Poem: My Message To Those Who Glorify Divorce

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

📝 My comebacks to females who want divorce glorified, 

And message to divorcees who often post online 

Misleading "advice" to Muslim couples to despise 

One's spouse if staying married can't keep one satisfied - 

To those who won't solve problems but flee and cry "goodbye": 

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What's wrong with you? Have you forgotten the reason why 

You approved that guy's proposal once upon a time? 

Did you marry him for Allah or did you desire 

More joys which not every human can always provide? 

Mistakes can sometimes be made by humans and AI.

~•~

You claiming that "divorce is 'ibaadah" is unwise 

If the man you abandoned tries his best day and night 

To be a better Muslim and spouse to his wife/wives, 

Eager to earn halal income so his fam can thrive 

And you decide to ditch him due to kibr / foul pride.

~•~

Please, your husband is not "toxic" if once in a while 

He answers you grumpily whenever he gets tired 

Or if he disappoints you when he from time to time 

Forgets, misinterprets or doesn't know all your likes 

And dislikes, because he's a human like you, all right.

~•~

Glorifying divorce is like showing strange delight 

When competing athletes give up before they arrive 

At the finish line as they were too preoccupied 

With wanting better footwear or fighting pesky flies. 

You're a loser if you romanticize kibr/pride.

~•~

What? You never loved your former spouse enough to try 

To reconcile, find ways to ensure your love survives 

Much longer, with patience, than cobwebs, nests and beehives, 

And to empathize with him, stay firm when criticized, 

And recall his gifts so his good traits are magnified?

~•~

A marriage is not "loveless" or "toxic", please don't lie, 

If the spouses debate and disagree oftentimes. 

It's fine if some loved ones and true friends argue sometimes. 

If there were no quarrels, no one could apologize, 

No one would have the chance to forgive and reunite.

~•~ 

Marriages free from arguments could also imply 

The couples are robots devoid of feelings and spice, 

Or they're actors constantly acting with contrived smiles.

Divorce mostly adds stress and remorse; it's not designed 

For those whose love for Allah's sake is larger than pride.

~•~

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Jabir RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, shaytan places his throne over the water and he sends out his troops. The closest to him in rank are the greatest at causing tribulations (mischief, trouble). One of them says: 'I have done this and this.' shaytan says: 'you have done nothing.' Another one says: 'I did not leave this man alone until I separated him from his wife.' shaytan embraces him and he says: 'you have done well!'" 

Source: Sahih Muslim 2813 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

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Note: Reminder To Fast Sunnah Fasting On Yawm 'Ashura 10th Day Of Muharram

📜 Join us Inn-sha-Allah and others in fasting Sunnah fasting on Yawm 'Ashura the 10th day of Muharram.

Tuesday July 9
3rd day of Muharram 1446H
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Wednesday July 10
4th day of Muharram 1446H
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Thursday July 11
5th day of Muharram 1446H
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Jumuah Friday July 12
6th day of Muharram 1446H
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Saturday July 13
7th day of Muharram 1446H
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Sunday July 14
8th day of Muharram 1446H
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Monday July 15, 2024
9th day of Muharram 1446H
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✅ Tuesday July 16 (it is a rewarding Sunnah to fast on Yawm 'Ashura followed by one day before it 9th day of Muharram OR one day after it on the 11th day of Muharram)
💎 10th day of Muharram 1446H
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Wednesday July 17, 2024
11th day of Muharram 1446H
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📖 Abu Qatadah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam was asked about fasting the day of Arafat (Yawm 'Arafah) and he SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "It will expiate the sins of the previous and upcoming year." Then, the Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam was asked about fasting the day of Ashura (10th day of Muharram) and he SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "It will expiate the sins of the past year."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1162

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

📖 Ibn Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam came to Medina and he found the Jews fasting on the day of Ashura. The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "What is this day that you are fasting?" They said, “This is a great day in which Allah saved Moses ('alaihis salaam) and his people, and he drowned Pharaoh and his people. Moses fasted on it due to gratitude, so we also fast on it.” The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "We (Muslims) are more deserving and are closer to Moses (Musa 'alaihis salaam) than you." The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam fasted the day of Ashura (10th of Muharram) and he commanded fasting on it.

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3216

Sahih Muslim 1130

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

Note: Some Reminders From An INTJ Muslimah (44)

Poem: Never Trust Narcissists; Never Admire Them.

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📝 Some signs you're dealing with narcissists, never trust them, 

Since they care more about their ego and appearance 

Than morals or truly connecting with their loved ones: 

They upload tons of selfies, eager for compliments, 

With often filtered photos so their flaws are hidden.

~•~

Uploading videos of their guests, shopping or outings, 

Broadcasting events they attend like lavish weddings 

Or bragging to strangers about all their achievements, 

Are from the strange things they do to boost low confidence - 

Craving admiration, so insecure from within.

~•~

If they're females, they love colored lenses, concealing 

Defects with heavy makeup or photo editing, 

Wearing fake eyelashes or frequently gossiping 

About women whose inner beauty belittles them. 

They'd do whatever they can to appear alluring.

~•~

If they are male narcissists, from their strangest actions 

Include posting pics of cars they could be borrowing, 

Recording vids of themselves at fancy restaurants 

With the main intention of showing off affluence, 

Or their posts are mostly meant to prove intelligence.

~•~

They get energized knowing they've got fans who need them. 

It's no surprise that narcissists are prone to acting 

Generous in the beginning to form attachments, 

Then after some time they attempt to crush their victims 

So the latter doubt their worth and seek their attention.

~•~

To defeat narcissists, with Allah's Will, remind them 

Of who they were before their current predicament, 

"You grew up with poor parents, why are you pretending 

As if the world revolves around your recognition? 

If you're rich, you'd be kind to the needy and orphans.

~•~

Allah the Most High is Above us and everything. 

Why do you behave as if you're stronger than mountains, 

As if your sweat is made of musk and you excrete gems, 

And as though you have all the answers to all questions?"

Then say: Arrogance is ugly and a major sin.

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Arrogance befits donkeys that like to imagine 

They're dragons in realms where dead dinosaurs adore them, 

While they deny they're fallible, filled with shortcomings. 

Because narcissists tend to lie a lot and pretend, 

Remain indifferent to their foul and false statements.

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If some relatives are narcissistic, stay patient, 

And respect yourself enough to not wish you were them. 

They're not admirable at all if they're suffering 

From envying you and resenting your existence. 

Continue being better at truth and contentment.

~•~

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📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "You must be truthful. Verily, truthfulness leads to righteousness and righteousness leads to Paradise. A man continues to be truthful and encourages honesty until he is recorded with Allah as a truthful person. And beware of falsehood. Verily, falsehood leads to wickedness and wickedness leads to the Hellfire. A man continues to tell lies and encourages falsehood until he is recorded with Allah as a liar."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhārī 5743 

Sahih Muslim 2607

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "No one who has the weight of a seed (or atom) of arrogance in his heart will enter Paradise." Someone said, "But a man loves to have beautiful clothes and shoes." The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah is Beautiful and He loves beauty. Arrogance means rejecting the truth and looking down on the people."

In another narration, the Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "No one who has the weight of a seed of faith in his heart will enter Hellfire."

Source: Sahih Muslim 91

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://abukhadeejah.com/look-at-allah-has-given-you-of-blessings-and-be-grateful/

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/poem-nine-signs-of-actual-narcissists.html 

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