Tips: Why Many INTJs Seldom Feel Surprised Or Easily Affected

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

🗒️ Question: What’s your secret, as an INTJ personality type, to apathy or feeling indifferent, unaffected and unfazed whenever some individuals behave disrespectfully such as purposely ignoring your salaams, leaving an online group chat, or when some students and colleagues are being uncooperative, uncommunicative or cowardly passive-aggressive?

📝 Answer: Alhamdulillah I believe that as long as I try my best to maintain integrity and decent manners, performing whatever tasks I can complete for Allah’s sake as much as possible, the unreliability, misconduct and obnoxious acts of troublemakers don’t matter to me. While I don’t believe in “karma”, I do believe that Allah’s Justice is true and He Subhaanahu wa Ta’aala knows precisely how to deal with His servants and when to carry out His retributions at the most ideal timing. What goes around comes around, if not in this world then surely in the next life or on the Day of Judgment.
I also imagine that the dishonest, obviously jealous, and unmannered people whom I occasionally encounter in this dunya are like actors in a prank or social experiment show with secret spying devices or surveillance gadgets, all working together to nosily see how I’d react to their lack of good character and untrustworthiness. I wouldn’t respond in the way they’d want me to because overacting emotionally would only satisfy their insecure egos. Not giving shaytan and his puppets (who insist on following shaytan’s suggestions) the reaction which they desperately seek annoys them a lot more than attempting to get even every single time they demand the attention that was probably not given to them by their parents, which could explain their awful attitudes and eagerness to upset others, misbehaving to distract themselves from their self-loathing and gigantic load of insecurities.
Alhamdulillah they can be blessings in disguise when their unreasonable choices or self-imposed mistakes indirectly teach me to be more patient and successful at avoiding misdeeds. The more I avoid troublemakers and overacting to their nonsense, Alhamdulillah the more I become accustomed to staying away from what Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta’aala and His noble Messenger Muhamamd SallAllahu ‘alaihi wa sallam despise.

~•~
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2664
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

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Poem: Stay Careful And Selective When It Comes To Learning About Islam

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

 

💌 If you were on a journey, in a land new to you, 

Searching for a specific place, who would you go to? 

The locals in that area, so you won't get confused?

They're familiar with the roads and may grant advice too.

Or first-time tourists who seem relatable and cool?

~•~

If you wished to learn how to drive, from who would you take 

Lessons? Driving instructors who ensure you'll stay safe, 

Who've been driving for years and their driving is okay?

Or those who taught themselves driving from digital games, 

And their driving style guarantees a ride that's unsafe?

~•~

When it comes to learning Islam, from whom can we learn? 

Self-proclaimed "scholars" who yearn for a large following? 

Who twist Islam's message, play with Islamic rulings, 

Who aim to trigger fitna through their talks and writings, 

And they promote bid'ah or make halal "forbidden"?

~•~

Some signs of Muslim speakers to whom we can listen: 

They're sincere to Allah, to themselves and all Muslims.

They love Muhammad (SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam) and strive to revive his teachings. 

They hate bid'ah, don't do birthdays, oppose misguidance, 

And arrogantly doing takfeer doesn't suit them.

~•~

Since they want rewards from Allah and not from His slaves,

For delivering lectures they don't ask to be paid.

They do Da'wah with wisdom purely for Allah's sake, 

Not for fame nor to get involved in pointless debates.

Good manners, patience and trust in Allah they maintain.

~•~

Always they prefer what Allah and His Prophet (SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam) say 

To the quotes of sheikhs/shuyookh and what people restate.

Of the beard and Islamic clothes they're never ashamed.

Frequently they fast Sunnah fasts, pray Qiyaam Al-Layl, 

And their faith remains firm when critics besmirch their names.

~•~

As Muslims, they try their best to perfect their Tawheed, 

And to increase their Imaan they regularly seek

Authentic Islamic knowledge with sincerity.

When studying Islam, it's your right to be choosy.

Carefully follow those who lead to Jannah rightly.

~•~

📖 Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "I have left you with two matters which will never lead you astray, as long as you hold on to them: The Book of Allah and the Sunnah of His Prophet (Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam)."

Source: Al-Muwaṭṭa’ 1661

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Ibn Abdul Barr

📖 Abu Najeeh Al-’Irbaad ibn Saariyah (RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam gave us a sermon by which our hearts were filled with fear and tears came to our eyes. So we said, “O Messenger of Allah! It is as though this is a farewell sermon, so advise us.” He (SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam) said, “I advise you to have Taqwa (fear) of Allah, and to listen and obey [your leader], even if a slave were to become your ameer (someone authorized to lead). Verily he among you who lives long will see great controversy, so you must stick to my Sunnah and to the Sunnah of the Khulafaa ar-Raashideen (the rightly guided caliphs), those who guide to the right way. Cling to it (the Sunnah) stubbornly [literally: with your molar teeth]. Beware of newly invented matters [in the religion], for verily every bid'ah (innovation) is misguidance.”

[Abu Dawud]

It was related by At-Tirmidhi, who said that it was a good and sound hadeeth.

Hadith 28 

40 Hadith An-Nawawi

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "What comes over my nation will surely be what came over the children of Israel, step by step until if one of them fornicated with his mother, one from my nation would do the same. Verily, the children of Israel split into seventy-two sects and my nation will split into seventy-three sects. All of them will be in Hellfire except for one sect." They said, “Who are they, O Messenger of Allah?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Those who follow my way and my companions."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2641

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Albani

https://abdurrahman.org/2013/07/08/hadith-of-irbaadh-ibn-saariyah-radiyallaahu-anhu-stick-to-my-sunnah-and-the-sunnah-of-the-rightly-guided-caliphs-abu-sufyaan-uthmaan-beecher-audioen/amp/

https://www.abukhadeejah.com/what-is-salafism-and-salafiyyah/ 

📚 Some of the English-speaking Salafi/Sunni speakers who call towards the Qur'an and Sunnah of the noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam. Try to research and listen to their lectures on YouTube attentively:

Abbas Abu Yahya

Abdul Hakeem Mitchell

Abdulillah Lahmami

Abu Adam Jameel Finch

Abu Hafsa Kashiff Khan

Abu Hakeem Bilal Davis

Abu Humayd Saalim

Abu Idrees

Abu Iyaad Amjad Rafiq

Abu Khadeejah Abdul Wahid

Abul Hasan Malik

Abu Muadh Taqweem Aslam

Abu Muhammad Al Maghribi

Abu Talha Dawud Burbank

Abu Uways

Anas Waters

Anwar Wright

Hamza Abdur Razzaq

Hassan Somali

Moosaa Richardson

Mustafa George

Raha Batts

Rasheed Barbee

Rayaan Barker

Sa'eed Rhana

Umar Quinn

Uways at-Taweel

🧾 List of Arabic-speaking scholars of today whose Islamic lectures we can benefit from:

- Imām Abdul-Aziz Ibn Bāz

- Imām Muhammad Nasiruddin al-Albani

- Imām Muhammad Ibn 'Uthaymīn

- Imām Muqbil bin Hādī Al-Wādi'i

- Imām Ahmad An-Najmī 

- Shaykh Sāleh Al-Fawzan

- Shaykh Hassan ibn 'Abdul-Wahhāb Marzooq Al-Bannā

- Shaykh Sālih Al-Luhaydān

- Shaykh 'Abdul-Muhsin Al-'Abbād

- Shaykh Rabi' ibn Hādī Al-Madkhalī

- Shaykh 'Ubayd Al-Jābiri

- Mufti Shaykh 'Abdul-'Azīz Āl-ush-Shaykh

- Shaykh Sālih Āl-ush-Shaykh

- Shaykh 'Abdullāh Al-Bukhari 

https://www.salafidvo.com/external-resources.html

Tips: Wiser To Ignore Insecure Trolls Than Indulge In Ignorant Squabbles

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Question: What's the best way to respond when somebody tagged you in an inappropriate post or sent you indecent photos? 

📝 Answer: 1] After quickly noticing that you were tagged in an inappropriate post, don't look at the image thoroughly, don't read the whole message of the user who tagged you, and don't bother analyzing the comments which the post received. 

2] Instantly untag yourself and block the user who tagged you along with anybody whom you believe is connected to such individuals, if you feel that blocking is more effective than individually deleting irrelevant posts from that user. 

3] Say Du'a against the individuals who are fooling around because of their awful upbringing. 

4] Learn not to copy their obnoxious acts and be grateful that you're nothing like them. 

5] Gradually disconnect from social networking websites or lessen your time on platforms where inwardly sad trolls enjoy pranking others to distract themselves from their self-loathing and insecurities.

~•~ 

📖 Khuzaymah Ibn Thabit RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Beware of the supplication of the oppressed, for it is carried above the clouds. Allah the Almighty says: 'By My Might and Majesty, I will help you in due time.'"

Source: Al-Mu’jam Al-Kabīr 3630

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

Al-Azimabadi said, “That he hates for the sake of Allah does not mean he harms the one he hates. Rather, the hatred is for his unbelief and disobedience.”

Source: ‘Awn Al-Ma’būd 4681

Note: Stay Contented With The Love Story Which Allah Granted You

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 If you're a professional baker, which I'm not, you already know that different cakes and pastries don't require the exact same ingredients for them to be successfully baked and well designed. Banana cake, carrot cake, chocolate, vanilla and mocha flavored cakes don't have the same recipe. The presence of one ingredient in a dessert does not imply that another is a failure simply due to that ingredient's lacking or unavailability. 

Visualize five loyal, patient and contented wives in completely different love journeys: 

1] A wife who got married at the age of eighteen, divorced three years later then remarried her first husband after noticing his value and appreciating his loving efforts to win her back. 

2] A wife whose husband is employed in another country and they only get to be physically near each other at least once a year. 

3] A wife whose husband happens to be her first or second degree cousin while he tries his best to be as fair as he can with his two wives for Allah's sake. 

4] A woman who became a wife, with Allah's Will, in her late thirties after declining several marriage proposals because she stubbornly insisted on patiently waiting for her former ustadh's marriage proposal. 

5] A fourth wife in a polygynous marriage who finds it challenging to get along with her co-wives but she is determined for Allah's sake to maintain patience with them, aware that perfect bliss and everlasting peace can be enjoyed in Jannah Paradise. 

Not all couples' marriages are entirely similar. While many have had grandiose weddings in luxury hotels or function halls, others were glad to conduct their wedding ceremony at their own house or outdoors in a field. While a few spouses are satisfied with just one child or not having children, other wives and husbands prefer caring for large families. Some ladies can handle not seeing the husband for several weeks, while other women would rather move to the city where the husband works in even if they have to cope with polygyny as long as they're not residing far away from the husband. 

What is believed to be okay or necessary with one couple does not signify that another couple are in a "loveless marriage" if the latter's love story doesn't have similar features, on condition that each of the spouses similarly aim to protect the marriage for Allah's sake, striving to do what Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala loves to be worthy of eternal joy in Jannah Paradise where its inhabitants won't be tested with negative feelings including envy, unjustified suspicion, and discontentment with Allah's wise and fair decisions.  

~•~ 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Look to those below you and do not look at those above you, for it is the best way not to belittle the favors of Allah."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6125

Sahih Muslim 2963

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Faith and envy do not combine within a believing servant."

In another narration, the Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Greed and faith are never combined in the heart of a servant."

Source: Sunan Al-Nasā’ī 3109

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-three-tips-to-stay-contented-with.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/10/poem-never-compare-your-halal-love.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/note-not-everyone-on-earth-has-same.html 

Poem: Affluence Isn't Always A Sign That Allah Loves Someone

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 All the riches of Qarun / Korah couldn't save him 

From dying and gradual destruction through misguidance. 

Think of past celebs who died while they were affluent, 

Did their costly outfits, classy cars and large mansions 

Follow their corpses underground or benefit them? 

~•~ 

What's the point of enjoying a life of opulence 

When a slave is deprived of Allah's Love and Guidance? 

Don't they know that earth and its joys are not permanent, 

That Allah created us mainly to worship Him, 

And that delight in Jannah is more everlasting? 

~•~ 

In working to earn halal income there's no problem. 

What is wrong is to regard money as evidence 

That Allah loves you, while financially struggling 

Implies that you're unloved and deficient in blessings, 

When many from the poor shall deserve Jannah's entrance.

~•~ 

While it's fine to work for Allah and help your loved ones, 

Don't form opinion that having wealth in abundance 

Proves that you're one of Allah's most devoted servants.  

The Prophet Muhammad (SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam) before didn't reside in 

Towers and castles yet Allah the Most Kind loves him.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The poor Muslims will enter Paradise before the rich by half of a day, the length of which is five hundred years."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2354

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Perish the slave of Dinar, Dirham, Qatifa (thick soft cloth), and Khamisa (a special garment), for if he is given (wealth), he is pleased; otherwise (if he does not receive wealth) he is dissatisfied." 

Sahih Al-Bukhari 6435 | In-book: Book 81, Hadith 24 |(English): Vol. 8, Book 76, Hadith 443 

📖 Abu Dharr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “O Abu Dharr, do you say an abundance of possessions is wealth?” I said 'yes'. The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Do you say a lack of possessions is poverty?” I said 'yes'. The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam repeated this three times, then he SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Wealth is in the heart and poverty is in the heart. Whoever is wealthy in his heart will not be harmed no matter what happens in the world. Whoever is impoverished in his heart will not be satisfied no matter how much he has in the world. Verily, he will only be harmed by the greed of his own soul."

Source: Al-Mu’jam Al-Kabīr 1618

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/10/poem-contentment-with-allahs-destiny.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-richness-in-faithimaan-and-manners.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/poem-contentment-with-simplicity-and.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/poem-what-zuhd-asceticism-really-means.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-true-wealth-is-in-faithimaan-and.html 

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