Tips: Advice To Those Who Oftentimes Feel Lonely

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Question: What advice can you give young Muslims regarding coping with loneliness while their parents, grandparents, aunts and uncles have passed away and they struggle to connect with individuals who are around their age?

📝 Answer: 1] Firmly believe that we are never truly alone, since our Creator Allah the Almighty hears and sees us at all times. Two of Allah's Angels are also nearby, observant and ready to record our actions, one on the right and another on the left side. 

2] Finding it challenging to make friends with the people whom Allah the Most Wise destined that we would meet may be from Allah's trials. While some are tested with affluence, others are tested with poverty or financial struggles, and while the faith/Imaan of some Muslims is being examined through fame and popularity, others are being tested by the inability to fit in with the people they surround. Aim to pass this test by striving to stay patient for Allah's sake, feeling contented with Allah's Love and Guidance. 

3] Consider solitude as an actual blessing in disguise, specifically if it means being protected from 1) socializing with the wrong kind of friends whose interests mostly prevent you from being close to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, 2) befriending untrustworthy individuals who secretly envy you and desire to see you fail in both worlds, or 3) affiliating yourself with misguided groups which in the long run would impact you negatively. 

4] Understand that you're not the only human being on earth who oftentimes feels lonely. Loneliness usually occurs when you remain idle for long periods away from your duties towards our Creator Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala and instead of trying to attain peace by serving Allah the Most Loving you expect to find optimum joy in Allah's flawed servants who are full of worries and problems to solve. 

5] Keep yourself busy sincerely doing righteous deeds which can elevate your status, with Allah's Will, in Jannah Paradise. The more you read from the Noble Qur'an and the more authentic Islamic knowledge you acquire for Allah's sake, the stronger your faith/Imaan gets and the less prone you are to being affected by unpleasant emotions. 

6] Acknowledge the fact that anything in this world which makes you cry and smile is temporary. So don't be surprised if some individuals whom you thought would support you would depart eventually. Know that everlasting happiness, pure bliss not contaminated with what's haraam/forbidden, can be enjoyed in Jannah Paradise. 

7] It is possible for a Muslim who is "friendless" to be loved by Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala and meant for Jannatul Ferdaus. It is also possible that a number of celebrities are destined to join the inhabitants of hell/jahannam, if Allah the Most Just doesn't forgive them, despite their large following and supportive fans. Your true value as a living being isn't determined by how many people regard you as their friend. Your heart and sincere efforts to please Allah the Most Kind are what can measure your worth, and your good deeds are the ones to accompany you even after each person who claims to love you leaves the cemetery. 

Allah the Almighty knows best.

~•~ 

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Three things follow a deceased person (to the person's grave). Two of them return and one remains. His family, his wealth, and his deeds follow him. His family and wealth return, but his deeds remain (with the dead in their graves)."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6149 

Sahih Muslim 2960

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi 

📖 Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu said: "A righteous companion is better than loneliness, and loneliness is better than an evil companion. A good writer is better than one silent, and one silent is better than an evil writer."

Source: Rawdat Al-‘Uqalā 56 

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Tips: Negative Qualities Which Many Untrustworthy People Have In Common

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🗒️ Seven negative qualities which many untrustworthy people have in common: 

1] They deliberately neglect the obligatory prayers or they don't pray at all. If someone has the audacity to disobey Allah's Commands by choice, what makes you so sure that they'll always keep their word? 

2] When they borrow some money or items from you, it takes a lot of time for them to return what they agreed to give back or the item they borrowed is returned but not in its proper condition. Trustworthy Muslims try their best to clear all their debts as soon as they can, knowing that death can occur at any moment. 

3] They have an awful tendency to gossip about others without guilt. You can't trust anybody who allows their tongue and emotions to take control of them. 

4] They've told an obvious lie or disappointed you more than three times, and they didn't bother compensating or doing anything to make up for their misconduct. 

5] When they notice you in a good mood or you're doing a certain task well, they act aloof and quiet. As soon as they catch you making a mistake, they eagerly point out your flaws and go out of their way to criticize you in public. Somebody who is eager to embarrass you online and offline is a jealous person who can never be trusted. 

6] They enjoy getting into pointless debates and interfering in matters that have nothing to do with them. The more talkative and reckless a person is regarding issues which don't concern them, the more the opportunities for committing mistakes. You can't rely on an individual who doesn't make effort to be cautious and disciplined. 

7] They're bad at communicating. You've observed that they usually leave most of your messages on "seen" mode as if they're guilty of hiding some information from you or they don't know the right way to respond. Anyone who acts as if they're concealing something essential from you can't truly be trusted.

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📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "You must be truthful. Verily, truthfulness leads to righteousness and righteousness leads to Paradise. A man continues to be truthful and encourages honesty until he is recorded with Allah as a truthful person. And beware of falsehood. Verily, falsehood leads to wickedness and wickedness leads to the Hellfire. A man continues to tell lies and encourages falsehood until he is recorded with Allah as a liar."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5743 

Sahih Muslim 2607

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "There are four signs that make someone a pure hypocrite and whoever has them has a characteristic of hypocrisy (nifaaq) until he abandons it: When he speaks, he lies; when he makes a covenant, he is treacherous; when he makes a promise, he breaks it; and when he argues, he is wicked (acts unjustly)."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 34, Sahih Muslim 58

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abu Hurairah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Years of treachery (before the Day of Judgment) will come over the people in which liars are believed and the truthful ones are denied, the deceitful are trusted, and the trustworthy are considered traitors, and the disgraceful will deliver speeches." It was said, “Who are the disgraceful?” The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Ignorant men with authority over the common people."

Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 4036

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

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Tips: Five Kinds Of People Whose "Advice" About Love And Marriage Life Don't Need To Be Taken

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📑 Five kinds of people whose so-called advice regarding love and marriage life don't deserve to be taken: 

1] People who are obviously jealous of you and who'd hate to see you succeed or surpass them in any way.

2] Individuals who have never been married and haven't actually experienced what real love for Allah's sake feels like. 

3] Divorcees who try to advise you according to their own standards or ego, without considering what is truly best for you in both worlds. 

4] Obvious narcissists who believe in the importance of insecurely playing hard to get and who are incapable of understanding the virtues of loyalty, gratitude, contentment, patience, steadfastness, empathy and forgiveness. 

5] Those who lack Taqwa, who don't believe in Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, and who seem overly attached to this fleeting dunya. Someone who doesn't put effort into striving to be pious for Allah's sake may give you wrong "tips" which could prevent you from succeeding in this world and the afterlife.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A woman is married for four things: her wealth, her family status, her beauty, and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman (otherwise) you will be a loser."

Sahih Al-Bukhari 5090

In-book reference: Book 67 Hadith 28

USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 7, Book 62, Hadith 27 

📖 Jabir RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, shaytan places his throne over the water and he sends out his troops. The closest to him in rank are the greatest at causing tribulations (mischief, trouble). One of them says: 'I have done this and this.' shaytan says: 'you have done nothing.' Another one says: 'I did not leave this man alone until I separated him from his wife.' shaytan embraces him and he says: 'you have done well!'" 

Source: Sahih Muslim 2813 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

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Poem: Dear Husband, Although I'm Not Perfect I Strive To Love You Perfectly For Allah's Sake

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Dear husband, the man whom Allah chose as my soulmate, 

Despite the fact I'm not perfect in numerous ways 

And I can't always stop myself from making mistakes, 

I'm perfectly grateful to be your wife, and I say 

This without lying that I love you for Allah's sake. 

~•~ 

Yes, beloved husband, I love you for Allah's sake 

Even though we're not passionate every night and day, 

I assure you I'm passionately loyal always, 

Talkative with very few, disciplined with my gaze, 

And defending you like lawyers fight to win a case. 

~•~ 

While I'm not fab with makeup nor have a flawless face, 

And though I'm not trained at maintaining an ideal weight, 

I try to look at least decent and for Allah's sake 

Your kindness more than your body I appreciate. 

To me, you're always handsome regardless of your age. 

~•~ 

Forgive me if I can't ensure I smell nice always, 

If to musk and lavenders my scent doesn't equate 

While I fail to do certain tasks with absolute grace. 

Nonetheless in spite of my flaws I sincerely pray 

That Allah blesses my loving you for Allah's sake. 

~•~ 

Dear husband, though I'm not perfect in so many ways, 

"I'm fine if you have four wives" I can faithfully state, 

Not coz I lack self-respect but I'd rather remain 

Married to the man whom Allah gave as my soulmate. 

Loving you for Allah is what makes you worth the wait.

~•~ 

📖 Abdullah Ibn 'Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A believing man does not despise a believing woman. If he finds something in her character which he dislikes, he will still be pleased by something else."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1469

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

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