Note: Five Signs Indicating It Is A Blessing You Are Not Close Friends With Some People Anymore

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📑 Five signs indicating it's a blessing you are no longer close to certain people (former "friends") and there is no reason to look back at your old chat conversations: 

1] You feel that your faith / Imaan has increased and you've found more tranquility ever since they stopped communicating with you. 

2] If you ever stumble upon their social media accounts, you notice they still haven't changed for the better - they're still narcissistic, frequently uploading vainglorious selfies with loads of makeup on and occasionally posting passive-aggressive posts as though they haven't given up their toxic addiction to backbiting and fault-finding. It's for your own good that Allah the Most Wise decreed to keep you far away from their negative influence.

3] Although you may hear their names being mentioned or see their usernames online once in a while, there's not a single bit of remorse in detaching from them. This shows that Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala didn't destine your souls to connect. Why cry over somebody who was never meant to network with you?

4] Staying connected to them doesn't add any value to your life as a Muslim. Instead of showing interest in learning more about Islam, generously sharing authentic Islamic knowledge, and discussing topics to strengthen your belief/'Aqeedah, they're more fascinated with materialistic matters, watching movies, listening to the latest songs, purchasing items on sale or joking about other people's flaws. 

5] With or without them you know you can Inn-sha-Allah manage, aware that the empty spaces they left behind can eventually be replaced by other souls who are more deserving of your love for Allah's sake and Du'as if not in this world then in Jannah Paradise.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

Al-Azimabadi said, “That he hates for the sake of Allah does not mean he harms the one he hates. Rather, the hatred is for his unbelief and disobedience.”

Source: ‘Awn Al-Ma’būd 4681

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi 

📖 Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu said: "A righteous companion is better than loneliness, and loneliness is better than an evil companion. A good writer is better than one silent, and one silent is better than an evil writer."

Source: Rawdat Al-‘Uqalā 56 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/11/poem-go-for-allahs-love-and-mercy-not.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/09/poem-how-to-tell-if-somebodys-vibes-are.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/poem-open-letter-to-ex-friends-and.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/07/poem-its-okay-to-detach-from-false.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-tips-on-how-not-to-regret-letting.html 

Note: On Identifying Oneself As A Salafi Muslim

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 I remember when I was around 19 years old back in Saudi Arabia we had some British Bangladeshi neighbors whose kids would hang out with me from time to time. I still recall their names being Zainab, Zakiyyah, Adam and Ibrahim. They were around the ages of 10, 8, 6 and 2 or 3. During one of their visits, when two of them asked me "are you Salafi?" I honestly didn't know how to respond but said something like "I'm a Muslim. I'm Sunni." and they'd ask again "yes, but are you SALAFI?" since I couldn't adequately answer their questions, I tried to distract them with some children's games until they became disinterested in making sure if I'm "Salafi" or not.

Alhamdulillah after some years, Allah the Almighty guided me to understanding the importance of having the correct 'Aqeedah/belief. When a Muslim who wholeheartedly believes in Allah's Oneness (Tawheed) labels himself or herself "Salafi", they intend to clearly distinguish themselves from the other sects of people who claim to be Muslims. A lot of those groups are guilty of committing erroneous acts which are connected to shirk/polytheism and bid'ah/innovated religious matters, such as celebrating the so-called "mawlid an-nabi", praying towards cemeteries, supplicating to the dead, wearing amulets to protect oneself from jinns, practicing witchcraft or sorcery, getting into mut'ah/temporary marriage or legalizing zina/fornication, and outrageously considering somebody to be 'kaafir' just because of a certain sin etc. 

🌼 Is it mandatory to call yourself "Salafi" to be among those who enter Jannah Paradise? No. According to one of the sayings of the noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam in a Hadith, some people from hell/jahannam will ultimately be taken out by Allah the Most Forgiving if in their hearts is even a tiny bit of faith/Imaan in Him Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala while they also did what they could to follow the Sunnah of the beloved Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam. To avoid being admitted to jahannam, even for some minutes, we should strive for Allah's sake to do what Allah and His noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam love, one of them being to ensure that one's belief/'Aqeedah is not tarnished or spoiled by any polytheistic action and bid'ah/innovation.

