Poem: To My Ex Best Friend Wherever She May Be

 💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 To my ex "best friend", wherever she may be on earth,
Whether she stalks my social media accounts and lurks,
Or my posts are often stalked by a sister of hers,
Or she completely moved on and she can't read these words:
~•~
Here's a poem to you, which you've requested before,
When we were teens and there were shameful things we've explored,
Prior to that awful prank I did when I was bored,
So our hearts can fully rest with this written closure -
~•~
First of all, thank you for fun times which I can't deny,
For talking on the phone for hours and chatting online,
For the games we played and jokes you told to bring some smiles,
And for your efforts to reach out, listen, and invite.
~•~
As a number of years went by, we became close friends.
Our talks flowed smoothly, we could rant about anything.
Thought our friendship was stable until it got broken,
And though I said sorry, you remained unforgiving.
~•~
Funny how I form these lines and tears aren't falling,
Which shows I've moved on, and I'm not at all heartbroken.
Instead I'm grateful, ex-friend, for all the learned lessons,
And contented with whatever Allah has destined.
~•~
Lost friendships remind me "Dunya is not permanent",
Teach "freedom is found in leaving human attachments,
While trusting Only Allah for inner contentment",
And "rejections direct us to enhancing patience".
~•~
Now each time I meet new souls, I recall they won't last
As friends if we're too attached and far from Allah's Love.
Thus I love just moderately so hearts won't get lost,
Praying for better reunion in Jannah above.
~•~
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Love whom you love moderately, perhaps he will become hateful to you someday. Hate whom you hate moderately, perhaps he will become your beloved friend someday."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1997
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are troops collected together. They come close upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109
Sahih Muslim 2638
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
Al-Nawawi said, “When bodies meet in the world, they come together or differ according to how they were created. The righteous will incline to the righteous, and the evil will incline to the evil.”
Source: Sharh Al-Nawawī ‘alá Sahih Muslim 2638
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu ‘anhu narrated: Allah’s noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.’ Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills.” Verily, the  phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan.“
Source: Sahih Muslim 2664
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

Note: Some Things You Can Relate To If You Are An INTJ

 💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Eleven things you can relate to if you have an INTJ personality type:

1] When attending a meeting, lecture or symposium, you prefer to sit far away from seemingly talkative individuals so you wouldn't have to partake in their needless gossip, or you take a seat closest to the speaker so you can focus on them more clearly, with an aim to learn something new instead of practicing sociability.

2] Reading, researching and gathering information you deem intriguing or useful are activities you enjoy doing in your free time.

3] One of the signs that indicate you're willing to connect with someone as a friend or partner is your eagerness to learn more about them. So during conversations, some people feel as though you're interviewing them for a job application.

4] Cats and other furry animals or young children usually gravitate to you, while some adults around your age may find you "unapproachable", "intense", "intimidating", "pretentious" or "unrelatable". 

5] You're generally quiet when surrounded by people whom you can't relate to. Often you're found reading a book, using your cellphone, or staring intently at the ground, signalling you're too preoccupied to engage in trivial dialogues.

6] While some unjustly perceive your dedication to disseminate knowledge as "arrogance", correcting someone's errors or informing them about something important is your style of demonstrating generosity, helpfulness and compassion.

7] With your gut instincts or intuition given to you by Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, you oftentimes guess correctly how a person actually feels about you or a situation. Although you're not always aware of your emotions, you can read between the lines, recognize inconsistencies, discern body language, and detect subtle patterns, which explains why it can be difficult to trust just anyone.

8] Being the rational, determined and thick-skinned individual that you are, you have no problem detaching yourself from unproductive and toxic connections. Rather than nostalgically reflecting on issues which couldn't work out in the past, you decisively move on, look forward to connecting with new people and seek out other plans.

9] Although a few people admit you're "competent", "capable" and "intelligent" in certain fields, you know from deep inside, you still have tons of things to learn and discover. You inherently dislike being viewed as an obnoxious snob who looks down on others.

10] You're not an expert in noticing the smallest of details sometimes. You're more concerned with the bigger picture, outline and summary. This quality can be handy when you willfully ignore incompatible individuals whom you avoid to preserve your well-being.

11] Obeying someone's orders doesn't come naturally to you if their commands don't make logical sense, or if what they expect from you isn't in line with your values. You can be both fiercely loyal or a complete rebel depending on what you choose to do.

