Tips: Trust Allah And Never Be Affected By People's Criticism

 💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Five sample dialogues to show how you can respond to insults or criticism:

Them: "It's too bad you're unemployed. Don't you feel useless that you just stay at home and others have to support you financially?"

🔹You: "I'm still searching for a good job. Don't you have important tasks to focus on instead of constantly acting like you gave birth to me?"

Them: "Your husband works in the medical field, but he's a fat guy. Does he overstuff himself with his patients?"

🔹You: "My husband has a right to eat what he likes when he wants to. Is your partner so plain and uninteresting that you have all the free time to check out other women's husbands and analyze them? Are you ignorant of the concept of lowering your gaze, or is evaluating my husband's body size your new profession?"

Them: "Eww. Your room is a total dumpster. Are you too lazy to clean it?"

🔹 You: "I'll tidy it up when I'm ready. Since you're obsessed with perfection, how about you do some assessment on your heart and ensure it's completely free from impure qualities? If you were really fabulous and worthy of admiration, your overall personality wouldn't be wretchedly disgusting."

Them: "It's a shame you don't make as much money as we do. We get to dine at classy buffet restaurants anytime and all you enjoy is simple food."

🔹You: "Alhamdulillah I'm gratefully contented with what Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala chose to give me. You must be incredibly delusional if you assume your financial greed triggers envy. With your gigantic ignorance of dunya's reality and your substantially low morals, you're no better than donkeys."

Them: "Wow. You're one greedy eater. Control yourself, you hippo."

🔹 You: "Yeah I'll stop eating when I'm done. In the meantime, why don't you control your tongue and lousy character? I don't recall hiring you to be my fitness coach or weight loss trainer."

🌻 Ways to confidently deal when insulted or criticized:

1] If there were some undeniable facts in the criticism you received, utilize them to develop yourself and be willing to improve for Allah's sake. If the statements you heard aren't true however and you know those words can't describe you at all, smile on the inside and be glad Alhamdulillah that you're not the liar who's falsely accusing others due to absurdity, immaturity, awful upbringing or jealousy.

2] Understand the possibility of the critics being jealously threatened by your achievements, positive traits like generosity, confident vibes, strong faith/Imaan, and/or inner beauty.

3] Acknowledge the truth that the one who is actually suffering on the inside is that troll who spends much of their energy trying to annoy, insult or disturb you, as they can't stand their own inner struggles, self-hatred and insecurities.

4] Keep in mind that your critics also have their own set of imperfections, flaws and shortcomings. A gorilla doesn't need to worry if other gorillas make fun of it for enjoying bananas, just as human beings with lighter skin tone shouldn't feel entitled to ridicule those who are dark-skinned, because ultimately all of us are Allah's servants and we'll be questioned about our actions on the Day of Judgment.

5] Note that you're not the only one in the universe who has to cope with being despised by insecure or envious individuals.

Even the beloved Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam was disliked by numerous unbelievers and hypocrites yet his enemies' criticism and hostility do not change the fact that he SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam will always be the best of all living beings.

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: 'Allah has decreed what He wills.' Verily, the  phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

Hadith: When Allah Loves Us, He Grants Us Understanding Of Islam.

 📖 Jabir RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Ask Allah for beneficial knowledge and seek refuge in Allah from knowledge that does not benefit.”

Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 3843

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Albani

📖 Mu’awiyah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Whomever Allah intends goodness, He gives him (knowledge and guidance) understanding of the religion.”

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 71, Sahih Muslim 1037

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

Tips: When To Say The Morning And Evening Adhkaar

 💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 When is the best time to say the morning Adhkaar? You can say the morning Adhkaar:
1] A few minutes before Salat Al-Fajr.
2] After praying the Fajr prayer.
3] Anytime just before sunrise or after you woke up in the later part of the morning.
Note: You can also say the morning Dhikr after midnight, but it is more preferable and closer to the Sunnah of the beloved Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam to say the morning Adhkaar around Fajr time.
When is the most ideal time to say the evening Adhkaar?
You can say the evening Adhkaar:
1] Some time after Salat Al-'Asr.
2] Just before sunset.
3] Right after the Maghreb prayer.
Note: You're allowed to say the evening Adhkaar even after the 'Ishaa and Witr prayer, but it is more recommended that you say them around Maghreb time to earn more of Allah's Guidance, protection and blessings.
One of the signs that distinguish between true Muslims and hypocrites (munafiqeen/munafiqaat) is that the Muslim strives to remember Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala as often as they can, while hypocrites only pretend to pray and act as if they are believers when there are Muslims around.
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📖 Abdullah ibn Busr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: A man said, “O Messenger of Allah, the laws of Islam are too many for me, so tell me something that I can hold onto.” The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Keep your tongue moist with (Dhikr) the remembrance of Allah.”

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhī 3375

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Sa’eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Increase in ‘righteous deeds everlasting,’” (The Noble Qur'an 18:46). It was said, “What are they, O Messenger of Allah?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “To declare the Greatness of Allah, the Oneness of Allah, the Glory of Allah, the Praise of Allah, and that there is no Power or Might but in Allah.”

Source: Sahih Ibn Ḥibbān 847

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Suyuti

📖 Abdur Rahman ibn Ghanm RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “The best servants of Allah are those who remind you of Allah when they are seen. The worst servants of Allah are those who carry gossip, separating between loved ones and seeking misery for the innocent.”