🎒🧳🛍️👜 Imagine if you were shown a number of travel backpacks prior to embarking on a long trip to a friend's large mansion but before it can be reached you'd have to pass by several forests and mountainous areas. Which would you carry, a bag containing: 

A ] Plastic toys and disposable plates? 

B ] A number of can openers without even canned foods? 

C ] Notebooks, pens which ran out of ink, and flashlights which aren't functional anymore? 

D ] A gigantic box with different kinds of snakes? 

Or E ] The backpack which has your basic essentials for traveling and hiking including solar flashlights that don't require batteries, lighters and matches, camping tent etc? 

This is why as Muslims we can identify ourselves as "Salafi" to make it clear that we are not with the misguided sects who take Allah's Laws lightly or do certain good deeds incorrectly. 

While no human is perfect, it is imperative to try our utmost to serve Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala in the way that He wants us to worship Him. How can that be achieved? By striving to patiently adhere to the teachings and tradition of the noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam while following how his companions/Sahabas RadhiAllahu 'anhum and the righteous predecessors (salaf) lived their lives to do what they could to stick to the Sunnah of the beloved Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam, without undue extremism and intentional negligence of our duties as Muslims.

~•~ 

📖 Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "I have left you with two matters which will never lead you astray, as long as you hold on to them: The Book of Allah and the Sunnah of His Prophet (Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam)."

Source: Al-Muwaṭṭa’ 1661

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Ibn Abdul Barr

📖 Al-‘Irbad Ibn Sariyah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam prayed with us one day. Then he SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam faced us and delivered an eloquent sermon that brought tears to our eyes and by it shook our hearts. It was said, "O Messenger of Allah, it is as if this is a farewell sermon. What do you instruct for us?" The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "I advise you to fear Allah, listen, and obey, even if an Abyssinian slave is put in charge of you. Whoever lives after me will see many conflicts. You must adhere to my Sunnah and the Sunnah of the righteous, guided successors. Hold firmly to it (to his Sunnah/tradition) as though biting with your molar teeth. Beware of newly invented matters, for every newly invented matter is an innovation (Bid'ah) and every innovation is misguidance."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4607

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna’ut

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "What comes over my nation will surely be what came over the children of Israel, step by step until if one of them fornicated with his mother, one from my nation would do the same. Verily, the children of Israel split into seventy-two sects and my nation will split into seventy-three sects. All of them will be in Hellfire except for one sect." They said, “Who are they, O Messenger of Allah?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Those who follow my way and my companions."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2641

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Albani  

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-what-it-means-to-be-muslim-and.html  

https://www.abukhadeejah.com/the-label-salafi-and-who-they-are-by-ibn-taymiyyah-ibn-abdul-wahhaab-ibn-baaz-al-albaanee-and-ibn-uthaimeen/

https://youtu.be/ivHZp-USRyo 

https://youtu.be/a5tkuP6l3LY 

https://youtu.be/INRPX9bM4Gs 

https://www.salafidvo.com/external-resources.html 

https://t.me/salafidvo 

Poem: What To Expect When You've Become Your Husband's First Wife

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 What to expect when you've become your husband's first wife - 

Advice to each Muslimah who sacrificed her pride 

And let her man remarry although most can't deny 

That polygyny isn't something all souls desire - 

Keep loving for Allah's sake so this bond stays worthwhile: 

~•~ 

Expect to see your soulmate less, since he must divide 

His time for each of his wives to ensure that his life 

Is filled with blessings while he strives to fulfill their rights. 

Since they're human beings, not all guys will do this right. 

If your husband seems unfair, advise him and remind.

~•~

If your allowance is reduced, please don't get surprised, 

Specially if you're wed to a not so wealthy guy. 

"If he's broke or indebted, then he's not qualified 

To have more than one wife in the first place!" please, don't whine. 

Be his faithful partner and stay patient by his side.

~•~ 

Support him for Allah. Pray for your spouse day and night. 

