this love's ups and downs. 

I see marriage as a blessing, not a dull playground. 

~•~

Imagine an instructor distributing handouts. 

On seeing him hold some pens, you ask if you're allowed 

To borrow one. He approves and lovingly allows 

You to keep it for several days, weeks, months, and hours, 

Until the moment he takes it from you comes around.

~•~ 

You'd ensure that borrowed pen doesn't fall on the ground, 

Doesn't drop on filthy substance nor get thrown around, 

And if four students of the instructor are allowed 

To share that special pen, you'd agree without a frown. 

It's not all yours, anyhow. Why be selfish and proud? 

~•~

Despite his flaws, I love my husband because of how 

I know he's from Allah. Allah's gifts are all profound. 

I choose not to quit on him, though divorce is allowed, 

As I believe that loving him pleasantly somehow 

Strengthened my desire to deserve Jannatul Ferdaus. 

~•~

My husband's busyness and absences every now 

And then prompt me to say Du'a in bed, on the ground, 

And when praying Tahajjud while most are sleeping sound. 

My husband taught me to be more patient and less proud. 

Patience in marriage is one ticket to Al-Ferdaus."

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1159

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi

Ali Al-Qari said, "That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala."

Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātih 5/2125

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 4252

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/02/poem-love-your-husband-truly-for-allahs.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-why-this-wife-loves-her-husband.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/note-my-brief-love-story-and-why-i-dont.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/note-nine-clear-signs-that-muslim-wifes.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-why-im-okay-with-polygyny.html