Poem: To Single Brothers In Islam Striving To Survive

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 To single brothers in Islam striving to survive 

On earth with an aim to pass Allah's tests day and night, 

Also with a mission to deserve a pious wife 

To love for Allah and bring up at least one good child, 

While they strive to fight fitna storming from various sides: 

~•~ 

Remind yourself often that our main purpose in life 

Is to serve Allah and live for Him each day and night, 

Not to be famous, admired, or financially thrive, 

And not to enjoy this world as if we'll never die. 

The closer we are to Allah, the more tests arise. 

~•~

From the trials you'll confront when by Allah you're liked: 

Feeling like an outcast or odd "black sheep" oftentimes 

When none of your relatives would welcome your advice, 

Not having friends whom you can trust and who are upright, 

Or not being spared from invites to evil desires,

~•~ 

Or admiring a female whose family requires 

Mahar or bride price which is unreasonably too high, 

Or not possessing an appearance which satisfies 

A woman who cares more about looks than what's inside, 

Or working in a place that won't let you pray on time.

~•~ 

When you face challenges or feel lonely, realize 

That pleasing Allah is what must be prioritized. 

Know Allah sees us always. There are Angels nearby.

Books which enlighten are better than friends who misguide.

If you can't marry here, then in Jannah Paradise. 

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Those in seclusion have raced ahead." They said, "O Messenger of Allah, who are those in seclusion?" The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "They are men and women who remember Allah often."

In another narration, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "They are those who are absorbed in the remembrance of Allah (saying Dhikr and Du'a)."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2676

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi 

📖 Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu said: "A righteous companion is better than loneliness, and loneliness is better than an evil companion. A good writer is better than one silent, and one silent is better than an evil writer."

Source: Rawdat Al-‘Uqalā 56 

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Poem: Don't Regret Marrying Someone Chosen By Allah The Almighty

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Three clear signs that your marriage was by Allah decreed, 

That it's a blessing, a gift, and clearly meant to be, 

A blessed journey with your soulmate to Jannah's entry, 

So you don't regret your choice when shaytan would beseech 

You to leave your spouse if you can't see him frequently: 

~•~ 

Sign number one: Even if you're in polygyny 

Or your partner works in another city/country, 

The depth of your love for Allah's sake doesn't decrease, 

But his absence inspires your faith level to increase 

As you say Du'a and pray for him regularly. 

~•~

Secondly: Seeing other wives thrive can't cause envy. 

Other couples' love stories don't trigger jealousy. 

In fact, noticing couples do well in their journeys 

Motivates you to keep your husband more stubbornly, 

Unapologetic about your fierce loyalty. 

~•~ 

Thirdly: Like a tough attorney, you can easily 

Defend your husband's name and dignity lovingly, 

Able to list his most admirable qualities 

And the pleasant moments you've both enjoyed previously. 

To you, he's more handsome than all male celebrities.

~•~

That's how you can tell your love is real, with certainty. 

Know your marriage is a gift and clearly meant to be, 

If respecting your spouse feels worthwhile and you increase 

In faith/Imaan, while you're unable to feel guilty  

For marrying one chosen by Allah Almighty. 

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 4252

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

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Note: How An INTJ Wife Connects With Her ESFJ Husband

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

🗒️ Question: What did it take for you to fall in love with your husband? Although his MBTI type is ESFJ while yours is INTJ, how is it possible that you get along so well and you stubbornly refuse to give up on him?

📝 Answer: I believe that, and Allah the Almighty knows best, it can take a lot of time for most INTJs to find somebody intriguing enough to be regarded as an actual friend. If a person is unable to teach me something valuable or they've never done anything inspirational to help me improve in the Deen, I'd unapologetically perceive them as boring. 

Alhamdulillah my husband has done a lot. His loving gestures inspired me to be closer to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala with my faith/Imaan levels increasing whenever I'd apply patience/sabr each time I'd cope with his frequent absence due to his medical employment in a faraway city, and gratitude/shukr each time he'd arrive from work safely. Alhamdulillah, besides playing an important role in inspiring me to quit obsessing over my weight, he advised me numerous times and taught me to be more understanding towards my brothers, students, and the different types of people I meet in this fleeting life. 

Someone with an INTJ personality type won't be fascinated by your outward appearance and fictional stories you've invented about yourself to impress others, but by how much you're willing to educate them on topics which are important to their goals, particularly if their main intention of loving you for Allah's sake is to become a more enlightened and dedicated Muslim. If the only things you can provide are lousy jokes about random people whom you enviously despise, rumors you spread to distract yourself from your insecurities, and a face full of makeup concealing bad motives, then an INTJ Muslim would rather enjoy their solitude with Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala spending quality time on reading than making effort to continue awkward interviews and witness rehearsed acting. 

Regardless of your husband's personality type and critics claiming you're incompatible, getting along with each other can 

Inn-sha-Allah be achieved if you share the same purpose of establishing a harmonious connection - to please Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala and there's no mistrust, suspicion, and jealousy as obstacles to connecting.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1159

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi

Ali Al-Qari said, "That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala."

Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātih 5/2125 

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe. The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. By the One (Allah) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut 

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Note: Seven Quirks Which INTJ Wives Can Relate To

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Seven quirks which you can relate to if you're a Muslim wife with an INTJ personality type:   

1] You don't question why Allah the Most Wise legislated capable Muslim men to be married to up to four wives. Since polygyny deals with logic and you generally make decisions logically, not emotionally, you're one of the few females who choose not to complain when the husband wishes to remarry. 

2] You can easily sense or guess the current emotions and motives of most people, including your husband, since Allah the Most Merciful gifted you with intuition. You can tell for instance why somebody behaved rudely towards you, either because they were having a tough day or obvious jealousy triggers them to act insecure. With your husband you're able to spoil him with fierce loyalty and being forgiving readily, as marriage life is not a plaything to be taken lightly.

3] Even if your husband may have quarrelled with you in the past and there are instances when he'd act in a way that many sensitive individuals would find offensive, you are incapable of having your feelings hurt since you view insults as opportunities to improve yourself or you quietly laugh at the so-called criticism if none of it is factual. 

4] Envy is a sentiment which you can't feel at all when you notice other couples thriving in their own polygynous or monogamous marriages. You'd rather focus on staying contented in your own path towards Jannah Paradise, while helping your husband pass Allah's tests with you, than nosily peer into the different journeys of other examinees. 

5] Emotional stories of divorcees and whiny complaints of any wife concerning her husband can't influence you to doubt the validity of your marriage. Even if all of your friends, colleagues, and the neighbors' pets were divorced, you'd stubbornly persist in loving your husband for Allah's sake, defending his admirable qualities like a staunch attorney who refuses to quit on a valuable client. 

6] Because you're imaginative and future-oriented, divorce is an option you don't want to try. You can imagine all the awful scenarios and problematic outcomes of being a divorcee - one of which is rejecting all marriage proposals you receive from interested suitors and wanting to have a second wedding only with your first spouse. 

7] As a true introvert, you don't feel "empty" or "lonely" when your husband is with his other wife, with some of his friends or colleagues, or when he's busily working or studying in a faraway city. Alhamdulillah, although you miss your dear husband, you're able to efficiently make good use of your time by reading, researching online, listening to Islamic lectures and motivational podcasts, watching educative videos, or completing some tasks etc.

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1159

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi

Ali Al-Qari said, "That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala."

Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātih 5/2125

📖 Abu Sa'eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Beware of the intuition of the believer. Verily, he sees with the Light of Allah." Then, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam recited the verse, “Verily, in that are signs for those of discernment.” (The Noble Qur'an 15:75)

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 3127

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Haythami 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan." 

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

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📑 Reminder to read Surah Al-Kahf every Jumuah Friday, recite Surah Al-Mulk each day and night, and include the Muslim Ummah in your Du'as.

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Poem: Live Life To Worship Allah And You Won't Stay Depressed

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 While it's normal to feel sad every once in a while, 

Choosing to stay depressed and ignoring the bright side 

Could show that you dislike what Allah decreed and likes, 

Unaware that life's a test, not all of our desires 

Can be acquired. Real bliss is in Jannah Paradise. 

~•~ 

The type of sadness which brings shaytan complacent smiles 

Occurs when some Muslims display they're unsatisfied 

With Allah's Qadr/Decree, they want an "easy" life, 

Free from responsibilities, no stress day and night, 

Or they hate Allah's tests and long for other souls' lives.

~•~ 

The kind of misery which makes shaytan widely smile 

Is sorrow felt with denial of the truth combined, 

When some Muslims doubt Allah's Mercy once loved ones die, 

Or they're doubtful of Allah's Justice if they surmise 

How it's unfair they're not rich while strangers enjoy life. 

~•~

Learn about shaytan, know what this enemy is like, 

And disappoint him whenever he tries to advise. 

Like a self-serving coach he'd scold you with spiteful lies, 

"They've got better lives. No one likes you. Kill yourself. Die. 

No use in living if you're tired in all days and nights."

~•~ 

To defeat him, live to worship Allah day and night. 

Fulfill your main purpose. Pass Allah's tests with a smile, 

Patient with Allah's choices, grateful at least you tried. 

Despite many falls and obstacles patiently rise.

Do Tawbah and ask Allah to help you win this fight.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Nothing afflicts a Muslim of hardship, nor illness, nor anxiety, nor sorrow, nor harm, nor distress, nor even the pricking of a thorn, but that Allah will expiate his sins by it."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5318 

Sahih Muslim 2573

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Sa'd Ibn Abi Waqqas RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: I said, “O Messenger of Allah, which of the people are most severely tested?” The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "They are the prophets, then the next best (in terms of piety/righteousness), then the next best. A man is put to trial according to his Deen/religion. If he is firm in his religion, his trials will be more severe (challenging). If he is weak in his religion, he is put to trial according to his strength in religion. The servant will continue to be put to trial until he is left walking upon the earth without any sin."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2398

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

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📑 Reminder to read Surah Al-Kahf every Jumuah Friday, recite Surah Al-Mulk each day and night, and include the Muslim Ummah in your Du'as.