Note: Don't Be Too Quick To Ask For Divorce (Avoid These Qualities To Preserve Your Marriage)

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Eleven things, if your husband tries his best to do at least seven of them, then for Allah's sake don't be too quick to ask for divorce: 

1] He strives to pray all the obligatory prayers regularly. 

2] He enjoys reading and reciting from the Noble Qur'an, trying to reflect on Allah's Words whenever he can. 

3] He loves praying in the Masjid and in congregation. 

4] He treats his mother and father with genuine respect. 

5] He is loving, cheerful and caring towards your child/children and his relatives. 

6] He ensures that his job doesn't prevent him from carrying out his religious duties while he earns his income from lawful sources, avoiding ribaa (interest / usury) and gambling as much as possible. 

7] He reminds you to value modesty for Allah's sake and offers kind advice whenever he notices you doing something wrong. 

8] He is admirably capable of making you laugh and smile without being obnoxiously offensive to anybody. 

9] He does what he can to get along with your family and refrains from speaking about them negatively. 

10] He has noteworthy goals and lofty ambitions, including to dutifully care for a large Muslim family, to complete paying off his or a loved one's debts, and to perform Hajj as well as 'Umrah all to please Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. 

11] Although your husband may not always answer your calls and messages in a timely manner due to stress, preoccupation with work or unreliable internet connection, he actually puts effort into staying connected when he isn't busy and compliments you from time to time. 

❎ Avoid these characteristics as they could lead to divorce: 

1] Greed along with ingratitude - being unsatisfied with Allah's Qadr / Destiny, surrendering to envy and constantly wanting what other couples enjoy. 

2] Selfishness - only being concerned with what you desire, while purposely ignoring your spouse's needs or not giving your husband his right to be legally married to up to four wives. 

3] Impatience - lacking the determination to patiently wait for your husband's arrival, self-development and progress as a striving Muslim. 

4] Suspicion - unfairly mistrusting your spouse without justifiable evidence.

5] Arrogance - not having enough empathy to understand your husband's circumstances, to hear him out and accept his apology. 

6] Oversensitivity due to insecurities - instantly getting upset over trivial issues and making a big deal out of each other's past mistakes. 

7] Unwarranted attachment to this worldly life and ignoring the main purpose of why Allah the Most Powerful created us, to worship Him Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala sincerely, not enslave ourselves to our nafs, soulmate or society.

~•~

📖 Thawban RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "Any woman who asks her husband for a divorce when it is not absolutely necessary, the fragrance of Paradise will be forbidden to her."

Sunan Ibn Majah 2055

In-book reference: Book 10, Hadith 40

English translation: Vol. 3, Book 10, Hadith 2055 

📖 Thawban RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whenever a woman asks her husband for a divorce without a strong reason, the fragrance of Paradise becomes forbidden for her."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 2226

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut

📖 Jabir RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, shaytan places his throne over the water and he sends out his troops. The closest to him in rank are the greatest at causing tribulations. One of them says: 'I have done this and this.' shaytan says: 'you have done nothing.' Another one says: 'I did not leave this man alone until I separated him from his wife.' shaytan embraces him and he says: 'you have done well!'"

Source: Sahih Muslim 2813

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/09/poem-love-your-husband-for-allah-dont.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/09/poem-if-my-husband-wanted-divorce-id.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/poem-demerits-of-divorce.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-three-tips-to-preserve-your.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/10/poem-its-easy-to-stay-in-love-with-your.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/poem-dismiss-shaytans-whispers-as-he.html 

https://binbaz.org.sa/fatwas/16999/%D9%85%D8%B9%D9%86%D9%89-%D8%AD%D8%AF%D9%8A%D8%AB-%D8%A7%D9%8A%D9%85%D8%A7-%D8%A7%D9%85%D8%B1%D8%A7%D8%A9-%D8%B3%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%AA-%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%B7%D9%84%D8%A7%D9%82

Poem: Keep Serving Allah The Almighty Despite Frequent Mistakes

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Reminder to myself and Muslims who can relate, 

Who notice that their faith levels sometimes fluctuate, 

Motivated when good deeds are done for Allah's sake, 

And when sins are committed they feel guilty, dismayed, 

And afraid of Allah's Justice when mistakes are made: 

~•~ 

You're not a hypocrite if you oftentimes pray late, 

If from time to time you pray Fajr when the sun's rays 

Are visible as you overslept, went to bed late 

Or depression causes you to have some tasks delayed.

What matters is you believe and to Allah you prayed. 

~•~

Don't feel guilty of nifaaq if sometimes you play games, 

Watch videos while making sure you don't misuse your gaze, 

And joke about some friends when they're present or away. 

It's shaytan's job to tempt you so you can lose your way. 

Defeat shaytan by disobeying what he dictates. 

~•~ 

The devil and his armies want you to speculate 

That you'll never be good enough to reach Jannah's gates. 

