Note: Five Reasons Why We Can't Vibe Well With Certain People

 💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Five possible reasons why we can never force ourselves to like some people, regardless of how available or friendly they try to be with us:

1] They distinctly remind us of someone we despise or couldn't get along with in the past.

For instance, if you have a maternal cousin called Ayra who kept avoiding you, ignoring your calls, and pushing you away whenever you tried to reach out to them, you wouldn't be so eager to befriend a person called Ava if their name and face significantly bring back awful memories of your failed attempts to reconnect with that one aloof relative.

2] They've previously done something hurtful and still didn't apologize, or they continue doing that offensive action which we dislike.

Any decent person having a healthy dose of self-respect would want to stay away from somebody who addresses them with insulting nicknames, makes a laughing stock out of them, displays even the slightest amount of grudge against any of their family members, criticizes their outward appearance, acts passive-aggressively often, underestimates them, or seldom supports their business or values.

3] They purposely try to make us feel jealous or their presence makes us insecure.

Good vibes don't emanate from those whom we clash with because there's something about their energy that warns us to back off, as they're dangerous or too different. So it comes as no surprise that a woman who ignorantly questions the virtues of polygyny and views men married to multiple wives as selfish womanizers would actively distance herself from women who are contented being in polygynous marriages. Similarly, if you're somewhat sad that you don't always get to see your husband on a daily basis, you're much more at ease mingling with the single ladies or other wives whose husbands work abroad than hanging out with a wife who boastfully flaunts her "flawless love life" in front you.

4] They don't meet our standards of what qualifies a person to become an ideal friend.

Since the definition of 'the right friend' isn't exactly the same for everyone, not everybody will find you agreeable and vice versa. If you're looking for a friend who can spoil you with gifts and invite you over to their house regularly, you won't be able to establish that sort of friendship with someone who is struggling financially. A person who easily gets bored listening to Islamic lectures and who doesn't reveal any interest in learning more about Islam will appear as another uninteresting stranger to you if helpful, sincere and ambitious Muslims who strive to improve their Deen are the kind of friends you want. 

5] There is no mutual care, trust or respect. Naturally you can't like someone who is unable to return your favors, reciprocate your kindness or at least express gratitude. Whoever isn't thankful to people is someone who is generally ungrateful to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. People who leave our messages in seen mode and who rarely show concern eventually get forgotten or turn into total strangers again, except this time we're no longer keen on building any connection with those who proved to be unreliable companions.

So Inn-sha-Allah if one day we wonder why so-and-so excluded us from a gathering or they're unfriendly to us, we understand that:

1) It's their freedom to loathe us if we remind them of someone they can't stand.

2) It's their choice to hate us if they're still hurting from something wrong we may have done. 

3) Whatever we do or say could trigger distressful feelings of jealousy in those who lack self-confidence.

4) We haven't proven ourselves yet to be worthy of their companionship, or we're basically too dissimilar to get along harmoniously.

5) We weren't destined by Allah the Most Wise to vibe with them, and it's okay. 

Even Allah's Prophets (Peace be upon them) especially His beloved Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam weren't accepted by every single soul they encountered. 

Animals in jungles and forests, as well as the sea creatures in the ocean and rivers, also deal with competition and opposition from other living beings. 

Exposure to enemies, critics and competitors is part of Allah's myriad tests. To pass these tests, we should try to be patient for Allah's sake, knowing that Allah's Love is what truly matters, and refrain from committing injustice or oppression in spite of negative feelings which often emerge from shaytan's evil whisperings.

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are troops collected together. They come close upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109

Sahih Muslim 2638

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

Al-Nawawi said, “When bodies meet in the world, they come together or differ according to how they were created. The righteous will incline to the righteous, and the evil will incline to the evil.”

Source: Sharh Al-Nawawī ‘alá Sahih Muslim 2638

📖 Abdullah Bin Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said:

"The Muslim is the one from whose tongue and hands the Muslims are safe."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 10 Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi

📖 Amr Ibn Absah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: A man said, “O Messenger of Allah, what is Islam?” The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "That you surrender your heart to Allah and that the Muslims are safe from your tongue and hands."

Source: Shu’ab Al-Imān 20 Grade: Sahih

📖 Mu’adh ibn Anas RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “The best of faith is to love for the sake of Allah, to hate for the sake of Allah, and to keep your tongue busy in the remembrance of Allah.” Mu’adh said, “And what else, O Messenger of Allah?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “And that you love for the people what you love for yourself, and you hate for them what you hate for yourself, and you speak goodness or remain silent.”

