Poem: Don't Fear Being Different As Long As You're In The Right Direction

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📑 Dear fellow Muslimah, trust Allah the Almighty. 

With strong faith Imaan, never be affected by three: 

People's opinions of you - don't care how you're perceived; 

Temporary feelings - don't rely on how you feel; 

Large numbers - don't make choices based on majority.

~•~

Be like a real diamond. If this stone was placed near 

Decaying substances, the gem wouldn't disappear. 

Even if toxic posts on social media appear 

Daily, you remain unfazed by strangers' rants unclear. 

Their frequent complaints can't augment your worries and fears. 

~•~

This one cries "I'm lonely", that one "I've shed lots of tears. 

Nobody understands me. Why am I even here?" 

And several others online whine about severe 

Sadness or anxiety when "friends" disappeared, 

Forgetting the fact that Allah always sees and hears.

~•~

Be like a crow or eagle surrounded by white sheep, 

Not eager to sacrifice its feathers, wings and beak 

To blend in with mammals that have a weird tendency

To follow crowds and obey commands submissively. 

Don't shy away from being unique, to be more free.

~•~

Occasions when you were not invited were likely

Lessons to be more independent and to fully 

Depend on Allah Who knows what's best for you really. 

Purposeless socializing can disrupt your soul's peace.

Solitude turns to a gift when you spend time wisely.

~•~

If many wives complain "I hate my husband, as he 

Is too cheap and miserly.", don't be compelled to leave 

Your spouse because most females are influenced by greed. 

Don't copy the crowd. Don't be emotionally weak. 

No guilt in standing out as long as Allah is Pleased.

~•~

📖 Sa'd Ibn Abi Waqqas RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: I said, “O Messenger of Allah, which of the people are most severely tested?” The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "They are the prophets, then the next best (in terms of piety), then the next best. A man is put to trial according to his Deen/religion. If he is firm in his religion, his trials will be more severe. If he is weak in his religion, he is put to trial according to his strength in religion. The servant will continue to be put to trial until he is left walking upon the earth without any sin."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2398

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah the Almighty than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.’ Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

https://youtu.be/XWHCk5ORQRM

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/05/tips-some-signs-that-allah-almighty.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-gain-inner-strength-from-loving.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/06/note-inner-strength-with-taqwa-and.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/02/tips-seven-things-to-avoid-to-achieve.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-eleven-signs-of-people-with-strong.html

Poem: To Every Wife Who Needs To Make Sure Her Husband Never Cheats

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 "What tips can you share so my husband will never cheat?" 

"How can I ensure that my husband won't cheat on me?" 

And "Steps to prevent my zawj from cheating - advise, please?" 

If I were to receive those queries, I'd say: Let's see... 

So you wanna make sure that your hubby never cheats?

~•~

So your husband never cheats, ensure absolutely 

That every night and day, while he's awake and asleep, 

That each moment when he moves about, and as he breathes, 

That you're the only pretty female he likes to see, 

The only soul on earth who can sweep him off his feet. 

~•~

Make sure that all his colleagues are males and straight fully, 

That all his patients or clients and whoever deals 

With him directly and indirectly are only

Males who are married and loyal or who'd never dream 

Of going anywhere near lust and adultery. 

~•~

Ensure that no female ever shows up on his screens, 

And no female catches his attention in the streets, 

Not even one whisper from females flirtatiously 

Trying to talk to him, while he is contentedly 

Wed to just one wife - no urge to break his loyalty...

~•~

...like he's a machine or android compliant puppy 

Ready to follow orders and unable to feel 

Emotions - feelings which can make pretence appear real 

At times or cloud judgment so one can't decide clearly. 

Your husband's not flawless. He's like you - human being. 

~•~

Let him learn from his mistakes. You're flawed similarly. 

If ever you find out, through a loved one or colleague, 

That your husband has been acting overly friendly 

With another woman, keep calm and think carefully

Of the causes that led to him behaving oddly? 

~•~

Perhaps your disrespectful tone inspires him to flee, 

Or some jealous outsiders carried out sorcery? 

Or the lass he seems to like found him delightfully 

Attractive so she tried a love spell ignorantly? 

Or shaytan spoiled the peace when your faith/Imaan was weak. 

~•~

Trust Allah always. Pray for your husband frequently. 

Care for your spouse without being doubtful and clingy. 

Make your ego much smaller than your ability

To forgive. Join the brave who welcome polygyny. 

Love Allah more than your spouse. Love your man patiently. 

~•~

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibban 4252

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

https://abukhadeejah.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/10/Righteous-Wife-P1-WEB-7.3-Print-Complete.pdf

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/poem-patience-for-allahs-sake-can.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/10/note-more-blessings-in-polygynous.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-why-im-okay-with-polygyny.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/note-seven-misconceptions-about.html

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/11/poem-from-signs-of-pious-wives-is-they.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/note-my-answer-to-what-made-you-accept.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/10/tips-when-is-polygyny-better-than.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/10/poem-understand-that-theres-wisdom.html 

https://youtu.be/-EOpH5O2mhI 

Tips: Seven Things You Can Do To Succeed In Causing An INTJ To Avoid You

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📝 Seven effective ways to cause someone with the INTJ personality type to despise you and unapologetically quit putting effort in trying to get to know you better: 

1❎ Prove to them that you're truly untruthful and untrustworthy. 

➡️ For instance: If they agreed to search around for some change for your 500 Pesos or Saudi Riyals and you clearly told them that you'd wait for them, make sure that you patiently wait for them instead of paying the courier by spending from your own money which you suddenly remembered. Otherwise find a way to properly compensate for showing them you can no longer be trusted. 

2❎ Accuse them of arrogance or act as though you perceive them to be arrogant, while you don't really know them and have never even had a meaningful conversation with them which lasted for more than five minutes. 

3❎ Show them that you're unreliable and/or disrespectful. 

➡️ For instance: Frequently make grammatical errors and typos on purpose, and intentionally refrain from capitalizing the first letter of their name. Doing this persistently can guarantee the INTJ to become utterly (but gladly) disinterested in befriending you and instead more eager to avoid you (and possibly anybody who is directly affiliated with you) as much as possible.  

4❎ Make it obvious that you're intensely envious of them by regularly excluding them from gatherings or outings in which mutual acquaintances are invited to, by gossiping and spreading negative rumors about them often, or by acting affectedly aloof. 

5❎ Appear uneasy or irrationally offended whenever the INTJ asks you several questions regarding yourself intending to become more well-acquainted with you. The more unreasonably nervous, apparently intimidated or insecure you seem around most INTJs, the more they'd do what they can to stay away from your disconcerting vibes to steer clear of emotional drama. 

6❎ Annoyingly poke them or be too touchy-feely when you've known them for less than a year and have never spent quality time together outside of school or the workplace. 

7❎ Continue doing something which you're aware that they dislike, or obstinately refuse to take their advice when you requested for some tips and they sincerely want you to do what is right. 

The above no-nos can also be applicable to other intuitive types, not just the INTJ personality.

~•~

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is not stung twice from the same hole."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5782

Sahih Muslim 2998

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abu Sa'eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Keep only a believer for a companion and let only a righteous person eat your food."

At-Tirmidhi and Abu Dawud

Reference: Riyaad As-Salihin 366

In-book reference: Introduction, Hadith 366

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/02/poem-friendship-with-intjs-what-are.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/11/note-busy-intjs-vs-avoidant-intjs.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/01/note-signs-that-intj-doesnt-regard-you.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/08/tips-intj-courtesy-vs-companionship.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/01/tips-intjs-when-they-like-you-in.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/08/note-five-things-which-would-cause-most.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/03/note-some-advice-from-intj-on-ghosting.html 

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Note: Why Many INTJs And INFJs Don't Have Long-lasting Friendships

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📝 Three reasons why most INTJs (and a number of INFJs) may find some difficulty at times to maintain long-lasting friendships and why a lot of us are okay with not being "popular": 

1] INTJs are generally very goal-oriented. 

