Poem: Mindset To Cope With Polygyny

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Suggested mindset for each wife who often worries 

About the man whom Allah chose for her to marry:

"Dear husband, I married you for Allah's sake mainly, 

I want you not for your looks, your status or money, 

But for you to accompany me in this journey -

~•~

To Jannah where we can enjoy peace eternally.

I don't know how many women you've loved previously, 

I don't know if there's another lawful wife you keep, 

Not sure if you have another group of family, 

And if sometimes you're with somebody else whilst I sleep.

~•~

Unsure if you have other wives in other cities, 

I, as Allah's female servant, decide to believe 

In Allah's Justice, and accept Qadr/Destiny.

I know it's your right to remarry, and your duty 

To try your best to treat your multiple wives fairly.

~•~

I don't know how many lips you've kissed passionately 

Nor the number of times in your life you've hugged tightly,

But I know, with you as my soulmate, you guarantee 

You'll strive to love the whole of me, your wife, completely, 

So we both pass Allah's tests and Jannah we achieve.

~•~

I don't know how long I'll live, if you'll die before me, 

Or if dying together is from Allah's Decree, 

But I know if we try our best to make this succeed,

With Sabr and Shukr, we can earn Jannah's entry 

For believing and passing Allah's tests patiently."

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 4252

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhī 1159

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi

Ali Al-Qari said, "That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala."

Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātih 5/2125

📖 Abdullah ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

Poem: The Demerits Of Divorce

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 If divorce were a bridge leading to so-called freedom,

I wouldn't cross it if doing so meant impatience,

Discontentment with the man whom Allah has chosen 

As my spouse and expecting him to breathe perfection.

~•~

If divorce were a mansion glowing with adornments 

And buying it guaranteed lasting satisfaction, 

I wouldn't even tour it if it brought more problems 

And further fitna would arise through separation.

~•~

If divorce were a doorway that led to a kingdom 

Which many women went through and easily opened,

I wouldn't come near it if making that decision 

Was uncertain while remorse and grief are its outcomes.

~•~

Divorce is lawful, if it comes with valid reasons, 

And if staying married causes your faith to weaken.

Before requesting for divorce, seek Allah's Guidance, 

And with the man you married, have a good discussion.

~•~

If you truly loved him from the very beginning, 

You'd do what you can for Allah to save this union.

Quarrels, frequent absence, and distance have solutions - 

Patience, understanding, and not letting shaytan win.

~•~

It's shaytan who wants to break halal love connections, 

Who wants people to serve their ego and resentment,

And who finds spouses arguing so entertaining -

Don't give in to his plans. Be patient with your husband.

~•~

Remind yourself, your other half is only human.

In loving your man for Allah's sake be determined.

With Jannatul Ferdaus as your main destination,

Pray that your soulmate succeeds too - don't rush to leave him.

~•~

📖 Fadallah ibn ‘Ubayd RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "It is not permissible to joke about three matters: divorce, marriage, and emancipation."

Source: Al-Mu’jam Al-Kabīr 780

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Albani

📖 Thawban RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whenever a woman asks her husband for a divorce without a strong reason, the fragrance of Paradise becomes forbidden for her."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 2226

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna’ut

📖 Jabir RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, shaytan places his throne over the water and he sends out his troops. The closest to him in rank are the greatest at causing tribulations. One of them says: 'I have done this and this.' shaytan says: 'you have done nothing.' Another one says: 'I did not leave this man alone until I separated him from his wife.' shaytan embraces him and he says: 'you have done well!'"

Source: Sahih Muslim 2813

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

Poem: Patience For Allah's Sake Can Inspire You To Accept Polygyny

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 What kind of woman is willing to share her husband 

And who's fine with her man marrying another one?

A brave and humble soul who knows she's Allah's servant, 

Who sees polygyny as a chance for improvement 

In training her to defeat her nafs and have patience -

~•~

Instead of reacting to this kind of permission 

With impatience, impudence and dissatisfaction, 

She submits to Allah with admirable patience - 

Accepting Allah's decisions and what He destines,

Aware of the truth that this world isn't permanent.

~•~

Since Jannatul Ferdaus is this wife's destination,

And serving Allah, not her ego, is her concern,

She handles polygyny with determined patience - 

Despite being tested with jealousy now and then, 

She stands strong and won't surrender to her emotions.

~•~

Because she tries her best to be pious, obedient, 

And sincere, Allah the Almighty grants her guidance, 

Wisdom, understanding, inner strength, faith and patience - 

Trust in Allah and contentment with what He destined 

Inspire her to love her spouse with sweet dedication.