Don't listen to our enemies. Strive for Allah's sake.

Pray Tahajjud and Duhaa prayer to compensate 

For shortcomings in the past along with some delays. 

~•~ 

Allah is the Most Forgiving, recall that always, 

And Allah rejoices when you repent for His sake.

More beloved to Allah than people who behave 

As if they're "perfect" are Muslims with persistent faith, 

Who won't quit serving Allah despite frequent mistakes.

~•~

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: A man asked the Messenger of Allah, Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam, “What is faith (Imaan)?” The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If you are happy with your good deeds and saddened by your bad deeds, then you are a believer." The man said, “O Messenger of Allah, what is sin?” The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If something waivers in your soul (makes you feel uncertain/full of doubts), then you must leave it."

Source: Musnad Ahmed 21695

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "By Allah, I seek forgiveness from Allah and I repent to Him more than seventy times in a day."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5948

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Bukhari

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "By Him (Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) in Whose Hand is my soul, if you did not sin, Allah would replace you with people who would sin and they would seek forgiveness from Allah and He Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala would forgive them."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2749

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/07/note-always-seek-allahs-forgiveness-and.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/09/poem-join-those-whom-allah-loves-from.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-never-give-up-on-allahs-mercy.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-evolve-and-keep-seeking-allahs.html 

https://abukhadeejah.com/do-not-cease-being-repentant-to-allaah/ 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-careful-of-hypocrites-who-claim-to.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/poem-avoid-nifaaqhypocrisy.html 

Hadith: Encouragement To Recite And Read From The Noble Qur'an With A Beautiful Voice

📖 Al-Bara Ibn 'Azib RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Beautify the Qur'an with your voices."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 1468

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Lubabah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "He is not one of us who does not recite the Qur'an in a pleasant voice."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 1471

Grade: Jayyid (Very good) according to Al-Nawawi 

https://binbaz.org.sa/fatwas/21706/%D9%85%D8%A7-%D8%B5%D8%AD%D8%A9-%D8%AD%D8%AF%D9%8A%D8%AB-%D8%B2%D9%8A%D9%86%D9%88%D8%A7-%D8%A7%D9%84%D9%82%D8%B1%D8%A7%D9%86-%D8%A8%D8%A7%D8%B5%D9%88%D8%A7%D8%AA%D9%83%D9%85 

https://binbaz.org.sa/fatwas/2401/%D8%A8%D9%8A%D8%A7%D9%86-%D9%85%D8%B9%D9%86%D9%89-%D9%84%D9%8A%D8%B3-%D9%85%D9%86%D8%A7-%D9%85%D9%86-%D9%84%D9%85-%D9%8A%D8%AA%D8%BA%D9%86-%D8%A8%D8%A7%D9%84%D9%82%D8%B1%D8%A7%D9%86

Poem: Patiently Persevere For Allah's Sake In Your Long-Distance Marriage

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Love letter which can be sent from every loyal wife 

To her husband who's absent on many days and nights, 

Physically unavailable a lot of times, 

Employed in another city and preoccupied 

With earning halal income so his fam can survive:

~•~

"Dear husband, the man I love for Allah the Most Wise, 

Although you're not around every single day and night, 

My loyalty stays intact, and this isn't a lie. 

Despite passing by strangers whenever I'm outside, 

You're the only guy whom I wish stayed right by my side.

~•~ 

Back then when I was a teenager or still a child, 

There may have been moments when I wondered what it's like 

To cook for your soulmate, care for him when he arrives, 

And carry out the chores of typical "good housewives", 

But then Allah chose for me this kind of marriage life... 

~•~ 

...This type of love story in which both husband and wife 

Must love each other patiently more than ego/pride, 

More than the hours and miles that keep them apart sometimes, 

And more than the urge to surrender as they desire 

To maintain the bond destined by Allah the Most Wise. 

~•~

Dear husband, persevere and don't worry. You and I 

Shall, with Allah's Will, make it to Jannah Paradise 

Where lovers won't go through sorrow and hearts never cry. 

Know earth is temporary, someday we'll surely die, 

And whether you're far or nearby, my love won't decline."

~•~ 

📖 Thawban RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The best wealth is a tongue that remembers Allah, a grateful heart, and a believing wife to help one in his faith."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 3094

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/02/poem-i-love-my-husband-for-allahs-sake.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/12/poem-dont-regret-marrying-someone.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/10/poem-have-enough-patience-to-wait-for.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/11/poem-if-i-could-make-any-wish-regarding.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/04/poem-tips-to-cope-with-ldr-and-how-to_7.html 

Note: Not Everyone On Earth Has The Same Love Story. Be Contented With The Journey That Allah The Most Wise Chose For You.

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Not everyone has the same love story. I remember my dear mom (Allah yarhamha. Ameen.) telling me how my father (Allah yarhamhu. Ameen.) used to make many attempts to court her, like the typical romantic Maranao guy with classic bell-bottoms back in the 80s, but she would reject every one of his efforts to gain her attention until he had the courage to speak to her family to officially seek her hand in marriage. Alhamdulillah my parents got married, visited several countries around the world including the US and UK, networked with Da'ees like Bilal Philips and AbdurRahman Dimashqiah, wrote several Islamic books together which were published by Darussalam Bookstores, and although their very first son passed away before I was born Alhamdulillah they did an excellent job at raising me and my brothers with a strict but worthwhile upbringing. Before my mom died from cancer she requested my dad to remarry so their kids can have a stepmother. My father however chose to have her as his only wife until after some months it was Allah's Qadr that my dad passed away following her. I believe his medical complications were also due to severe sadness from being a widower.

I pray that Allah the Most Merciful reunites my dear parents in Jannatul Ferdaus and accepts all their good deeds with Allah's Mercy. Ameen.

My husband's mother from what I know got married when she was around 14 or 15 years old. Alhamdulillah she and her husband, who happens to be my uncle (Allah yarhamhu. Ameen.) since I married my cousin, were able to have twelve children together Alhamdulillah, with one baby boy that passed away before my husband was born. 

My brother Ahmad since he was a baby was engaged to get married in the future to his childhood friend whom we'll nickname "A". A's mother and my mother gave birth at almost the same time in 1988 Dammam (northeastern Saudi Arabia). Because they were close friends, they promised they would let their babies (boy and girl) get married when they become adults. However since Allah's Plans always overtake His servants', that plan didn't take place. Thus my brother Ahmad got married to our paternal cousin who's around three years older than him. Alhamdulillah they currently have five adorable kids, whereas A is married to a Saudi guy whom she met in Malaysia and has one beautiful half-Saudi half-Filipino daughter at the moment.

My brother AbdurRahman, with Allah's Will, was the one who got married to his childhood friend Eemaan. They were never close though as little kids, but our families regularly attended the same gatherings back in Riyadh city. I pray that Allah the Most Loving blesses them with many pious Muslim children. Ameen.

My love journey is a complicated one, but Alhamdulillah every struggle comes with a set of lessons learned from whatever we experience. In my teens I received several marriage proposals, one coming from a religious Pakistani guy, one from a Filipino Muslim who was employed in Madinah at that time, one from a Filipino residing in USA, and another from a childhood friend whose name is like one of my brothers Abdul-Rahman. I rejected them all, claiming this one was too baby-faced, that one was too shy, this one was younger than me and I preferred an older guy. After some time my mother (Allah yarhamha. Ameen.) with her motherly instincts thought I was having a haraam connection with one of my former best friends, but that wasn't the case, we just enjoyed talking to each other on the phone a lot. Because she was worried I might turn into a "lesbian" (no, I'm not gay, queer, or bisexual), which is probably why in her opinion I kept saying no to the marriage proposals I was getting, she and my dad finally got me arranged to marry my first cousin, a medical doctor. So Alhamdulillah in Shawwal 2006 I got married at age 20 to my cousin who was 28 then. Since I grew up in Saudi Arabia while he was raised in Mindanao, we saw each other like complete strangers in the beginning and Alhamdulillah we learned more about love along the way. When I was around 26 years old I became his first wife when he married this Visayan lady who's one year older than me. Alhamdulillah through this marriage I became more enthusiastic and supportive of polygyny after doing extensive research on its virtues and benefits.

Another brief love story I want to mention is that of a childhood friend who divorced her husband after having one daughter with him. Several years later they remarried and Alhamdulillah they're able to have more children. Another older acquaintance, a mother of one of our students here at Wisdom Islamic School, also divorced her husband at one point but after a number of years went by, they remarried and had more kids with Allah's Will.

Never compare your love journey to others' marriage lives, as our Qadr, capabilities and roles are not exactly the same. What makes a marriage blessed isn't the couple's large number of children nor how much money the head of the family makes, but what really adds blessings and barakah to your marital life is genuine love for Allah's sake. A marriage is a blessing from Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala if it protects both wife and husband from getting into zina / forbidden relationships, and if it trains you to embrace patience / Sabr and gratitude / Shukr thereby completing the other half of your Deen and leading you to Jannah Paradise where the sincere believers can enjoy perfect and flawless love for eternity.

📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas’ud RadhiAllahu anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu alaihi wa sallam said, "O young men, if you are able to support a wife, then get married. Verily, it restrains the eyes and guards chastity. Whoever is not able to do so, he must fast (Sunnah fasts) as it is a means of control."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 1806 

Sahih Muslim 1400

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-authentic-love-for-allahs-sake.html  

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/06/poem-five-signs-that-youre-tough-wife.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/06/note-if-you-have-good-intentions-you.html