Note: Researching About Monkeys More Interesting Than Befriending Fake People

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Question: As a Muslimah whose MBTI personality type is INTJ-A, are you okay with being incredibly picky when it comes to your choice of close friends? What are some negative characteristics of people whom you are not interested in befriending so they're only strangers to you while much more interesting than chatting with them is researching about chickens and monkeys? 

📑 Answer: Alhamdulillah, yes, I tend to be very choosy regarding my selection of close friends, and I don't feel ashamed to state that my actual friends are not that many. 

❎ From the negative characteristics of people who remain to me as mere strangers or acquaintances whose personal lives (and absolute lies) don't intrigue me at all:

1. They (as well as their child or children) generally display bad manners that even stationary or sleeping donkeys appear more well-bred than them. 

2. They frequently don't answer your salaams/greetings and often leave your online messages on "seen". They usually behave towards you according to their insecurities and unreliable emotions. 

3. They have an ugly tendency to act passive-aggressive and seem to enjoy proving how awfully immature they are through gossiping regularly (addicted to backbiting about you and/or others cowardly). 

4. It's obvious they have zero interest in learning more about Islam or they find seeking Islamic knowledge "tedious" or "tiring".

5. They're overly sensitive or overdramatic narcissists who can't welcome frank feedback and constructive criticism. 

6. They've undeniably lied to you on purpose more than twice.

7. They are terrible at inviting you to gatherings and beneficial conferences. They consistently exclude you from joining them in attending certain events either because they're intensely envious of you and your confident personality intimidates them or they don't regard you as part of their circle in which case you should likewise view them as a mere stranger and stay unfazed by whatever they do and say.

~•~

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah (The Almighty), hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is not stung twice from the same hole."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5782

Sahih Muslim 2998

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abu Sa'eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Keep only a (true) believer for a companion and let only a righteous person eat your food."

At-Tirmidhi and Abu Dawud

Reference: Riyaad As-Salihin 366

In-book reference: Introduction, Hadith 366

https://abukhadeejah.com/only-true-friends-and-righteous-companions-will-benefit-you/

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/note-how-most-intj-personality-types.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/tips-intj-acquaintance-vs-intj-friend.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/note-choosiness-of-most-intjs-when-it.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/08/tips-intj-courtesy-vs-companionship.html

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2023/01/tips-seven-things-you-can-do-to-succeed.html 

Poem: People's Selfies Aren't Proofs They're Happy Inwardly

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ That guy displayed on those photos chilling with his friends

May be struggling with debts or severe depression. 

Those females who flaunt their items bought and appearance

Could be insecure or were neglected as children. 

People's online posts aren't proofs of true contentment.

~•~

Foodies who post pics of meals enjoyed at restaurants, 

While they don't intend to support another Muslim, 

But to show off their affluence or stable income

Probably feel unhappy and empty from within, 

Likely guilty they're lacking something more important.

~•~

Don't judge a person's joy level based on the content 

They chose to broadcast. Those who are truly confident

And secure do not oblige themselves to be frequent

In updating the world with photos of where they went 

As if people's views are crucial for self-fulfilment.

~•~

No need for photos of whereabouts as a Muslim 

If your intention isn't helpful nor rewarding. 

And while browsing around some social media platforms, 

Know that we mustn't compare our lives to people's posts. 

Not everything which brings delight should be shown or told.

~•~

📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "You must be truthful. Verily, truthfulness leads to righteousness and righteousness leads to Paradise. A man continues to be truthful and encourages honesty until he is recorded with Allah (The Almighty) as a truthful person. And beware of falsehood. Verily, falsehood leads to wickedness and wickedness leads to the Hellfire. A man continues to tell lies and encourages falsehood until he is recorded with Allah as a liar."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhāri 5743 

Sahih Muslim 2607

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Ibn Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "When Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) gathers together the earlier and later generations on the Day of Resurrection, He (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) will raise a banner for every (betrayer) treacherous person. It will be announced that this is the treachery of this person, the son of this person."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5823

Sahih Muslim 1735

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

https://www.salafisounds.com/be-truthful-keep-away-from-lying-by-abu-khadeejah/

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/01/tips-negative-qualities-which-many.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/note-signs-of-trustworthy-people.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/08/poem-dont-be-from-two-faced-hypocrites.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/08/note-eleven-things-to-do-to-avoid.html 

Note: Some Reminders | Ramadan Planner PDF

Never get too comfy on earth that we forget our duties to Allah & destination Jannah.

Peace is also found in detaching from dunya.

Our intention to fast isn't to lose weight nor as a custom. We fast to obey Allah's Order to fast in Ramadan as obedient Muslims.

Ramadan isn't for celebrating greed/gluttony. Fasting trains us to increase in Taqwa, self-discipline & willingness to do charity.

📑 Ramadan planner and Qur'an reading schedule (pdf document for free):

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1DctF-0MbCL0S6b0f489XN4JIP6_nktD6/view?usp=drivesdk

🗂️ Ramadan planner and Qur'an reading schedule for Muslim children and beginners (PDF document for free):

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1j7sMHjd3_2MWSc-mbkGfbzadsRZkNzIr/view?usp=sharing

Note: List Of Notable Qualities Of An Ideal Muslim Husband In My Opinion

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Question: If you had the opportunity to choose any man you could have as your husband, what qualities would he need to portray so he becomes an ideal spouse/soulmate for you? What characteristics are required for a guy to be a suitable partner?

