Poem: Loyally Defend Your Husband From People's Gossip And Doubts

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Easily defending your husband is a clear sign 

That you love him for Allah and you won't allow pride 

And critics to malign him with complaints, doubts and lies. 

You understand he's human, while Allah the Most Wise 

Knows the best timing when his faults can be rectified.

~•~

Any person pricked by thorns would find it tough to smile, 

Specially if they were already hurt from inside. 

When those who despise your spouse frequently criticize 

Him, intending to offend you too or give advice, 

You quickly defend him as his friend and faithful wife. 

~•~

If some claim "he doesn't spend enough time with you. Why?", 

"We doubt he cares for you as you're not prioritized", 

And "how come you don't dine out often?", calmly reply: 

"Alhamdulillah I don't regret being the wife 

Of a Muslim who works hard so his loved ones can thrive. 

~•~ 

I don't expect him to be flawless, and this is why 

When he errs or disappoints me, I can't get surprised. 

I'm aware that shaytan hates it when Allah unites 

Two good souls to become better as husband and wife, 

With faith and love pushing them to strive for Paradise. 

~•~ 

My husband's like a bird with broken wings when sometimes 

He seems neglectful due to feeling stressed, sad or tired. 

As his loyal wife, I'd let him rest, give him some time 

To heal, and patiently pray for bright days to arrive 

So he joins me in this flight to Jannah Paradise.

~•~

I love him for Allah's sake, and this isn't a lie. 

Even if he marries for the second, third, fourth time, 

With Allah's Will, I decide to stay as his first wife, 

Backing him up like a lawyer when he's criticized 

And giving him space when tranquil silence is required.

~•~

Don't bother trying to tell me that he's not upright, 

As I've already seen how he makes mistakes at times. 

Just as falcons, eagles and owls must sleep oftentimes, 

My soulmate needs to recharge every once in a while. 

Case closed. I don't pay you to review my marriage life."

~•~

📖 Thawban RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The best wealth is a tongue that remembers Allah, a grateful heart, and a believing wife to help one in his faith."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 3094

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Asmaa bint Yazid RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever defends the flesh of his brother (brother or sister in Islam) from backbiting, it will be a duty upon Allah to free him from the Hellfire."

Source: Musnad Ahmed 26950

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Suyuti

📖 Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever defends the reputation of his brother (brother or sister in Islam, and one's spouse), Allah will defend his face from the Hellfire on the Day of Resurrection."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1931

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

http://www.saaid.net/mktarat/alzawaj/274.htm 

https://abukhadeejah.com/characteristics-of-a-righteous-wife-in-light-of-the-quran-and-sunnah-part-1/

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/poem-what-happens-when-allah-most-wise.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/02/poem-i-love-my-husband-for-allahs-sake.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/03/note-five-signs-that-you-are-contented.html 

Note: On The Topic Of Not Regretting Marrying My Husband At All

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 If I had accepted the marriage proposal of this Filipino guy (also Maranao) who was employed in Madinah when I was about fourteen years old, I probably would've enjoyed the blessings of regularly praying in the Masjid An-Nabawiy and could've delivered packages of dates to relatives in the Philippines whenever I could. But I declined his proposal because he looked too baby-faced and was around my height. 

If I agreed to marrying this Pakistani guy from a respectable family and who was aspiring to memorize the whole of the Noble Qur'an while I was around sixteen or seventeen years old, I'd probably be residing somewhere in Pakistan by now and be more capable of traveling to Saudi Arabia whenever I wanted to perform 'Umrah and Hajj. But being ignorant of the virtues of marrying for Allah's sake and several Islamic rulings back then, I found it easy to reject his marriage proposals just because I mistakenly thought he was "too shy" and "incompatible" with me. 

If I eagerly said yes to the marriage proposal of one of my male "childhood friends" whose parents have been well acquainted with my parents (Allah yarhamhuma. Ameen.) ever since he was a baby, born in eastern Saudi Arabia, I probably would've enjoyed the affection of a spouse whom I used to play with often since we were younger kids. But I chose to reject his marriage proposal because I ignorantly disliked how he was around two years younger than me, as I preferred to marry an older and supposedly more mature guy. 

If my dear parents didn't decline (on my behalf) the marriage proposal of a Filipino guy staying in USA, there's a likelihood that I could've been one of those so-called modernized Muslims with materialistic tendencies. 