If an individual's presence is too toxic or so negative for us that they become like an intolerable obstacle to any of our goals, we won't hesitate to gradually distance ourselves from their bad vibes or instantly disconnect from them (online, in real life and emotionally) without necessarily informing them about our detachment the moment we realized they consistently distract us from our values... unless, in my case, they are part of my family then I try to maintain patience with all my relatives as much as possible. 

2] Most INTJs can be astoundingly supportive and fiercely loyal when they truly connect with someone whose temperament, communication style and main mission in life resonate with theirs. 

We don't want to show loyalty to the wrong person nor waste our emotions on meaningless causes or inauthentic and untrustworthy individuals.

3] Excessive socializing can sometimes be draining for many INTJ/INFJ personality types, particularly if we must pretend (out of courtesy) to like certain souls whom we don't gravitate towards. This is why we introverts tend to select our close friends carefully and with a purpose. 

Having more friends - actual friends, not mere acquaintances or neighbors - could entail more obligations, more responsibilities and more loved ones to worry about and check on regularly. A lot of INTJs can be satisfied with even one friend on earth, even if that "kindred spirit" happens to be their spouse, parent, sibling, cousin or aunt. 

~•~

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Abu Musa RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, the parable (similitude, example) of a good companion and a bad companion is that of a seller of musk and a blacksmith. The seller of musk will give you some perfume, you will buy some, or you will notice a good smell (pleasant scent). As for the blacksmith, he will burn your clothes or you will notice a bad smell."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5534, Sahih Muslim 2628

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his best friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/07/note-why-lot-of-intjs-are-not-very.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/note-how-most-intj-personality-types.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/note-choosiness-of-most-intjs-when-it.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/tips-intj-acquaintance-vs-intj-friend.html 

https://anyintrovert.com/intj-dark-side-five-negative-qualities-of-the-intj/

https://personalitygrowth.com/intj-friendships-how-the-intj-is-as-a-bff/

https://www.16personalities.com/intj-friends

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https://www.16personalities.com/free-personality-test

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Poem: Why I Believe That My Husband Is Handsome While Not All May Agree

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 If you ask me, "So what is it? What makes him handsome, 

Your husband, the man whom Allah has wisely chosen 

As your soulmate, travel partner to Jannah Heaven, 

And special friend with whom you have a lot in common? 

What makes him attractive really in your opinion?"

~•~

I'd say: Yes he's handsome; my husband is good-looking 

And appealing in a way not clear to everyone. 

He's like a wooden treasure chest filled with diamonds

And tons of emerald gems which worms and elephants 

Would perceive as "plain", "pointless" or "uninteresting", 

~•~

While he's valuable to me - my husband is handsome 

Since he's a gift to me from Allah the Most Loving.

I've witnessed countless times my handsome spouse has proven 

To be caring, busy, productive and hard-working. 

Though not very athletic, he's got my attention. 

~•~

His efforts to serve Allah, his sincere intention

To save up to perform Hajj with his hard-earned income, 

His charisma with children, patience with his patients, 

And his eagerness to become a better Muslim 

Are from my reasons for regarding him as handsome.

~•~

To me, he's more handsome than the "hottest pop icons" 

And him having a pure heart is much more important 

Than staying in shape and pampering his appearance. 

I'm grateful to Allah for granting me my husband, 

My handsome husband who taught me about contentment.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A woman is married for four things: Her wealth, her family status, her beauty, and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman otherwise you will be a loser."

Sahih Al-Bukhari 5090

In-book reference: Book 67 Hadith 28

USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 7, Book 62, Hadith 27

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://abukhadeejah.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/10/Righteous-Wife-P1-WEB-7.3-Print-Complete.pdf

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-contented-with-one-whom-allah.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/11/poem-this-is-how-i-know-for-sure-that-i.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/10/poem-five-signs-that-you-are-very-much.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/07/note-on-inner-beauty-and-trying-to-look.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-tribute-to-sahabi-julaybeeb.html