Poem: An Open Letter To Ex-Friends And Those I'm Not Close To Anymore

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 An open letter to those whom I thought I could trust, 

Whom I thought were potential friends and now we've lost touch 

Due to misunderstandings that caused us to detach,

Or one of us thought the other wasn't "good enough":

~•~

Do I miss you? To be honest, no, and that's a fact.

I feel more free now that we're no longer in contact,

Freed from the worries of witnessing your misconduct, 

Your disrespect, your huge pride, your unrequited "love".

~•~

I thought you could be a friend, but you wouldn't give that - 

Assurance that you're someone whom I can fully trust, 

Who isn't manipulative, selfish, jealous much, 

Insecure or low-key envious of what I have.

~•~

You're not an enemy. This is not a long-term grudge.

My distance and avoidance are meant to protect us, 

From swapping rumors and gossiping like it's a drug

To concealing truths, faking and wearing two-faced masks.

~•~

Learn from the past and remember Allah is our Judge.

My choice to disconnect doesn't signal your soul's loss.

As strangers I believe we're safer and better off.

Let's strive to earn Jannah where shaytan can't divide us.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his best friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are conscripted soldiers. They come together upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject." 

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109

Sahih Muslim 2638 

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Love whom you love moderately, perhaps he will become hateful to you someday. Hate whom you hate moderately, perhaps he will become your beloved friend someday."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1997

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

Poem: It's Human To Make Mistakes. Be Wise To Learn From Them.

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 It's human to make mistakes. Be wise to learn from them.

It's fine if you found out it was wrong to trust someone.

Take them as a note not to rely on them again.

~•~

Often you're carried away by certain sentiments,

And you overreact or utter clumsy statements.

Instead of scolding yourself with "What was I thinking?",

Be more careful next time. Don't replay that scene again.

~•~

You fell into zina due to weak self-discipline?

Behaved indecently? Enjoyed a sinful moment?

Cheated in exams? Lied on purpose? Stolen something?

Repent and return to Allah the Most Forgiving.

~•~

Betrayed another Muslim? Quarreled with your parents?

Talked badly about a friend though you were "just joking"?

Disrespected some elders? Derided some children?

Repent. Pray to Allah He pardons your ignorance.

~•~

Believe that no human is free from imperfections, 

Proneness to forget and exposure to temptation.

Also believe that Allah is the Most Forgiving 

Who loves those who do Tawbah and won't lose hope in Him.

~•~

📖 Ibn Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah has overlooked for my nation their honest mistakes, forgetfulness, and what they are forced into doing."

Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 2045

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "By Him in Whose Hand is my soul, if you did not sin, Allah would replace you with people who would sin and they would seek forgiveness from Allah and He would forgive them."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2749

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

📖 Abu Bakr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "No man commits a sin, then purifies himself in ablution, then prays, and then asks Allah for forgiveness, but that Allah will forgive him." Then, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam recited this verse, 'Those who, if they behave immorally or wrong themselves, they remember Allah and seek forgiveness for their sins. Who forgives sins besides Allah? And they do not insist on what they have done, while they know better.' (Surah Aal-'Imraan 3:135)"

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhī 406

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is not stung twice from the same hole."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5782

Sahih Muslim 2998

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

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Poem: To Socialize And Be Friendly Or Stay In And Self-Preserve?

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Whether you classify yourself as an introvert,

An extrovert, a homebody, or an ambivert, 

You have a right to make choices that preserve yourself,

Shield your welfare and ensure your morals are conserved.

~•~

When invited to a sleepover or gathering,

When wondering if it's best to mingle or stay in,

Choose what brings you closer to Allah and pleases Him,

The option that's far from fitna or more rewarding.

~•~

Shun or minimize socializing with those whose words 

Consist of lies, gossip and intentional insults, 

Or whose presence makes you feel insecure or ignored, 

Or who reject your favors like they're devoid of worth.

~•~

Inform them that your declining their invitation 

Isn't meant to offend nor does it prove arrogance.

Qualified to decide cautiously as a Muslim,

Show wisdom in knowing what deserves your attendance.

~•~

Prior to attending events, think of Allah first,

See if going betters you, if it makes your state worse,

And if mixing with a group doesn't lead to remorse.

Nonetheless, tests are less when you're quiet and indoors.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "There will come tribulations (fitan - plural of fitna/trial) in which the one sitting will be better than the one standing. The one standing will be better than the one walking. The one walking will be better than the one running. Whoever seeks these tribulations will be destroyed by them. Whoever finds a place of shelter or refuge, let him take refuge in it."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6670

Sahih Muslim 2886

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Ibn Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer who mixes with the people and endures their harm with patience has a greater reward than one who does not mix with the people nor endures their harm with patience."

Source: Musnad Ahmed 22588

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Ahmed Shakir

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is not stung twice from the same hole."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5782

Sahih Muslim 2998

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Abu Nu’aym reported: Fudayl ibn ‘Iyad, may Allah have mercy on him, said, “If you mix with people, mix with those who have good character; it only invites to good. Do not mix with those who have bad character, for it only invites to evil.”

Source: Ḥilyat Al-Awliyā’ 11728

Poem: Affirmations As A Muslimah Wearing Niqab

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 I wear the niqab not because I lack confidence 

To show my face nor is it worn to please my husband.

I wear it for Allah, to join the pious women, 

And so I'm judged for what's in my heart, not appearance.

~•~

The niqab doesn't symbolize I'm hiding something 

Nor does it convey I'm so ignorant of fashion.

The veil is an emblem of being Allah's servant,

A Muslim, who by society is not governed.

~•~

A lady's charms that Allah gave aren't for flaunting 

And showcasing to anyone like a cheap item.

A Muslimah's body serves Allah and obeys Him 

In valuing the hijaab, as a Muslim woman.

~•~

With the hijaab and niqaab among male non-mahrams,

We avoid causing fitna, walking as distractions, 

And modesty affirms we're Allah's humble servants.

The choice to shield and guard one's treasures implies freedom.

~•~

Veiling for Allah is an option we have chosen, 

Eager to comply with Allah's Laws and Commandments.

With hijaab and niqaab, we wish to be obedient, 

Earning Allah's Love when tough moments enhance patience.

~•~

📖 It was narrated from Safiyyah Bint Shaybah RadhiAllahu 'anha that 'Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha used to say: "When these words were revealed – “...and to draw their veils all over Juyoobihinna (i.e. their bodies, faces, necks and bosoms)” – they took their izaars (a kind of garment) and tore them from the edges and covered their faces with them."

Narrated by Al-Bukhaari, 4481

The following version was narrated by Abu Dawood (4102): "May Allah have mercy on the Muhaajir women. When Allah revealed the words, “and to draw their veils all over Juyoobihinna (i.e. their bodies, faces, necks and bosoms)”, they tore the thickest of their aprons (a kind of garment) and covered their faces with them."

📖 'Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: "The believing women would pray the dawn prayer with the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam. Then, they would return home wrapped in their mantles (long cloaks); they would not be recognized by anyone."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 365

Sahih Muslim 645

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Abu Udhaynah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The best of your women are loving, fertile, suitable, and comforting, if they fear Allah. The worst of your women unveil their beauty, take pride in their appearance, and they are hypocrites. None of them will enter Paradise except as rarely as you see a red-beaked crow."

Source: Al-Sunan Al-Kubrá 12480

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

Poem: Tips On How To Deal With Being "Ghosted" Or Ignored

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 A few tips on how to deal with those who ignore you, 

Who gift you with apathy, scorn or ingratitude, 

Who left your messages on seen mode, and misconstrue 

Your condition and accuse you of "bad attitude":

~•~

One: Understand why they're ignoring. They're insecure, 

Jealous of your blessings and cool things you get to do,

Or your intense enthusiasm leaves them confused - 

Of how to measure up to your kindness they're unsure.

~•~

Two: Once you're done knocking on their doors several times,

And they reply by disregarding your many tries, 

Gladly move on. A formal goodbye isn't required.

They may regret letting you evade after some time.

~•~

Let them realize what they'll be missing: Your soul's light, 

Your willingness to listen to them, your kind advice, 

Your eagerness to help them out and cheer when they thrive, 

And saying their names in Du'as nearly day and night.

~•~

Three: Have enough self-respect to forget those who left.

No need to connect with those who bring no benefit,

Who fail to inspire you, who are too proud to forgive, 

And whose obsession with gossip just produces stress.

~•~

Four: Though you've detached from some, recall your relatives.

To those connected through kinship still display respect.

Greet them with the salaam, and when you can, pay visits.

Pray that Allah guides them. Be patient when they upset.

~•~

Five: Be contented knowing that Allah always hears 

And sees you even if all so-called friends disappeared.

People's avoidance or dismissal shouldn't be feared, 

Because with or without them, Allah is always Near.

~•~

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

Al-Azimabadi said, “That he hates for the sake of Allah does not mean he harms the one he hates. Rather, the hatred is for his unbelief and disobedience.”

Source: ‘Awn Al-Ma’būd 4681

📖 Abdullah ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The one who keeps good relations with his family is not the one who reciprocates the good done to him. Rather, the one who keeps good relations with his family is the one who continues to be good to them despite having been cut off by them."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5645

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Bukhari

📖 Anas ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Do not hate each other, do not envy each other, do not turn away from each other, but rather be servants of Allah as brothers. It is not lawful for a Muslim to boycott his brother for more than three days."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5718

Sahih Muslim 2559

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Suraqah ibn Ju’shum RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "O Suraqah, shall I tell you about the people of Paradise and Hellfire?" Suraqah said, “Of course, O Messenger of Allah.” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "As for the people of Hellfire, it is every hard-hearted, cruel, and arrogant person. 

As for the people of Paradise, they are the meek and oppressed."

Source: Al-Mu’jam Al-Kabīr 6589

Grade: Sahih li ghayrihi according to Al-Albani