Alhamdulillah what Allah the Most Wise decreed is that I become the first wife of one of my male cousins who is currently working in the medical field. 💚 Through this marriage Alhamdulillah I've learned to: 

1] Understand the wisdom behind polygyny. 

2] Motivate other wives to maintain fierce loyalty and patience for Allah's sake whether they're in a monogamous or polygynous marriage. 

3] Reassure other Muslimahs that it's possible to fall in love with your male cousin and become his loving wife, with Allah's Will, in the future.

4] Encourage Maranao families to not disapprove of a man's decision if he wishes to marry a woman from another tribe or who is still new to Islam. 

5] Inspire Muslim spouses to remain grateful, patient and resilient for Allah's sake throughout marriage life even if you can't be physically together with your spouse 24/7. Eternal bliss can be enjoyed in Jannah Paradise where its inhabitants will never go through sorrow, remorse and heartbreaks. 

✅ To never feel regretful of staying married to your spouse: 

1] As many times as you can remind yourself that you accepted this marriage sincerely to please Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, and you'd do whatever is necessary to protect this bond from being disrupted by the envious archenemy shaytan. 

2] Persistently appreciate all of the pleasant things which your husband has done and recall his admirable qualities. 

3] Be of the opinion that it is a lot better to continue being a patient wife while your child/kids can still enjoy the love of a caring father, despite his busyness or frequent absence due to polygyny, than being a struggling single mom whose kids/child may oftentimes wonder if they're the cause of the separation or feel bad that other children still have a mom and dad while their family is disunited. 

4] Genuinely loving your husband for Allah's sake much more than his body, appearance, income, profession and your ego can make the complications and trials in marriage more manageable and rewarding. 

5] Imagine shaytan as an irritating prankster on a prank show, desperate to see you and your husband split up because he jealously despises it when the descendants of Prophet Adam 'alaihis salaam (human beings) show signs of happiness in lawful ways. Don't give him the satisfaction of watching you argue and seeing you allow pride/kibr to be the reason why you and your soulmate separate.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If someone proposes marriage to you whose religion and character satisfies you, then you should accept it. If you do not do so, there will be trials (fitna / fitan) on the earth and the spread of corruption."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1084

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Every one of you will have his supplications answered, as long as he is not impatient and says: 'I have supplicated but I was not answered.'"

In another narration, the Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The (Muslim) servant will continue to have his supplications answered as long as he does not ask for sin or cutting family ties and he is not impatient." They said, "O Messenger of Allah, what is its impatience?" The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "He says: 'I have supplicated again and again, but I have not seen an answer.' He becomes frustrated with that and gives up supplicating."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5981 

Sahih Muslim 2735

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/note-why-muslims-who-love-allah.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/07/note-on-topic-of-marrying-early-in-islam.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/02/note-what-i-have-learned-from-marrying.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-while-not-every-woman-gets-to.html  

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/12/note-stay-contented-with-love-story.html 

Hadith: From The Best Generations

📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The best people are those of my generation, then those who come after them, then those who come after them. Then, there will come people after them whose testimony precedes their oaths and their oaths precede their testimony."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6429, Sahih Muslim 2533

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "I have left you with two matters which will never lead you astray, as long as you hold on to them: The Book of Allah and the Sunnah of His Prophet (Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam)."

Source: Al-Muwaṭṭa’ 1661

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Ibn Abdul Barr 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "What comes over my nation will surely be what came over the children of Israel, step by step until if one of them fornicated with his mother, one from my nation would do the same. Verily, the children of Israel split into seventy-two sects and my nation will split into seventy-three sects. All of them will be in Hellfire except for one sect." They said, “Who are they, O Messenger of Allah?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Those who follow my way (the Sunnah of the noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam) and my companions."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2641

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Albani 

https://abukhadeejah.com/what-is-salafism-and-salafiyyah/

https://youtu.be/YBvcwx3GxGo

Note: Labelling Oneself "Sunni / Salafi" And Muslim

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 I remember when I was around 19 years old back in Saudi Arabia we had some British Bangladeshi neighbors whose kids would hang out with me from time to time. I still recall their names being Zainab, Zakiyyah, Adam and Ibrahim. They were around the ages of 10, 8, 6 and 2 or 3. During one of their visits, when two of them asked me "are you Salafi?" I honestly didn't know how to respond but said something like "I'm a Muslim. I'm Sunni." and they'd ask again "yes, but are you SALAFI?" since I couldn't adequately answer their questions, I tried to distract them with some children's games until they became disinterested in making sure if I'm "Salafi" or not.

Alhamdulillah after some years, Allah the Almighty guided me to understanding the importance of having the correct 'Aqeedah/belief. When a Muslim who wholeheartedly believes in Allah's Oneness (Tawheed) labels himself or herself "Salafi", they intend to clearly distinguish themselves from the other sects of people who claim to be Muslims. A lot of those groups are guilty of committing erroneous acts which are connected to shirk/polytheism and bid'ah/innovated religious matters, such as celebrating the so-called "mawlid an-nabi", praying towards cemeteries, supplicating to the dead, wearing amulets to protect oneself from jinns, practicing witchcraft or sorcery, getting into mut'ah/temporary marriage or legalizing zina/fornication, and outrageously considering somebody to be 'kaafir' just because of a certain sin etc. 

🌼 Is it mandatory to call yourself "Salafi" to be among those who enter Jannah Paradise? No. According to one of the sayings of the noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam in a Hadith, some people from hell/jahannam will ultimately be taken out by Allah the Most Forgiving if in their hearts is even a tiny bit of faith/Imaan in Him Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala while they also did what they could to follow the Sunnah of the beloved Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam. To avoid being admitted to jahannam, even for some minutes, we should strive for Allah's sake to do what Allah and His noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam love, one of them being to ensure that one's belief/'Aqeedah is not tarnished or spoiled by any polytheistic action and bid'ah/innovation.

🎒🧳🛍️👜 Imagine if you were shown a number of travel backpacks prior to embarking on a long trip to a friend's large mansion but before it can be reached you'd have to pass by several forests and mountainous areas. Which would you carry, a bag containing: 

A ] Plastic toys and disposable plates? 

B ] A number of can openers without even canned foods? 

C ] Notebooks, pens which ran out of ink, and flashlights which aren't functional anymore? 

D ] A gigantic box with different kinds of snakes? 

Or E ] The backpack which has your basic essentials for traveling and hiking including solar flashlights that don't require batteries, lighters and matches, camping tent etc? 

This is why as Muslims we can identify ourselves as "Salafi" to make it clear that we are not with the misguided sects who take Allah's Laws lightly or do certain good deeds incorrectly. 

While no human is perfect, it is imperative to try our utmost to serve Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala in the way that He wants us to worship Him. How can that be achieved? By striving to patiently adhere to the teachings and tradition of the noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam while following how his companions/Sahabas RadhiAllahu 'anhum and the righteous predecessors (salaf) lived their lives to do what they could to stick to the Sunnah of the beloved Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam, without undue extremism and intentional negligence of our duties as Muslims.

~•~ 

📖 Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "I have left you with two matters which will never lead you astray, as long as you hold on to them: The Book of Allah and the Sunnah of His Prophet (Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam)."

Source: Al-Muwaṭṭa’ 1661

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Ibn Abdul Barr

📖 Al-‘Irbad Ibn Sariyah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam prayed with us one day. Then he SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam faced us and delivered an eloquent sermon that brought tears to our eyes and by it shook our hearts. It was said, "O Messenger of Allah, it is as if this is a farewell sermon. What do you instruct for us?" The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "I advise you to fear Allah, listen, and obey, even if an Abyssinian slave is put in charge of you. Whoever lives after me will see many conflicts. You must adhere to my Sunnah and the Sunnah of the righteous, guided successors. Hold firmly to it (to his Sunnah/tradition) as though biting with your molar teeth. Beware of newly invented matters, for every newly invented matter is an innovation (Bid'ah) and every innovation is misguidance."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4607

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna’ut

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "What comes over my nation will surely be what came over the children of Israel, step by step until if one of them fornicated with his mother, one from my nation would do the same. Verily, the children of Israel split into seventy-two sects and my nation will split into seventy-three sects. All of them will be in Hellfire except for one sect." They said, “Who are they, O Messenger of Allah?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Those who follow my way and my companions."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2641

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Albani  

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-what-it-means-to-be-muslim-and.html  

https://www.abukhadeejah.com/the-label-salafi-and-who-they-are-by-ibn-taymiyyah-ibn-abdul-wahhaab-ibn-baaz-al-albaanee-and-ibn-uthaimeen/

https://www.salafidvo.com/external-resources.html 

https://t.me/salafidvo

📚 Some of the English-speaking Salafi/Sunni speakers who call towards the Qur'an and Sunnah of the noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam. Try to research and listen to their lectures on YouTube attentively:

Abbas Abu Yahya

Abdul Hakeem Mitchell

Abdulillah Lahmami

Abu Adam Jameel Finch

Abu Hafsa Kashiff Khan

Abu Hakeem Bilal Davis

Abu Humayd Saalim

Abu Idrees

Abu Iyaad Amjad Rafiq

Abu Khadeejah Abdul Wahid

Abul Hasan Malik

Abu Muadh Taqweem Aslam

Abu Muhammad Al Maghribi

Abu Talha Dawud Burbank

Abu Uways

Anas Waters

Anwar Wright

Hamza Abdur Razzaq

Hassan Somali

Moosaa Richardson

Mustafa George

Raha Batts

Rasheed Barbee

Rayaan Barker

Sa'eed Rhana

Umar Quinn

Uways at-Taweel

🧾 List of Arabic-speaking scholars of today whose Islamic lectures we can benefit from:

- Imām Abdul-Aziz Ibn Bāz

- Imām Muhammad Nasiruddin al-Albani

- Imām Muhammad Ibn 'Uthaymīn

- Imām Muqbil bin Hādī Al-Wādi'i

- Imām Ahmad An-Najmī 

- Shaykh Sāleh Al-Fawzan

- Shaykh Hassan ibn 'Abdul-Wahhāb Marzooq Al-Bannā

- Shaykh Sālih Al-Luhaydān

- Shaykh 'Abdul-Muhsin Al-'Abbād

- Shaykh Rabi' ibn Hādī Al-Madkhalī

- Shaykh 'Ubayd Al-Jābiri

- Mufti Shaykh 'Abdul-'Azīz Āl-ush-Shaykh

- Shaykh Sālih Āl-ush-Shaykh

- Shaykh 'Abdullāh Al-Bukhari

Tips: Seven Things You Stop Doing When You've Become More Mature Emotionally

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📑 Seven things you stop doing when you've become more emotionally mature: 

1] You stop watching meaningless vlogs and nosily spying on the lives of people who have absolutely nothing to do with you. 

2] You stop arrogantly making fun of people for how they speak, dress and behave. If you're genuinely concerned about someone's welfare, you'd advise them one-on-one and avoid publicizing their mistakes. Rather than laughing when an individual errs and slips, you helpfully defend them or sympathize readily.

3] You stop insisting on winning every single debate. If you are unable to convince somebody to correct a misconceived notion or can't persuade them to do something which you believe can benefit them, you'd walk away from the childish squabble and futile drama.

4] You stop obliging yourself to verbalize every single feeling you have. With enough self-discipline, Alhamdulillah, you know when to speak up and when to keep certain thoughts undisclosed. 

5] You stop constantly comparing your overall progress in life as a Muslim to others' journeys. A person's competence in a particular field does not imply you're deficient or "not good enough". Instead of jealously competing with other individuals, you focus on appreciating and utilizing the blessings which Allah the Almighty chose to give you, to pass Allah's tests and thrive in both worlds. 

6] You stop expecting to be liked by every single living being you meet, understanding that humans have a right to select who they can socialize with willingly, just as it is your prerogative to maintain a connection or discontinue it justifiably.

7] You stop trying to prove to everybody on social media how much you're thriving financially. Regularly uploading photos of the meals and beverages you enjoy is something you don't do anymore, unless your niyyah/intention of posting the food pictures is to share an interesting recipe or promote a halal restaurant supportively.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Dharr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Fear Allah wherever you are, follow up a bad deed with a good deed and it will erase it, and behave well with good character towards the people."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1987

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to At-Tirmidhi 

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "I guarantee a house on the outskirts of Paradise for one who leaves arguments even if he is right, and a house in the middle of Paradise for one who abandons lies even when joking, and a house in the highest part of Paradise for one who makes his character excellent."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4800

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-what-it-means-to-be-mature.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-signs-of-immature-adults-what-it.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/09/note-what-to-do-when-youre-laughed-at.html