Source: Musnad Ahmed 17998

Grade: Hasan li ghayrihi (Fair) according to Al-Arna’ut

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Messenger of Allah  SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Take up your shields.” They said, “O Messenger of Allah, is the enemy present?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “No, rather your shields from the Hellfire are to declare the Glory of Allah, the Praise of Allah, there is no God but Allah, and Allah is the Greatest. Verily, they (the Adhkaar / words of remembrance of Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) will come on the Day of Resurrection as saviors and guardian angels, and they are ‘the righteous deeds everlasting.’” (The Noble Qur'an 18:46)

Source: Al-Sunan Al-Kubrá lil-Nasā’ī 10204

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Thawban RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “The best wealth is a tongue that remembers Allah, a grateful heart, and a believing wife who helps one in his faith.”

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhī 3094

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
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Poem: Lower Your Gaze For Allah's Sake Brothers In Islam

 💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

📜 To brothers in Islam who are non-mahrams to me,

With whom I was talkative and friendly formerly, 

Whose friend requests I declined, unfriended recently, 

Or who doubt their worth when I ignore them in the streets:

~•~

No worries, brothers in Islam, I'm not being mean 

When I lower my gaze or leave your messages "seen",

Or stop greeting you with salaams, unlike previously.

I'm striving to serve Allah and value modesty.

~•~

Note: When some Muslimahs won't look at you directly, 

And they keep their questions brief or walk by you quickly, 

Don't suspect they hate your looks or personality.

They're just trying to be the best Muslims they can be.

~•~

Whether they're single, widowed or in matrimony, 

Younger than you or older, hijabi, niqabi,

Muslim, non-Muslim, covered or dressed immodestly,

To lower your gaze, as Muslim men, it's your duty.

~•~

Better safety from fitna than later be sorry, 

And better attain Allah's Love than society's.

May Allah grant you His Love for your patience, good deeds, 

And for defeating your nafs to earn Jannah. Ameen.

~•~

📖 Buraydah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Do not follow one glance at a woman with another. Verily, you are allowed to have the first one and not the second."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2777

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Albani

📖 Jarir RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: I asked the Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam about accidentally glancing at a woman. The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam ordered me to look the other way.

Source: Sahih Muslim 2159

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

📖 Abu Sa’eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Beware of loitering in the roads.” They said, “O Messenger of Allah (SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam), we have nowhere else to sit and talk.” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “If you insist, then give the road its rights.” They said, “What are its rights, O Messenger of Allah (SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam)?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Lower the gaze, refrain from harm, return greetings of peace, enjoin good and forbid evil.”

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 2333

Sahih Muslim 2121

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

Tips: Five Types Of People We Can Avoid For Allah's Sake And Five Not To Ignore

 💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Five types of people whom we should avoid for Allah's sake to preserve our emotional and spiritual well-being, and five kinds of persons we mustn't ignore:
Those whom we do not need to pay close attention to:
1] Vloggers, social media influencers or acquaintances whose public activities, vlogs, photos or vibes drain your energy and make you doubt the blessings that Allah the Almighty chose to give you. Realize there's a difference between someone purposely trying to make you jealous and somebody whose grateful attitude for what they have makes you insecure. Nevertheless you have a right to focus on the gifts that Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala gave you instead of closely observing others' "seemingly perfect" lives.
2] People who obviously enjoy gossiping and backbiting about other individuals, even if their bad motive is to playfully joke or entertain their insecurities.
3] Untrustworthy people who have intentionally lied to you several times, knowingly stole from you, or you can sense they're secretly envious of you. Better to have a conversation with ants or butterflies that won't misuse the information you told them than to chat with deceitful frenemies whom you can't rely on.
4] Troublemaking jokesters and morally incompetent clowns who find ridiculous enjoyment in making fun of others. You can't take them seriously because they're obsessed with joking offensively and teasing inappropriately. Better to be considered as "killjoy" by disrespectful goofballs yet your faith/Imaan is stable than lower your morals to satisfy problematic individuals.
5] People who instantly criticize you without being fully acquainted with you, or who automatically judge you as being "judgmental" when you're only trying to protect yourself by choosing your friends carefully, "self-righteous" when you're carrying out your duty for Allah's sake in enjoining what is right, and a "show-off" or "self-promoting narcissist" when you're striving to generously remind others to be the best Muslims they can be for Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala.
🌻 Five categories of persons who deserve close attention:
1] Your mother and father when they give advice, warnings or commands (as long as they don't order you to disobey Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala).
2] People who sincerely advise you to fear Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala regardless of how old they are.
3] The ustadh/ustadha, teacher and lecturer explaining a valuable lesson or delivering an important speech.
4] Your spouse, child, sibling, loved one and friends whom you care about for Allah's sake when they ask for advice, assistance or support in a good cause.
5] Your intuition or gut feeling that is a gift from Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. If you can feel that what you're about to do is wrong or illogical, then abstain from it for Allah's sake. Similarly if you have a strong feeling that being too friendly with a certain person can lead to trouble, then minimize interaction with them for Allah's sake as much as possible.
📖 Abu Barzah Al-Aslami RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “O you who have faith with their tongues but faith has not entered their hearts! Do not backbite the Muslims or seek their faults. Whoever seeks their faults, Allah will seek his faults. And if Allah seeks his faults, He will expose him even in the privacy of his own house.”

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4880

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Look to those below you and do not look at those above you, for it is the best way not to belittle the favors of Allah."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6125, Sahih Muslim 2963
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Ali ibn Husayn RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Verily, part of perfection in Islam is for a person to leave what does not concern him.”

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2318

Grade: Sahih li ghayri (Authentic) according to Al-Albani