Poem: Some Advice To Each Muslimah Who's About To Be A Second Wife

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 To each lady who's about to be a second wife, 

Who agreed to a man's proposal as she admires 

How he strives to be righteous, responsible and kind, 

And though she sees that he's married, she knows from inside 

That having him as her spouse adds blessings to her life: 

~•~

Don't feel guilty of saying yes. No need to think twice 

If the man you'll marry already has a good wife, 

While you're aware that she's fine, as she humbly complies 

With Allah's Laws, and she confirms that's her husband's right 

To remarry and double the joys of marriage life. 

~•~

Before the Waleemah your intention purify. 

Eagerness to be closer to Allah should be why 

You're willing to welcome polygynous marriage life, 

Not to break families, force him to leave his first wife, 

Not to seize his wealth nor cause any marital strife.

~•~

Regard your husband's first wife as a friend who inspires 

You to keep loving your spouse, with patience day and night, 

Like readers sharing a book that's precious and worthwhile, 

And they're careful not to cause damage, tears at the sides, 

And if there are stains, both would fix or apologize.

~•~

Since you're wed to a human who errs once in a while, 

Remember to assist him, guide, remind and advise. 

Be strong enough to forgive each other, empathize, 

And encourage him to never neglect his first wife. 

Aspire to ensure your love life leads to Paradise.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "If a man has two wives and he is not just (fair) between them, he will come on the Day of Resurrection with one of his sides collapsed."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1141 

Grade: Sahih 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 4252

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

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Hadith: Warning Against Miserliness And Selfishness When You Have The Means To Share

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Allah (the Almighty) said: 'Spend in charity, O son of Adam, and I shall spend on you.'"

Source: Sahih Muslim 993

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Charity does not decrease wealth, no one forgives another but that Allah increases his honor, and no one humbles himself for the sake of Allah but that Allah raises his status."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2588

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

📖 Abu Sa'eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Two qualities are never combined in a (true) believer: Miserliness and bad character."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1962

Grade: Sahih li ghayrihi (Authentic due to external evidence) according to Al-Albani

Poem: The Mindset Of A Loyal And Patient Wife When Her Husband Can't Always Be Around

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 How the mindset of a brave and patient wife should be, 

When she loves her husband for Allah wholeheartedly, 

As she deals with her husband's absence so frequently, 

With him assigned in another city or country, 

Or she's one of his many wives, in polygyny: 

~•~

"I testify I agreed to this marriage purely 

For Allah, to raise a righteous Muslim family, 

To attain means that lead to more of Allah's Mercy, 

To preserve modesty, and help my soulmate achieve 

Entry to Jannah Paradise, bringing him with me.

~•~

I admit that in marriage there'll be difficulties. 

From the trials encountered is inability 

To spend quality time with one's hubby constantly, 

No matter how much you wish that you could always see 

Each other, there comes a point when his needs interfere.

~•~

Unlike most wives who are attached, clingy and whiney, 

I choose to cope with my husband's distance patiently. 

In that is inner strength, not emotionally weak, 

And I know that Allah watches over him every 

Second of each day and night, whilst he's up and asleep.

~•~

The fact that my friend and I are married legally, 

That he's my husband while I'm his wife, suffices me. 

No need for constant convos to prove our bond is real, 

When Jannah's joys surpass this world that's temporary. 

I await Jannah where love can last eternally."

~•~

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The most privileged people in the world among the people of the Hellfire will come on the Day of Resurrection to be dipped in the Hellfire, then it will be said: 'O son of Adam, did you see any good? Did you get any blessing?' He will say: 'No, by Allah, my Lord!' Then the most miserable people in the world among the people of Paradise will come on the Day of Resurrection to be dipped in Paradise, then it will be said: 'O son of Adam, did you see any hardship? Did you have any distress?' He will say: 'No, by Allah, my Lord! I did not once see hardship or distress.'"

Source: Sahih Muslim 2807

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

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Tips: Some Notes On The General Etiquettes Of Greeting With The Salaam

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📋 Some notes on the general etiquettes of greeting with the salaam: 

1] Initiating greeting with the salaam is a rewarding Sunnah. If you say the salaam upon entering a Masjid, lecture hall, room, office or classroom, 

you will Inn-sha-Allah receive rewards for saying salaam. If you choose to enter quietly without any salaam, there is no penalty or punishment.

2] Answering a Muslim's salaam is waajib/obligatory, since Allah the Almighty Himself commands the believers in Surah An-Nisaa that when we are greeted with the salaam, we should greet with a better greeting (say "wa 'alaikum as-salaam wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh") or at least return it. 

3] It is closer to the Sunnah and tradition of the beloved Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam for: The younger Muslim to first greet the older Muslim, the driver (in a vehicle) to first greet the person walking, the individual walking to first greet those who are already seated, and a small group to first greet a much larger group. This encourages a sense of humility, self-respect, and prevents one from treating others as though they are celebrities who feel entitled to be greeted first due to their social status.  

4] All actions are rewarded according to the doer's niyyah/intention. It is wiser to avoid greeting non-mahrams of the opposite gender if doing so regularly could lead to fitna or trigger gradual feelings of attraction. 

5] While it is encouraged to say the salaam upon entering a circle or meeting, it is more important, and from proper Islamic manners, to say the salaam again before one leaves the gathering instead of abruptly disappearing without notification. 

6] When some non-Muslims greet you with "as-salaamu 'alaikum", you may respond equally with "wa 'alaikum as-salaam". The response "wa 'alaikum" which the noble Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam told a number of Jews on one occasion was said to answer their statement "as-saam 'alaikum". If a non-Muslim tries to greet you in a passive-aggressive way, you may answer back with "wa 'alaikum" meaning "and upon you too". 

7] Don't feel offended if some individuals purposely ignore your salaam. There are Angels and Muslim jinn around you who may have answered your greeting, and 

Inn-sha-Allah you'll be rewarded for having the courage to initiate salaams. 

Allah the Almighty knows best.

~•~

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, the best people to Allah are those who are the first to greet with peace."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 5197

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "When one of you arrives in a gathering, let him greet them with peace. When he intends to leave, let him depart with greetings of peace. The first greeting is not more worthy than the last."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 5208

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna’ut

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The rider should greet with peace those who are walking, those who are walking should greet those who are sitting, and a small group should greet a larger group."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5880 

Sahih Muslim 2160

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

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Poem: The Upper Hand That Gives Is Better Than The Lower Hand That Receives

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Never regret being nice to another Muslim, 

And don't assume that those who receive freebies often 

Are fortunate to consume much of life's enjoyment. 

Giving hands are better than hands that keep on taking. 

Takers miss out on rewards which givers love gaining.

~•~

Better to be the kind person earning Allah's Love 

Than a poor beggar or taker who enjoys free stuff. 

Instead of questioning why so-and-so took a lot 

Of benefits from you or others, while you just got 

Few or naught, know Allah planned it and He's the Most Just.

~•~

Thank Allah for opportunities where you're inspired 

To share a dish with Muslims, help, and offer advice. 

Find every chance to be helpful, generous and kind, 

To be closer to Allah, and so in Paradise 

You join pleasant souls who weren't selfish with their lives.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "There is not a day upon which the servant awakens but that two angels descend. One of them says: 'O Allah, reward one who spends in charity!' The other says: 'O Allah, destroy one who withholds charity!'"

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 1374 

Sahih Muslim 1010

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Abdullah Ibn Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The upper hand is better than the lower hand. The upper hand is the one that gives (charity) and the lower hand is the one that takes (receives kindness)."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 1429 

Sahih Muslim 10331

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

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