Poem: What's It Like Being Muslim And An INTJ

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 What's it like being Muslim and an INTJ:
As an introvert who trusts Allah and keeps firm faith,
I'm not lonely when solo nor when friends are away.
Cancelled social events bring contentment, not dismay.
~•~
Solitude is sweet chance to browse and research online,
To say Du'a and Adhkaar as I rest and unwind.
It's a shelter from frenemies who lie and backbite.
Rumors and gossip are clearly nonsense I dislike.
~•~
Before deciding, I often reflect, "In what way
Can I benefit from this? In what ways do I gain?"
"Why?", "If I do this, then..." are some statements I would say,
And "What are the possible outcomes that could take place?"
~•~
Focused on the future, I've moved on from my past life.
An intuitive thinker, from those whom Allah guides,
It's easy to ditch those whose bad traits can't be denied.
Things I won't tolerate: Ignorance, envy and lies.
~•~
Numbers may regard me as a snob from my straight face,
Unaware that lousy jokes can't keep me entertained.
To others, I'm "arrogant" through truths and facts I state,
Not knowing that when I care, I correct their mistakes.
~•~
INTJs like to plan, arrange and organize,
Think of solutions, imagine, dream and visualize.
Summaries and outlines we prefer most of the time.
We tend to be efficient and read between the lines.
~•~
Deep inside we're not full of ourselves though it's displayed
And misjudged by those who don't know us besides our names.
Seeking knowledge and sharing it we appreciate.
To upgrade the world's condition, learn and educate.
~•~
Since INTJs are among the most rarest types,
Feeling like a strange outsider comes as no surprise.
A paradox with divergent qualities combined,
We react and speak only if doing so is wise.
~•~
Aware Allah's Wisdom outweighs what we speculate,
We strive to obey Allah's Laws and leave what He hates,
Praying for Allah's Guidance and Mercy night and day,
Grateful for Allah's Gifts, Alhamdulillah always.
~•~
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Hadith: Virtues Of Shedding Tears For Allah

📖 Mu’awiyah ibn Haydah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Three eyes will not see the Hellfire: an eye standing guard in the way of Allah, an eye weeping from fear of Allah, and an eye lowering its gaze from what Allah has forbidden."
Source: Al-Mu’jam Al-Kabīr 16375 
Grade: Sahih li ghayrihi (Authentic due to external evidence) according to Al-Albani
📖 Anas ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Paradise and Hellfire were shown to me and I have never seen such good or evil as I have today. If you knew what I know, you would laugh little and weep often."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2359 
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
📖 Anas ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam led us in prayer one day. The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam turned to us and he said, "O people, I am your leader. Do not precede me in bowing, prostration, standing, and turning. I see you in front of me and behind me." Then the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "By Him in Whose Hand is the soul of Muhammad, if you could see what I see then you would laugh less and weep more." They said, “O Messenger of Allah, what do you see?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "I see Paradise and Hellfire."
Source: Sahih Muslim 426 
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "There are seven whom Allah will shade on a day when there is no shade but His. They are a just ruler, a youth who grew up in the worship of Allah, one whose heart is attached to the mosques, two who love each other, meet each other, and depart from each other for the sake of Allah, a man who is tempted by a beautiful woman of high status but he rejects her, saying , ‘I fear Allah,’ one who spends in charity and conceals it such that his right hand does not know what his left hand has given, and one who remembered Allah in private and he wept."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 629 
Sahih Muslim 1031 
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

Hadith: Seek Refuge With Allah From The Grave's Torment

📖 Al-Baraa’ reported: Regarding the saying of Allah the Almighty, “Allah will keep firm those who had faith in the firm word, in the worldly life and in the Hereafter,” (Qur'an 14:27), the Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “It is in the grave when it is said to him: 'Who is your Rabb (Lord Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala)? What is your religion? Who is your Prophet?'"
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 3120
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to At-Tirmidhi
📖 Asma bint Abi Bakr RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “It has been revealed to me that you will be put to trial in the grave, similar to the trial of the false messiah (dajjaal). As for the believer or Muslim, he will say: 'The Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam came to us with clear evidence and we answered him and believed in him.' It will be said: 'Sleep in peace, for we knew you had conviction.' As for the hypocrite or the doubter, he will say: 'I do not know, for I heard people saying something and I repeated it.'”
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6857
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Bukhari
📖 Anas ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Seven deeds of a servant continue to be rewarded after his death while he is in his grave: knowledge to be learned, constructing a canal, digging a well, planting a date-palm tree, building a mosque, handing down a written copy of the Qur'an, and leaving a righteous child who seeks forgiveness for him after his death."
Source: Musnad Al-Bazzār 2773
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Suyuti
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: We were walking with the Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam when we passed by two graves. The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam stood over them and we stood with him. The color of his face changed until it was white like the sleeve of his shirt. We said, “What is wrong, O Prophet of Allah?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “You cannot hear what I hear.” We said, “What is that, O Prophet of Allah?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “These two men are being severely punished in their graves for a trivial matter.” We said, “What is that, O Prophet of Allah?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “One of them did not take care to keep his garments clean of urine. The other harmed people with his tongue, carrying gossip between them.”
Source: Sahih Ibn Hibban 831
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna’ut
📖 Anas ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Three things follow a deceased person. Two of them return and one remains. His family, his wealth, and his deeds follow him. His family and wealth return, but his deeds remain."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6149
Sahih Muslim 2960
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

🔹 Life of The Grave & The Hereafter - Abu Idrees Muhammad Khan
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Note: Ways To Answer Someone Who Calls You "Ugly"

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 Ways to answer someone who calls you "ugly", "pangit" or "not pretty":
1] Confidently respond with a clever comeback e.g. "I never hired you to be my personal assistant. Please do your job of being judgmental somewhere else.", "Congratulations. I see you learned a new word. Is 'ugly' relevant to your upbringing or personality?", or "Sorry, but I'm not a mirror. You can try checking your reflection with that glass or cellphone screen and confirm your "ugliness" there.'
2] Ask a rhetorical question so they realize their ignorance or idiocy e.g. "Have you heard about the story of Julaybib RadhiAllahu 'anhu and how the Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam cared about him in spite of his appearance?", "Do you get rich every time you say the word 'ugly' or are you saying that only because you have awfully low self-esteem?", "'Ugly'? Is that your nickname? Should I call you that from now on?", "No matter how many times you claim I'm 'ugly', my face is still prettier than your poop.", "And? What do you gain from being rude? Are you incredibly insecure that you're desperate to bring others down to feel better about yourself?", "Spell 'ugly'? U-g-l-y. Did you sign me up for a spelling bee or you wanted me to spell an adjective that describes your personality?", or "No, I don't sell 'uglies' here. My apologies."
3] Try to patiently walk away from the disrespectful person without saying anything. Distance yourself from toxic individuals who are in denial of their own flaws and imperfections.
Difficult people can be blessings in disguise when avoiding them is good training to stay away from sins, while your level of patience goes up so
Inn-sha-Allah you're among those worthy of Jannah Paradise.
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah does not look at your appearance or wealth, but rather He looks at your hearts and actions."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2564
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
📖 Abdullah Bin Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said:
"The Muslim is the one from whose tongue and hands the Muslims are safe."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 10 Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever wrongs his brother in his honor or anything else should resolve the matter today before it cannot be resolved with gold and silver coins. If he has good deeds to his credit, they will be taken from him according to the measure of his injustice. If he has no good deeds left, he will bear the evil deeds of the one he has oppressed."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 2317
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Bukhari

