Tips: Nine Signs That You're Not A Narcissist Who's Arrogant And Insecure

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Nine signs which prove you are not a narcissist who's arrogant and insecure:

1] You believe that all humans are Allah's servants, you're not better than everyone, and there is something valuable to learn from every soul whom you're destined to meet. 

2] With a genuinely grateful attitude, you're humble enough to thank people, whether Muslim or non-Muslim, for even the simplest favors and acts of kindness they've done. 

3] You don't pridefully hesitate to apologize when you recognize you've made a mistake. 

4] When you discover or learn something helpful, you occasionally share the useful information with others hoping that somebody out there could also benefit from it. You care for others' well-being, not only your ego and selfish progress.

5] You willingly forgive for Allah's sake, without being a pushover. Since you're capable of putting yourself in others' shoes and applying empathy, you're not the type of person who gets disappointed easily. 

6] You intensely dislike gossip. If some individuals are discussing a person disrespectfully behind their back, you either leave the draining conversation or advise the gossipmongers to quit cowardly backbiting. 

7] Now and then you research articles and videos on how to identify narcissists so you can learn what to avoid, as you'd hate to be one of them, or you've asked a number of loved ones previously for advice concerning practicing humility. Someone who is actually guilty of narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) would lack self-awareness and willingness to change their toxic traits, because they like to imagine they're already "perfect". 

8] You don't feel entitled nor act as if the people around you are obliged to treat you with VIP (very important person) treatment 24/7. An actual narcissist would feel infuriated if an acquaintance arrived from a long trip and didn't buy them any souvenir, give someone the silent treatment if the latter didn't answer their messages in a manner they desired, and obnoxiously spread rumors about you if you indicate you're not in the mood to chat. 

9] Just as you never judge people according to their outward appearance, you don't oblige yourself to appear "flawless" or "on fleek" all the time. Real narcissists who conceal tons of insecurities despise facial blemishes, acne, weight gain, and "bad fashion sense". They're unaware that being desperate to look fabulous on the surface while snubbing those who haven't reached their level of "awesomeness" stems from low self-esteem.

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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Charity does not decrease wealth, no one forgives another but that Allah increases his honor, and no one humbles himself for the sake of Allah but that Allah raises his status."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2588

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "No one who has the weight of a seed of arrogance (atom's weight of kibr) in his heart will enter Paradise." A man said, “But a man likes to have nice clothes and nice shoes.” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah is Beautiful and He loves beauty. Arrogance is to disregard (or reject) the truth and to look down on the people."

Source: Sahih Muslim 91

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://abdurrahman.org/2014/09/04/riyad-us-saliheen-imaam-nawawi-chapter-072/ 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/note-actual-narcissists-vs-actually.html 

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Poem: Advice For Muslim Wives To Not Regret Their Marriage

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Some tips for wise Muslim wives to never feel regret, 

To stay content with the romance Allah directed, 

And upon noticing other blissful marriages 

They're incapable of greeting envy or unrest,

As they accept Allah's choice and pray the love stays blessed: 

~•~

Pray Salat Al-Istikhaara before you say yes. 

Seek Allah's guidance first prior to getting married. 

After carefully analyzing the benefits, 

Ensure that you're marrying for the correct purpose - 

To please Allah and serve Him with a friend who's trusted.

~•~

Occasionally remind yourself to not forget 

The splendid and romantic things which your hubby did. 

Bravely don't let pride stop you from wanting to forgive 

Your other half who's like you - human and imperfect. 

Protect your marriage for Allah, and you won't regret.

~•~ 

Admit that your spouse is from Allah a complex gift 

That comes with countless tests, purposes, advantages, 

Blessings in disguise, and merits to check your wit, grit, 

And application of knowledge that you've collected - 

The perfect gift meant to help you thrive and find success.

~•~

Firmly believe that marrying doesn't equate with 

Ceaseless happiness or life free from stress and defects. 

Respect your husband for Allah, and you won't regret 

Your decision to flourish in a marriage that's blessed. 

Dismiss shaytan's pleas to break what Allah connected.

~•~

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan." 

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/11/note-no-i-dont-regret-marrying-my.html 

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Note: No, I Don't Regret Marrying My Husband For Allah's Sake.

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 "Do you regret marrying the man you're with today?" if I were asked that question, I'd say let's go way back to my teenage years in Saudi Arabia, when I rejected all the marriage proposals I got from several interested suitors, one of them being a childhood friend whom I used to play with when we were kids in Dammam and Al-Khobar, and another from a pious Pakistani family, whom we befriended through frequent attendance of regularly held Islamic lectures at WAMY (World Assembly Of Muslim Youth). The main reason why I declined each proposal was my inability to see the value of marriage at a young age; I figured I wasn't ready at all to move in with another guy and start a family at fifteen to eighteen years old. I was also suffering from anorexia and bulimia back then, for almost three consecutive years, which temporarily prevented me from thinking logically. The complicated phase I was in with eating disorders contributed to my indecisiveness, uncontrollable mood swings and "teenage angst". 

