Note: Signs That An INTJ Doesn't Regard You As A Friend

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Three obvious signs that a person with the INTJ personality type doesn't consider you as a friend: 

1] They intentionally refrain from asking you many questions. The more interested an INTJ is in developing a friendship or connection with you, the more they ask you, out of care and curiosity, about your concerns and personal life. The more they dislike you, the more indifferent, apathetic, unapproachable, serious and quiet they seem when you're around. 

2] While you may be neighbors or work in the same workplace, they go out of their way to avoid unnecessary interactions with you. If there's a requirement to approach you, they do their best to keep the conversation as concise as possible. 

3] They never check or go through any of your accounts on social media. When an INTJ is unwilling to connect with you, whatever you say online and offline doesn't matter to them. 

💬 Five things which would cause most INTJs to distance themselves from you: 

1] You've said or done something in the past which bothered them and you haven't properly apologized for that misunderstanding. 

2] You've displayed that you have the potential to cowardly gossip and criticize people behind their backs. 

3] They discovered that you've lied to them numerous times and you have proven to be very unreliable. 

4] They can sense that you're a greedy opportunist who selfishly cares a lot more about their own wants than others' needs. 

5] They realized that they can't learn anything valuable from you and your presence doesn't inspire them in any way.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

Al-Azimabadi said, “That he hates for the sake of Allah does not mean he harms the one he hates. Rather, the hatred is for his unbelief and disobedience.”

Source: 'Awn Al-Ma’būd 4681

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Tips: The Difference Between Self-Respect And Big Ego

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Five examples to clarify the differences between having self-respect (commendable) and struggling with a big ego (actual kibr / arrogance which we must avoid for Allah's sake): 

1🔹 When a salesperson, janitor or stranger calls you "sir" mistakenly if you're female or "ma'am" whether on purpose or unintentionally if you are male: 

❌ If you have an ego problem: You'd instantly snap, feeling intensely offended, and insult them in such a way they'll be too scared to make the same mistake when dealing with you, because you're "superior" while they're "nobody". 

✅ If you have self-respect: You'd calmly understand that they probably didn't mean it, and if they did, you would feel sorry for them, assuming they're likely struggling with some insecurities. This, awareness of their struggles and the rewards of patience, inspires you to forgive their mistake and confidently move on, refusing to partake in conflict which can negatively affect your overall well-being. 

2🔹 When a customer cuts in line and pushes your shopping cart to place theirs ahead of you: 

❌ If you have an ego problem: You'd argue with them without first carefully thinking about the consequences of participating in drama.

✅ If you have self-respect: You would courageously ask the person if they noticed the other shoppers already queuing before they arrived and request them to join the queue appropriately, or if you believe that a conversation with them won't change anything, you simply transfer to a different cashier's counter, uninterested in playing games with childish adults. 

3🔹 When a certain colleague or acquaintance whose vibes don't mesh with yours frequently brags about how awesome their life is whenever they find the opportunity to talk to you: 

❌ If you have an ego problem: You'd pridefully compete in boasting about your own joys and accomplishments, particularly on social media, with the sole intention of making them feel jealous and "inferior" then gossip about how much you can't stand them to your circle of confidants. 

✅ If you have self-respect: You'd maintain basic courtesy as you minimize unnecessary conversations with them because of how toxic they can be, and unfollow their posts on social media. From respecting yourself is to avoid paying attention to insecure individuals who can't inspire you to become a better Muslim, while ignoring content on the internet which trigger bad moods.

4🔹 When you discover that a group of persons whom you thought were your friends go on a trip without you for the third time: 

❌ If you have an ego problem: You'd angrily post passive-aggressive Facebook status updates about them, tag their names on public posts that are related to "fake friends" or temporary friendships, or go on an outing not with them but with another set of acquaintances then broadcast your instant payback to soothe your hurt pride, unaware that they didn't invite you because they genuinely assumed you were busy. 

