Tips: Eleven Things Which You Can Appreciate And Admire About Your Husband

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

🟩 Eleven things which you may find in your husband that can make you more attracted to him thereby strengthening your love for him for Allah's sake, even if he isn't very wealthy yet or according to some individuals not physically fit or "not that handsome": 

1] The respect he has for his mother/parents.

2] The care he shows towards his sister/sisters and female relatives. 

3] His cheerful and generally likable personality. 

4] His cute sense of humor and attractive ability to make you giggle or smile. 

5] His astounding charisma and playfulness with children. 

6] His gentle side you get to see when he cares for Allah's creations including cats and birds. 

7] His remarkable driving skills and concern for road safety. 

8] His efforts to go through your text messages or answer your calls even if a lot of his responses are delayed sometimes. 

9] His eagerness to become a better and more productive Muslim for Allah's sake every night and day. 

10] How he tries his best to make sure that you both never commit crimes and injustice against anyone, and how fabulous he is at giving sincere advice.

11] His admirable patience with your flaws and imperfections.

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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1159

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi

Ali Al-Qari said, "That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala."

Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātīḥ 5/2125

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 4252

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-sincere-love-for-allahs-sake.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/04/poem-be-strong-wife-and-love-your.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/08/poem-what-is-love-true-love-whats-its.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/06/note-obvious-signs-youre-still-in-love.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/10/poem-five-signs-that-you-are-very-much.html 

https://abukhadeejah.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/10/Righteous-Wife-P1-WEB-7.3-Print-Complete.pdf

Note: How Do Some Introverted Muslims Choose Their Close Friends?

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📜 Question: Regardless of your MBTI personality type, how do you choose your friends, or when would you consider somebody as a "good friend"? 

📝 Answer: As an introvert (INTJ) I generally don't walk around actively or desperately searching for friends. I believe that it's possible

Inn-sha-Allah to thrive in both worlds without numerous long-lasting friendships, particularly if not every individual whom you're destined to meet can be regarded as completely honest and reliable. I also don't wait nor yearn for anybody to interact with me several times until they reach the point when we both consider each other as "friends". 

Alhamdulillah I'd say that while I have a lot of acquaintances of various tribes and nationalities, only a small number of them are individuals whose personal lives I genuinely care about for Allah's sake and out of that select few there could be less than a handful whom I'd regard as actual friends even if they probably perceive me as merely an acquaintance. 

How do I select my friends? Definitely not at random and not according to similarity. Just because someone is around my age, wears the niqaab when outdoors, can speak English fluently, was born in Saudi Arabia like I was or they enjoy writing poetry occasionally, it doesn't mean that I'll automatically become enthusiastic about befriending them, as if my main mission in life is to gather as many clones or carbon copies as I can to form some kind of battalion. 

What I'd usually do if I must categorize people is I would disqualify a person from being a "potential friend" once they've done any of these: 

1] if they deliberately lied to me more than once. 

2] if they caused me to waste time doing something pointless, absurd or unproductive more than once. And if they ignorantly insist that I indulge in bid'ah or polytheistic acts.

3] if they're boring conversationalists online and offline, if they don't know how to have deep conversations, if you feel as though you're tediously interviewing or investigating them whenever you attempt to have a meaningful dialogue. 

4] if I overheard them cowardly backbiting about me or criticizing any of my loved ones, especially my dear husband. 

5] if we've known each other's names for more than five years but so far neither of us have taken the initiative to spend time together outdoors at least twice. 

6] if they regularly show signs of nervousness or discomfort whenever they speak with me, as though they're guilty of something and trying to conceal it. 

7] if they have a tendency to act overly emotional and passive-aggressive, if they've complained to any of my relatives about me instead of discussing the problem with me directly - I'd regard the snitch as someone whom I can't trust anymore because any information I try to share with them could be misconstrued. 

I'd consider someone as a friend if: 

1] I openly make effort to support their halal business or hobbies whenever I can online and/or offline. 

2] I don't feel bored asking them questions about themselves and their interests etc. 

3] I oftentimes go out of my way to visit them (at least once a year), send them a message (at least once every three months or so) or ask for their advice. 

Trying to maintain connection with lots of people can drain your energy if you're an introvert. So don't be surprised if some introverts aren't very likable or approachable, specifically if amassing fans or supporters isn't one of our primary goals.

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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi

📖 Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu said: "A righteous companion is better than loneliness, and loneliness is better than an evil companion. A good writer is better than one silent, and one silent is better than an evil writer."

Source: Rawdat Al-‘Uqalā 56

https://abukhadeejah.com/only-true-friends-and-righteous-companions-will-benefit-you/

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/note-choosiness-of-most-intjs-when-it.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/02/note-can-intj-personality-type-feel.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/07/note-five-benefits-of-being-socially.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/07/note-five-reasons-to-be-carefully.html 

https://www.psychologyjunkie.com/2018/10/19/5-steps-to-making-friends-with-an-intj/

Hadith: Encouragement To Do More Sunnah Good Deeds For Allah's Sake Consistently And With Ikhlaas Sincerity

📖 Abu Musa RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a servant falls ill or travels, the likes of what he used to do when he was settled (or stable) and healthy will be recorded for him."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 2834

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Bukhari

Tips: Some Advice On How Not To Be Controlled By One's Emotions | Part 2

📚 Islamic PDF book "Tips on how not to be controlled by one's emotions" some advice from sister Mariam Mababaya. You're welcome to share with others for Allah's sake and print as charity sadaqah jaariya:

https://drive.google.com/file/d/12gTUajTyjI0Gnamiw436EMquzE43qzxf/view?usp=drivesdk

Tips: Some Advice On How Not To Be Controlled By One's Emotions | Part 1

📚 Islamic PDF book "Tips on how not to be controlled by one's emotions" some advice from sister Mariam M, you may share with others for Allah's sake and print as charity sadaqah jaariya:

https://drive.google.com/file/d/12gTUajTyjI0Gnamiw436EMquzE43qzxf/view?usp=drivesdk