With Allah's Will, things can get better as days go by. 

Expect frequent fights or tournaments with your co-wives, 

Specially if they're jealous or insecure inside. 

The winner isn't the most spoiled, but most patient wife. 

~•~ 

Expect that staying firm won't be as easy as pie, 

Specially when shaytan won't quit tempting you with pride. 

To thrive in polygyny: Have patience day and night.

Stay connected to Allah. Put selfishness aside.

Take your co-wives as friends and teammates to Paradise.

~•~

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Umm Salamah RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Any woman who dies while her husband is pleased with her, she will enter Jannah (Paradise)".

[At-Tirmidhi, who classified it as Hadith Hasan]

Riyad As-Salihin 286

In-book reference: Introduction, Hadith 286 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/poem-patience-for-allahs-sake-can.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/poem-to-those-not-strong-enough-to.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/note-my-answer-to-what-made-you-accept.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/10/poem-understand-that-theres-wisdom.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/10/tips-when-is-polygyny-better-than.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/06/poem-some-advice-to-each-muslimah-whos.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-quick-advice-for-wife-whos-about.html 

https://binbaz.org.sa/fatwas/28215/%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%B2%D9%88%D8%A7%D8%AC-%D9%85%D9%86-%D8%AB%D8%A7%D9%86%D9%8A%D8%A9-%D9%85%D9%86-%D8%BA%D9%8A%D8%B1-%D8%B9%D9%8A%D8%A8-%D9%88%D9%84%D8%A7-%D8%AA%D9%82%D8%B5%D9%8A%D8%B1-%D9%85%D9%86-%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%A7%D9%88%D9%84%D9%89

Tips: How To Tell If An INTJ Cares About You If Their Love Language Is Quality Time

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Some of the things which most INTJs do when they like you for Allah's sake, as a friend or loved one, while their love language is "quality time": 

1] Occasionally they ask you a lot of questions about yourself, your life, your past, current concerns and plans for the future, not in an interrogating manner but rather they are genuinely eager to be more well-acquainted.

2] At least once every three months or so, they make the first move in sending you a message online to curiously ask how you're doing, and they welcome chatting with you late at night or even when they're busy. 

3] If they need advice or frank feedback on an issue, they go out of their way to consult you, as they value your interesting opinions. 

4] Even if they're outdoors, at work, shopping, tired, or attending some social gathering, they try to answer your messages without delay, and their responses consist of more than one-word answers. 

5] From time to time they enthusiastically check your Facebook timeline or social media posts. Although they may not always react to each of your status updates, the fact that they visit your pages at least once a month shows that they care about what you have to say. 

6] If you're in the same room and they notice somebody making fun of you or attempting to embarrass you somehow, they quickly defend you, respond cleverly on your behalf, or do something to distract you from any feeling of embarrassment. 

7] They easily laugh at your jokes and find your sense of humor amusing. It's obvious that an INTJ dislikes you if they maintain a straight face or scowl when you're trying to be playful with them. 

📨 When the INTJ can't trust you anymore or they regard you as a complete stranger: 

1] They find it difficult to think of appropriate topics to discuss with you. So their style of interacting when you're around is mostly brief or businesslike. 

2] Since they're uncomfortable with your vibes, they don't give you as much eye contact as they do when they're talking to those who are close to them. 

3] Although they're aware of how you own a YouTube channel, Facebook page or website, they have zero interest in revisiting it after its initial discovery. 

4] They're generally reluctant to seek your advice or collect any information from you, not because they're shy or intimidated but they don't consider you as a dependable and trustworthy individual. If they had the opportunity to avoid you at all costs to preserve their well-being, they'd gladly do so. 

5] Their serious, straightforward and emotionally detached personality doesn't change even when you try to joke with them, although they're capable of inventing hilarious comments and acting goofy around a select few who matter to them. They're not being "arrogant" but authentic and true to themselves.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

Al-Azimabadi said, “That he hates for the sake of Allah does not mean he harms the one he hates. Rather, the hatred is for his unbelief and disobedience.”

Source: ‘Awn Al-Ma’būd 4681 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/note-how-most-intj-personality-types.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/note-choosiness-of-most-intjs-when-it.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/tips-intj-acquaintance-vs-intj-friend.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/10/note-how-most-intj-personality-types.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/09/tips-eleven-signs-indicating-intj-cares.html 

https://personalitygrowth.com/intj-friendships-how-the-intj-is-as-a-bff/

Tips: Some Ways To Determine How Much Your Husband Cares Through The Five Love Languages

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Some ways to determine how much your husband loves you, according to the five love languages, even if he currently works abroad and you're in a long-distance relationship (LDR) or polygynous marriage: 

1] Words Of Affirmation: 

• He regularly tells you "I love you". 

• He never gets tired of thanking you vocally and in his emails, chat conversations, and text messages. 

• He has given you a loving nickname and feels no shame in addressing you with that special name. 

• He has complimented you many times on your beauty, cooking, and way of bringing up your kid/children. 

• Oftentimes he gives you valuable advice, writes romantic letters/poems, or motivates you to pursue your goals.

🌼

2] Quality Time: 

• He tries his best to spend time with you, at least once a week. If he is working or studying in a different city, he does what he can to make sure that he sees you on a regular basis. 

• He makes effort to read your messages and online posts enthusiastically or thoroughly. Deliberately refusing to give you any attention is one indicator that a person doesn't care about you at all. 

• He goes out of his way to answer your calls and messages, or chat with you for a few seconds, even if some of his responses are delayed due to his workload and busyness.

• Whenever you talk, face-to-face or in a video call, you can sense that he enjoys listening to you. 

• At least twice a year, if he is currently abroad or he's married to multiple wives, he encourages you to enjoy romantic moments with him and/or meet with his relatives.

🌼 

3] Acts Of Services: 

• If this is his love language, he offers to help you around the house without being asked to do so. 

• Many times he has offered to fix something which needed to be fixed, such as an electronic gadget or furniture etc. 

• He helps you in taking care of your kid/children and doesn't act like a misogynist who believes that educating the kids is entirely a woman's job. 

• You still remember those times when he insisted on changing the diapers of your baby/babies, bathing them and helping them with homework while he let you relax or complete other tasks. 

• When he wasn't busy or before he got employed in another city, you recall and appreciate those memorable moments when he volunteered to do the cooking or the laundry for you and his family.

🌼 

4] Gifts: 

• He buys you gifts or edibles from time to time. 

• He still remembers your favorite colors and tries to purchase you things which he hopes you would like. 

• If he can't buy you presents because he is financially struggling, he allows you to use some of his belongings such as his jacket to keep you warm or large slippers when you feel like using them. 

• If he is working or studying abroad at the moment, he frequently sends you links to Islamic videos and articles which he believes you can benefit from - access to authentic Islamic knowledge, as well as heartfelt Du'as, is one of the best gifts you can receive from your husband. 

• A random emoji or flirty message from your husband, regardless of how tired or busy he is, can also be counted as a gift.

🌼

5] Physical Touch: 

• He loves hugging you, offering comforting massages, and welcomes your kisses whenever he can. 

• He lets you play with his hair, doesn't budge or move away when you sit near him, and can't get annoyed when you're being touchy-feely.

• When you're together after he arrives from outside or with the other wife/wives, you can feel that he loves you for Allah's sake genuinely for who you are, not just for intimacy. 

• Despite his huge body size he makes sure that he handles you with care and treats you gently. 

• He knows when to enjoy cuddling with you and when to give space, particularly if he understands that you need to rest just as he'd like it if his needs aren't neglected. 

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "The most complete of believers in faith are those with the best character, and the best of you are the best in behavior to their women."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1162

Grade: Sahih 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The best of you are the best to their women."

Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 1978

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/note-patiently-persevere-for-allahs.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/poem-three-clear-signs-that-you-married.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/09/note-good-muslim-man-who-respects-his.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/09/poem-five-signs-that-your-husband-does.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/09/note-patiently-understand-and-empathize.html 

https://www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/love-language