💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 One of the ways to ensure the wellness of your emotional and mental well-being is to avoid toxic users on social media. You have every right to unfollow or unfriend a user whose status updates make you doubt your self-worth, feel awful about an insecurity you're struggling with, or distract you from your goal of striving to be a better Muslim.
The definition of "toxic" isn't exactly the same for everybody. What you're emotionally allergic to may be considered as tolerable or essential for someone else, just as what they can't tolerate is something you find valuable and helpful. In my case Alhamdulillah I've had to unfollow and/or delete a number of users who post passive-aggressive status updates, whiny rants, and mostly negative news. Scrolling through their timelines gives me the sense of being around an insecure individual who enjoys cowardly gossiping, backbiting and counting others' mistakes whilst they forget their own errors and imperfections. I'd rather have my faith/Imaan levels increase by regularly reading Islamic reminders and beneficial messages than throw away each second browsing around selfies and gossipy status updates aimlessly.
If you feel anxious before you intend to check a user's timeline, worried you may encounter a status update that is indirectly referring to you or somebody you know in a hurtful manner so it negatively affects your mood, unapologetically unfollow them or unfriend them yet maintain basic courtesy if ever you bump into each other offline or spot their name on a mutual friend's platform.
The type of people you choose to surround can hugely impact your overall behavior and beliefs. The more you chill with your preferred group of friends or the more you expose yourself to certain users on Facebook, the more you acquire their prominent traits such as their enthusiasm to learn more about Islam, courage to defend the truth, eagerness to do charity for Allah's sake, ability to express oneself creatively when being creative can come in handy, or being disciplined in staying silent during times of fitna and speaking only when necessary.
📖 Asma’ bint Yazid RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Shall I not tell you about the best of you?" They said, “Of course.” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Those who, if they are seen, they remind you of Allah. Shall I not tell you about the worst of you?" They said, “Of course.” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Those who carry gossip and ruin relations between loved ones, seeking misery for the innocent."
Source: Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 321
Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Qatadah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa said, "Verily, you will never leave anything for the sake of Allah the Almighty but that Allah will replace it with something better."
Source: Musnad Ahmed 22565
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhī 2378
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi
Islamic reminders, Hadith, notes, poems, poetry, lessons, reflections etc.
بسم الله. ربي زدني علما. امين
May Allah the Almighty grant us more beneficial knowledge, accept our good deeds, forgive our mistakes, protect us from fitna, and join us with the righteous believers in Jannatul Ferdaus. Ameen.
Friday, June 5, 2020
Hadith: Virtues Of Loving For Allah's Sake
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Love whom you love in moderation, perhaps he will become hateful to you someday. Hate whom you hate in moderation, perhaps he will become your beloved friend someday.”
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhī 1997
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah will say on the Day of Resurrection: 'Where are those who love each other for the sake of My Glory? Today, I will shelter them in My Shade on a day when there is no shade but Mine.'"
Source: Sahih Muslim 2566
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "You will not enter Paradise until you have faith and you will not have faith until you love each other. Shall I show you something that, if you did, you would love each other? Spread peace (salaam) between yourselves."
Source: Sahih Muslim 54
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
📖 Al-Miqdam ibn Ma’di RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam, "When one of you loves his brother, let him know."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhī 2392
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Suyuti
📖 Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "No Muslim servant supplicates for his brother behind his back but that the angel says: 'And for you the same.'"
Source: Sahih Muslim 2732
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhī 1997
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah will say on the Day of Resurrection: 'Where are those who love each other for the sake of My Glory? Today, I will shelter them in My Shade on a day when there is no shade but Mine.'"
Source: Sahih Muslim 2566
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "You will not enter Paradise until you have faith and you will not have faith until you love each other. Shall I show you something that, if you did, you would love each other? Spread peace (salaam) between yourselves."
Source: Sahih Muslim 54
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
📖 Al-Miqdam ibn Ma’di RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam, "When one of you loves his brother, let him know."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhī 2392
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Suyuti
📖 Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "No Muslim servant supplicates for his brother behind his back but that the angel says: 'And for you the same.'"
Source: Sahih Muslim 2732
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
Thursday, June 4, 2020
Note: Words Of Comfort To Adult Orphans
💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 It can be really sad and disheartening to see your mother or father in a dream and upon waking up you realize they're not in your present life anymore. You no longer hear the angry yet caring scoldings of your father whenever he tried to correct your wrongs, or his inspiring talks at the dinner table when the family gathered together. You deeply miss the delicious dishes that your dear mother cooked with her tireless hands, her comforting advice that helped you in self-development and her warm concerns whenever she noticed you weren't feeling well. Each time you see an elderly person, you're reminded of how nice it would be if your parents were still alive so you can earn the immense rewards of sincerely respecting and taking care of them for Allah's sake.
