Poem: Don't Allow Some People's Envy And Insecurities Make You Feel "Unseen" Or "Underappreciated"

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Three reasons why around some people you don't feel "seen", 

Why after chatting with some users you don't receive 

Their replies anymore like they desire that you leave, 

Why though you're kind to some souls they're still distant and mean, 

And why numbers may not want you as part of their team: 

~•~

One: Those who ignore your salaams or treat you rudely, 

Whether they're colleagues, strangers, siblings, or an auntie, 

Probably show disrespect due to clear jealousy, 

Or feeling threatened prompts them to spread their misery. 

The jealous and insecure tend to bully, clearly. 

~•~

Two: Those who can't answer you in a way that's timely, 

Or they've failed to assist you when you've expressed your needs, 

May be preoccupied with problems, really busy, 

In dire need to work hard so in both worlds they succeed, 

Or they didn't see your message. Hold on patiently.

~•~

Three: Friends or family who maltreat you purposely 

Likely misbehave when they're suffering inwardly. 

They've got too much on their plate that they lack empathy, 

Like injured soldiers can't help the wounded properly. 

Rise above hurt pride. Retain your good manners wisely. 

~•~ 

Allah sees and hears us each moment we speak and breathe. 

With Allah's Love, and with Taqwa, we're not incomplete. 

Ditch confiding in people to feel valued and heard. 

Don't confess secrets to humans, as what you reveal 

Could just lead to trouble, conflict, or sheer mockery.

~•~

📖 Sa'd Ibn Abi Waqqas RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah loves a servant who is righteous, independent, and obscure (unknown, not famous)."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2965

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is friendly, for there is no goodness in one who is neither friendly, nor befriended."

Source: Musnad Ahmed 8945

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Arna'ut

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Those in solitude have raced ahead." They said, “O Messenger of Allah, who are those in solitude ('al-mufarridoon')?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "They are men and women who remember Allah a lot."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2676

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

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Note: Virtues Of Fasting On Yawm 'Ashura (10th Of Muharram)

Today: 3rd of Muharram, Wednesday August 11

Muharram 9: Tuesday August 17

Muharram 10 (Yawm 'Ashura): Wednesday August 18

Muharram 11: Thursday August 19

📖 Abu Qatadah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam was asked about fasting the day of Arafat (Yawm 'Arafah) and he SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "It will expiate the sins of the previous and upcoming year." Then, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam was asked about fasting the day of Ashura (10th of Muharram) and he SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "It will expiate the sins of the past year."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1162

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Ibn Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam came to Medina and he found the Jews fasting on the day of Ashura. The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "What is this day that you are fasting?" They said, “This is a great day in which Allah saved Moses ('alaihis salaam) and his people, and he drowned Pharaoh and his people. Moses fasted on it due to gratitude, so we also fast on it.” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "We (Muslims) are more deserving and are closer to Moses (Musa 'alaihis salaam) than you." The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam fasted the day of Ashura (10th of Muharram) and he commanded fasting on it.

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3216 

Sahih Muslim 1130

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

https://hijri-calendar.com/Muharam/1443

Tips: INTJ personality type vs INFJ

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

🗒️ Seven ways that INTJ personality types and INFJs are different, despite their general potential to become good friends as they're both future-oriented, intuitive, selectively curious, insightful, and focused on the big picture:

1] INTJs are generally thick-skinned and unafraid of criticism. INFJs can be somewhat sensitive and it may take a while for them to emotionally heal after their feelings have been hurt.

2] INTJs when trying to accomplish tasks or complete projects would try their best to get done with them even if their choices may upset some individuals. Efficiency is more important to them than sparing people's emotions. INFJs in contrast would do what they can to ensure that each action they take doesn't negatively impact anybody in their group, team, or workplace.

3] INTJs in social settings would avoid doing anything which contradicts their values. With stubbornness they won't attempt to change their overall behavior to impress people, unless they're talking to somebody whom they genuinely care about. 

INFJs have a tendency to treat every individual according to their temperament, personality, and level of familiarity. They're willing to kindly adjust their conduct or attitude based on who they're interacting with.

4] When offering advice, an INTJ would likely start their statements with "If I were you..." or "if I was in your situation..." and provide useful suggestions, straightforward feedback, or quick solutions according to what they truly believe is most logical, reasonable, and rational. An INFJ would typically put themselves in your shoes when advising, or suggest the most idealistic methods for you to handle your problems, or listen patiently to your complaints and show empathy.

5] When an INTJ resolutely decides to cease a connection or transaction with you, or when they've cancelled their interest in wanting to be more than mere acquaintance, their dismissal has nothing to do with wounded feelings but they can't find any logic, purpose, or significant value in your association. An INFJ on the other hand would "door slam" or completely detach from those who took their feelings for granted, who were intolerably inconsiderate, and who didn't reciprocate their loyalty and integrity.

6] INTJs can be a lot more tolerant and patient with their families and loved ones, while being aloof, indifferent, or distrustful around strangers. A number of INFJs are more able to have patience with strangers than with family members whom they consider toxic or uncooperative.

7] While both INTJs and INFJs (the healthy types) intensely abhor gossiping, INTJs refrain from discussing people's flaws because they think it's illogical to mock others' demerits when you yourself likewise have imperfections. INFJs (the mature ones) dislike backbiting because seeing others get mistreated upsets them, specially if they can't do much to stop the rumors, or they can imagine themselves being the next subjects of their gossip if they'd do something which would disappoint those gossipers. 

🔹 You can Inn-sha-Allah get along harmoniously with any MBTI personality type if: 

1] You both understand each other's language, dialect or way of speaking, while the respect is mutual. 

2] Jealousy, pride/kibr, selfishness, insecurities, lies or suspicion do not get in the way of your dealings and interactions. 

3] You can stay patient, lenient, and forgiving for Allah's sake with one another mutually.

4] You have several qualities, interests, or life experiences in common. 

5] You both sincerely strive to do what Allah the Almighty likes, not mainly what your nafs or ego desires. 

~•~ 

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe (not guilty of backbiting, telling lies, and knowingly committing injustice). The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. 

By the One (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut 

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "I guarantee a house on the outskirts of Paradise for one who leaves arguments even if he is right, and a house in the middle of Paradise for one who abandons lies even when joking, and a house in the highest part of Paradise for one who makes his character excellent."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4800

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi 

📋 To discover what your MBTI personality type is:

https://my-personality-test.com/personality-type-indicator 

https://www.16personalities.com/free-personality-test 

http://www.michaelcaloz.com/personality/

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https://www.idrlabs.com/test/intj-or-infj.php

Poem: INTJs And INFJs Enjoy Their Solitude

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Calling an INTJ/INFJ "lonely" 

Is as absurd as nicknaming a cat "chimpanzee", 

As irrational as singing to an apple tree, 

Confessing your "love" when it can't even get married, 

And as cringey as labelling your toes "sweet candies". 

~•~

We're not "lonely", not "desperate for fake company", 

Not "eager to listen to gossip and people-please", 

And not "so naive that we become instant besties 

With any human, monkey and actor that we meet.".

We're true introverts who choose our close friends carefully. 

~•~

Those guilty of these receive bye and adios from me: 

Talking badly behind people's backs so cowardly, 

Making lame jokes that are more offensive than funny, 

Telling lies more than Pinocchio can lie purposely, 

And having nothing worthwhile to share, offer, and teach. 

~•~

I'd rather be "lonely" yet still earn Allah's Mercy 

Than displease Allah by disrupting my piety 

Through socializing with clowns who backbite constantly, 

Who act as if they care when they carry jealousy, 

And who prove that books are better than clear fakery.

~•~

Alhamdulillah. I have Allah, my family, 

My spouse and his kids, and Angels who record our deeds, 

And reading the Qur'an often brings serenity. 

Introverted Muslims cherish solitude, so please 

Don't assume we're "alone" when Allah sees you and me.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his best friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi

📖 Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu said: "A righteous companion is better than loneliness, and loneliness is better than an evil companion. A good writer is better than one silent, and one silent is better than an evil writer."

Source: Rawdat Al-‘Uqalā 56 

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Poem: How To React When Told You're "Cringey"

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 How to react when told "you make me cringe", "you're cringey", 

And nearly each time you speak some roll their eyes wildly, 

As their unease or annoyance may stem from envy, 

Or they simply don't get you, or they fail to agree 

With your values most of which won't mesh with their beliefs: 

~•~

Realize they have freewill to express how they feel. 

If they're too weak to conceal feelings of jealousy 

That they're compelled to treat others disrespectfully, 

Dissing you when you're gone or calling you "cringeworthy", 

Pity them. For their dismal upbringing feel sorry. 

~•~

They cringe as they don't understand your actions clearly, 

In the same way you'd shudder when some so eagerly 

Post cheesy vids on TikTok for their viewers to see, 

Act like flawless robots that never sweat and relieve, 

And behave as though they surpass everyone they meet.

~•~

We cringe at different things. We're not alike fully. 

What you deem "weird", "silly" or "corny" could be perceived 

By others as useful or intriguingly unique, 

While some activities may fascinate you indeed, 

Those deeds we find "cringey" if they oppose our beliefs.

~•~

I cringe when I see Muslims dancing excitedly 

On stage or in the streets to impress society, 

Yet when it's time to pray to Allah the Almighty, 

Some of them postpone praying or pray reluctantly, 

As if serving Allah isn't their priority. 

~•~

I cringe when some memorize lyrics effortlessly 

Yet when asked to read from the Qur'an they bashfully 

Refuse to recite blaming on some difficulty, 

And when they strive to attend social events early 

Yet can't worry when they're late for prayer frequently.

~•~

Whenever somebody describes you as "cringeworthy", 

Acknowledge the truth that they don't know you entirely. 

Since you're not the same, admit that occasionally 

There will be subjects which you'll perceive differently, 

And how Allah sees us matters more ultimately.

~•~

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe (not guilty of backbiting, telling lies, and knowingly committing injustice). The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. By the One (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Most of the sins of the children of Adam are on their tongues."

Ibn Mas'ud said, “O tongue! Speak goodness and be rewarded, or remain silent and be safe, lest you become regretful.”

Source: Al-Mu’jam Al-Kabīr 10300

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

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