📝 Answer: Alhamdulillah I've been married since the age of twenty and was engaged to marry in my teenage years. If ever my dear husband asked for a divorce, I'd still want him back, stubbornly reject marriage proposals from other males and patiently wait for him (even if it takes so many years) to ask for a remarriage. 

If I were single, I'd require the following qualities for a Muslim man to be an ideal spouse/soulmate: 

1✅ Sincerely striving to be upon the right 'Aqeedah belief according to the understanding of the pious predecessors/salaf and Sahaaba RadhiAllahu 'anhum.

2✅ Being good friends with my dear parents (Allah yarhamhuma. Ameen.) and my siblings. I would never want to marry an insecure man-child who has a problem with any member of my family (from both sides maternal and paternal).

3✅ Being family-oriented and being known for their good character, supporting their loved ones and relatives in what is lawful Alhamdulillah. And preferably they do not smoke.

4✅ Earning halal income with a notable job while he doesn't work in a bank dealing with ribaa / usury / interest.

5✅ He actually had the courage to approach both my brothers to ask for my hand in marriage.

6✅ He supports Islamic education and has nothing against teaching as a profession. 

7✅ He and I can understand each other well, Alhamdulillah, there's no language barrier.

8✅ He fears Only Allah the Almighty, displays admirable confidence and doesn't struggle from social anxiety. A guy who regularly claims he's too "shy" or "scared" to do something isn't attractive at all.

9✅ He is charismatic with children and can rightfully be described as caring and very fatherly. 

10✅ He takes care of his beard. He's not one of those boys who prefer to look too babyfaced and clean-shaven. He understands what it actually means to be mature and masculine.

11✅ He owns and drives his own vehicle, while being a competent and careful driver (one of the must-haves for an ideal Muslim husband in my opinion).

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "The most complete of believers in faith are those with the best character, and the best of you are the best in behavior to their women."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1162

Grade: Sahih 

Al-Albani  

📖 Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: I said, “O Messenger of Allah, should women be asked for their consent (permission) before marriage?” The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Yes." I said, “Indeed, sometimes a virgin is too shy to speak when asked.” The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Her silence (not refusing nor complaining) is her consent (sign that she accepts the marriage proposal)."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6547

Sahih Muslim 1420

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Suhayb RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Amazing is the affair of the believer, as there is good for him in every matter. This is not the case for anyone but for the believer. If he goes through ease (or happy moments), he thanks Allah and it is good for him. If he goes through difficulty, he shows patience and it is good for him."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2999

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

https://abukhadeejah.com/characteristics-of-a-righteous-wife-in-light-of-the-quran-and-sunnah-part-1/

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/01/poem-dear-husband-although-im-not.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/10/note-prayed-salat-al-istikhaara-then.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/09/poem-i-believe-that-my-husband-was.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/07/tips-if-youre-single-and-interested-in.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/note-three-tips-for-single-muslimahs-on.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2023/02/tips-advice-on-how-to-tell-if-youve.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/10/tips-some-advice-on-how-to-solve.html 

Poem: When An INTJ Isn't Interested Anymore In Developing The "Friendship"

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📝 When I, as an INTJ, knows you're not worth it - 

Not worth talking about because you can't be trusted, 

When I decide to dislike you, quit building friendship, 

I won't waste my time indulging in childish gossip. 

Instead, I'll avoid you like a deflecting magnet.

~•~

When I despise you for Allah's sake, I won't grant it - 

My full attention, curiosity or interest 

In getting to learn more about your past, how you live, 

And your future goals - I'd be more uninterested

Than staunch non-smokers who refuse to touch cigarettes.

~•~

If there's a program, I won't witness ridiculous

Acting. My attentiveness and support - don't expect

Them if I conclude you can no longer be trusted.

Don't expect me to stalk your Facebook profile, pages 

And vids. I reject content that's false and pathetic.

~•~

You're like an ad on YouTube which I would gladly skip, 

Like dead leaves which busy tourists won't pause for and pick, 

Or a book I check randomly and my thoughts on it 

Are: "these phrases don't make sense.", "the title is stupid.", 

And "I won't bother reading the rest of its pages.".

~•~

Now please don't describe me as "pretentious" nor "snobbish". 

When it comes to choosing friends I tend to be cautious 

And selective so my faith/Imaan is safeguarded, 

And so I don't earn people's sins accumulated

Through lame talks with real liars and experts at gossip.

~•~

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah (The Almighty), hates for the sake of Allah ,(Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala), gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe (not guilty of backbiting, knowingly telling lies, lying about themselves, and deliberately committing injustice). The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. 

By the One (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/note-how-most-intj-personality-types.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2023/01/note-why-many-intjs-and-infjs-dont-have.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/01/tips-intjs-when-they-like-you-in.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/10/note-how-most-intj-personality-types.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/11/note-busy-intjs-vs-avoidant-intjs.html 

https://abukhadeejah.com/only-true-friends-and-righteous-companions-will-benefit-you/

✅ Some MBTI tests which you can try taking online to discover more about yourself and other personality types:

https://www.16personalities.com/free-personality-test

http://www.michaelcaloz.com/personality/

https://www.humanmetrics.com/personality/test

https://sakinorva.net/functions?lang=ar (in Arabic language)

https://sakinorva.net/functions 

https://openpsychometrics.org/tests/OEJTS/

https://www.123test.com/jung-personality-test/

https://personalitymax.com/personality-test/

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