Unpleasant guilt can often creep into those who feel as though they didn't serve their parents enough, who resent how they weren't able to say goodbye before their parents were buried, who experience depressive feelings when they recall how their parent/s couldn't attend their wedding or graduation ceremony, who cry at the thought of seeing their kids grow up without compassionate grandparents, and who become sadly nostalgic when they remember the memorable times they've had with the wonderful souls who brought them up well and educated them on Islam and good character.
🔹Tips on how to deal with feeling low or despondent as an adult orphan:
1] Remember that your parents, just as yourself and every other living being, belong to Allah the Almighty Who has the right to return whatever belongs to Him anytime. Patiently accept Allah's Qadr/Destiny instead of miserably wishing your parents lived a longer life.
2] Be grateful Alhamdulillah that you at least witnessed your parents raise you until your teenage years. A lot of children have to deal with the struggle of being orphaned at a very young age, many of them not knowing what it's like to receive the affection of a protective parent.
3] Feel contented and relieved to know that you are not like those disobedient children who sent their parents to an 'old age home' or 'senior care residence', expecting strangers to be caregivers of the people who raised them since they were born.
4] There have been numerous news in the past and cases where a teenager or adult was imprisoned for killing their parent/s over some worldly-related issue. I still can't forget that case when I was a teen back in Saudi Arabia where a young man shot his parents while they were sleeping just because they wouldn't give him enough freedom to enjoy life his own way. Be thankful you weren't that sort of burden to your parents.
5] Express gratitude to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala that your parents were not alcoholics, drug addicts, criminals, and intentionally abusive narcissists. Other kids around the world are frequently being neglected and abused by their misguided parents. Alhamdulillah you didn't go through such abuse.
6] Take opportunity to gain more rewards whenever you miss your mother and/or father to mention them in your loving Du'as, particularly when you're fasting or praying Tahajjud at night. Pray to Allah the Most Merciful that He forgives your parents, accepts their good deeds, protects them from entering Hell, increase the good deeds in their account through charity done on their behalf, and supplicate that Jannah Paradise is where you can finally reunite.
7] Demonstrate extra kindness and generosity towards orphans, especially young orphan Muslims. Being affectionate, helpful and endearing to them can compensate for whatever shortcoming you've had concerning your parents in the previous years. Let your parents' death pleasantly inspire you to be stronger through being more generous, kindhearted, tolerant, forgiving, and understanding towards others for the sake of Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala.
Note: Rather than uploading photos of your parents on social media and writing indirect letters to them which they can't read, you can honor them for Allah's sake by praying for them daily, doing charity or performing Hajj/'Umrah on their behalf, and by not willfully abandoning the people whom they cared about during their lifetime, steadfastly guiding their relatives to Islam and if possible encouraging them to be the best Muslims whom Allah wants us to be.
Today Jumuah Friday before Salat Al-Maghreb include your parents and the Muslim Ummah in your Du'as.
~*~
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah the Almighty will raise the status of His righteous servants in Paradise and they will say: 'O Allah, what is this?' Allah will say: 'This is due to your child seeking forgiveness for you.'"
Source: Musnad Ahmed 10232
Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Albani
💌 It can be really sad and disheartening to see your mother or father in a dream and upon waking up you realize they're not in your present life anymore. You no longer hear the angry yet caring scoldings of your father whenever he tried to correct your wrongs, or his inspiring talks at the dinner table when the family gathered together. You deeply miss the delicious dishes that your dear mother cooked with her tireless hands, her comforting advice that helped you in self-development and her warm concerns whenever she noticed you weren't feeling well. Each time you see an elderly person, you're reminded of how nice it would be if your parents were still alive so you can earn the immense rewards of sincerely respecting and taking care of them for Allah's sake.
Unpleasant guilt can often creep into those who feel as though they didn't serve their parents enough, who resent how they weren't able to say goodbye before their parents were buried, who experience depressive feelings when they recall how their parent/s couldn't attend their wedding or graduation ceremony, who cry at the thought of seeing their kids grow up without compassionate grandparents, and who become sadly nostalgic when they remember the memorable times they've had with the wonderful souls who brought them up well and educated them on Islam and good character.
🔹Tips on how to deal with feeling low or despondent as an adult orphan:
1] Remember that your parents, just as yourself and every other living being, belong to Allah the Almighty Who has the right to return whatever belongs to Him anytime. Patiently accept Allah's Qadr/Destiny instead of miserably wishing your parents lived a longer life.
2] Be grateful Alhamdulillah that you at least witnessed your parents raise you until your teenage years. A lot of children have to deal with the struggle of being orphaned at a very young age, many of them not knowing what it's like to receive the affection of a protective parent.
