Poem: It's Your Right To Choose Your Close Friends Carefully

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 I have a choice to be friends with this neighbor whose name 

Starts with the letter "R" but I choose to stay away 

From her as the vibes she gives off makes me feel unsafe, 

As I recall the rudeness she formerly displayed 

And how she seems immature despite her older age.

~•~ 

I have a choice to befriend this other neighbor "A", 

Pay visits to her and her kids every other day, 

And discuss deep topics but I choose to stay away, 

As more than twice she upset me in different ways. 

I'd rather chat with ducks than scan a dishonest face. 

~•~

I've a choice as well to connect with this soul whose name 

Begins with "G", supposedly, but without dismay 

I decide to avoid her gladly for Allah's sake, 

As her expertise in gossip, mocking without shame, 

And likely envy of my blessings generate hate.

~•~ 

There are many others to whom I gleefully wave 

Goodbye after useful lessons they unwisely gave - 

To not be like them in how they childishly behave, 

To not emulate their urges to lie and betray,

And to value joy in avoiding those who are fake.

~•~ 

As a Muslim it's your right to cleverly evade 

Connecting with toxic people who keep you away 

From Allah the Almighty and reaching Jannah's Gates. 

Also don't affiliate with those whose actions make 

You doubt yourself. You don't want to lose track of your aims.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is not stung twice from the same hole."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5782

Sahih Muslim 2998

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are conscripted soldiers. They come together upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject." 

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109

Sahih Muslim 2638 

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi 

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Tips: 5 Kinds Of People Who Don't Deserve Your Attention Offline & On Social Media

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

📑 Five kinds of people who don't deserve your attention (avoid them for Allah's sake to preserve your faith/Imaan and well-being): 

1] Troublesome, unethical and unreliable individuals who purposely misbehave to get a rise out of you. Let pranksters toy with their own games while you gladly walk away to focus on more valuable matters.

2] Gossipers who enjoy talking badly about others behind their backs to distract themselves from their own defects, misery and insecurities. 

3] Undeniably jealous critics who try to decelerate your efforts to improve as a Muslim or attain your goals through misleading complaints and insignificant insults. 

4] Insecure narcissists who intentionally play hard to get or frequently ignore your messages so you can beg for their toxic affection. 

5] Shallow people who are too attached to this fleeting dunya and whose presence can't motivate you to become a better human at all.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Ali Ibn Husayn RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, part of perfection in Islam is for a person to leave what does not concern him."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2318

Grade: Sahih li ghayri (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

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💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

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Tips: INTJs When They Like You In Contrast To When They Do Not Care

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Question: How does an INTJ personality type behave when they like you as a friend in contrast to when they don't care about you at all? 

📝 Answer: 

✅ You can clearly tell that an INTJ genuinely cares about you for Allah's sake when they do at least any five of these: 

1] They consistently try their best to answer your emails and messages on time, instead of keeping you waiting while they're online and not actually busy. 

2] They eagerly chat with long messages and occasionally go out of their way to inquire about how you and your family are doing. 

3] They're surprisingly patient with your late replies, refraining from scolding you for not checking your inbox earlier, just as they hope you'd apply patience when some of their responses are delayed. 

4] Whenever they find the opportunity, every now and then they give you freebies or buy you something which they think you would like, giving gifts generously without expecting anything in exchange. 

5] At least thrice they directly asked you for advice or your frank opinion concerning a particular issue. 

6] They easily laugh at your jokes and appreciate your attempts to make them smile. 

7] When you couldn't attend a meeting or gathering you were supposed to show up at, they take the initiative to reach out, ask why you were absent, and inform you about the meeting's agenda and lessons learned. 

8] The more they like you as a friend for Allah's sake, the more they curiously ask questions about yourself, as they're interested in learning more about you so your friendship can be strengthened.

9] They've borrowed items from you several times and they're willing to lend you some of their belongings. 

❎ When an INTJ doesn't have any plan to build a friendship with you: 

1] You notice there's a pattern in them not answering your messages promptly, not caring enough to apologize for or justify their delayed responses, and it's obvious they're not enthusiastic about chatting with you. 

2] They don't follow you on Facebook, don't bother stalking any of your social media accounts, and if they're aware of the fact you maintain a YouTube channel, they show absolute zero interest in watching your other videos after the channel's initial discovery. 

