Poem: Dear Muslim Wife, Understand That Your Husband Also Has Feelings. Apply Empathy.

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Note to self, and reminder to loyal, grateful wives: 

The man who was selected by Allah the Most Wise 

As your soulmate and travel buddy to Paradise 

Has feelings too. While at times he can laugh, joke and smile, 

Oftentimes there will be moments when he needs to cry.

~•~

Your husband, a human, may shed tears when he sometimes 

Feels stressed by countless trials and challenges in life, 

When guilt engulfs him for not fulfilling his wife's rights, 

When he can't always meet the needs of his children/child, 

Or when he solves problems only for more to arise. 

~•~

Don't view him as a knight in shining armor who likes 

Rescuing damsels in distress every day and night, 

Without support like he symbolizes "perfect might". 

Stand by his side or comfort him whenever he's tired, 

And keep calm when tiredness ignites the urge to start fights.

~•~

Due to stress, he may speak angrily once in a while, 

Answer your messages after some days have gone by, 

And respond to you in ways you're tempted to describe 

Him as "bad-tempered", "moody", "too bossy" or "unkind". 

You'd tolerate his flaws if your love isn't a lie.

~•~ 

Even well-designed robots require charging sometimes. 

Don't be surprised if your spouse isn't himself at times. 

Guys also have feelings. Let your partner verbalize 

And show you, his wife, precisely how he feels inside.

Patience is a must-have to ensure blessed marriage life.

~•~ 

Your husband isn't abusive if he was beguiled, 

Badly influenced or affected by evil eyes, 

Advised by toxic friends or relatives who dislike 

Seeing you two thriving towards Jannah with delight, 

Or sorcery was carried out by foes from outside. 

~•~

When it seems as though he's struggling with nosy spies 

Who command him to treat you in a way that's not right, 

Win this battle by not doing what shaytan desires, 

Lovingly pray for your husband every day and night, 

And don't let pride stop you both from earning Paradise.

~•~

📖 Narrated Abu Sa'eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: On Eid-ul-Fitr or Eid-ul-Adha, Allah's Messenger SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam went out to the Musalla. After finishing the prayer, he delivered the sermon and ordered the people to give alms (charity). He said, "O people! Give alms." Then he went towards the women and said. "O women! Give alms, for I have seen that the majority of the dwellers of Hell-Fire were you (women)." The women asked, "O Allah's Messenger! What is the reason for it?" He replied, "O women! You curse frequently, and are ungrateful to your husbands. I have not seen anyone more deficient in intelligence and religion than you. O women, some of you can lead a cautious wise man astray." Then he left. And when he reached his house, Zainab, the wife of Ibn Mas`ud, came and asked permission to enter It was said, "O Allah's Messenger! It is Zainab." He asked, 'Which Zainab?" The reply was that she was the wife of Ibn Mas'ud. He said, "Yes, allow her to enter." And she was admitted. Then she said, "O Prophet of Allah! Today you ordered people to give alms and I had an ornament and intended to give it as alms, but Ibn Mas`ud said that he and his children deserved it more than anybody else." The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam replied, "Ibn Mas`ud had spoken the truth. Your husband and your children had more right to it than anybody else."

Sahih Al-Bukhari 1462

In-book reference: Book 24, Hadith 65

USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 2, Book 24, Hadith 541 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1159

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi

Ali Al-Qari said, "That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala."

Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātih 5/2125

📖 Umm Salamah RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Any woman who dies while her husband is pleased with her, she will enter Jannah (Paradise)".

[At-Tirmidhi, who classified it as Hadith Hasan]

Riyad As-Salihin 286

In-book reference: Introduction, Hadith 286

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-authentic-love-for-allahs-sake.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/04/poem-be-strong-wife-and-love-your.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/06/poem-five-signs-that-youre-tough-wife.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/poem-some-tips-to-be-your-husbands.html 

Poem: Some Questions To Ask Yourself To Check If A Friendship Is Worth Keeping

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Some questions to ask yourself to help in deciding 

Whether your friendship with someone is worth maintaining, 

So your love isn't wasted, they can quit pretending, 

And you reserve your kindness for those more deserving 

Of your care, attention, patience, and supplications: 

~•~ 

Are they ungrateful? Do they act like they've forgotten 

All those moments when you tried to be helpful to them? 