Note: Understanding Gender Roles

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 If a woman doesn't enjoy wearing makeup and she hates the color pink, would that make her manly? Would girls who excel at sports while they can lift heavy objects be guilty of being too masculine? What about guys who aren't athletic, instead of playing basketball or knowing martial arts they prefer to stay indoors either helping around the house with their wives or reading books? If a guy is generally soft-spoken and gentle, would he be considered "effeminate"?
'Uthman ibn 'Affaan RadhiAllahu 'anhu was known for his modest and soft kind of personality yet he was a courageous leader who, with Allah's Will, had an important role in preserving the copies of the Noble Qur'an.
Nusaybah bint Ka'b RadhiAllahu 'anha displayed admirable courage when she fiercely defended the Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam during the battle of Uhud, and yet she didn't lose her feminine instincts in being a loving mother and wife.
It is possible for males to still be men even if they don't demonstrate traits that are typically macho, and for females to maintain their femininity even if they aren't as girlish as stereotypical "high-maintenance ladies". That is on condition they don't purposely do something or refrain from certain things in order to imitate the opposite gender.
🔸 There are three ways to copy the opposite gender:
1] By wearing the outfits, styles and garments which are exclusively appropriate for their gender.
Example: When a man wears jewelry, a bra and mini-skirt, or when a woman cuts her hair really short, wearing a baggy t-shirt and jeans so it's hard to tell if she's female or not from a distance.
2] By deliberately following the behavior and mannerisms which are more suitable for the opposite gender.
Example: When a man rhythmically walks in a ladylike fashion, and when a boyish female sits slouching or with her legs spread apart in a way that is characteristic of most men's sitting position.
3] By intentionally doing the work or actions that are commonly expected from the opposite gender, until they forget the value of their own identity.
Example: When a guy chooses to pray at home because he's too shy to pray in the Masjid or he works as a beautician in a beauty parlor. Or when a woman is employed as a construction worker, while going to the gym on a daily basis, so her body is more muscular than that of her male relatives.
🔸 Real men in Islam vs. girly males:
1] Real men understand their duties and responsibilities to care for their womenfolk. Girly males always expect to be looked after by women, as if they're babies.
2] Real men let their beards grow. Girly males regularly shave their beards and take pride in having chins that are as smooth as a baby's bottom.
3] Real men strive to obey the beloved Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam, especially in not wearing gold and silk. Girly males fancy seeing themselves looking "fab" in silky robes, nail polish and gold accessories.
4] Real men are not overly emotional types. They're capable of maintaining patience with others, particularly with their wives. Girly males usually quarrel and argue with women. They habitually gossip, spread rumors and backbite.
5] A real man is naturally attracted to a female and he knows when to lower his gaze. A girly boy allows his eyes to wander around and he stares at women comfortably as if he is one of them.
🔸 Real women in Islam vs. mannish females:
1] Real women honor the special roles which Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala chose for them. They're not ones to insist they have a superior status than men nor do they believe it's okay to disrespect the husband anytime.
Mannish females behave as if they're entitled to scornfully overpower men whenever they like.
2] Real women wear the proper hijab for Allah's sake, valuing modesty and respecting Allah's Laws. Mannish females assume it's fine to go against what they've been commanded, letting their hair show like men do and to be more "liberal".
3] Real women don't go out excessively and they speak up only when necessary. Mannish females love competing with men and proving they have the abilities to do the exact same activities as they can.
4] Real women try their best to be dutiful, caring and respectful wives. Mannish females either completely disbelieve in the significance of marriage or they incorrectly think it's acceptable to neglect the husband whenever they desire.
5] A real woman is naturally attracted to a male and she knows when to lower her gaze. A mannish female checks out other women, staring at them intensely up and down like she's one of the boys. When around non-mahram males too, a mannish female doesn't control her gaze, because she forgot her identity as a striving Muslimah who for Allah's sake values modesty.
📖 Ibn 'Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: "The Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam cursed men who imitate women and women who imitate men."
In another narration, Ibn 'Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma said: "The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam cursed men who copy women and women who copy men.'
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6445
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Bukhari
📖 Abu Musa RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah the Almighty has made lawful silk and gold for the women of my nation, but He has forbidden them (gold and silk) for the men."
Source: Sunan An-Nasā’ī 5265
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Ibn 'Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Be different from the polytheists (disbelievers). Let the beard grow and trim the moustache.” Whenever Ibn Umar, may Allah be pleased with him, performed the Hajj or Umrah pilgrimage, he would grab hold of his beard and cut what was beyond his grasp.
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5553
Sahih Muslim 259
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi
(Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim