Tips: Five Differences Between Those Who Genuinely Care About You And Those Who Prefer To Keep Their Distance

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Five differences between someone who likes you as a friend and somebody who isn't interested in befriending you, so you can 

Inn-sha-Allah identify who is worthy of your efforts to become more acquainted and quit attempting to connect with those who are clearly incompatible: 

1] When meeting face-to-face or on video calls, those who genuinely like you appear happy to see you. Regardless of their current mood, they can readily smile or greet cheerfully upon your arrival. In contrast, those who dislike you for whatever reason, due to jealousy or an unresolved misunderstanding, roll their eyes with annoyance or scowl as soon as they notice you or hear your voice.

2] Those who don't have any envy or grudge against you generally talk to you with a cheerful tone. When asked a question, they respond with enthusiasm and also return your questions with queries of their own, a sign they're willing to get to know you better. On the other hand, those who despise your presence usually behave as if they don't enjoy interacting with you. Besides rolling their eyes or frowning, they seem rudely distracted or indifferent whenever you try to socialize, answering your questions abruptly or vaguely and seldom asking you about yourself. 

3] Friends of the same gender who care about you often initiate hugs, offer handshakes, and give you friendly pats or lightly touch your shoulder or upper arm when speaking to you. Someone who still regards you as a stranger would do whatever it takes to avoid touching your skin and sitting nearby.

4] Somebody who is eager to build a connection occasionally makes the first move when it comes to calling, sending messages, asking how you're doing, inviting you to a gathering, and keeping the friendship stable. A person who sees you as an acquaintance only reaches out when there is an absolute necessity. 

5] Individuals who consider you as part of their circle occasionally share some of their belongings, food and personal details with you. Those who prefer to keep their distance wouldn't bother sharing anything with you even if they were neighbors, colleagues or seatmates. 

• How to deal: 

° With those who show interest in improving their connections with you: Reciprocate their favors. Value their companionship with steadfast patience, gratitude, good manners, loyalty and willingness to forgive as many times as you're capable of forgiving. 

° With someone who is unreachable or unwilling to associate with you: Maintain basic politeness with them, answer their salaams, and don't expect too much from them to be free from disappointments. Your secrets, dreams, plans, projects and valuables should be kept far from them, specially if their trustworthiness hasn't been confirmed. Understand their disinterest does not measure your worth as a Muslim. If the temperament, goals, and languages of two souls are completely different, it makes logical sense that establishing harmony may be unlikely or take some time.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are conscripted soldiers. They come together upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject." 

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109

Sahih Muslim 2638 

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is friendly, for there is no goodness in one who is neither friendly, nor befriended."

Source: Musnad Ahmed 8945

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Arna’ut

📖 Jabir RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is friendly and befriended, for there is no goodness in one who is neither friendly, nor befriended. The best of people are those who are the most beneficial (helpful or cooperative in what is right) to the people."

Source: Al-Mu'jam Al-Awsat 5937

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Albani

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Poem: Five Signs That You're A Tough Wife And Your Husband Is Fortunate To Be Married To You

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Five signs that you're a tough wife, and loyal wives are few, 

And your strength comes from Allah Who knows your love is true: 

One - In spite of challenges you may sometimes go through, 

You still love your spouse - to quit loving him you refuse, 

As discarding blessings is not something you would do.

~•~

Two - When at times he acts in a way that can confuse, 

Or his choices often cause critics to misconstrue, 

You empathize, remain firm, don't feel at all "abused", 

Because you sense behind his actions are reasons you 

Don't know yet, and he's not someone you're willing to lose.

~•~

Three - Since being his wife is a gift which you value, 

Other wives' complaints about their men can't impact you, 

And stories of divorcees inspire you to ensure 

That fierce loyalty towards your soulmate remains true. 

You're not a fake lover whose commitment is untrue.

~•~

Four - You're not nosy, even if some assume it's cute 

When ladies spy on their lovers to be reassured. 

Lack of clinginess or nosiness doesn't reduce 

Your care for your other half, but it implies that you 

Trust him, and believe Allah sees what His servants do.

~•~

Five - Whether he remarries or he works far from you, 

You're content with loving him, and of his love you're sure, 

And your faithfulness won't drop even if he is poor, 

Outwardly aloof, or to strangers not good for you. 

Marriage is like a game which strong wives don't wish to lose.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1159

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi

Ali Al-Qari said, "That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala."

Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātih 5/2125

📖 Thawban RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The best wealth is a tongue that remembers Allah, a grateful heart, and a believing wife to help one in his faith."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 3094

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."

Source: Sahih Ibn Ḥibbān 4252

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

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💚 Note: Reminder to recite Surah Al-Kahf every Jumuah Friday and include the Muslim Ummah in your Du'as.

Poem: Three Reasons Why Taking Pride In Being "LGBT" Lesbian/Gay/Bisexual/Transgender Isn't Allowed In Islam

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Three reasons, and Allah knows best, why it's unlawful 

For same genders to marry, to be homosexual, 

To take pride in being transexual or bisexual, 

And why as Muslims we must strive to have self-control 

Regarding feelings of attraction towards some souls: 

~•~

One: Allah made Eve/Hawwaa for Adam ('alaihis salaam), first of all, 

Which means that it's from the fitrah, and it's natural 

For females to incline towards males in general.

So two guys or two ladies being all sensual 

Is from shaytan's deceptions that's vile and immoral. 

~•~

The likeness of doing what Allah made illegal 

Is that of diners who break the legs of a table, 

Substituting them with branches weak and unstable, 

Or examinees being asked to draw one circle 

And they rebel by spoiling the test papers with holes.

~•~

Two: Raising children too makes a marriage meaningful. 

To raise righteous kids also makes marriage purposeful. 

If same genders wed, their bond is mostly sexual, 

Their marrying is based on lust, "love" that's abnormal, 

And lawfully procreating is impossible. 

~•~

Three: Just as Allah decreed that drinking alcohol,

Self-harm, and consuming pork are not permissible, 

All sorts of zina are strictly impermissible. 

It's a test when Allah forbids what's accessible. 

Only few are able to overcome obstacles.

~•~

While you're human if you catch feelings for certain souls, 

You know you're Muslim if you leave what isn't halaal. 

No matter how much you want to sin, you're capable 

Of resisting foul desires, unlike most animals. 

To worship Allah, not your nafs, is your main life goal.

~•~

When oppressed, you're not sinning if you feel revengeful. 

You're in trouble if wrath inspires you to steal or kill. 

Likewise, it's not a crime to like some individuals, 

So long as you maintain Taqwa, practice self-control, 

And know all forms of zina shouldn't be tried at all.

~•~

📖 Abu Qatadah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, you will never leave anything for the sake of Allah the Almighty but that Allah will replace it (what you left for Allah's sake) with something better."

Source: Musnad Ahmed 22565

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah has pardoned my nation for what occurs within themselves (evil thoughts or inappropriate feelings), as long as they do not speak of it or act upon it."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6287

Sahih Muslim 127

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Jabir RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, what I fear most for my nation is the deed of the people of Lot / Prophet Lut 'alaihis salaam (i.e. homosexuality)."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1374

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Suyuti

📖 Abu Sa'eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man should not look at the nakedness (private parts) of another man, and a woman should not look at the nakedness (private parts) of another woman. A man should not lie with another man under a single blanket, and a woman should not lie with another woman under a single blanket."

Source: Sahih Muslim 338

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

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Poem: Advice To Deal With "Loneliness" Or Not Fitting In

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Few righteous friends with whom you can learn Islam often 

Is much more rewarding than self-imposed seclusion. 

But what happens if the environment where you're in 

Lacks people who enjoy learning and share your mission? 

When truthful souls are scarce, solitude is a blessing.

~•~

Avoiding those prone to lying, acting, backbiting, 

Constantly comparing their state to your condition, 

Criticizing your flaws, envying your achievements, 

And calculating how many freebies you've given, 

Signifies freedom from drama and bad influence.

~•~

No good can be attained by chatting with fake persons, 

Who draw forced smiles on their faces, invent false statements, 

And frequently fool around to see your reaction. 

'Tis better to gaze at clouds or count eggs of chickens 

Than interact with actors guilty of pretending.

~•~

Fifty-five minutes of chit-chat with an acquaintance 

Can be more wisely spent on Qur'an recitation, 

Reading useful books, researching for self-improvement, 

And other works that don't involve lies and gossiping. 

No good can be gained from one who can't teach anything.

~•~

Stay connected to Allah, and you won't feel lonesome. 

You can't always expect joy from Allah's creation 

Since all humans are flawed, each soul with their own problems, 

And feelings can get in the way of right decisions. 

Once content with Allah's Love, you'll be self-sufficient.

~•~

📖 Sa'd Ibn Abi Waqqas RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah loves a servant who is righteous, independent, and obscure (unknown, unpopular, not famous)."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2965

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Those in solitude have raced ahead." They said, “O Messenger of Allah, who are those in solitude ('al-mufarridoon')?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "They are men and women who remember Allah a lot."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2676

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

📖 Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu said: "A righteous companion is better than loneliness, and loneliness is better than an evil companion. A good writer is better than one silent, and one silent is better than an evil writer."

Source: Rawdat Al-‘Uqalā 56

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Poem: Some Tips To Patiently Cope With The Death Of Loved Ones

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Some advice to patiently cope with a loved one's death, 

So when you find out that the person you love is dead, 

You bravely respond with patience to pass Allah's test, 

Know they returned to Allah Who provides, takes and gives, 

And from dunya's problems pray they can peacefully rest:

~•~

Believe their demise was destined, their visit short-lived, 

And don't assume their death was unjust or incorrect. 

How they passed away and when shouldn't keep you upset, 

As Allah decreed all incidents and He knows best 

What to do with His servants, with mercy and justice. 

~•~

Whether some were killed, their end by opponents plotted, 

Or they died from an accident, fell or gotten sick, 

Or they just breathed their last because Allah wanted it, 

Pray they're martyrs, that their good deeds have been accepted, 

And pray that in Jannah you can be reunited. 

~•~

Feeling sad for a number of days is expected, 

Specially if that loved one was caring, devoted, 

And there are countless memorable things that they did. 

Let grief and sorrow have your sins eliminated, 

As you keep praying that in Jannah you'll reconnect.

~•~

If some remind you of loved ones who no longer live, 

Stay patient, or avoid them so you don't stay upset, 

But still maintain peace with the pious and relatives. 

Whenever you miss a loved one who no longer lives, 

Pray for them and prepare for death. Anytime we're next.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Allah the Almighty says: 'I have nothing to give to My faithful servant but Paradise if I cause his dear friend to die and he remains patient.'"

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6424

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Bukhari

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam passed by a woman who was weeping next to a grave. The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Be mindful of Allah and be patient." She said, “Go away from me! You have not been afflicted by a calamity like mine,” and she did not recognize him. Then, she was told that it was the Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam, so she went to the Prophet’s house and she did not find any guards there. She said to him, “I did not recognize you.” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, patience is at the first strike."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 1223 

Sahih Muslim 926

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Ibn 'Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated from his father that the noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The deceased is punished in his grave for the wailing done over him."

Reference: Sahih Al-Bukhari 1292

In-book reference: Book 23, Hadith 51

USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 2, Book 23, Hadith 379

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