Source: Musnad Ahmed 21627

Grade: Sahih li ghayri (Authentic due to external evidence) according to Al-Arna’ut

Poem: Ways To Deal With Depression As A Muslim

 💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Depression can reach anyone regardless of age,
And this sadness is not always shown on a sad face.
Extreme sorrow, grief and heartbreak are often displayed
In many forms and subtle, inconspicuous ways.
~•~
Some souls manifest depression through overeating,
Resorting to bad habits to soothe their hurt feelings.
Others can't be bothered to cook, lost motivation,
So they starve and oversleep to flee from their problems.
~•~
While some depressed youths injure themselves to feel better,
Despising themselves and doubting what they can offer,
Other anguished souls disguise their troubles through laughter,
Posting viral videos to be cheered for by others.
~•~
Strong emotions, if not controlled, can lead to trouble;
Preference for dunya to thoughts that are suicidal;
Impatience with Allah's Plans to being ungrateful;
And ignorance of Sabr to feeling sorrowful.
~•~
Antidepressants aren't the best cure for sadness.
Peace can be attained without needing to be famous.
No need for fancy credentials to find happiness,
When getting sad now and then is part of Allah's tests.
~•~
Better than being happy is gladly contented,
Satisfied with Allah as our God Whom we worship.
Keep calm through Dhikr, having some Surahs recited,
And tame your nafs with Taqwa and Islamic knowledge.
~•~
It's okay to cry and have mood swings once in a while.
Just prevent sadness from making you think of suicide.
Think of Allah and gifts He gave to feel more inspired,
And pray for eternal bliss in Jannah Paradise.
~•~
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Nothing afflicts a Muslim of hardship, nor illness, nor anxiety, nor sorrow, nor harm, nor distress, nor even the pricking of a thorn, but that Allah will expiate his sins by it."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5318, Sahih Muslim 2573
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Fadalah ibn ‘Ubayd RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Blessed is one who is guided to Islam, whose livelihood is sufficient, and who is contented."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2349
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Anas ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "None of you should wish for death due to a calamity that has afflicted him. Yet if he must do something, let him say: 'O Allah, keep me alive so long as life is good for me, and cause me to die if death is better for me.'"
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5347, Sahih Muslim 2680
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

Poem: To My Ex Best Friend Wherever She May Be

 💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 To my ex "best friend", wherever she may be on earth,
Whether she stalks my social media accounts and lurks,
Or my posts are often stalked by a sister of hers,
Or she completely moved on and she can't read these words:
~•~
Here's a poem to you, which you've requested before,
When we were teens and there were shameful things we've explored,
Prior to that awful prank I did when I was bored,
So our hearts can fully rest with this written closure -
~•~
First of all, thank you for fun times which I can't deny,
For talking on the phone for hours and chatting online,
For the games we played and jokes you told to bring some smiles,
And for your efforts to reach out, listen, and invite.
~•~
As a number of years went by, we became close friends.
Our talks flowed smoothly, we could rant about anything.
Thought our friendship was stable until it got broken,
And though I said sorry, you remained unforgiving.
~•~
Funny how I form these lines and tears aren't falling,
Which shows I've moved on, and I'm not at all heartbroken.
Instead I'm grateful, ex-friend, for all the learned lessons,
And contented with whatever Allah has destined.
~•~
Lost friendships remind me "Dunya is not permanent",
Teach "freedom is found in leaving human attachments,
While trusting Only Allah for inner contentment",
And "rejections direct us to enhancing patience".
~•~
Now each time I meet new souls, I recall they won't last
As friends if we're too attached and far from Allah's Love.
Thus I love just moderately so hearts won't get lost,
Praying for better reunion in Jannah above.
~•~
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Love whom you love moderately, perhaps he will become hateful to you someday. Hate whom you hate moderately, perhaps he will become your beloved friend someday."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1997
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are troops collected together. They come close upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109
Sahih Muslim 2638
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
Al-Nawawi said, “When bodies meet in the world, they come together or differ according to how they were created. The righteous will incline to the righteous, and the evil will incline to the evil.”
Source: Sharh Al-Nawawī ‘alá Sahih Muslim 2638
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu ‘anhu narrated: Allah’s noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.’ Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills.” Verily, the  phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan.“
Source: Sahih Muslim 2664
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

Note: Some Things You Can Relate To If You Are An INTJ

 💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Eleven things you can relate to if you have an INTJ personality type:

1] When attending a meeting, lecture or symposium, you prefer to sit far away from seemingly talkative individuals so you wouldn't have to partake in their needless gossip, or you take a seat closest to the speaker so you can focus on them more clearly, with an aim to learn something new instead of practicing sociability.

