بسم الله. ربي زدني علما. امين

بسم الله. ربي زدني علما. امين
May Allah the Almighty grant us more beneficial knowledge, accept our good deeds, forgive our mistakes, protect us from fitna, and join us with the righteous believers in Jannatul Ferdaus. Ameen.

Wednesday, June 22, 2022

Tips: Questions You May Ask Yourself To Check If You're People-pleasing Or Being Sincerely Kind And Helpful

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📑 Seven questions you may ask yourself to determine if you are being genuinely kind and helpful or you're being a people-pleaser: 
1] The act of kindness you're about to do - are you going to do it to serve Allah the Almighty, not to impress His servants nor to be known as a generous person? 
2] Is that act of kindness something which you also give yourself and your loved ones often, not exclusively to specific individuals? 
3] By doing that act of kindness, are you certain that you only seek rewards and more love from Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, instead of actually wanting the approval or attention of specific individuals? 
4] Is that something you really want to do, from your heart, and you know you're doing it for Allah's sake, free from reluctance and compulsion? 
5] Once you carry out that act of kindness sincerely for Allah's sake, can you guarantee you won't feel bothered or offended if the person whom you were kind to doesn't thank you directly, because you're truthfully making effort to please just Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala instead of His servants? 
6] Are you absolutely sure that this act of kindness doesn't oppose what Allah and His noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam approve of and it won't contradict your values? 
7] Can you reassure yourself that this act of kindness isn't done because you're worried about being perceived as "selfish" or "unhelpful", but rather you're trying to be kind since Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala loves those believers who strive to do charity/sadaqah for His sake whenever possible? 
If you answered "yes" to the above questions, then 
Inn-sha-Allah you're not guilty of people-pleasing. 
May Allah the Most Forgiving forgive all our mistakes and wrong intentions. Ameen. 
~•~
📖 Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever seeks the pleasure of Allah by the displeasure of the people, Allah will suffice him against the people. Whoever seeks the pleasure of the people by the displeasure of Allah, Allah will leave him to the patronage of the people."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2414
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan." 
Source: Sahih Muslim 2664 
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

Note: Some Notes About Depression

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Depression may exist in those who lack energy, enthusiasm and motivation to get out of bed, preferring sleeping instead of dealing with the outside world. So a lot of them tend to cancel plans, take breaks from work, procrastinate, avoid socializing or stay isolated for long periods. It can also be present in those who try to keep themselves busy with many activities, intending to remain distracted with what makes them forget about their worries, problems and heavy responsibilities. Depression can be found in both people who don't have a lot of friends to count on and in celebrities who are surrounded by thousands of fans worldwide yet they feel empty inside as though there's something else that's missing.
Anyone from any social class in society, whether wealthy or financially struggling, can experience depression if they don't believe in Allah's Existence. Without knowing the main purpose of our creation, when things go wrong or we're dissatisfied with life from constant comparison, we may wrongfully start thinking there's no point in living. Inner joy, peace and contentment are all possible when we realize the reality of why Allah the Almighty created us, which is to live our lives to worship Only Allah until we see Him Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala in Jannah for our faith/Imaan and sincere striving with patience.
Don't be depressed because of lacking trustworthy companions; you have Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala Who always listens and understands exactly how you're feeling.
Don't be saddened if the job you currently have doesn't allow you to get as rich as you wanted to be; what matters is you continue trying your best to serve Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala patiently and care for your loved ones with halal income that also enables you to do charity when necessary.
Don't aim to collect money for a luxurious mansion in this temporary platform of examinations; this dunya is fleeting and your destination should be Jannatul Ferdaus where happiness and perfection are everlasting.
Whenever negative feelings of regret, anxiety and sorrow visit you, recall they're meant to expiate your sins as purification, remind you that you're human, and focus on attaining Allah's Love with more Dhikr, Du'as, prayers, acceptance of Allah's Qadr and good deeds like frequent Qur'an recitation. Furthermore, the more you dislike this world for whatever reason, see it as an encouragement to persistently strive to please Allah the Most Merciful until you're deserving of Jannah's entrance.
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Nothing afflicts a Muslim of hardship, nor illness, nor anxiety, nor sorrow, nor harm, nor distress, nor even the pricking of a thorn, but that Allah will expiate his sins by it."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5318, Sahih Muslim 2573
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 
📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The most privileged people in the world among the people of the Hellfire will come on the Day of Resurrection to be dipped in the Hellfire, then it will be said: 'O son of Adam, did you see any good? Did you get any blessing?' He will say: 'No, by Allah, my Lord!' Then the most miserable people in the world among the people of Paradise will come on the Day of Resurrection to be dipped in Paradise, then it will be said: 'O son of Adam, did you see any hardship? Did you have any distress?' He will say: 'No, by Allah, my Lord! I did not once see hardship or distress.'"
Source: Sahih Muslim 2807
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 
📖 Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If the sins of a servant are numerous and he does not have good deeds to compensate, Allah will afflict him with sadness as an expiation for him."
Source: Musnad Ahmed 24708
Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Suyuti

Monday, June 20, 2022

Note: Random Facts About Oneself Survey (A to Z get-to-know-you questions)

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📑 A-Z get-to-know-you questions, random survey, some facts about oneself: 
1] Adjective which accurately describes you: Loyal.
2] Breakfast you usually have: Bread and coffee. Alhamdulillah.  
3] Countries / cities you've been to: Alhamdulillah some of the places I've traveled to include 
Saudi Arabia, Malaysia (Kuala Lumpur, Langkawi, Pahang, Putrajaya), Singapore, Indonesia, Hong Kong, Thailand, France (Paris), England (London), Denmark (Copenhagen, Aalborg), Egypt (Cairo, Giza), USA (Washington DC, New York, Los Angeles California, Orlando Florida, Mississippi), UAE (Dubai, Abu Dhabi), at the airports only - Bangladesh, Bahrain, Qatar, Oman, Greece etc.
4] Dream you still recall: Seeing several Muslimahs in a large hall praying in different groups then walking away from the divided groupings and approaching an unidentified Muslimah wearing niqab and clad in all black who offered me a cup of tea or some warm beverage.
5] Error you've made in the past and you avoid it as much as possible: Making instant judgment about some people without being actually acquainted with them yet. AstaghfurAllah Al-'Atheem. 
6] Five qualities you want or admire in an ideal friend: 
Trustworthy, truthful, confident (not insecure nor prone to jealousy), ambitious (with notable goals) and supportive.
7] Gardening - do you enjoy it? I'm interested in it but haven't actually tried it yet. 
8] Helpful tip or advice from your dear parents: 
From my dear mother (Allah yarhamha. Ameen.) - Be kind and generous whenever you can. Don't stop fasting the Sunnah fasts. 
From my dear father (Allah yarhamhu. Ameen.) - Be humble. Don't meddle in affairs which do not concern you.
9] Inspirational quote or Hadith you'd like to share: 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever travels a path in search of (beneficial and authentic) knowledge, Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) will make easy for him a path to Paradise."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2699
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 
10] Joking or being playful with others - how often is it done?
Generally I'm serious and somewhat quiet around those whom I'm not close to. The more familiar I am with somebody, the more comfortable I am with showing my sense of humor now and then. 
11] Kindness - define it, in your own words. 
Kindness doesn't always signify giving out gifts and freebies to those whom one cares about, but to be kind is to maintain good manners and prevent oneself from treating people unjustly.
12] Love - explain it, from your perspective. 
When you truly love a Muslim for Allah's sake, including your spouse, you want them to succeed, thrive and be happy in both worlds, so patiently you help one another do the deeds which lead you to Jannatul Ferdaus with Allah's Mercy. 
13] Married - are you? If so, in what year did you marry? 
Alhamdulillah, yes I'm married. After rejecting several marriage proposals back in Saudi Arabia, my husband and I married in the year 2006. I was 20 while my husband was 28.
14] Nine turn-offs, awful attributes which cause you to be uninterested in wanting to befriend someone: 
1~ Numerous times they've proven to be dishonest and unreliable. 
2~ They are selfish and greedy opportunists.
3~ In general they behave like typical narcissists with overinflated ego.
4~ They are lazy, passive and unclear or not direct when communicating.
5~ They've made it evident that they're not very eager to learn more about Islam, attend Islamic classes or listen to beneficial lectures. 
6~ They are unconfident and seem to care too much about how society perceives them.
7~ Occasionally they partake in gossip and readily believe in rumors.
8~ You can sense that they're jealous of you by their frequent eye-rolls, disrespectful conduct, and unreliability.
9~ A lot of times they mistrust you and suspect your motives.
15] Opinion you have which a lot of individuals disagree with: 
I believe that if a Muslim husband is financially, emotionally and responsibly capable, he has the right to be married to up to four wives regardless of their tribe and nationality. 
16] Personality MBTI and/or enneagram type: 
INTJ 1w9 Alhamdulillah.
17] Question you frequently ask others: 
"How are you?", "Are you sure?" and "Why?"
18] Rainy or sunny weather, which do you prefer? Rainy weather. Alhamdulillah, there are more blessings especially when you say Du'a during rainfall. 
19] Subjects you disliked in school: Math and chemistry. 
20] Teacher's name whom you still remember: 
Abla Salwa at Al-Yamama National School in Riyadh city. She was one of the kindest teachers I've met. 
21] Unappealing quality or bad habit common among some individuals but which you refrain from: 
The urge to gossip or spread a Muslim's secrets. 
22] Vegetables you enjoy eating: Pumpkin, cucumbers, potatoes.
23] Weird fact about you: 
Alhamdulillah it's easy for me to emotionally detach from certain individuals. 
24] Ex-friends - do you have any? If so, what did you learn from disconnecting? 
Alhamdulillah yes. I've learned that Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala is the Only One Whom we can fully trust, and that a friendship can't last long if one of the individuals is envious.
25] Year 2020 - what have you learned from it? 
To maintain strong connection with Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala while being carefully selective about the content you absorb online and offline.
26] Zoom application - when was the last time you used it? 
Maybe some time ago. 
~•~
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: 'Allah has decreed what He wills.' Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2664
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 
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Sunday, June 19, 2022

Hadith: A Recommended Du'a To Recite Frequently Before Sleeping



📖 Al-Baraa’ ibn ‘Aazib RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "When you go to sleep, perform ablution (wudhoo) as (you do so) for your prayer, then lie down on your right side and say: 'O Allah, I submit my face to You, I entrust my affair to You, and I commit myself to You, in hope and in fear of You. There is no refuge or place of safety but with You. I believe in the Book which You have revealed, and in the Prophet (Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam) whom You have sent.' Then, the Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Make these your last words. If you died in this night of yours, you will have died upon (the fitrah) pure nature."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6311, Sahih Muslim 2710
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

Saturday, June 18, 2022

Tips: Some Advice On How Not To Feel Nervous Or Tense Around "Attractive" People

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 
📑 Some advice on how not to feel tense or nervous around individuals whom you find "attractive", good-looking or "intimidating":
1] Learn to control your gaze, refrain from staring at them unnecessarily, and quit putting them on a pedestal. Don't overestimate their agreeable qualities. Never assume they're 100% "perfect" nor guess you don't have what it takes to be up to their level. 
2] Recall that despite their tall height, supposedly good looks or impressive credentials, ultimately we are all slaves of Allah the Almighty and He Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala will always be above us. 
3] Remind yourself that they're similar to you in terms of being humans with their own sets of flaws, shortcomings, struggles they often go through, problems to solve, worries and other emotions they occasionally feel. Now and then they excrete body wastes and perspire like you do. Why worry too much about appearing "flawless" when they themselves have countless imperfections?
4] Acknowledge the fact that even if you perceive them as "unique", "awe-inspiring" or "outstanding", somebody else or a number of Muslims around the world may still outdo or surpass them in many ways. Don't treat them as though they're the most exceptional and invincible entity you've ever encountered. Even if they sometimes behave as though they're entitled to preferential treatment, maintain proper manners with them without underestimating yourself and denying the gifts which Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala chose to grant you. 
5] Keep a strong connection with Allah the Most Powerful, strengthen your faith/Imaan further by continuously seeking authentic Islamic knowledge sincerely for Allah's sake whenever you can, and strive to please only Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala rather than desperately wanting to be seen as part of the "in-crowd" or someone who's "appealing". Confidently believe that your overall success in both worlds is not dependent on any of Allah's servants.
~•~
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: 'Allah has decreed what He wills.' Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2664
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim