Poem: Five Signs That Your Husband Does Deserve Respect From You

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Five signs that your dear husband deserves respect from you, 

And if ever you demand divorce, you'll only lose, 

As these traits prove he's a blessing you mustn't refuse: 

He prays to Allah, by lots of people he's valued, 

He's hardworking, you see him in dreams, he cares for you. 

~•~ 

Your husband deserves you if he worships Allah too, 

If he strives to pray on time and perfect his wudhoo, 

If he's eager to learn Islam online and from you, 

And tries his best to quit all the sins he used to do. 

Include him in your prayers and pray that he improves. 

~•~

Lots of decent people respecting him is a proof 

That he is diligent, diplomatic, and assured, 

Especially if he's a doctor, entrepreneur, 

Ustadh, engineer, or instructor, while he ensures 

That his earnings are lawful - not stolen nor impure. 

~•~ 

Striving to work hard for Allah's sake is from the proofs 

That he's concerned about his loved ones, including you. 

That his frequent absence means he hates you don't assume. 

If he never cared, he'd stay jobless, drugs he'd abuse, 

And he'd be clearly selfish concerning joy and food. 

~•~

Most good dreams are messages from Allah. So if you 

Sometimes dream that your husband is climbing stairs with you;

Calmly praying in a Masjid, garden, or large room;

Driving a car on a straight road; sharing pleasant news; 

Or soaring towards the skies, then his heart may be pure. 

~•~

Other factors which affirm that your spouse deserves you: 

If he awakes you to pray when he's up before you;

If he lets you do something he doesn't let most do, 

Such as playing with his hair or borrowing his shoes; 

If he jokes to see you smile and finds your weirdness cute. 

~•~

To respect your husband: Understand what he goes through, 

Accept his flaws, forgive his faults, cleverly eschew 

Needless fights and interviews that may make him confused, 

Never flirt with non-mahrams, keep your loyalty true, 

And avoid any move which displays ingratitude. 

~•~ 

📖 Ibn 'Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "I was shown the Hellfire and (found) that the majority of its dwellers were women who were ungrateful." It was asked, "Do they disbelieve in Allah?" (or are they ungrateful to Allah?) He SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam replied, "They are ungrateful to their husbands and are ungrateful for the favors and the good (charitable deeds) done to them. If you have always been good (benevolent) to one of them and then she sees something in you (not of her liking), she will say, 'I have never received any good from you."

Sahih Al-Bukhari 29

In-book reference: Book 2, Hadith 22

USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 1, Book 2, Hadith 29

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1159

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi

Ali Al-Qari said, "That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala."

Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātih 5/2125 

📖 Narrated Abu Sa'eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: On Eid-ul-Fitr or Eid-ul-Adha, Allah's Messenger SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam went out to the Musalla. After finishing the prayer, he delivered the sermon and ordered the people to give alms (charity). He said, "O people! Give alms." Then he went towards the women and said. "O women! Give alms, for I have seen that the majority of the dwellers of Hell-Fire were you (women)." The women asked, "O Allah's Messenger! What is the reason for it?" He replied, "O women! You curse frequently, and are ungrateful to your husbands. I have not seen anyone more deficient in intelligence and religion than you. O women, some of you can lead a cautious wise man astray." Then he left. And when he reached his house, Zainab, the wife of Ibn Mas`ud, came and asked permission to enter It was said, "O Allah's Messenger! It is Zainab." He asked, 'Which Zainab?" The reply was that she was the wife of Ibn Mas'ud. He said, "Yes, allow her to enter." And she was admitted. Then she said, "O Prophet of Allah! Today you ordered people to give alms and I had an ornament and intended to give it as alms, but Ibn Mas`ud said that he and his children deserved it more than anybody else." The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam replied, "Ibn Mas`ud had spoken the truth. Your husband and your children had more right to it than anybody else."

Sahih Al-Bukhari 1462

In-book reference: Book 24, Hadith 65

USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 2, Book 24, Hadith 541 

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Poem: The Way You Perceive Marriage Can Impact Your Level Of Happiness

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 The way you see marriage and why you chose to marry 

Can impact your level of joy to a large degree. 

If you agreed to marry a guy for his money, 

To be wealthier mostly, then most definitely 

Your moods may worsen whenever cash flow would decrease. 

~•~ 

If you approved a guy's proposal for his body, 

Loving how his looks complement your outward beauty, 

And you're proud of his handsomeness predominantly, 

Then pristine happiness that lasts can't be guaranteed 

When his hotness drops or you both lose your sex appeal. 

~•~ 

If you married him, assuming that doing so leads 

To feeling happier, more accomplished and complete, 

Then when you get tired of his mistakes made purposely, 

Unknowingly, ignorantly, or unwillingly, 

You may want him out of your life almost instantly. 

~•~ 

Don't view your husband as a tool which you selfishly 

Presume that his presence is designed to constantly 

Feed your ego and satisfy you eternally. 

He's not an ATM nor subservient genie, 

But a human, like you, with emotions, dreams, and needs. 

~•~

Perceive marriage as a gift from Allah Almighty;

A present to handle with care and keep lovingly;

A game to play with wisdom, patience, and empathy;

A test to pass skillfully, with strong will to succeed, 

Journey with ups and downs leading to Jannah's entry.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."

Source: Sahih Ibn Ḥibbān 4252

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A woman is married for four things: her wealth, her family status, her beauty, and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman (otherwise) you will be a loser."

Sahih Al-Bukhari 5090

In-book reference: Book 67 Hadith 28

USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 7, Book 62, Hadith 27 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/poem-good-intentions-in-marrying-can.html 

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Hadith: It Is Allowed For Muslim Females To Go To The Graveyards To Witness The Burial As Long As They Try Their Best To Control Themselves

 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam visited the grave of his mother and he wept and made others around him start weeping. The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “I asked my Lord (Allah the Almighty) for permission to seek forgiveness for her and He (Allah) did not give me permission, then I asked my Lord (Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) for permission to visit her grave and He gave me permission, so visit the graveyards. Verily, it is a reminder of death."

Source: Sahih Muslim 976

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Ibn Mas'ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "I prohibited you from visiting the graves, but visit them now. Verily, they will weaken your attachment to the world and remind you of the Hereafter."

Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 1571

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Suyuti 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever follows the funeral of a Muslim, in faith and seeking reward, and he remains with it until the prayer (Salat Al-Janaaza) is offered and the burial ceremony is finished, then he will return with two great rewards. Each reward (Qeeraat / (Qiraat) is like the size of mount Uhud. Whoever offers the funeral prayer and returns before the burial, then he will return with one great reward."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari ī 47, Sahih Muslim 945

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/06/poem-as-allahs-servants-someday-we-must.html 

https://www.abukhadeejah.com/visiting-graves-and-the-ruling-on-women-visiting-graves/ 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-do-your-best-to-be-ready-to-meet.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/tips-good-deeds-that-benefit-dead-in.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/note-what-our-initial-reaction-to-news.html

Note: Patiently Understand And Empathize With Your Husband Before Instantly Misjudging Him

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Imagine three wives who are planning to ask for divorce carelessly without bothering to investigate the actual reasons behind the misunderstandings. The first wife is fed up with her husband's inability to answer her calls and messages for three months, unaware that he got into a car accident while on the way home and his corpse laying somewhere in the forest still hasn't been found by the locals. 

The second wife has been anxiously sending multiple emails to her busy husband working in a different city. She furiously complains to him about how she's tired of the way he has been unjustly ignoring her for days, not realizing that a female colleague at his workplace keeps trying to grab his attention and deleting his wife's messages, so she can selfishly interfere with their blessed marriage. 

The third wife plans to visit her mother in-law to declare that she must break up with her son who also works abroad, as he isn't doing a satisfactory job at financially supporting her and their kids. She is oblivious to the fact that her insecure co-wife nosily managed to get in between her and their husband regarding financial matters. So the money which their husband regularly sends via GCash or Western Union is actually being transmitted to the other wife's account. 

It's easy to quickly assume that your husband is guilty of neglecting you or disrespecting your rights, when in reality he's struggling with serious problems all the while. Oftentimes your husband's questionable conduct, misbehavior, or illogical decisions result from the negative impact of the evil eye ('ayn) perhaps during your wedding and he forgot to say some Adhkaar that time, or some jealous outsiders are desperately doing whatever they can to disrupt your love journey through corruption, unjust acts, or sorcery, black magic, and witchcraft. 

Whenever your husband does something wrong, lovingly make effort to analyze his actions, recall the memorable times you've enjoyed together, include him more often in your supplications, and stay grateful to Allah the Almighty for inspiring you to become a patient, loyal, and empathetic pious wife who isn't quick to invent unfair assumptions about other Muslims, particularly the man whom Allah the Most Wise chose as your soulmate or travel partner to Jannah Paradise. 

~•~ 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1159

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi

Ali Al-Qari said, "That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala."

Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātih 5/2125

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 4252

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

~•~ 

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Note: Seven Differences Between INTJs and ISTJs

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

🗒️ Seven differences between INTJ personality types and ISTJs: 

1] When receiving information or discovering something new, INTJs usually analyze how that thing can impact or benefit them in the future. ISTJs would typically evaluate how it compares to familiar incidents, current beliefs, or situations which occured in the past. 

2] ISTJs are more detailed, present, and observant than INTJs. INTJs are often prone to ignoring or overlooking details which they think aren't important to them. 

3] A lot of ISTJs prefer to stick to rules, regulations, and traditions. They'd rather fit in with the crowd than unconventionally stand out. INTJs obstinately hold on to their values even if most of the people show disapproval. Being called "weird" or viewed as "the odd one out" is actually a compliment for them. 

4] Stereotypical ISTJs are willing to continue working and performing a challenging task despite not enjoying it, while INTJs can easily dismiss an assignment, cancel certain plans, and discontinue a project, if they conclude that there's no logical reason in continuing. 

5] ISTJs in general are more sociable and approachable than INTJs. Most INTJs struggle with trust issues and are stubbornly selective regarding who they socialize with. 

6] Generally ISTJs tend to talk slower than most INTJs, particularly if they're trying to discuss an important topic or issue in detail. INTJs are more likely to speak at a faster pace or as briefly as possible in order to be efficient, so they can move on to their next activity. 

7] A typical sign that an ISTJ appreciates their loved ones is in giving them tangible gifts or offering some kind of service. INTJ Muslims, on the other hand, when they care about you would offer frank advice to help you improve or spend quality time with you either listening to your problems as they search for solutions to solve them, or chatting with you enjoyably about what you can do to attain success in this world 

Inn-sha-Allah and the next.

~•~ 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "You must be truthful. Verily, truthfulness leads to righteousness and righteousness leads to Paradise. A man continues to be truthful and encourages honesty until he is recorded with Allah as a truthful person. And beware of falsehood. Verily, falsehood leads to wickedness and wickedness leads to the Hellfire. A man continues to tell lies and encourages falsehood until he is recorded with Allah as a liar."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhārī 5743 

Sahih Muslim 2607

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

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