✅ If you have self-respect: You'd approach some, if not all, of the members of the squad to inform them how you're interested in joining them on future outings so you can be included in their plans next time. Otherwise, you could regard them as mere acquaintances instead of friends without feeling bothered about their choice to exclude you, accepting the fact that Allah the Most Wise already destined who from His servants are meant to actually connect with you. 

5🔹 When a guest at a wedding takes the seat which you reserved and it was left unattended because you had to go to the restroom: 

❌ If you have an ego problem: You'd furiously command them to get up and give "your" chair back when there are other chairs available. 

✅ If you have self-respect: With calmness you'd look for a different chair or request a waiter at the venue to bring another one, uninterested in starting a petty fight all because of an inanimate object.

✖️ When you have a huge ego, a lot of your actions, such as your decision to discontinue communicating with a particular individual, are the result of acting irrationally upon negative emotions including anger, sadness and jealousy. 

✔️ When you are practicing self-respect, you strive for Allah's sake to ensure that your deeds are driven by logic, not fluctuating feelings, and your choices are based on what makes most sense to you in compliance with your values. Self-respect is not something to be ashamed of when it motivates you to do what Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala and His noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam love.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Charity does not decrease wealth, no one forgives another but that Allah increases his honor, and no one humbles himself for the sake of Allah but that Allah raises his status."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2588

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "No one who has the weight of a seed (or atom) of arrogance in his heart will enter Paradise." Someone said, "But a man loves to have beautiful clothes and shoes." The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah is Beautiful and He loves beauty. Arrogance means rejecting the truth and looking down on the people."

In another narration, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "No one who has the weight of a seed of faith in his heart will enter Hellfire."

Source: Sahih Muslim 91

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

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Tips: Three Reasons Why Most People Can't Be Described As Trustworthy

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Three reasons why most people can't be trusted, which is why Allah the Almighty is the Only One Whom we can truly trust: 

1] Most people, when insecure or discontented with Allah's Qadr / Destiny, tend to envy others' accomplishments, joys and blessings. A person who feels jealous of you in any way can never be relied on because they don't want you to succeed in life or surpass them at something which they themselves are trying to attain. 

2] Most humans have the potential to be greedy opportunists and selfish narcissists. You can never rely on somebody who cares more about their ego, desires and pride than people's needs and rights. Don't be surprised if an acquaintance breaks a promise, tells lies or disappoints you one day if they assume that doing so is advantageous to them in the long run.

3] All human beings occasionally forget and make mistakes. The less profitable you appear to certain individuals, the more likely they are to take you for granted. Lower your expectations when it comes to dealing with those who have proven to be dishonest so you don't easily get disappointed. 

✅ Five qualities of trustworthy souls and they are very few: 

1] It is obvious that they strive to maintain Taqwa while they fear only Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. 

2] They try their best to be careful with their words, and if ever they said or did anything which upset someone, they have the courage to sincerely apologize for their wrongs. 

3] When borrowing money and items from others, they make sure that they return what they borrowed in their proper condition and as punctually as they can. 

4] Even if they're oftentimes in a bad mood, they strive to maintain good character, answering salaams responsibly, meeting people with a cheerful demeanor, and refraining from acting unfairly despite how they feel. 

5] They aim to do good only to please Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, not for deceitful motives and personal gain. They're not the kind of people who overreact and sulk when you don't reciprocate their kindness immediately.

~•~

📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "You must be truthful. Verily, truthfulness leads to righteousness and righteousness leads to Paradise. A man continues to be truthful and encourages honesty until he is recorded with Allah as a truthful person. And beware of falsehood. Verily, falsehood leads to wickedness and wickedness leads to the Hellfire. A man continues to tell lies and encourages falsehood until he is recorded with Allah as a liar."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5743 

Sahih Muslim 2607

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "There are four signs that make someone a pure hypocrite and whoever has them has a characteristic of hypocrisy (nifaaq) until he abandons it: When he speaks, he lies; when he makes a covenant, he is treacherous; when he makes a promise, he breaks it; and when he argues, he is wicked (acts unjustly)."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 34, Sahih Muslim 58

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abu Hurairah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Years of treachery (before the Day of Judgment) will come over the people in which liars are believed and the truthful ones are denied, the deceitful are trusted, and the trustworthy are considered traitors, and the disgraceful will deliver speeches." It was said, “Who are the disgraceful?” The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Ignorant men with authority over the common people."

Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 4036

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

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Poem: Do Everything Just To Please Allah And Your Efforts Won't Be Wasted

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Do good deeds just for Allah, and you won't regret it. 

Work hard to reach Jannah, and efforts are not wasted. 

To those who often feel "underappreciated", 

"Undervalued" or "underrated", take note of this: 

We're here to serve Allah, not slaves whom He created.

~•~

If sometimes in your workplace you try your very best 

To do a job well done only to get unnoticed 

By your employers who when you thrive remain quiet 

And when errors are made, they turn into loud critics, 

Stay patient for Allah Who sees all good deeds you did.

~•~ 

Know that oftentimes people who fail to encourage 

Others to do whatever they can to gain success 

Would refuse to support you as they're sadly jealous. 

Don't be affected by the acts of the envious. 

Let their envy inspire you to be tougher instead.

~•~

Acknowledge the truth that not all of Allah's Prophets ('alaihim as-salaam) 

Were loved and supported by all of their relatives. 

Even from your own clan you may encounter hatred 

And attempts to ensure your goals are not accomplished. 

Continue doing good for Allah without regret.

~•~

'Tis better to earn Allah's Love along with some stress 

Than aimlessly rest while sins are being recorded, 

And more noble than being frequently applauded 

By "fans" is hoping your patience will be rewarded. 

Live to please Allah, so your striving isn't wasted.

~•~

📖 Ibn Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah has recorded good and evil deeds and He made them clear. Whoever intends to perform a good deed but does not do it, Allah will record it as a complete good deed. If he intends to do it and does so, Allah the Almighty will record it as ten good deeds, up to seven hundred times as much or even more. If he intends to do an evil deed and does not do it, Allah will record for him one complete good deed. If he does it, Allah will record for him as one evil deed."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6126 

Sahih Muslim 131

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Nothing afflicts a Muslim of hardship, nor illness, nor anxiety, nor sorrow, nor harm, nor distress, nor even the pricking of a thorn, but that Allah will expiate his sins by it."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5318 

Sahih Muslim 2573

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Sa'd Ibn Abi Waqqas RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: I said, “O Messenger of Allah, which of the people are most severely tested?” The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "They are the prophets, then the next best (in terms of piety), then the next best. A man is put to trial according to his Deen/religion. If he is firm in his religion, his trials will be more severe. If he is weak in his religion, he is put to trial according to his strength in religion. The servant will continue to be put to trial until he is left walking upon the earth without any sin."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2398

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

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Tips: 3 Qualities Which Make You Seem Intimidating And 3 Types Of People Who May Feel Intimidated By You

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Three positive qualities which make you seem very "intimidating" and "unapproachable" by certain people: 

1] Your trust in Allah the Almighty, your strong faith / Imaan and confidence (not insecure arrogance) inspire you to be resilient, to take the initiative when necessary and to not quit instantly. 

2] It is obvious that you are incredibly selective and cautious regarding your choice of close friends. With Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala guiding you, you're not afraid to stand out and you don't oblige others to cheer for you constantly. 

3] Comparing yourself to other individuals and acting upon toxic feelings of jealousy due to inferiority complex are some of the things you refuse to do stubbornly. 

❎ What kind of person would hesitate to connect with you, as they find you intimidating? 

1] The one with low self-esteem, who feels inadequate (not good enough) around you and gets jealous easily. 

2] An untruthful person with a bad agenda, who seeks to manipulate people and take advantage of their kindness. Apparently they lost interest in getting to know you better once they've discovered that you have the guts to speak up, the potential to expose their lies, and the integrity to unapologetically detach from those who are dishonest.

3] A selfish narcissist who goes out of their way to anxiously avoid you since they don't want you stealing any of their joys or limelight.

~•~ 

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe. The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. By the One (Allah) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan." 

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

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