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Poem: Allah Grants Us What We Need, Not Always What We Want

 💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Since everything on earth is under Allah's Control,
And Allah has authority over every soul,
Not all humans have their dreams come true nor reach their goals -
What's accessible to some, others cannot afford,
Some plans go well, while others fail even if they're forced.
~•~
You can learn to like some people, but love won't take place
If Allah prevents it and it's not part of your fate.
You can try to maintain friendships and have each bond saved,
But if Allah wants to save you, He may separate
You from souls with bad intent who could weaken your faith.
~•~
Make effort to get richer with businesses you run,
But if Allah knows that in this kind of profession
There's no blessing but distractions from your life mission,
Instant success and satisfaction may not happen,
So Allah trains you to live simply and stay patient.
~•~
If for a long time you've been searching for your "soulmate",
Received no proposals, or 'single' won't fit your age,
Know that Allah wrote your life story. Don't be dismayed.
Perhaps one of your tests involves requiring to wait
Patiently for flawless romance in Jannah someday.
~•~
Always remember that Allah is the One Who grants,
Withholds, provides, decreases, increases, hears, responds,
And gives you what your soul needs - not always what you want,
To check if you'll keep going, if you have strong Imaan,
And to test if you truly deserve Jannah's entrance.
~•~
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu ‘anhu narrated: Allah’s noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.’ Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills.” Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan.“

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

📖 Abu Sa’eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "There is no Muslim who calls upon Allah, without sin or cutting family ties, but that Allah will give him one of three answers: He (Allah) will quickly fulfill his supplication, He will store it for him in the Hereafter, or He will divert an evil from him similar to it." They said, “In that case we will ask for more.” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Allah has even more." 
Source: Musnad Ahmed 10749 
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam mentioned the day of Friday and he said, "In it is an hour in which no Muslim stands to pray and ask Allah for something but that he will be given it," and he SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam indicated with his hand that the time is very short. 
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 893 
Sahih Muslim 852 
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

Note: Allah Is The Most Forgiving; Don't Doubt His Mercy.

 💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Imagine if you were a very wealthy executive who was planning to organize a huge gathering for some friends. You assign five of your housemaids to purchase several items for the next evening's special event, giving each of them a list of things to buy, providing clear instructions and ordering them to return home early before sunset. The first housemaid manages to arrive earlier than the rest, having bought all of the products that you've enlisted. Nothing more, nothing less. 

The second housemaid also arrives on time, and she was able to get all the things you've requested. What makes her different from the first one though is she used some of her own earnings to buy you a vase of your favorite color along with a bundle of roses which you like for decoration. While you appreciate the dedication of those two housemaids, you are more impressed by the second one who did something extra. You're more likely to gift the second maid with additional favors and be more protective towards her than the first one who only did what's mandatory. 

As for the third housemaid who showed up at the same time as the first two, you're somewhat disappointed in some mistakes she has made. Instead of buying you the flour which you asked for, she bought packets of cornstarch, tomatoes instead of apples, and soy sauce instead of salt. However, since you're a lenient and compassionate boss, you readily accept her apology. 

You similarly forgive the fourth housemaid who, despite having purchased all the items you wanted, arrived a bit late, because it took her a while to search for the right products. 

The fifth housemaid slightly angered you when she stubbornly disobeyed your commands. Rather than buying what you requested, she used the money you gave for her own personal convenience. Plus she showed up too late past midnight. Nevertheless she came back to you crying, admitting her guilt, and begging for your forgiveness, then used part of her allowance to buy in the morning what you originally expected her to get, promising she'd try her best to not repeat what she did out of getting carried away by temptation. Being the kindhearted manager that you are, you readily forgive her, willing to give her another chance to rectify instead of instantly dismissing her.

The Mercy of Allah the Almighty is even greater than your ability to pardon others, even bigger than your mother's care and affection for you. Whenever we commit a sin, whether due to forgetfulness, ignorance of its prohibition or weak level of faith/Imaan, it is our duty as Muslims to seek Allah's Forgiveness and do Tawbah/repentance as often as we can.

Even those who appear to be religious and knowledgeable of Islamic jurisprudence aren't exempted from being tempted by shaytan to sin once in a while. 

