بسم الله. ربي زدني علما. امين

بسم الله. ربي زدني علما. امين
May Allah the Almighty grant us more beneficial knowledge, accept our good deeds, forgive our mistakes, protect us from fitna, and join us with the righteous believers in Jannatul Ferdaus. Ameen.

Thursday, July 7, 2022

Tips: Be Tough And Thick-Skinned For Allah's Sake Even In Marriage Life

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
📑 Eleven examples of instances when being patient, tough and thick-skinned for Allah's sake in marriage is necessary: 
1] When your husband gives you instructions or answers your questions with a grumpy tone because he's feeling tired, stressed out, hungry, sleepy or depressed. 
2] When your husband didn't buy you an item which you requested him to purchase because he forgot to do so or it was unavailable. 
3] When your husband orders you to spend more time with him than with your friends, neighbors or colleagues, particularly if he arrived from another city and he hasn't seen you in a long time. 
4] When your husband responds with "wear whatever, I don't care" or "it doesn't matter, they're all alike" if you ask him to choose which outfit to put on. Consider the fact that he's implying you are still beautiful regardless of your choice of clothing. 
5] When your husband sometimes insists that you sit at the backseat of the car while you're normally seated at the front beside him, with or without a valid reason. 
6] When your husband occasionally enters a room ahead of you or walks in front of you, while other more sensitive guys prefer to let the ladies go first. Perceive your husband's preference to walk before you as his style of ensuring that the place you're about to go to is safe, the coast is clear, and he's like a bodyguard or tour guide leading the way. Understand that not all men's personality and perceptions are entirely the same. Appreciate your husband's uniqueness.
7] When your husband once in a while remains silent after you've complained to him about some upsetting issues and he doesn't give you the kind of advice that you expected. Be contented that at least he was patient enough to listen to you. Know there could be a possibility that he lovingly mentions your name in his prayers and Du'as now and then. 
8] When your husband criticizes your cooking, maintenance of your residence, spending habits, attitude, and/or how you bring up your child/children. Be strong enough to welcome criticism and view it as an opportunity to collect reminders for self-development. 
9] When your husband seems much more cheerful, talkative or loving towards his mother and female relatives than with you on some days. Instead of worrying too much if you did something wrong to trigger his passive-aggressive side, confidently give him some space and don't be too annoyingly clingy so that he can miss you. 
10] When your husband instructs you to stop talking so he can relax or focus on an important task. He has every right to enjoy quietude as much as you do.
11] When your husband leaves your most recent message on "seen" mode or his replies are too curt or delayed regularly. Try to sympathize with your husband's busyness and patiently anticipate better conversations with him 
Inn-sha-Allah in Jannah Paradise where you and your spouse no longer deal with all sorts of tests, predicaments and vile insinuations from shaytan the real enemy. 

To thrive, with Allah's Will, as your husband's loyal wife: 
✅ More Taqwa, 
More Du'as, 
More faith/Imaan, 
More patience/Sabr, 
More gratitude/Shukr, 
More empathy and understanding, 
More eagerness to deserve Jannatul Ferdaus.
❎ Less ego, 
Less urge to selfishly defend your pride / kibr / nafs, 
Less complaints, 
Less drama, 
Less negativity, 
Less or no toxic "friends" who envy your marriage, 
And less attachment to dunya. 
~•~
📖 Thawban RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The best wealth is a tongue that remembers Allah, a grateful heart, and a believing wife to help one in his faith."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 3094
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."
Source: Sahih Ibn Ḥibbān 4252
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."
Source: Sahih Muslim 1467
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
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Wednesday, July 6, 2022

Hadith: Encouragement For Those Not Performing Hajj To Fast Sunnah Fasting On Yawm 'Arafah And To Say Lots Of Du'a




📖 'Amr Ibn Shu'ayb RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The best supplication (Du'a) is that which is made on the day of Arafat (Yawm 'Arafah). The best of it is what was said by myself and the prophets before me: 'There is no God but Allah alone, without any partners, unto Him belong the dominion and all praise and He has power over all things.' (Laa ilaaha ilAllah Wahdahu laa shareeka Lah. LahulMulk wa LahulHamd wa Huwa 'alaa kulli shay-in Qadeer.)"
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 3585
Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Albani 
📖 'Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "There is no day upon which Allah frees more of His servants from the Hellfire than the day of 'Arafah. He (Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) draws near and then He boasts of them to the angels, saying: 'What do these servants want?'"
Source: Sahih Muslim 1348
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
📖 Abu Qatadah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam was asked about fasting the day of Arafat (Yawm 'Arafah, the 9th of Dhul-Hijjah) and he SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "It will expiate the sins of the previous and upcoming year." Then, the Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam was asked about fasting the day of Ashura (10th of Muharram) and he SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "It will expiate the sins of the past year."
Source: Sahih Muslim 1162
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
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Note: Some Awful Acts Which A Lot Of Hypocrites May Do

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Allah the Almighty knows best. During the time of the noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam there were some individuals who concealed their disbelief / polytheism while pretending to be Muslims, residing temporarily among the Muslim communities either to cause chaos and fitna or to act as spies on behalf of other disbelievers. A lot of these hypocrites (munaafiqeen / male hypocrites and munaafiqaat / female hypocrites) can be found even today if you're able to discern some of their typical traits, including untrustworthiness and lack of actual good character. 
❌ Nine examples of awful acts which some female hypocrites would do: 
1] While some of the female hypocrites would wear long and loose abaya or jilbab when going to the Masjid and attending Islamic gatherings, that's not how they usually dress when they're outdoors and when they don't expect to interact with true Muslims. 
2] If some of them manage a channel on YouTube, they upload videos of themselves while wearing the hijaab for a certain period, then after some time they proudly announce that they've decided to quit wearing the hijaab due to personal reasons, with an agenda to negatively influence their fans to imitate their wrong choices.
3] Their names and/or surnames are fake. One of them, with obnoxious self-flattery, may call herself "Al-Maghrebeyya" while she can't even construct a single Arabic sentence and has absolutely nothing to do with Morocco, and another chose the name "Zaraafa" without knowing how to explain its meaning and why she selected it as her "Muslim name". 
4] They probably don't pray to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala on a regular basis, particularly if they haven't sincerely accepted Islam in the first place. If you ask them to elaborate on how they pray, to check if they know how to perform the Salah (prayer) correctly, you'd realize that they keep changing the topic or can't answer any of your questions about Islam straightforwardly. If you're on an outing with mutual acquaintances and you pause an activity for some minutes because you want to pray an obligatory prayer on time, you can sense that some of the female hypocrites feel annoyed about the interruption and clearly they're not eager to join you in praying punctually. 
5] They answer your salaams only if they like you or if they're in a good mood. Sincere Muslims would try their best to obey Allah's Command when it comes to answering others' greetings, whether the individual greeting is a Muslim or not Muslim yet. Read verse 86 from Surah An-Nisaa. 
6] A lot of their social media posts, on Facebook and/or Instagram, revolve around materialism, emphasizing how much they're naively obsessed with this worldly life, and advertising ridiculously overpriced products they're trying to sell. Seldom or almost never do they share verses from the Noble Qur'an or authentic sayings of the beloved Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam. 
7] They hardly ever say "SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam" whenever the name of the noble Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam is mentioned. 
8] Although they are wealthy or financially able to spend some money on the needy, they are actually selfish and either do what they can to abstain from doing charity or occasionally act generous but with reluctance and insincerity.
9] All in all they're untrustworthy, disrespectful and gossipy. You've caught them more than once telling an obvious lie or jealously gossiping about other human beings. 
Actual hypocrites who don't fear Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala are incapable of feeling guilty about committing major or minor sins because they don't believe in Islam and the Day of Judgment in the first place. 
➡️ Quick tips on dealing with hypocrites: 
1] Don't expect them to be reliable and truthful 24/7. Whatever info and story they invent about themselves or their loved ones shouldn't be taken immediately as a fact but probable fabrication to get a rise out of you. 
2] Don't be surprised if their lousy manners and unreliability disappointed you multiple times. Hypocrites are notorious for breaking promises, pulling pranks, and attempting to disturb the peace in Muslim communities. 
3] Avoid them for Allah's sake as much as possible to shield your faith / Imaan and emotional wellness from their lies, fakery and ignorance.
~•~
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Among the signs of a hypocrite are three, even if he fasts and prays and claims to be a Muslim: When he speaks, he lies; when he makes a promise, he breaks it; and when he is trusted, he betrays."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 33, Sahih Muslim 59
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The signs of a hypocrite (munaafiq) are three: 1. Whenever he speaks, he tells a lie. 2. Whenever he promises, he breaks it (his promise). 3. If you trust him, he proves to be dishonest (untrustworthy). (If you keep something as a trust with him, he will not return it.)" 
[Sahih Al-Bukhari]
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Links: PDF Document English Translation Of The Book "The Tree Of Faith" By Imaam AbdurRahman As-Sa'di




📔 PDF document "The Tree Of Faith / Imaan" (to gain knowledge for Allah's sake, not for sale) English translation of the book شجرة الايمان by Imaam AbdurRahman As-Sa'di May Allah the Almighty have mercy on him. Ameen. 


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Tuesday, July 5, 2022

Note: Why A Lot Of INTJs Are Not Very Likable / Approachable

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 
📑 Three reasons why a lot of individuals whose MBTI personality type is INTJ are not very popular or approachable: 
1] They're not afraid of standing out or behaving differently from the crowd.
If a person is desperate to be liked by a particular group, they'd do whatever they can to change certain aspects of themselves to be on the same level as all the group's members, making sure to avoid any act which could bring about their ejection. Most INTJs would remain unaffected if they got kicked out of a team or a clique rejected them because they stood by their values and didn't bother acting in a way that contradicts who they truly are. 
2] They tend to be intimidatingly honest, outspoken and straightforward, not caring at all about how strangers perceive them. 
A person who is eager to be your friend would refrain from saying statements which you may regard as offensive or questionable. An INTJ on the other hand would unapologetically tell you the truth or readily give feedback which could offend most people since they're not into sugarcoating words and pretending to be whom they aren't. Spoiling you with flattery and insincere compliments is something which many INTJs are not interested in doing if they actually despise your vibes. 
3] They don't chase people nor bother mending the unfixable. 
If you intentionally excluded an INTJ from a trip, meeting or gathering, nine times out of ten don't expect them to tearfully ask why you didn't invite them. They'll probably analyze all the reasons why it's a blessing they didn't join an outing filled with actors, liars and gossipmongers, and they'd refocus on something else that's far more important, and distance themselves from your insecurities further with contentment. 
While some individuals would beg for your attention, an INTJ who can sense that you're ignoring their messages on purpose would gladly quit attempting to connect with cowards who are obviously too unconfident or different. 
Most INTJ Muslims would rather enjoy serene solitude with Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala than pretend to be besties with somebody who's just a phony, nuisance or distraction.
~•~
📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated that the Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The Mufarridun (the isolated or those who like to isolate themselves) have gone ahead (in gaining rewards)." He was asked, "Who are the Mufarridun?" He SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam replied, "Those men and women who remember Allah much."
[Sahih Muslim]
Arabic/English book reference: Book 16, Hadith 1436 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his best friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are troops collected together. They come close upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109
Sahih Muslim 2638
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

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