~•~

"It's his right to remarry," that's her way of thinking,

"Allah is testing me. I shouldn't be complaining.

Polygyny ain't a problem when it adds blessings 

Through which I attain more of Allah's Love through patience - 

Jannah is where we can enjoy bliss with perfection."

~•~

📖 Abdullah ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife.”

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibban 4252

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A woman is married for four things, i.e. her wealth, her family status, her beauty and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman (otherwise) you will be a loser."

Sahih Al-Bukhari 5090

In-book reference: Book 67 Hadith 28

USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 7, Book 62, Hadith 27

Poem: Wisdom Is In Knowing When To Speak And When To Stay Silent

 💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Nine instances when silence is safer than speaking:

One - when your words may only wound someone's well-being 

And trying to advise them isn't your intention.

Two - when discussing politics or when complaining

About the government leads to more needless problems.

~•~

Three - when arguing with someone smug with ignorance 

Simply drains energy and your wrath entertains them.

Four - when dealing with those known to enjoy backbiting.

Safeguard your thoughts and secrets if you can't avoid them.

~•~

Five - when self-expression can't benefit your audience,

When your aim is self-promotion, not motivation.

Six - when you're supposed to listen to those lecturing,

And you gain helpful info through careful attention.

~•~

Seven - when clever comebacks are not a requirement 

Around those who act more immaturely than children.

Eight - when you're uncertain if certain information 

Is incorrect, or true, or it can't be relied on.

~•~

Nine - when you love Allah and want your faith more strengthened, 

Accustom yourself to actions that are rewarding 

Like saying Du'a, Dhikr, training to have patience, 

And shunning toxic speech for your soul's preservation.

~•~

📜 Note: Reminder to recite Surah Al-Kahf today Jumuah Friday and include the Muslim Ummah in your Du'as.

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him speak goodness or remain silent. Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him honor his neighbor. Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him honor his guest."

In another narration, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam, "Let him not harm his neighbor."

And in another narration, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Let him uphold family ties."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5672

Sahih Muslim 47

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Abdullah ibn Mas’ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Most of the sins of the children of Adam are on their tongues."

Ibn Mas’ud said, “O tongue! Speak goodness and be rewarded, or remain silent and be safe, lest you become regretful.”

Source: Al-Mu’jam Al-Kabīr 10300

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "May Allah have mercy on a person who spoke rightly and was rewarded, or who was silent and remained safe."

Source: Shu’b Al-Imān 4579

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Albani

📖 Mu'adh Ibn Jabal RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, you will continue to be safe as long as you remain silent. If you speak, it will be recorded for you or against you."

Source: Al-Mu’jam Al-Kabīr 16591

Grade: Hasan li ghayrihi according to Al-Albani

Poem: Virtues Of Modesty And Wearing Hijab

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 A woman's beauty designed and given by Allah

Isn't meant to be flaunted to bring about fitnah.

Her adornments are for her spouse when she's a zawjah,

Not to distract people from their duties and Salah.

~*~

The hijab is an order from Allah to women

Who want to be distinguished as obedient Muslims,

Striving to please Him and leave what He has forbidden,

Wanting to be loved for their faith, not mere appearance.

~*~

Freedom isn't in showing yourself like cheap items,

Not in buying branded cosmetics nor modeling.

Being free as Muslimahs means having confidence

To dress modestly, not being enslaved by fashion.

~*~

Instead of the likes of Kardashians, Nicki Minaj,

And other female celebs, you admire Khadijah,

'Aisha Bint Abu Bakr, Hafsa and Fatima,

And other Muslimahs destined to enter Jannah.

~*~

Rather than obsessing over long fake eyelashes,

Cool hair dyes, fancy highlights, colored contact lenses,

And taking hot selfies, make effort to be pious.

Allah will judge your heart and deeds, not your outer looks.

~*~

A fashion influencer's fans and secret admirers

Can't really benefit her soul in the Hereafter.

Better are Muslims who busy themselves with Dhikr,

Seeking knowledge, not eager to be liked by others.

~*~

A Muslimah's honor is not in a tiara

Nor in a sash award but in just pleasing Allah.

She glows with faith/Imaan, liberated from dunya,

Enjoying peace of mind while she strives to reach Jannah.

~*~

📖 Abu Udhaynah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The best of your women are loving, fertile, suitable, and comforting, if they fear Allah. The worst of your women unveil their beauty, take pride in their appearance, and they are hypocrites. None of them will enter Paradise except as rarely as you see a red-beaked crow."

Source: Al-Sunan Al-Kubrá 12480

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani