Note: Unaffected By The Idiocy Of The Insecure, Jealous And Ugly Inwardly

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📜 Question: A neighbor and acquaintance promised to me some time ago that when they get married (for the 2nd or 3rd time) they would surely invite me to their wedding. Just recently I discovered that she already had her wedding yesterday but she, as well as all our mutual acquaintances, never informed me of her remarriage. If you were in my situation, how would you deal as an INTJ-A? 

📝 Answer: Allah the Almighty knows best. If I were in that case, I wouldn't feel surprised at all - especially if she is a former divorcee who failed to control her unstable emotions when she was previously married. You can't fully trust a person who allows their idiotic feelings and negative thoughts to spoil moral values and basic etiquettes. 

She promised to invite you in the past and proved to you in the present how she can never be trusted in the future from now on. Never rely on her 

Inn-sha-Allah for anything, for any advice and transaction, because her despicable efforts to make you feel excluded or left out, without even a genuine apology, confirms that she is intensely envious of you. 

Perhaps she envies how you were married at a younger age, that your husband, Alhamdulillah, is more than a gazillion times better than the stranger who proposed to her to possibly take over whatever business she may be managing temporarily or she despises your inner beauty, admirable Sabr and strength to faithfully welcome polygyny for Allah's sake.

Knowing for sure that certain individuals are massively jealous of you is enough reason for your soul to remain contented Alhamdulillah that you don't have their inward ugliness, jealousy and enormous load of insecurities. 

Don't bother asking them why they broke their promise (again most likely) and refuse to ask anyone else how their wedding went. Don't bother stalking any of their online posts nor giving them a belated gift to demonstrate artificial courtesy. You can't be totally courteous with someone whose acts more often resemble the moodiness and misconduct of aggravated monkeys and donkeys.

While you strive for Allah's sake to avoid befriending unreliable individuals, appreciate the few Muslim friends and loved ones whom you genuinely care for and maintain dignified character as much as you can wherever you are. 

Let these types of people with lousy low morals remind you how it's a blessing Alhamdulillah that you are nothing like them in being unethical, insecure and miserable inwardly. Avoiding them for Allah's sake online and offline is also an excellent opportunity to train our patience and enhance our ability to refrain from going anywhere near the deeds which Allah the Most Wise commanded us to avoid.

Also check:

Note: Five Probable Reasons Why Some People Can't Always Include You To Their List Of Invited Guests

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📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to An-Nawawi

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are conscripted soldiers. They come together upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject." 

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109

Sahih Muslim 2638 

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah (The Almighty) than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://abukhadeejah.com/how-to-ask-allah-for-wellbeing-safety-security-in-these-difficult-times/

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-allahs-love-is-more-important-than.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-stay-connected-to-allah-and-youll.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/02/note-differences-between-people-who.html

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/01/note-some-factors-which-could-prevent.html  

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-signs-of-immature-adults-what-it.html

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/08/tips-what-grown-up-bullies-often-do-and.html

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/10/tips-on-dealing-with-adult-bullying.html

https://youtube.com/watch?v=gNntYrRnxPE&si=EnSIkaIECMiOmarE

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Note: What Some INTJs Do When Feeling Tired At Times

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📜 Question: As a Muslimah whose MBTI personality type is INTJ-A, what are some things that you would usually do when you feel tired? 

📝 Answer: 1. Increase saying Du'a and Adhkaar. 

2. Read at least a page from the Noble Qur'an to enhance inner peace, strengthen my faith Imaan and maintain emotional stability. 

3. Recall and reminisce about all the countless gifts and blessings which Allah the Most Wise has granted me Alhamdulillah in the past and present, appreciating how my current situation is a lot better than the circumstances of several individuals worldwide, in a contented not smug kind of way, thanking Allah the Almighty especially for guiding me to the truth Islam and blessing me with loving parents (Allah yarhamhuma. Ameen) who cared enough to ensure that I keep learning more about Islam until we meet Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala.

4. Continue avoiding toxic writings, content and negative people online and offline. 

5. Take at least 45 minutes nap if necessary while listening to a tranquil recitation from the Noble Qur'an on an electronic gadget.

6. Selectively watch motivational or educational videos to review or discover something new, read inspiring quotes and articles, and listen to some Islamic lectures or learn from a number of beneficial reminders to stay motivated for Allah's sake. 

7. Remind myself that this dunya / world together with its various tests and challenges, as well as emotions, are all temporary, and that true joy and eternal rest can only be found in Jannah Paradise. 

8. Look forward Inn-sha-Allah to expiation of previous sins every time I feel somewhat fatigued, stressed or sleepy. 

9. Spend some quality time with a loved one such as my dear husband when he is around and not busy or talk for some minutes with another Muslimah (online or face to face) whom I care about for Allah's sake and I regard them as trustworthy - not a single ounce guilty of carrying jealous resentment towards me.

~•~

📖 Sa'd Ibn Abi Waqqas RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: I said, “O Messenger of Allah, which of the people are most severely tested?” The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "They are the prophets, then the next best (in terms of righteousness), then the next best. A man is put to trial according to his Deen/religion. If he is firm in his religion, his trials will be more severe. If he is weak in his religion, he is put to trial according to his strength in religion. The servant will continue to be put to trial until he is left walking upon the earth without any sin."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2398

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Nothing afflicts a Muslim of hardship, nor illness, nor anxiety, nor sorrow, nor harm, nor distress, nor even the pricking of a thorn, but that Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) will expiate his sins by it."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5318 

Sahih Muslim 2573

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah (The Almighty) than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://abukhadeejah.com/how-to-ask-allah-for-wellbeing-safety-security-in-these-difficult-times/

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-never-give-up-on-allahs-mercy.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2023/09/tips-sharing-some-11-tips-to-minimize.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/11/note-busy-intjs-vs-avoidant-intjs.html 

https://personalitygrowth.com/heres-how-each-personality-type-behaves-when-tired/

Hadith: As Much As We Should, Avoid Hypocrisy And Telling Lies

📖 Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: There was no behavior more hateful to the Messenger of Allah, Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam, than dishonesty (being untrustworthy and knowingly telling lies on a regular basis). A man would tell a lie when speaking in the presence of the noble Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam and he SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam would not be satisfied until he SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam knew that he had repented.

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1973

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/07/note-some-awful-acts-which-lot-of.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-careful-of-hypocrites-who-claim-to.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/08/poem-dont-be-from-two-faced-hypocrites.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/08/note-eleven-things-to-do-to-avoid.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/poem-avoid-nifaaqhypocrisy.html

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/10/note-some-tips-on-how-to-deal-when.html 

https://abukhadeejah.com/minor-and-major-hypocrisy-and-the-hypocrites-by-al-barbahaaree-explanation-of-al-fawzaan/

https://youtu.be/NyCEzJ9mU88?si=-CaQ5EoQQoiOiMit

Note: INTJs Don't "Play Hard To Get". If We're Interested We Grant Full Attention

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Question: As an INTJ-A personality type, give some examples of how very selective you are when it comes to befriending and being curious about others? 

📑 Answer: Some examples depicting how choosy I am regarding my choice of close friends and who deserves my full attention at times:- 

1. Regularly waking up from vivid and unforgettable dreams and imagining how nice it would be to discuss what they could mean, but refraining from mentioning what I dreamt of to certain individuals because I know for sure they're not trustworthy.

2. Browsing around social media late at night for several minutes and noticing that so-and-so is online, yet I don't feel interested in reaching out to them although I've got the energy and ability to type quickly Alhamdulillah and chat for long periods about random topics. 

3. Someone whose vibes I don't trust informs me about their Facebook profile or website and I show absolute zero interest in scanning and evaluating the pages they desperately wish I'd look at.

4. Despite not being busy in the workplace or during a gathering for some minutes at times, I would rather browse around my mobile phone or read something such as a downloaded PDF document than start a long conversation with a colleague or mere acquaintance who's just a few steps away. 

5. Not bothering to ask how someone's vacation or trip went when we haven't communicated with each other for many days, even though I believe I'm capable Alhamdulillah of asking a wide range of questions when I am genuinely interested in something or somebody e.g. "oh you were at the same hotel which I and my family stayed at when we traveled to that city before. Did you feel the floor rotating at their revolving buffet restaurant? How often did you go out for sightseeing or did you mostly relax indoors? Have you visited such and such a place? What are some of the most memorable activities you did? Anything funny or intriguing which you discovered? Did you try riding a camel? What about a carriage pulled by two or more horses? Tell me all about your journey, I'm all ears." etc. 

➡️ When I am uninterested in connecting with someone on a more personal level, because they've already shown me how unreliable or inauthentic they are, or I figured that our goals and temperament are too mismatched, I: 

1. Don't take 99% of their acts, promises, statements and stories they invent seriously.

2. Don't bother checking out their social media posts and websites etc. 

3. Refuse to prolong most conversations with them, and I avoid unnecessarily talking to them as much as possible. 

4. Almost never mention their names to others (unless another individual has the same name as theirs) if there's nothing positive to state about them. 

5. Almost never request for their advice and opinion on anything, until they prove to be reliable and not guilty of even an ounce of jealousy.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi

📖 Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu said: "A righteous companion is better than loneliness, and loneliness is better than an evil companion. A good writer is better than one silent, and one silent is better than an evil writer."

Source: Rawdat Al-‘Uqalā 5

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Love whom you love moderately, perhaps he will become hateful to you someday. Hate whom you hate moderately, perhaps he will become your beloved friend someday."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1997

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

https://abukhadeejah.com/only-true-friends-and-righteous-companions-will-benefit-you/

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/05/note-can-intj-be-friendly.html

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/tips-intj-acquaintance-vs-intj-friend.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2023/01/tips-seven-things-you-can-do-to-succeed.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/01/note-signs-that-intj-doesnt-regard-you.html 

https://personalitygrowth.com/heres-how-indifferent-you-appear-based-on-your-personality-type/

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Note: 15 Awful Things To Never Say To Your Husband If You Want To Keep Him For Allah's Sake

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💎 Fifteen disrespectful statements to never say to your husband, if you wish to protect your marriage from divorce, arguments and pointless drama:

1. "You're so useless; all you do is play games and spy on other people's lives, obsessed with nosily watching pretentious vlogs of strangers who have nothing to do with you, as if you've got no goals and meaningful life of your own."

2. "I'm immature? Look who's talking! The oversized boy who gets offended easily and acts all passive-aggressive whenever his brittle feelings get hurt." 

3. "If you're a real man, then divorce me - now!"

4. "You're just like your dad - uneducated and ineffective at managing one's time and family." 

5. "You are so ignorant. How stupider can you get?" 

6. "You're very irresponsible. Sometimes I wonder how old you actually are." 

7. "It's funny and sad (pathetic) at the same time to see you acting like you're all that, when in actuality you are also flawed and full of unappealing qualities."

8. "Did you know that my father and brothers are a lot more masculine than you? Then again, I understand that your closeness to your mother is probably why you're not as manly as other men."

9. "Why are you "ALWAYS" late?" 

10. "How come you "NEVER" buy me anything nice and memorable?" 

11. "Can you be at least five percent romantic as my friend's husband?"

12. "We should go out for dinner almost "EVERY" night together like the husband of so-and-so." 

13. "I wish we never met." 

14. "If only I didn't say yes to your marriage proposal..." 

15. "I wish you looked more like this celebrity..."

AstaghfurAllah Al-'Atheem. 

Always remind yourself of why you willingly agreed to this marriage for Allah's sake and recall your husband's numerous handsome characteristics whenever shaytan tries to make you despise or disrespect him due to obnoxious pride / blameworthy kibr.

~•~

📖 Ibn Hibbaan narrated that Abu Hurairah RadhiAllahu 'anhu said that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "If a woman prays her five daily prayers, fasts her month (Ramadan), guards her chastity and obeys her husband, it will be said to her: ‘Enter (Jannah) Paradise from whichever of the gates of Paradise you wish.’"

Classed as Sahih by Al-Albaani in Saheeh Al-Jaami’ no. 660 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1159

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Tirmidhi 

Ali Al-Qari said, “That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala).”

Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātīḥ 5/2125

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

📖 Jabir RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, shaytan places his throne over the water and he sends out his troops. The closest to him in rank are the greatest at causing tribulations. One of them says: 'I have done this and this.' shaytan says: 'you have done nothing.' Another one says: 'I did not leave this man alone until I separated him from his wife.' shaytan embraces him and he says: 'you have done well!'"

Source: Sahih Muslim 2813

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2023/01/tips-let-your-loving-your-husband-for.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/tips-three-common-mistakes-which-some.html

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/07/tips-be-tough-and-thick-skinned-for.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2023/05/tips-seventeen-questions-to-avoid.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2023/01/note-to-stay-contented-with-your.html 

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