3] If you've broken a promise or did something which disappointed them, they look unsurprised and unaffected, as if they knew from the beginning that you're a deceitful person whom they can never count on. 

4] They don't enjoy sharing any of their personal belongings with you, including detailed thoughts on specific topics and lucid dreams they're willing to discuss with a select few whom they regard as reliable. Basically the quieter and seemingly selfish an INTJ is towards you, the more the likelihood of them disliking you.

5] When an INTJ abhors you, for mistreating them in the past or for having interests which contradict theirs, they appear distant, serious, and lack enthusiasm to be playful with you. 

6] You can easily tell that an INTJ hates a particular individual when they do whatever they can to avoid interacting with them and mentioning their name. A Muslim INTJ who loves you for Allah's sake likes enunciating your name often, in your presence (when talking to you) and absence (when talking about you to others in a good way), and in their loving Du'as (supplications). 

7] INTJs who are uninterested in connecting with you can't tolerate your mistakes. If it seems that they've forgiven you after offending them once and yet they still treat you as if you're an irrelevant stranger to them, then accept their decision to move on without letting you in their tiny circle of carefully selected friends.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his best friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi 

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Tips: Advice From An INTJ Muslim To Younger INTJs

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Question: As an INTJ personality type, what advice can you give to younger INTJs?

📝 Answer: 1] Understand that your abilities to think, analyze and distinguish between wrong and right come from Allah the Almighty, not from your own fallible human self. Intelligence and creativity are actually tests from Allah the Most Wise to observe how you will utilize them. 

2] Never assume that you're well-informed enough about many things, since other individuals are more knowledgeable, competent and experienced than you in different fields. There's always something you can learn from every living being whom you're destined to meet. 

3] The more you sincerely acquire authentic knowledge for Allah's sake, the more you're capable of applying patience, empathy and genuine humility. While arrogant people act as if they know everything or they're unwilling to have their errors corrected, the more you learn about Islam and research on self-development, the easier it is for you to welcome advice and generously share helpful tips to inspire others and so their moods can be uplifted. 

4] Don't keep blaming others for their mistakes nor constantly scold yourself for any plan that fails. Patiently accept that projects which didn't go well or certain tests you couldn't pass were all decreed by Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. Learn from every mistake. If the same error occurs again, consistently do Tawbah (seek Allah's Forgiveness) and refuse to quit learning.

5] Don't be surprised if a number of people label you as "arrogant" or "stuck-up". Only those who lack actual confidence and awareness of various personality types would accuse you of "arrogance" when you're only being frank, direct, straightforward, true to your values and focused on achieving your goals. 

6] You have every right to cautiously select who you regard as a close friend. One reliable friend, such as your loving spouse, parent or sibling (or half-sibling), is better than a large group of acquaintances most of whom are incompatible and inauthentic. 

7] Occasionally you may encounter insecure individuals who go out of their way to make you feel "jealous" or see you feeling upset, as they're intimidated by you or count your strong personality, steadfast faith/Imaan or inner beauty as a threat. Just because somebody is unhappy from inside which urges them to treat you badly doesn't necessitate you to imitate their childish acts and absorb their negative energy. Visualize incessant braggarts as little kids enthusiastically flaunting their scribbles or fictional tales they've invented. Compliment them out of sympathy and thank Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala that you're not the one who lacks self-esteem. 

8] Oftentimes your initial perception of some persons isn't accurate. First impressions can't always be relied on since a lot of people can deviously make themselves behave and appear in such a way to gain your approval. Pay attention to your gut instinct. If you feel guilty or slightly uncomfortable interacting with a particular individual, then it may be wiser to avoid or lessen meaningless interactions with them. 

9] Don't be afraid to make the first move when necessary, to speak up when doing so would please Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala more than satisfying His servants, and to stand out when differing from the crowd or looking "weird" means doing something that leads to Allah's Love and Jannatul Ferdaus.

~•~ 

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever abandons lies in support of falsehood, a house will be built for him in the surroundings of Paradise. Whoever abandons arguments even though he is right, a house will be built for him in its middle. Whoever makes his character excellent, a house will be built for him in its highest part."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1993

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi 

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe (not guilty of backbiting, telling lies, and knowingly committing injustice). The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. 

By the One (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut 

📖 'Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, the believer may reach by his good character the rank of one who regularly fasts and stands for (Tahajjud / Qiyaam Al-Layl) prayer at night."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4798

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

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