Since I was a rebelliously unruly teen back in the days who showed loads of enthusiasm in trying out wild feats for the sake of temporary fun, my beloved parents didn't allow me to travel abroad for college. Instead, they had me taking online studies to major in Islamic education. Alhamdulillah although as a Muslimah I still have so much more to discover and learn, I'm grateful to Allah for guiding me to repent, study Islam and realize the value of marriage as well as patience. After completing my online studies, my parents encouraged me to marry my cousin who was then pursuing a course in medicine. In the beginning I refused, making as many excuses as I could, such as 'but he's my cousin!' and 'if he's a medical doctor he won't have enough time for me and our family' until Allah inspired me to patiently submit to His plan and decision. Through this marriage Alhamdulillah I wasn't an anorexic-bulimic anymore as my husband played a huge role in building up my self-esteem and overcoming certain insecurities. Another factor that led me to being unconditionally in love with him is his admirable tolerance regarding my overall weird personality, quirky habits and imperfections. He particularly intrigues me when he manages to cheer me up and make me laugh on stressful days. As for the sleepless nights when I usually stay awake, anxiously wondering how my husband's doing when he works far away, my faith/Imaan would be strengthened every time I say my heartfelt du'as and supplicate. Upon noticing various couples demonstrate their affection to one another in public, instantly I recall my husband and with much devotion, my loyalty to him only increases. In every instant of missing my significant other, I find patience followed by comforting gratitude when I cherish our worthwhile memories and romantic gestures from my dear husband. If Sabr (patience) and Shukr (gratitude) are noteworthy qualities that are constantly developing in your marriage, then accept the fact that your bond is Inn-sha-Allah an enormous blessing, more so if staying married protects you from indulging in prohibited relations. Alhamdulillah I don't have any remorse, not one bit, in marrying my spouse, because I married him solely for Allah's sake, and especially to complete the other half of my Deen. My husband I believe is Allah's response after I sincerely prayed Salat Al-Istikhaara years ago prior to agreeing to be his first wife. Thus, I refuse to quit loving him for Allah's sake until Allah takes one of our souls away. When you truly love your other half, age, weight and distance are just numbers. Even if you may not always spend quality time with your spouse in daylight nor sleep beside him in bed each night, with Allah's Will just as He was capable of connecting you strangers to become husband and wife, He can reunite lovers again in Jannah Paradise with eternal delight. 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan." 

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-my-brief-love-story-and-allahs.html 

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Poem: I'm Not Like Those Females Who Popularize Divorce

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 To critics who despise my marriage and pacify 

Their deluded egos: Please, don't claim I'm telling lies,

While you yourselves are guilty of fibs you try to hide. 

Why would I lie about my husband's positive side? 

If you've no clue what love is, why even give "advice"? 

~•~

Realize I'm not like most females, and that's all right. 

I'm not the kind of wife who insists that day and night 

My husband must be beside me, nearby all the time. 

I'm aware that he should work, relax once in a while, 

And there'll be moments when he gets distressed, weak or tired. 

~•~

Know I'm not like most women. When I see other wives 

Seemingly enjoying themselves in their marriage lives, 

I can't feel jealous or deficient, but I'm inspired 

To love my spouse even more for Allah the Most Wise 

Who chose him as my travel buddy to Paradise. 

~•~

Take note, I'm not like most ladies who popularize 

Divorce, who dislike how guys can be wed to four wives, 

Who treat marriage as a toy to be thrown anytime, 

And who stupidly guess that in this brief worldly life 

There are no problems. Then what's the point of Paradise?

~•~ 

When I married my husband for Allah the Most Wise, 

I knew that in this journey more trials would arise.

Boundless amounts of patience and strong faith are required, 

Along with empathy and contentment from inside.

Faithfully trust Allah and pray this bond always thrives.

~•~

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife." 

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Jabir RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, shaytan places his throne over the water and he sends out his troops. The closest to him in rank are the greatest at causing tribulations (mischief, trouble). One of them says: 'I have done this and this.' shaytan says: 'you have done nothing.' Another one says: 'I did not leave this man alone until I separated him from his wife.' shaytan embraces him and he says: 'you have done well!'" 

Source: Sahih Muslim 2813 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/poem-demerits-of-divorce.html 

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💚 Reminder to recite Surah Al-Kahf every Jumuah Friday and include the Muslim Ummah in your Du'a.

Poem: Leaving Unlawful Relationships Is Easy When Your Faith/Imaan Is Strong

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Somewhere on earth are God-fearing souls with unspoken 

Feelings of attraction, deeply felt but kept hidden, 

Mutual, shared between some souls whom Allah has destined 

To meet and understand each other, to examine 

If their belief is true or they're outwardly acting. 

~•~

If they were near each other, without hesitation 

Muslims whom Allah blessed with guidance, intuition 

And awareness of which acts bring forth pleasant outcomes 

Would be able to witness that while there's real tension, 

Mutually they shun each other for their protection. 

~•~ 

Glad tidings to those who'd rather serve Allah more than 

The nafs and heart. This world's impermanent enjoyments 

Don't appeal to these souls despite rising distractions. 

With Allah's Will they're wise enough to pass His exams 

Through Taqwa, Ikhlaas, Du'a, Dhikr and sweet patience. 

~•~ 

Tougher than former addicts who quit drug addiction 

And braver than rescuers saving lives in loud storms, 

These warriors who strive to defeat sinful temptations 

Can sacrifice brief pleasures so Allah's Love is earned. 

Ditching zina is easy for those whose faith is strong.

~•~

📖 Abu Qatadah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, you will never leave anything for the sake of Allah the Almighty but that Allah will replace it with something better." 

Source: Musnad Ahmed 22565 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Sahl Ibn Sa'd RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever guarantees (the chastity of) what is between his jaws and what is between his legs, I can guarantee for him Paradise."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6109

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Bukhari 

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📜 Note: Reminder to recite Surah Al-Kahf every Jumuah Friday and include the Muslim Ummah in your supplications.