3] Feel contented and relieved to know that you are not like those disobedient children who sent their parents to an 'old age home' or 'senior care residence', expecting strangers to be caregivers of the people who raised them since they were born.
4] There have been numerous news in the past and cases where a teenager or adult was imprisoned for killing their parent/s over some worldly-related issue. I still can't forget that case when I was a teen back in Saudi Arabia where a young man shot his parents while they were sleeping just because they wouldn't give him enough freedom to enjoy life his own way. Be thankful you weren't that sort of burden to your parents.
5] Express gratitude to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala that your parents were not alcoholics, drug addicts, criminals, and intentionally abusive narcissists. Other kids around the world are frequently being neglected and abused by their misguided parents. Alhamdulillah you didn't go through such abuse.
6] Take opportunity to gain more rewards whenever you miss your mother and/or father to mention them in your loving Du'as, particularly when you're fasting or praying Tahajjud at night. Pray to Allah the Most Merciful that He forgives your parents, accepts their good deeds, protects them from entering Hell, increase the good deeds in their account through charity done on their behalf, and supplicate that Jannah Paradise is where you can finally reunite.
7] Demonstrate extra kindness and generosity towards orphans, especially young orphan Muslims. Being affectionate, helpful and endearing to them can compensate for whatever shortcoming you've had concerning your parents in the previous years. Let your parents' death pleasantly inspire you to be stronger through being more generous, kindhearted, tolerant, forgiving, and understanding towards others for the sake of Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala.
Note: Rather than uploading photos of your parents on social media and writing indirect letters to them which they can't read, you can honor them for Allah's sake by praying for them daily, doing charity or performing Hajj/'Umrah on their behalf, and by not willfully abandoning the people whom they cared about during their lifetime, steadfastly guiding their relatives to Islam and if possible encouraging them to be the best Muslims whom Allah wants us to be.
Today Jumuah Friday before Salat Al-Maghreb include your parents and the Muslim Ummah in your Du'as.
~*~
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah the Almighty will raise the status of His righteous servants in Paradise and they will say: 'O Allah, what is this?' Allah will say: 'This is due to your child seeking forgiveness for you.'"
Source: Musnad Ahmed 10232
Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Albani
Poem: Learn From Your Mistakes.
💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 As Allah's servants who are prone to err and forget,
As Allah's slaves who are likely to misinterpret,
Misjudge, misread, mistype, misspell, and be incorrect,
Our mistakes are for us to learn from, not stay upset.
~*~
A mistake is often the outcome of clumsiness,
Ignorance, hastiness, or lack of self-awareness.
When you make errors, instead of remaining distressed
Or ashamed, learn from the past and keep doing your best.
~*~
Regardless of how many wrongs you have committed,
Let every fault push you to decrease conceitedness,
Take blunders as reminders to increase humbleness,
And allow flaws to proclaim 'no human is perfect'.
~*~
If previously you showed some people foul disrespect,
If you've hurt someone before with statements offensive,
Behaved unfairly, was too passive or aggressive,
Be strong enough to reform, get yourself corrected.
~*~
When you should, say sorry and be apologetic.
Admit you were wrong. Don't self-destruct with injustice.
Attempt to be more mindful, extra deliberate,
And think twice before an act or you could regret it.
~*~
If ever your careless choices lead to long-term stress,
Cry to Allah about them on a prayer carpet,
Praying for Allah's Mercy and hoping He forgives,
Eager to improve and be more mature from your mess.
~*~
Say more Dhikr and do good to express thankfulness
To Allah and with His slaves be willing to assist.
Grow from each letdown, heartbreak, moment of awkwardness.
Patiently keep striving to pass dunya's short-lived tests.
~*~
📖 Anas ibn Malik RadhiAllahu ‘anhu narrated: Allah’s noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Deliberation is from Allah, and recklessness is from shaytan."
Source: Al-Sunan Al-Kubrá 18651
Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Albani
📖 Sahl ibn Sa’d RadhiAllahu ‘anhu narrated: Allah’s noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Clemency is from Allah and haste is from shaytan."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2012
Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Suyuti
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu ‘anhu narrated: Allah’s noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.’ Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills.” Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan.“
Source: Sahih Muslim 2664
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
💌 As Allah's servants who are prone to err and forget,
As Allah's slaves who are likely to misinterpret,
Misjudge, misread, mistype, misspell, and be incorrect,
Our mistakes are for us to learn from, not stay upset.
~*~
A mistake is often the outcome of clumsiness,
Ignorance, hastiness, or lack of self-awareness.
When you make errors, instead of remaining distressed
Or ashamed, learn from the past and keep doing your best.
~*~
Regardless of how many wrongs you have committed,
Let every fault push you to decrease conceitedness,
Take blunders as reminders to increase humbleness,
And allow flaws to proclaim 'no human is perfect'.
~*~
If previously you showed some people foul disrespect,
If you've hurt someone before with statements offensive,
Behaved unfairly, was too passive or aggressive,
Be strong enough to reform, get yourself corrected.
~*~
When you should, say sorry and be apologetic.
Admit you were wrong. Don't self-destruct with injustice.
Attempt to be more mindful, extra deliberate,
And think twice before an act or you could regret it.
~*~
If ever your careless choices lead to long-term stress,
Cry to Allah about them on a prayer carpet,
Praying for Allah's Mercy and hoping He forgives,
Eager to improve and be more mature from your mess.
~*~
Say more Dhikr and do good to express thankfulness
To Allah and with His slaves be willing to assist.
Grow from each letdown, heartbreak, moment of awkwardness.
Patiently keep striving to pass dunya's short-lived tests.
~*~
📖 Anas ibn Malik RadhiAllahu ‘anhu narrated: Allah’s noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Deliberation is from Allah, and recklessness is from shaytan."
Source: Al-Sunan Al-Kubrá 18651
Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Albani
📖 Sahl ibn Sa’d RadhiAllahu ‘anhu narrated: Allah’s noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Clemency is from Allah and haste is from shaytan."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2012
Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Suyuti
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu ‘anhu narrated: Allah’s noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.’ Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills.” Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan.“
Source: Sahih Muslim 2664
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
Note: The Eclipse Prayer
💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala knows best. According to some reports Inn-sha-Allah on Saturday June 6 there may be a lunar eclipse. It is Sunnah to pray two Rak'ahs of Salat Al-Kusoof (solar eclipse) / Al-Khusoof (lunar eclipse) reciting the Surahs in an audible voice when an eclipse is taking place.
Research on YouTube for the keywords "lunar eclipse 2020" or "June eclipse 2020" to watch some live broadcasts of the eclipse, and read more on how to perform the eclipse prayer.
You can Inn-sha-Allah continue fasting the six days of Shawwal or start with the 13th (which is tomorrow Friday), 14th (Saturday June 6) and 15th (Sunday June 7) of every month. What is discouraged is to fast on a Friday by itself without fasting a day before or after.
Include the Muslim Ummah in your Du'as.
📖 Al-Mughira ibn Shu’ba RadhiAllahu 'anhu narated: On the day the Prophet’s son Ibrahim died, the sun eclipsed and the people said the eclipse was because of the death of Ibrahim. The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “The sun and the moon are two signs among the signs of Allah and they do not eclipse because of the death or birth of any person. When you see them, call upon Allah and pray until the eclipse is clear.”
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 1012, Sahih Muslim 915
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
https://abdurrahman.org/2014/01/21/salat-ul-kusuf-eclipse-prayer/
"Do Not Belittle The Importance Of The Eclipse – Islamic reminder by brother Dawud Adib"
https://abdurrahman.org/2015/03/19/do-not-belittle-the-importance-of-the-eclipse-dawud-adib/
💌 Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala knows best. According to some reports Inn-sha-Allah on Saturday June 6 there may be a lunar eclipse. It is Sunnah to pray two Rak'ahs of Salat Al-Kusoof (solar eclipse) / Al-Khusoof (lunar eclipse) reciting the Surahs in an audible voice when an eclipse is taking place.
Research on YouTube for the keywords "lunar eclipse 2020" or "June eclipse 2020" to watch some live broadcasts of the eclipse, and read more on how to perform the eclipse prayer.
You can Inn-sha-Allah continue fasting the six days of Shawwal or start with the 13th (which is tomorrow Friday), 14th (Saturday June 6) and 15th (Sunday June 7) of every month. What is discouraged is to fast on a Friday by itself without fasting a day before or after.
Include the Muslim Ummah in your Du'as.
📖 Al-Mughira ibn Shu’ba RadhiAllahu 'anhu narated: On the day the Prophet’s son Ibrahim died, the sun eclipsed and the people said the eclipse was because of the death of Ibrahim. The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “The sun and the moon are two signs among the signs of Allah and they do not eclipse because of the death or birth of any person. When you see them, call upon Allah and pray until the eclipse is clear.”
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 1012, Sahih Muslim 915
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
https://abdurrahman.org/2014/01/21/salat-ul-kusuf-eclipse-prayer/
"Do Not Belittle The Importance Of The Eclipse – Islamic reminder by brother Dawud Adib"
https://abdurrahman.org/2015/03/19/do-not-belittle-the-importance-of-the-eclipse-dawud-adib/
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