2] Reading, researching and gathering information you deem intriguing or useful are activities you enjoy doing in your free time.

3] One of the signs that indicate you're willing to connect with someone as a friend or partner is your eagerness to learn more about them. So during conversations, some people feel as though you're interviewing them for a job application.

4] Cats and other furry animals or young children usually gravitate to you, while some adults around your age may find you "unapproachable", "intense", "intimidating", "pretentious" or "unrelatable". 

5] You're generally quiet when surrounded by people whom you can't relate to. Often you're found reading a book, using your cellphone, or staring intently at the ground, signalling you're too preoccupied to engage in trivial dialogues.

6] While some unjustly perceive your dedication to disseminate knowledge as "arrogance", correcting someone's errors or informing them about something important is your style of demonstrating generosity, helpfulness and compassion.

7] With your gut instincts or intuition given to you by Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, you oftentimes guess correctly how a person actually feels about you or a situation. Although you're not always aware of your emotions, you can read between the lines, recognize inconsistencies, discern body language, and detect subtle patterns, which explains why it can be difficult to trust just anyone.

8] Being the rational, determined and thick-skinned individual that you are, you have no problem detaching yourself from unproductive and toxic connections. Rather than nostalgically reflecting on issues which couldn't work out in the past, you decisively move on, look forward to connecting with new people and seek out other plans.

9] Although a few people admit you're "competent", "capable" and "intelligent" in certain fields, you know from deep inside, you still have tons of things to learn and discover. You inherently dislike being viewed as an obnoxious snob who looks down on others.

10] You're not an expert in noticing the smallest of details sometimes. You're more concerned with the bigger picture, outline and summary. This quality can be handy when you willfully ignore incompatible individuals whom you avoid to preserve your well-being.

11] Obeying someone's orders doesn't come naturally to you if their commands don't make logical sense, or if what they expect from you isn't in line with your values. You can be both fiercely loyal or a complete rebel depending on what you choose to do.

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Poem: Allah Grants Us What We Need, Not Always What We Want

 💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Since everything on earth is under Allah's Control,
And Allah has authority over every soul,
Not all humans have their dreams come true nor reach their goals -
What's accessible to some, others cannot afford,
Some plans go well, while others fail even if they're forced.
~•~
You can learn to like some people, but love won't take place
If Allah prevents it and it's not part of your fate.
You can try to maintain friendships and have each bond saved,
But if Allah wants to save you, He may separate
You from souls with bad intent who could weaken your faith.
~•~
Make effort to get richer with businesses you run,
But if Allah knows that in this kind of profession
There's no blessing but distractions from your life mission,
Instant success and satisfaction may not happen,
So Allah trains you to live simply and stay patient.
~•~
If for a long time you've been searching for your "soulmate",
Received no proposals, or 'single' won't fit your age,
Know that Allah wrote your life story. Don't be dismayed.
Perhaps one of your tests involves requiring to wait
Patiently for flawless romance in Jannah someday.
~•~
Always remember that Allah is the One Who grants,
Withholds, provides, decreases, increases, hears, responds,
And gives you what your soul needs - not always what you want,
To check if you'll keep going, if you have strong Imaan,
And to test if you truly deserve Jannah's entrance.
~•~
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu ‘anhu narrated: Allah’s noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.’ Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills.” Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan.“

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

📖 Abu Sa’eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "There is no Muslim who calls upon Allah, without sin or cutting family ties, but that Allah will give him one of three answers: He (Allah) will quickly fulfill his supplication, He will store it for him in the Hereafter, or He will divert an evil from him similar to it." They said, “In that case we will ask for more.” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Allah has even more." 
Source: Musnad Ahmed 10749 
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam mentioned the day of Friday and he said, "In it is an hour in which no Muslim stands to pray and ask Allah for something but that he will be given it," and he SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam indicated with his hand that the time is very short. 
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 893 
Sahih Muslim 852 
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim