Tips: A To Z Checklist Of Some Of Your Husband's Actions So Your Love For Him Can Increase For Allah's Sake

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 A to Z checklist / questionnaire regarding some actions which your husband has done and/or still does to inspire you to continue loving him with gratitude, patience and loyalty for Allah's sake: 

Your husband...

A] Allows you to occasionally visit your family and friends - he is not overly jealous and insecure. ( ✓ ) 

B] Bought or brought you souvenirs often after arriving from duty, work and/or travel. ( ✓ ) 

C] Cooked for you at least twice and/or complimented you on your cooking. ( ✓ ) 

D] Drove you several times to destinations which you asked him to transport you. ( ✓ ) 

E] Economizes when necessary and encourages you to spend money for Allah's sake wisely. ( ✓ ) 

F] Finds a way to make you laugh and smile effortlessly. ( ✓ ) 

G] Gives you some space when necessary, so he isn't obnoxiously nosy and/or goes to the Masjid frequently. ( ✓ ) 

H] Helps you with some household chores whenever he can. ( ✓ ) 

I] Inspires you every night and day to become a better Muslimah. ( ✓ ) 

J] Jokes with you now and then, as he loves to see you in a joyful mood. ( ✓ ) 

K] Kisses and/or hugs you goodbye whenever he embarks on a journey. ( ✓ ) 

L] Listens to you patiently or eagerly whenever you complain about an issue or share with him some news. ( ✓ ) 

M] Massaged you oftentimes when you felt tired and manages, with Allah's Will, to motivate you to work more ambitiously for Allah's sake. ( ✓ ) 

N] Negotiates well when necessary. ( ✓ ) 

O] Optimizes his time as much as possible. He isn't one of those immature guys who waste much of their lifetime nosily spying on strangers' lives and aimlessly watching uninspiring vlogs etc. ( ✓ ) 

P] Played with you at least twice some games or sports like badminton etc. ( ✓ ) 

Q] Quietly or very gently wakes you up for Salah when the time for prayer has arrived. ( ✓ ) 

R] Respects your mother and/or father, as well as your relatives. ( ✓ ) 

S] Shared and shares with you some of his belongings, like jacket or large slippers, whenever he can. ( ✓ ) 

T] Tried to teach you something which you weren't familiar with before and/or shed tears with you when you both were discussing some emotional topics. ( ✓ ) 

U] Understands your language and overall personality. ( ✓ ) 

V] Valiantly apologized to you at least once. ( ✓ ) 

W] Washed some of your clothes or did the dishes for you at least once and/or works with admirable determination. ( ✓ ) 

X] Excellently recalls a lot of random facts about you, such as your date of birth and favorite color. ( ✓ ) 

Y] Yearns to reunite with you and his other loved ones in Jannah Paradise with Allah's Mercy. ( ✓ ) 

Z] Zealously does what he can to ensure that his earnings are halal / lawful. ( ✓ ) 

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📖 Thawban RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "Any woman who asks her husband for a divorce when it is not absolutely necessary, the fragrance of Paradise will be forbidden to her."

Sunan Ibn Majah 2055

In-book reference: Book 10, Hadith 40

English translation: Vol. 3, Book 10, Hadith 2055 

📖 Thawban RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whenever a woman asks her husband for a divorce without a strong reason, the fragrance of Paradise becomes forbidden for her."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 2226

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut

📖 Jabir RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, shaytan places his throne over the water and he sends out his troops. The closest to him in rank are the greatest at causing tribulations. One of them says: 'I have done this and this.' shaytan says: 'you have done nothing.' Another one says: 'I did not leave this man alone until I separated him from his wife.' shaytan embraces him and he says: 'you have done well!'"

Source: Sahih Muslim 2813

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

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https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/poem-demerits-of-divorce.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/06/note-if-you-have-good-intentions-you.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/09/note-patiently-understand-and-empathize.html 

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Note: Eleven Questions To Ask Yourself To Feel More Certain That You Married A Good Man

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📑 Eleven questions to ask yourself to feel more certain that you've indeed married your soulmate for Allah's sake: 

1] When you look back on the first actual conversations with your husband, can you wholeheartedly smile as you recall his cute efforts to be romantic or flirtatious with you? 

2] Can you mention at least three instances when he has been helpful, kind and compassionate to you? 

3] Do you miss his comforting hugs and loving presence whenever he is absent? 

4] If you had the option to choose between staying over at a resort with some close friends for one week and moving to the city where your husband is employed, would you select the latter as long as you're granted consent to visit your family whenever you like? 

5] If you're incapable of completely satisfying your husband, can you be strong enough to stay married while he loves another woman as his legal second wife, because you'd rather keep loving him faithfully while you're in a polygynous marriage than have him disappear from your life? 

6] Whenever his responses to your calls and messages are delayed, are you able to understand his side and still forgive him for Allah's sake with astounding patience? 

7] Whenever you encounter or notice supposedly happy couples, instead of feeling jealous, do you instantly thank Allah the Almighty for bestowing upon you the unique love story which He Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala destined for you and your husband? 

8] Does loving your husband sincerely for Allah's sake beautifully inspire you to become a better, wiser, more mature, more patient and understanding Muslimah? 

9] Do you love it whenever your husband leads you in prayer and every time you hear an Imam reciting some verses from the Noble Qur'an you're usually reminded of your husband's amazingly soothing voice? Or if ever your husband asked for divorce, can you imagine rejecting all marriage proposals from interested suitors while patiently waiting for another wedding from your ex-husband, aware that divorcees in Islam can remarry twice?

10] Although you can't always meet your husband or go on halal dates with him, are you capable of staying fiercely loyal to him, avoiding "emotional affairs" and anything which could lead to fitna, even when he hasn't been around for a long time? 

11] Is it true that you've cried or shed tears many times while mentioning your husband's name in heartfelt Du'as, praying that Allah the Most Merciful protects him, guides him and enables him to pass Allah's tests so you can both succeed, with Allah's Will, in making it to Jannah Paradise? 

Allah the Almighty knows best. If you've answered "yes" to at least seven of the above questions, then it's likely true that your husband is your soulmate whom you should never quit on. Don't let the shaytan who envies your joy feel smug about his attempts to disrupt your obvious blessing.

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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1159

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi

Ali Al-Qari said, "That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala."

Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātih 5/2125 

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https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/poem-dismiss-shaytans-whispers-as-he.html 

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Note: 5 Traits Of Emotionally Draining Individuals And Some Energy Boosters

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📑 Five qualities of emotionally draining individuals - if you recognize at least two of these in an individual, it is better to avoid them for Allah's sake or minimize unnecessary conversations, as much as possible, to protect your emotional well-being: 

1] They claim to despise gossip yet they indulge in backbiting frequently. 

2] They whine to you a lot, as though they expect you to miraculously solve their problems almost every time they irrationally complain about something or somebody. Ironically when it's your turn to ask for advice, they act uninterested or tell you that they don't know what to say. 

3] They go silent or become obnoxiously distant upon noticing you expressing any form of joy or gratitude, yet when you make a mistake they're quick to criticize and point out your errors in detail. 

4] Due to their gigantic load of insecurities and intense envy of you, they regularly one-up you or narrate random stories to suggest that they're a lot "better", more "successful" or more "experienced" than you. 

5] It is clear that they're not supportive of your goals and interests, which is why most if not all of your talks with them are awfully awkward, boring or unproductive. 

✅ When dealing with acquaintances, neighbors or colleagues who are emotionally draining: 

1] Unapologetically unfollow them on social media and quit reading the content they upload if you believe that doing so can strengthen your faith Imaan and keep you away from negative emotions (such as unwarranted jealousy, confusion, uncertainty etc.). 

2] Don't force yourself to continue chatting with them if there are other more important, meaningful and rewarding tasks to do than pretending to like someone who is too toxic for you. 

3] Intentionally refrain from asking them questions about their personal lives, so you don't need to tolerate their invented lies nor should you pay attention to those with bad intentions in attempting to connect with you. 

✨ Seven energy boosters: 

1] Reciting from the Noble Qur'an with a melodious voice and reflecting on Allah's Magnificent Words. 

2] Resting for some minutes or looking at Allah's beautiful creations in nature while saying some Du'a and Adhkaar (including lots of Istighfaar).

3] Reading some beneficial Islamic books and articles which are useful for self-development. 

4] Watching motivational videos or listening to some recorded Islamic lectures. 

5] Memorizing or familiarizing yourself with some authentic Ahadith (narrations and statements of the beloved Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam). 

6] Spending some moments with a pet or showing kindness to furry animals when you're not busy. 

7] Visiting some family members and relatives for Allah's sake when you have the opportunity. 

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📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase 'if only' opens the way for the work of shaytan."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

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Note: Some Ways To Tell If You're A Sensor Or An Intuitive

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

🗒️ Strange ways to determine if you're a sensor or an intuitive: 

🔎 You are probably a sensing type if you:-

1] Find it a lot easier to concentrate on the present and easily see how various circumstances are connected to past events than visualizing what the future could or should be like. 

2] Are good at noticing even the slightest changes in people's appearance, weight or outfits etc. 

3] Can be very observant regarding how people sound, speak and conduct themselves. In most cases, you remember the color of clothing or footwear which a particular individual wore at a gathering, and repeating the exact statements which a person said is usually not a difficult thing for you to do. 

4] Would rather attend a culinary class or do some gardening than spend a whole hour and thirty minutes reading books concerning topics which don't seem interesting to you. 

5] Sometimes won't accept that a person's statements are factual until you're shown tangible proofs to support their validity. 

✨ You may be an intuitive if:-

1• Many times you were able, with Allah's Will and Guidance, to accurately guess that an individual would be absent from a meeting, cancel an agreement, or forgo doing something they promised, and their disappointing act failed to surprise you. 

2• Generally it takes a lot for you to feel startled, specifically when you're busy daydreaming, evaluating a situation or planning on what to do next. 

3• Reading between the lines and connecting the dots are simple endeavors for you to do. 

4• It can be challenging at times to remember exactly what an individual stated or for you to describe in detail what they were wearing on a specific instance. 

5• You are much more concerned about how your values and others' decisions impact your future than staying too fixated on the present moment, or since you're not always attentive, you tend to be often clumsy particularly if you are not familiar yet with an environment. 

🔎✅ From the advantages of having sensing types as friends or colleagues:- 

1] They can remind you about some important dates or matters which you may have forgotten about. 

2] They can be remarkable at swiftly rearranging, locating misplaced items, or spotting flaws when necessary. 

3] They can explain a story or clarify instructions in a more detailed format. 

✨✅ How intuitive types can be helpful as friends or colleagues:-

1] In general they are not very particular or judgmental regarding how you look on the outside. To them, it's what's inside that truly counts. 

2] Because they're imaginative and visionary, you can enjoy meaningful discussions which don't require gossiping about people. They'd rather discuss ideas, theories and solutions to problems than aimlessly rant about what occurred at such-and-such occasion and what they did with so-and-so etc. 

3] A lot of intuitive types offer more effective and reasonable advice than sensors when long-term goals are given more priority than current emotions and instant gratification. 

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📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe (not guilty of backbiting, telling lies, and deliberately committing injustice). The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. By the One (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut

📖 Abu Sa'eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Beware of the intuition of the believer. Verily, he sees with the Light of Allah." Then, the Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam recited the verse, “Verily, in that are signs for those of discernment.” (The Noble Qur'an 15:75)

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 3127

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Haythami

Ibn Al-Qayyim (May Allah have mercy on him. Ameen.) said, “It is a light that Allah bestows in the heart of His servant, by which he distinguishes between truth and falsehood, advantage and disadvantage, the honest and the liar.”

Source: Madārij Al-Sālikīn 2/453 

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Links: PDF Book "Concise Commentary On The Book Of Tawheed" By Sheikh Saleh Al-Fawzaan

📚 Islamic PDF book translated to English language "Concise Commentary On The Book Of Tawhid" 

(As Sadaqah Jaariyah, not for sale) by sheikh Salih Al-Fawzaan (May Allah the Almighty accept his good deeds and make him among the people of Jannatul Ferdaus with Allah's Mercy. Ameen.): 

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1X_oNYGAKB_bUKcaZJC8JRTKcmM_kbHSg/view?usp=drivesdk 

https://www.pdfdrive.com/concise-commentary-on-the-book-of-tawhid-d104850768.html