Have you known their names for more than five years yet something 

Tells you they're toxic, from them you can't learn anything, 

And you're better off without their disturbing presence? 

~•~

Are their answers to your messages delayed often 

Not because they're working but due to narcissism, 

To keep you waiting, as though your life depends on them? 

Are their manners ugly? Do they scowl and stay silent 

Usually when you greet them to soothe their self-loathing? 

~•~

Are they shy when you're around yet when you start walking, 

They discuss you and indulge in lousy backbiting? 

Do they answer your queries with vague and curt statements, 

As though your goals and confidence intimidate them? 

Does your faith/Imaan clash with their lies and bad acting? 

~•~

Do they distract you from Allah? Each time they're present, 

Do you doubt yourself or notice your moods worsening? 

If you responded with 'yes' to the above questions 

And this wrong "friend" acts like a spy for your opponents, 

Avoid them for Allah. Allah's Love is sufficient.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Love whom you love moderately, perhaps he will become hateful to you someday. Hate whom you hate moderately, perhaps he will become your beloved friend someday."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1997

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are conscripted soldiers. They come together upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject." 

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109

Sahih Muslim 2638 

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/09/poem-allah-grants-us-what-we-need-not.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-as-long-as-we-have-allahs-love-we.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/poem-what-friendship-breakups-teach-us.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-red-flags-of-toxic-friends-and.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/04/poem-unfollow-toxic-users-without.html 

Poem: Checklist To Find Out If Someone Is A Righteous Friend

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Checklist to find out if someone is a righteous friend, 

If loving them for Allah is indeed a blessing, 

And they deserve your trust, support, and supplications, 

As they inspire you to become a better Muslim, 

And each time you talk to them your faith/Imaan strengthens: 

~•~ 

Do they strive to serve Allah with correct intention? 

Are they honest with you, not guilty of deception? 

Are they grateful for Allah's gifts and what He destines, 

While they're not jealous of your merits and achievements? 

Do they care more about your heart than your appearance? 

~•~ 

When you sneeze, do they respond with proper reaction? 

When you fall or make mistakes, do they avoid laughing, 

And instead help you stand up or fix your shortcomings? 

When you disappoint them, do they keep calm with patience? 

Are they resilient, forgiving, and understanding? 

~•~

Do they get angry when some defy Allah's Rulings? 

Do they defend Allah's Rights when His Laws are broken? 

Do they speak up for you in awkward situations, 

Console you when you're sad, and offer some assistance? 

Is Tahajjud from their routine when most are sleeping? 

~•~

Do they make effort to stay away from backbiting, 

Gossiping, lying, and spreading wrong information? 

Do they share authentic Islamic knowledge often? 

Do they respect your need for space and quiet moments? 

With your progress or delayed replies are they patient? 

~•~

Are they aware of their role, this world's impermanence, 

And which routes to take to win on the Day of Judgment? 

Do they drive you to wear hijaab and modest clothing? 

Do they warn you against crimes, envy, and wrongdoings? 

Have they told you they pray for you every now and then? 

~•~ 

Do they grant freebies without expecting anything? 

Are they free from suspicion, envious resentment, 

And the urge to avenge their ego when you hurt them? 

If you answered 'yes' to most of the above questions, 

Such friend is worth keeping. For Allah, don't quit on them.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi 

📖 Ibn Hibban RahimahuAllah narrated that Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu said, “A righteous companion is better than loneliness, and loneliness is better than an evil companion. A good writer is better than one who is silent, and one who is silent is better than an evil writer.”

Source: Rawdat Al-‘Uqalaa 56 

📖 Abu Dharr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man does not accuse another man of wickedness or disbelief except that it will be turned against him, if his companion is innocent."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5698

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Bukhari 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/06/poem-three-kinds-of-friends-whom-we.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-red-flags-of-toxic-friends-and.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/poem-three-common-qualities-of-close.html 

Poem: Patience Is Necessary For Friendship And Marriage To Last Longer

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 A clear sign that a Muslim loves you for Allah's sake, 

Whether they're a friend or your spouse and destined soulmate, 

Is having strength and stamina to patiently wait 

For your progress, to forgive your recurrent mistakes, 

And tolerate your flaws or messages you delay.

~•~ 

If you do things which signal "leave me" or "go away", 

They'd react with "I'm not leaving you. I choose to stay, 

And if ever you flee or disappear for some days, 

I guarantee that my care for you won't dissipate. 

Because I love you for Allah, I'll love you always." 

~•~ 

Can you be patient with some friends if they misbehaved 

One day, as they were going through a difficult phase? 

Can you put up with friends whose replies are often late, 

As they're striving to survive with too much on their plate? 

Patience is easy if you love them for Allah's sake.

~•~

A good friend declining your invite can sometimes ache, 

Frequent disappointments may bring emotional pain, 

And a friend's choice to cancel plans certainly frustrates,

But if you wholeheartedly love them for Allah's sake, 

Despite letdowns and slip-ups, your friendship stays the same.

~•~

For long-standing friendship or marriage to instigate, 

Ensure that prideful ego doesn't get in the way. 

If someone whom you love for Allah's sake terminates 

Friendliness with you, while you did your utmost to save 

The connection, you can still love them from far away.

~•~

📖 Ibn Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said to Al-Ashajj 'Abdul Al-Qays RadhiAllahu 'anhu, "Verily, you have two qualities which are beloved to Allah. They are forbearance and patience."

In another narration, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "They are forbearance and modesty."

Source: Sahih Muslim 17

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

📖 Abu Sa'eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Some people from the Ansaar asked the Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam and he gave them. Then they asked for charity again and he SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam gave them. Then they asked again and he SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam gave them until all he had was gone. The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I had anything, I would not withhold it. Whoever refrains from asking others, then Allah will make him content. Whoever would be independent, then Allah will make him independent. Whoever would be patient, then Allah will make him patient. There is no gift that is better and more comprehensive than patience."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6105

Sahih Muslim 1053

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

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https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/02/poem-patience-for-allahs-sake-with.html 

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Note: Some Of The Differences Between Eid Al-Adha And Eid Al-Fitr

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

🗒️ Some of the differences between Eid Al-Adha and Eid Al-Fitr: 

1] Before praying the Eid prayer on Eid Al-Fitr, the Muslims are encouraged to pay the Zakat Al-Fitr to compensate for any shortcomings and mistakes they may have committed anytime in Ramadan. There is no specific Sadaqa / charity or amount of money to be given before praying the Eid prayer on Eid Al-Adha. 

2] Before the Eid prayer on Eid Al-Fitr, it is Sunnah to eat an odd number of dates, also to emphasize the fact that one isn't fasting since it is Eid. In contrast, it is closer to the Sunnah of the noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam to not eat anything before the Eid prayer on Eid Al-Adha. After the Eid prayer on Eid Al-Adha, the Muslims can eat from the udh-hiya that they sacrificed for Allah's sake or which were donated to them as charity. 

3] The Eid Al-Adha prayer is prayed at an earlier timing than the Eid Al-Fitr prayer so that the Muslims on Eid Al-Fitr have more chances to pay their Zakat Al-Fitr while the Muslims who intend to carry out the animal sacrifice can start sacrificing on Yawm An-Nahr (the day of sacrifice) after the Eid prayer. 

🔹 Notes regarding Eid Al-Adha: 

1] While praying the Eid prayer is a highly recommended Sunnah (not obligatory), it is better for women, even if they have their monthly period or postpartum menstruation, to attend the Eid assembly/gathering not only to enjoy the blessed atmosphere of Eid but also to benefit from the Islamic reminders in the Eid sermons / Khutbah. 

2] Muslim women should avoid wearing perfume, tight and transparent clothes, and heavy makeup whenever they are in the presence of non-mahram males. 

3] It is Sunnah to say the Takbeer and Dhikr "Allahu Akbar. Allahu Akbar. Allahu Akbar. Laa ilaaha ilAllah. Allahu Akbar. Allahu Akbar. Wa LillaahilHamd." as often as you can on the night before Eid Al-Adha and on the three days of Tashreeq (11th, 12th and 13th of Dhul-Hijjah). 

Allah the Almighty knows best.

~•~

📖 Umm 'Atiyyah RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: 'We were ordered to come out on the day of Eid, even the young girls and menstruating women from their houses. We would stand behind the men and declare the Greatness of Allah (say the Takbeeraat regularly) along with them, and supplicate to Allah along with them, hoping for the blessings of that day and its purification from sin.'

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 971 

Sahih Muslim 890

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

https://www.abukhadeejah.com/the-day-of-eid-and-the-prayer-obligations-sunan-celebration/ 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/07/tips-some-notes-regarding-animal.html