If you experimented with all sorts of haraam relationships in the past, do Tawbah and still pray to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. If you've stolen from somebody, knowingly lied to your mother, disrespectfully argued with your father, tactlessly abused a child when you lost your temper, watched random music videos for entertainment, purposely delayed an obligatory prayer, discreetly broke your fast on purpose when you were supposed to be fasting, jokingly gossiped about another Muslim, or did something that Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala and His noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam warned against, you're still Allah's servant who can return to Him the Most Kind anytime as long as you're alive and aware of your main responsibilities.

Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala doesn't expect completely flawless performance from us but that we should keep trying our utmost to be the best servants whom He wants us to be, standing up to do Tawbah whenever we fall into sin, and never denying the fact that Allah is indeed the Most Forgiving. Sinful Muslims who pray to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala are many times more fortunate than unbelievers who refuse to even perform one Sajdah for Him.

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "By Him in Whose Hand is my soul, if you did not sin, Allah would replace you with people who would sin and they would seek forgiveness from Allah and He would forgive them."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2749

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "All of the children of Adam are sinners, and the best sinners are those who repent."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2499

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Suyuti

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever repents before the sun rises from the west, Allah will forgive him."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2703

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

Tips: Signs Of Actual Kibr And Self-Amazement We Must Avoid

 💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Some signs and examples of actual arrogance or self-amazement:
1] Uploading multiple photos of yourself while believing you are more physically attractive than others. Getting jealous when you notice another person who is similarly good-looking or who receives more compliments on their looks than you do.
2] Pridefully believing that you are more virtuous, religious, successful, sincere and knowledgeable of Islam than others. Assuming that such-and-such a person can never be guided or as righteous as you.
3] Being stubbornly close-minded, unwilling to understand various opinions, and refusing to give other Muslims an excuse for their actions.
4] Stalking the timelines and social media accounts of people whom you dislike with the intention of counting their imperfections, searching for flaws to measure their ignorance, or to make fun of them while forgetting your own fallibility.
5] Finding it too challenging to say sorry and admit your errors because, from your point of view, you're supposed to be "perfect".
6] Giving yourself the permission to ridicule, tease, bully, betray, annoy, criticize, and gossip about others while disallowing anyone to do the same to you.
7] Thinking only you can be the wealthiest, smartest, prettiest, most educated or highly accomplished in your area, and immediately disliking anybody who displays they're also competent at a certain field. Selfishly refusing to share honest advice, valuable lessons and helpful tips on self-improvement with other Muslims because you're eager to be more superior to everyone.
While confident Muslims are not afraid to take initiative to do what's right, as they trust Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala at all times, arrogant people utilize their false masks to conceal their insecurities, so they deliberately treat most people with blatant disrespect, view those who differ from them with extreme negativity, and act as if they are above everybody.
📖 Abu Sa’eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Whoever is pleased with Allah as a Lord, with Islam as a religion, and with Muhammad as a Prophet, Paradise becomes obligatory for him.”
Source: Sahih Muslim 1884
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
📖 Ibn 'Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Three deeds are destructive vices, three are salvific virtues (good deeds that lead to salvation), three are expiations, and three are a rise in ranks. As for destructive vices, they are greed that is obeyed, whims that are followed, and man being impressed with himself. As for salvific virtues, they are justice in a time of anger or pleasure, moderation in wealth or poverty, and fear of Allah in public and private. As for expiations, they are waiting for prayer in between prayers, thorough ablution on cold mornings, and walking to the congregations. As for rises in ranks, they are feeding the poor, spreading peace, and prayer at night while people sleep.”
Source: al-Mu’jam al-Awsaṭ 5750
Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Three deeds are salvific virtues and three are destructive vices. As for salvific virtues, they are fear of Allah in public and private, a word of truth in pleasure or displeasure, and moderation in wealth or poverty. As for destructive vices, they are whims that are followed, greed that is obeyed, and a man being impressed with himself, which is the worst of them.”
Source: Shu’ab al-Imān 6762
Grade: Hasan li ghayrihi (Fair due to external evidence) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas’ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "No one who has the weight of a seed of arrogance in his heart will enter Paradise." Someone said, "But a man loves to have beautiful clothes and shoes." The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah is Beautiful and He loves beauty. Arrogance means rejecting the truth and looking down on people."
In another narration, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "No one who has the weight of a seed of faith in his heart will enter Hellfire."
Source: Sahih Muslim 91
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim