بسم الله. ربي زدني علما. امين

بسم الله. ربي زدني علما. امين
May Allah the Almighty grant us more beneficial knowledge, accept our good deeds, forgive our mistakes, protect us from fitna, and join us with the righteous believers in Jannatul Ferdaus. Ameen.

Tuesday, November 29, 2022

Tips: Don't Allow shaytan And These Eleven To Spoil Your Marriage

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

✅ If you truly love your husband for Allah's sake, never allow our archenemy shaytan and these eleven to spoil your marriage: 
1] Feeling dissatisfied that your marriage doesn't appear to be as "idealistic", romantic or visibly enjoyable as the marriages of your friends and colleagues. 
2] Unreasonably expecting your husband to never disappoint and offend you, as if he's not supposed to be human nor feel some emotions of his own. 
3] Arrogantly refusing to forgive your husband even if he has tried to apologize to you directly numerous times. A marriage between Muslim husband and wife/wives may not continue until Jannah Paradise if the ego/pride or kibr of one of them is bigger than the weight of all mountains on earth combined.  
4] Being unrealistically, unreasonably and inconsiderately overly demanding, wanting your other half to be "flawless" while you yourself are full of imperfections as well. 
5] Wrongly assuming that the main sign your husband loves you is if he consistently spoils you with full attention while striving to keep you satisfied by granting large allowance.
6] Stumbling upon or overhearing unpleasant news about couples breaking up and being tempted to jump on the lousy bandwagon. "Lots of mismatched lovers splitting up? Looks like a trend I need to try. It's okay... someday somehow I can find a more deserving guy." Wrong. Marry another man and he may be even worse than the one you left, or choose to remain separated while struggling with deep-seated regret.
7] Letting yourself lose that easily to the devastating effects of witchcraft or sorcery which some awfully envious outsiders may have carried out against you and your husband. 
8] Ignorantly denying the fact that it is lawful for men in Islam to be married to up to four wives, without requiring straightforward permission from the former wife/wives to remarry, as long as the Muslim man is financially capable to sustain a big family and agrees to strive to care for his multiple wives as fairly as he can for Allah's sake.
9] Unattractive tendency to feel defeated by jealousy, frequently mistrusting your spouse and irrationally misinterpreting your husband's polite manners towards other females as "cheating" or "disloyalty". 
10] Not being strong enough to control your fluctuating feelings for certain individuals and stupidly fantasizing how they could satisfy you a lot more than your husband can. 
11] Idiotically obsessing over so-called romance films and pathetically wishing your love story were exactly similar to one of them, not staying contented with the halal love journey which Allah the Most Loving wisely designed for you.
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📖 Thawban RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whenever a woman asks her husband for a divorce without a strong reason, the fragrance of Paradise becomes forbidden for her."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 2226
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut
📖 Jabir RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, shaytan places his throne over the water and he sends out his troops. The closest to him in rank are the greatest at causing tribulations. One of them says: 'I have done this and this.' shaytan says: 'you have done nothing.' Another one says: 'I did not leave this man alone until I separated him from his wife.' shaytan embraces him and he says: 'you have done well!'"
Source: Sahih Muslim 2813
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

Sunday, November 27, 2022

Note: Some INTJ's Thoughts On INFJs And ENFJs

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

🗒️ Question: As an INTJ-A personality type, what do you like and dislike about INFJs and ENFJs? How do you differentiate between those two personality types? 
📝 Answer: 🔸What I like or admire about most INFJs: 
•¶ Their overall quiet confidence, if they're not struggling with low self-esteem. 
•¶ Their ability to compassionately see people's good side and give plenty of excuses to those who behave questionably or inappropriately.
•¶ How a lot of INFJs are capable of having understanding, empathy and patience towards INTJs much more than other MBTI personality types can, particularly if they have numerous goals and interests in common. 
❎ What I dislike about some INFJs: 
¶• When they oftentimes say yes to somebody asking for a favor while it is more advantageous if the INFJ said no, and when they refuse to do something just to maintain "group harmony".
¶• When sometimes they can't provide you with immediate solutions or frank advice which can be put into action, anticipating your "satisfaction" with the fact that at least they attentively listened to you describe a problem.
🔹What I like or admire about many ENFJs: 
•¶ How it seems easy for most ENFJs to conduct regular gatherings and speak confidently to a large audience.
•¶ Their generosity and love for sharing what they have a surplus of.
•¶ Their intuitiveness and frequent accuracy in determining people's actual emotions, a skill granted by Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala if they're Muslim and not insecure. For instance, if they can sense that something makes you uncomfortable, they purposely avoid mentioning that thing or placing you anywhere near it as much as possible.
❎ What I dislike about some ENFJs: 
¶• When some ENFJs would assume you're "unhappy" or "lonesome" upon witnessing that you're not part of any clique or they feel sorry for you if it's obvious that you don't socialize a lot.
¶• When they side with the majority or crowd at times just to avoid conflict.
📑 How to distinguish ENFJs from INFJs: 
•|° INFJs, because they're introverts like INTJs, would be more carefully selective regarding their choice of close friends and/or more reclusive, reserved and mysterious than ENFJs. 
•|° Some ENFJs are more likely to give unsolicited advice than INFJs. 
INFJs may offer tips only after you've politely requested them to advise you.
•|° Most ENFJs could get lonely if they haven't had meaningful conversations with loved ones in a long time. After several interactions with people online and offline, most INFJs would require some rest or quiet solitude to feel reenergized. 
•|° Usually if they regard you as a very close friend, an ENFJ would try to persuade you to join them for a group outing, while an INFJ would give you lots of space and not make it a big deal if you are unable to always meet up with them.
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📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe (not guilty of backbiting, telling lies, and deliberately committing injustice). The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. By the One (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."
Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515 
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut
📖 Abu Dharr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Fear Allah wherever you are, follow a bad deed with a good deed and it will erase it, and behave well with good character towards the people."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1987
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to At-Tirmidhi 
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Note: Some Of INTJ's Thoughts On INFPs And ISFPs

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

🗒️ Question: As an INTJ-A personality type, what do you like and dislike about most ISFPs and INFPs? How do you differentiate between those two personality types? 
What are some of the things you'd usually do if you were close friends with an ISFP or INFP?
📝 Answer: 🔸What I like or admire about most INFPs: 
•¶ How a lot of them can be very open-minded, far away from being obnoxiously judgmental (if they're not struggling with jealousy and low self-esteem).
•¶ Their willingness to fight for others' rights and defend those whom they truly care about. 
•¶ How many INFPs don't focus too much on the way people perceive them as long as they believe they're doing what they value. 
❎ What I dislike about some INFPs: 
¶• When they're too oversensitive and misunderstand your actual motives behind asking them certain questions. 
¶• When some of them prove to be unreliable, somewhat forgetful regarding important matters and clumsy at times. 
🔹What I like or admire about some ISFPs: 
•¶ How creative and artistic many of them can be.
•¶ Their spontaneity and ability to be flexible sometimes. 
•¶ Their agility and capability of doing numerous tasks quickly - but only if they're in the mood to do them willingly.
❎ What I dislike about some ISFPs: 
¶• Their tendency to be stubborn at times regarding unreasonable demands or irrational choices. How a lot of them would do something just because they "feel like doing it" without understanding really why they're doing that thing. 
¶• When some of them would act unsupportive, uncooperative or cowardly passive-aggressive if you did something in the past which offended their sensitive feelings. 
📑 How to distinguish ISFPs from INFPs: 
•|° ISFPs are generally more observant and better at noticing little details than INFPs. 
•|° INFPs in general are more open-minded and receptive to different ideas, constructive feedback and eccentric thoughts etc. than ISFPs.
•|° Because many INFPs aren't always aware of their surroundings and not overly concerned with their overall appearance, you're more likely to meet an INFP wearing their shirt or outfit inside out while most ISFPs appear to be more neatly dressed or well put together.
•|° Quality time with an INFP could involve long and meaningful conversations which encourage them to reflect on their values and emotions. Quality time with an ISFP would likely consist of doing fun, adventurous or new activities outdoors... or indoors depending on their current moods. 
✅ From the things which I (INTJ) may do to indicate that I regard an INFP or ISFP as a friend: 
1] Regularly go out of my way, online and face to face, to check how they're doing and attentively listen to them rant or describe how they're currently feeling, then offer some words which are hopefully reassuring. 
2] Lovingly include them in my Du'as, whether or not I inform them that I pray for their well-being often. 
3] Frequently visit their social media accounts, pages, websites, blogs or YouTube channel(s) at least once every three months or so. 
4] Eagerly request for some advice or feedback from them when necessary. 
5] Prolong dialogues with them online and offline, and ask them random questions about themselves to be more acquainted with them instead of relying on my own assumptions about them.
6] Occasionally support their halal businesses or hobby if they have one. 
7] Directly approach them and advise them if I know that they've made an error, instead of letting them sabotage themselves through ignorance or continuity of carrying out the same mistakes. 
~•~
📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe (not guilty of backbiting, telling lies, and deliberately committing injustice). The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. By the One (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."
Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515 
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut
📖 Abu Dharr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Fear Allah wherever you are, follow a bad deed with a good deed and it will erase it, and behave well with good character towards the people."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1987
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to At-Tirmidhi 

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Saturday, November 26, 2022

Note: Can INTJ Personality Types Be Talkative?

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

🗒️ Question: As an INTJ-A personality type, how often are you talkative?
📝 Answer: I recall a Palestinian friend back in Riyadh city Saudi Arabia telling me, while I was writing some notes in the classroom, something like "I wish you spoke more as much as you write" or "MashaAllah. You write a lot. I wish you talked more, Mariam." and at a different school (Manaraat Ar-Riyadh) I remember one seemingly extroverted classmate jokingly complaining, when she was instructed to change seats, about how it'd be incredibly boring to sit between me and another girl since she and I were both silent most of the time. 
Nowadays if it seems to some individuals that I'm "talkative", it would be due to the fact I'm asking several questions to gather information from those who I am talking to, either because I'm genuinely interested in getting to know them at a deeper level, instead of sticking to my own assumptions about them, or I'm trying to evaluate how authentic and relatable they are so I could
Inn-sha-Allah consider building a connection with them that's hopefully worthwhile. 
🚫 From the factors which would cause me to seem quiet, distant and aloof: 
1] If the person who is speaking with me is somebody whom I regard as untrustworthy and unreliable. It can be difficult to think of what to say, besides asking them "how are you?" and commenting on the weather, when I'm around individuals who can't be trusted. 
2] If there's at least one individual at a gathering, outing or meeting whom I despise for Allah's sake, or whose vibes bring discomfort, or they're not a mahram and there's an obvious language barrier. For example, Alhamdulillah I can be rather chatty with my dear husband, but if we're traveling to a faraway destination say from one city to another, and at the front next to the seat where my husband is driving happens to be one of his male cousins or colleagues, I would refrain from chatting unless there's a necessity to speak or ask questions. 
3] If it is clear that the individuals who are talking to me enjoy gossip and discussing people's personal issues, I would be extra cautious regarding the kind of info I'd share with them.
4] If I'm preoccupied with multiple tasks and busy doing what I can to complete a number of projects etc. I would minimize small talk and unnecessary interactions, particularly with those who aren't close to me.
5] If there's too much noise and/or there are many distractions at a social event, I would appear mostly quiet and use my cellphone a lot more frequently than initiating vague, incomprehensible or regularly interrupted dialogues. 
6] Sharing positive feedback or going out of my way to compliment someone isn't something I would do enthusiastically if I dislike a particular individual (for Allah's sake and with valid reasons) or what they're wearing or doing doesn't really intrigue me. 
7] If I can sense that the person interacting with me is awfully insecure and has a tendency to get all jealous of others' lives, I would avoid prolonging conversations with them as much as possible. 
✅ At times I may put effort in keeping a conversation going and asking a person lots of questions with concern and genuine curiosity: 
🔹 ...if I can tell that the individual whom I'm talking to feels at ease in my presence as much as I feel safe near them, which very seldom occurs.
🔹 ...if I truly care about them for Allah's sake while busyness doesn't prevent me from wanting to talk to them longer. 
🔹 ...if we're in an area that isn't too noisy, say at a cozy halal restaurant, and none of the individuals who I'm meeting up with that time is someone who gives off bad energy (from feeling envious, doubting my intentions, or consistently reminding me of the mistake they did which they didn't straightforwardly apologize for etc.).
~•~
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him speak goodness or remain silent. Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him honor his neighbor. Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him honor his guest."
In another narration, the Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Let him not harm his neighbor."
And in another narration, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Let him uphold family ties."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5672
Sahih Muslim 47
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

Friday, November 25, 2022

Tips: Advice From An INTJ On How To Not Feel Offended Easily

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Some advice from an INTJ personality type on how to remain unaffected, unfazed and indifferent when you overhear several individuals talking badly about you while walking past them: 
1] If the negative remarks you overheard are accurate or there is an ounce of truth in them such as "bossy monster incoming", "nasty lady" or "eww, I hate that person a lot", with confidence embrace the current facts sarcastically, use their cowardly passive-aggressive feedback to strengthen your personality, and inwardly laugh at how pathetic, immature and unhappy they are in reality. Their gigantic load of unresolved problems and ugly insecurities could explain why they felt so desperate to offend you indirectly so they can feel less ignorant, less inadequate and less threatened all because of jealousy.
A fictional donkey may loudly whine about how falcons and eagles are terrible vertebrates just to distract itself from its debilitating distress regarding inability to fly. An individual who frequently opens their big mouth to criticize you as you pass by is likely emotionally wounded and struggling with self-hatred from inside.
2] If what they said is an absolute lie or can't describe you accurately, for instance they perceive you as "arrogant", a "greedy golddigger" or "dyke in denial", then simply say this to yourself "Whatever. They obviously don't know me, and I do not care at all about them nor their absurdities. They're full of lies, lies upon lies, on top of lies." 
If you were a self-assured lion, you wouldn't take it personally if a tiny ant or annoying mosquito labels you "bumblebee". 
The stronger your trust is in Allah the Almighty and the more you're blessed with self-awareness and self-esteem, the less prone you are in feeling offended easily. 
3] Wholeheartedly supplicate to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala against those who treated you unpleasantly, especially if you believe that their nonsense was uncalled-for and presented unjustly. 
Inn-sha-Allah you can witness Allah's Justice taking place at the timing that's most ideal. 
4] Ingeniously twist the way you view their supposed insults. If someone described you as "stupid", imagine that word being an abbreviation for "Smartly Trying to Understand People and Interested in Development". Admit that while you occasionally make mistakes, you gladly learn from your errors and others' faults. 
If by some strangers you're perceived as "too selfish, boring and self-centered", realize that they could be stating those to catch your attention which they probably lacked when they were younger, and their parents did an awful job at educating them about the importance of good manners.
5] You're welcome to confront them regarding their obnoxious acts only if you believe that they're intelligent enough to not misinterpret your self-respect and there is more likelihood that the majority of the people in your environment would take your side instead of perceiving you as the bully. Confidently walk away from invitations to partake in pointless drama and stubbornly ignore the mockery of toxic individuals if doing so is wiser and more effective in avoiding fitna. 
~•~
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said:
"The supplications of three persons are never turned away (not rejected): A fasting person until he breaks his fast, a just ruler, and the supplication of the oppressed which is raised by Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) above the clouds, the gates of Paradise are opened for it, and Allah the Almighty says: 'By My Might and Majesty, I will help you in due time.'"
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 3598 Grade: Sahih
Umar Ibn Al-Khattab RadhiAllahu 'anhu said:
"Beware of the supplication of the oppressed (Du'a against the oppressive person), for the supplication of the oppressed is answered."
Source: Al-Muwaṭṭa 1890 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: 'Allah has decreed what He wills.' Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2664
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
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