Poem: Red Flags Of Toxic Friends And Signs Someone Is Not Good For You

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Red flags of toxic friends and signs they're not good for you:

One: They cringe each time you speak, because they're insecure. 

Your bright vibes threaten them and make them feel less assured.

If they fail to listen, leave them and their dismal moods.

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Two: Clingy and unreasonable, they tend to hold on 

To your past mistakes, they still obsess with all your wrongs, 

And they rigidly insist that you meet their demands, 

Disrespecting your time, your space, your needs and your wants.

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Three: They make decisions based on ego and feelings, 

Exclude you from trips with mutual friends when you hurt them,

Share passive-aggressive posts or blurt spiteful statements 

About you instead of having fruitful discussions.

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Four: What come out of their mouths cause your faith to decrease,

From deliberate lies and insincere flattery 

To dreadful bragging to prove their superiority 

And indulging in gossip like immature bullies.

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Five: The "friendship" seems one-sided, deceitful and forced, 

With you always reaching out, unsurprised if they ghost.

Six: Advice and tips you give them are simply ignored.

Gladly free yourself from those who misconstrue your words.

~•~

Seven: Their interests clearly conflict with your life goals. 

Seeking Islamic knowledge makes them feel "fake" or bored.

Showbiz, celeb trivia, false news and rumors they hoard.

Save yourself from those whose morals are low or absurd.

~•~

No regret in decluttering your list of close friends.

Your selectiveness doesn't imply you're arrogant.

You're just avoiding obstacles for self-improvement, 

And for Allah's sake you're preserving your well-being.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi

📖 Abu Sa'eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Keep only a believer for a companion and let only a righteous person eat your food."

At-Tirmidhi and Abu Dawud

Reference: Riyad As-Salihin 366

In-book reference: Introduction, Hadith 366

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

Al-Azimabadi said, “That he hates for the sake of Allah does not mean he harms the one he hates. Rather, the hatred is for his unbelief and disobedience.”

Source: ‘Awn Al-Ma’būd 4681

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Poem: Fear Allah The Almighty More Than The Evil Eye

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Immense fear of the evil eye shouldn't become shirk. 

It mustn't cause a person to behave like hermits 

Who dread socializing, selfishly hide all their gifts,

And seldom share what they can give to remain shielded.

~•~

Strong faith and much trust in Allah are what can protect,

Along with morning and night Adhkaar frequently said, 

Dhikr to start the day and before going to bed, 

And doing one's best to avoid what Allah forbids.

~•~

The evil eye is real, yes, it can impact badly.

It's often the reason behind broken families, 

Divorce, depression, failed projects, abnormal fatigue,

And it can lead close friends to hate each other greatly.

~•~ 

Shielding yourself and your blessings isn't in keeping 

Them confidential when they can be inspirations.

If Allah granted you creative skills or talents, 

Use them for Allah and to call people back to Him.

~•~

So you are not susceptible to the evil eye, 

Do all good for Allah, not for His slaves to admire.

Guard yourself with Adhkaar and Du'as each day and night.

Allah controls all things is something we don't deny.

~•~

📖 Ibn Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu' alaihi wa sallam said, "The evil eye is true. If anything could outrun the decree (Qadr/Destiny), it would be outran by the evil eye. When you perform a ritual bath, wash well."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2188

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

📖 Mu’adh Ibn Jabal RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Seek help in the fulfillment of your needs by being discrete (secretive, low-key, private), for everyone who is given a blessing will be envied."

Source: Al-Mu’jam Al-Kabīr 16644

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Take up your shields." They said, “O Messenger of Allah, is the enemy present?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "No, rather your shields from the Hellfire are to declare the Glory of Allah, the Praise of Allah, there is no God but Allah, and Allah is The Greatest. (Say 'SubhanAllah', 'Alhamdulillah', 'Laa ilaaha ilAllah', 'Allahu Akbar') Verily, they (Adhkaar) will come on the Day of Resurrection as saviors and guardian angels, and they are the ‘righteous deeds everlasting.’" (The Noble Qur'an 18:46)

Source: Al-Sunan Al-Kubrá lil-Nasā’ī 10204

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Ibn Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: I was riding behind the Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam when he said to me, "Young man, I will teach you some words. Be mindful of Allah and He (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) will protect you. Be mindful of Allah and you will find Him before you. If you ask, ask from Allah. If you seek help, seek help from Allah. Know that if the nations gathered together to benefit you, they will not benefit you unless Allah has decreed it for you. And if the nations gathered together to harm you, they will not harm you unless Allah has decreed it for you. The pens have been lifted and the pages have dried."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2516

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Tirmidhi 

Poem: What Insecure People Do And Tips To Not Feel Insecure

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Signs of highly insecure people to clarify 

What it means to feel so unconfident from inside, 

Eager to please people more than Allah the Most High, 

Acting in insulting ways so you're not undermined:

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Most insecure folks tend to take a lot of selfies, 

Upload loads of photos to be spoiled with flattery.

They're big on make-up and looking flawless physically, 

And they judge others based on the shape of their bodies.

~•~

Confident people glow with faith and inner beauty.

They uplift others, defend those treated unjustly, 

Use their voice to inspire and hands to do charity, 

And they don't shy away from saying "Thanks" and "Sorry".

~•~

Most insecure folks feel obliged to flaunt they're wealthy.

So food and travel pictures they post regularly 

Are meant to prove they can afford worldly luxury.

The truly rich and secure don't broadcast their money.

~•~

Most insecure people enjoy putting others down, 

Behaving like bullies to soothe their interior scowls.

They're pros at spotting others' flaws, gossiping around, 

And when someone rightly taunts them, they act like sad clowns.

~•~

The confident don't gossip. They've better things to do.

Cheap rumors they don't buy, specially if they're untrue.

To them, mocking others' faults and defects is no use 

When they make mistakes at times, because they're human too.

~•~

Most insecure folks are clingy, get hurt easily, 

And doubt themselves when they deal with people's enmity. 

They likely stick to cliques despite their toxicity, 

Fearful of rejection, unconcerned with quality.

~•~

Confident people who trust Allah the Almighty 

Live life for Allah, not His servants submissively.

They do good patiently, regardless of mockery, 

And when they're "alone", they're independent, not lonely.

~•~

To avoid feeling insecure, take note at all times,

We're here to serve Allah, not keep His slaves satisfied.

Why worry what people think when Allah the Most Wise 

Is the One Whom we must submit to each day and night.

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📖 Abu Sa’eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Some people from the Ansaar asked the Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam and he gave them. Then they asked for charity again and he SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam gave them. Then they asked again and he SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam gave them until all he had was gone. The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I had anything, I would not withhold it. Whoever refrains from asking others, then Allah will make him content. Whoever would be independent, then Allah will make him independent. Whoever would be patient, then Allah will make him patient. There is no gift that is better and more comprehensive than patience."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6105

Sahih Muslim 1053

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

Poem: Stay As Your Husband's Patient Lover And Friend

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Ways to be a good friend to your husband even if 

Your love is tough, in a long-distance relationship, 

Your romance takes place in a polygynous marriage, 

Work preoccupies him, or you don't have many kids:

~•~

Firstly, love him for Allah's sake, take him as a gift 

Granted by Allah for you to specially nourish, 

Understand one another and each other assist 

To reach Jannah where you can have whatever you wish.

~•~

Second, when he disappoints you, give him excuses, 

Just as you'd want him to be one who quickly forgives.

Admit he's a human too, prone to forget and slip.

Accept that he has his own limits and weaknesses.

~•~

Third: If the man whom Allah picked is one who's complex, 

Courageously see him as a problem you can fix, 

A puzzle to solve with determination and wit, 

While trusting Allah the Most Wise to grant you success.

~•~

Four: Be patient with your spouse. Don't copy those who quit, 

Who expect their men to be impossibly perfect.

Let your patience be so splendid that shaytan admits 

Your strong Imaan shields you from falling into his tricks.

~•~

Five: When your husband doesn't send enough messages 

Or his way of communicating makes you upset, 

Pardon him and empathize. In Jannah you won't fret.

Persevere with Sabr to pass all of Allah's tests.

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To be your husband's friend, stay patient, wise, and forgive. 

Be much stronger than pride, black magic and selfishness,

Till you reunite in Jannah, glad you've succeeded, 

Grateful too to Allah you're victorious in marriage.

~•~

📖 Thawban RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The best wealth is a tongue that remembers Allah, a grateful heart, and a believing wife to help one in his faith."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 3094

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1159

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi

Ali Al-Qari said, "That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala."

Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātīḥ 5/2125

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

📖 Ibn Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said to Al-Ashajj 'Abdul Al-Qays, "Verily, you have two qualities which are beloved to Allah. They are forbearance and patience."

In another narration, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "They are forbearance and modesty."

Source: Sahih Muslim 17

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

Poem: Don't Call Me "Toxic" Just Because We're Too Different

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 We're seen as "toxic" by those whom Allah didn't choose 

To enter our circle, so they tend to misconstrue 

Our intentions, accusing us of "bad attitude" 

When we just can't connect, hence they're easily eschewed.

~•~

They expect us to react to their posts constantly, 

Message them daily, massage their insecurities, 

And comfort their low self-esteem with sycophancy, 

Then when we disappoint, they accuse us of "envy".

~•~

Honestly, though we don't nurture "crab mentality", 

Some mistake our lack of interest for "jealousy".

You can't compel shoppers to buy more than what they need 

Or force them to purchase stuff which they think are lousy.

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So don't claim a person is "mean" or "toxic" simply 

Because they're not always free to cheer, scan your selfies, 

Or their lack of Oscar awards makes it uneasy 

For them to act like they relate to you profoundly.

~•~

Only those whom Allah chose can see your true value.

If you're that complex, unique and special, very few 

Can match your vibes. Recall the story of Prophet Nuh ('alaihis salaam).

Seek Allah's Love, without needing His slaves to approve.

~•~

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: I said, “O Messenger of Allah, who are the best people?” The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “One with a heart swept clean and truthful in speech.” We said, “O Messenger of Allah, we know truthful in speech. What is a heart swept clean?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "One that is mindful of Allah and pure, in which there is no sin, nor aggression, nor envy." We said, “Who shows a sign of it?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "One who hates worldliness and loves the Hereafter." They said, “And who shows a sign of it?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A believer with good character."

Source: Shu’ab Al-Imān 4457

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Messenger Of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said to me: "O young man, if you are able every morning and evening to remove any rancor (grudge) from your heart towards anyone, then do so."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2678

Grade: Hasan

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are like conscripted soldiers. They come together upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109

Sahih Muslim 2638