بسم الله. ربي زدني علما. امين

بسم الله. ربي زدني علما. امين
May Allah the Almighty grant us more beneficial knowledge, accept our good deeds, forgive our mistakes, protect us from fitna, and join us with the righteous believers in Jannatul Ferdaus. Ameen.

Saturday, March 4, 2023

Tips: My Advice On How To Stay Patient With One's Husband For Allah's Sake

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 
💌 Seven tips on how to maintain astounding patience with your husband / soulmate for Allah's sake: 
1] Frequently recall the main reason why you willingly accepted your husband's marriage proposal in the beginning - you married him sincerely to please Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala and you want him to join you in your blessed journey towards attaining Jannah's entrance. 
2] Regularly remind yourself of all the loving gestures, kind favors and romantic things which your zawj has done in the past and present. Appreciate your husband's notable qualities and focus on his positive characteristics instead of making it a big deal that he's precisely similar to you in being imperfect. 
3] Always and faithfully trust Allah the Almighty while believing that better times shall 
Inn-sha-Allah arise and, with Allah's Decree, your husband's conduct and faith/Imaan can improve gradually. 
4] Thank Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala for wisely selecting this Muslim as your other half, spouse and soulmate. While many females worldwide have been wanting to receive at least one marriage proposal, you should be grateful Alhamdulillah that you're granted a husband who tries his best to care for his loved ones with the means and sustenance which Allah the Most Kind has destined for him. It is better to stay contentedly married for Allah's sake with a not so affluent spouse than to stupidly take pride in being single yet acting ignorant or flirtatious whenever some "attractive" non-mahrams are around.
5] Cleverly imagine the negative consequences of not staying patient with the man who Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala chose as your soulmate. Divorce is mostly a shortcut to dreadful remorse and guilt, especially if one's former husband still strives to be a better Muslim and it is evident that he is well-liked for his endearing personality. 
6] Adamantly believe that your husband actually loves you too for Allah's sake yet at times he may behave strangely due to excessive fatigue, temporary depression or being affected by someone's evil eye ('ayn) or an envious person's attempts to carry out black magic and sorcery, or some troublesome outsiders, such as jealous colleagues (who despise your blissful marriage life) or insecure co-wife, are the culprits behind the solvable problem. 
Fiercely remain loyal to your husband for Allah's sake and mention him lovingly in your supplications as often as you can. 
7] Anticipate more rewards from Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala and further elevation of your status
Inn-sha-Allah in Jannah Paradise whenever you train yourself to have patience with your husband for Allah's sake. 
Courageous and sincere efforts to be patient with Allah's slaves, to preserve your faith Imaan and strengthen your connection with Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, particularly practicing Sabr with your soulmate, will not go to waste.
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📖 Thawban RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The best wealth is a tongue that remembers Allah, a grateful heart, and a believing wife to help one in his faith."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 3094
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Sa'eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Some people from the Ansaar asked the Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam and he gave them. Then they asked for charity again and he SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam gave them. Then they asked again and he SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam gave them until all that he had was gone. The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I had anything, I would not withhold it. Whoever refrains from asking others, then Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) will make him contented. Whoever would be independent, then Allah will make him independent. Whoever would be patient, then Allah will make him patient. There is no gift that is better and more comprehensive than patience."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6105
Sahih Muslim 1053
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

Note: What This INTJ Wife Admires About Her Dear ESFJ Husband

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 
💌 Nine noteworthy qualities which I truly admire about my dear husband whose MBTI personality type is ESFJ with enneagram 3w2: 
1] His efforts to become a better Muslim for Allah's sake every night and day, eager to frequently pray in the Masjid and recite several Ayaat / verses from the Noble Qur'an whenever he finds the beautiful opportunity to do so.
2] His steadfast care and concern for the well-being of his family and relatives. 
3] How he generally gives more importance to group harmony than acting selfishly, how he'd rather forgive from within and avoid conflict than constantly act like an argumentative and annoying git. 
4] How he's willing to offer some helpful tips when I ask him for advice and how he's remarkable at advising if he notices me doing something incorrectly or behaving inappropriately. 
5] How he's amazingly confident, charismatic and playful with infants and children. 
6] How much respect he shows to his mother, sisters and women in general, and how, unlike certain immature males with awfully low ambitions in life, he doesn't own a single fake profile to obnoxiously spy on and stalk female users online. 
7] His awesome culinary skills and how he's a much better chef than I am. 
8] How he encourages me to be more forgiving towards my brothers and loved ones, and how he inspires me to be more lenient and easygoing most of the time. 
9] His cute sense of humor and astounding ability to make me laugh even though I'm generally a serious type who doesn't giggle easily.
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📖 Thawban RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whenever a woman asks her husband for a divorce without a strong reason, the fragrance of Paradise becomes forbidden for her."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 2226
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut
📖 Jabir RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, shaytan places his throne over the water and he sends out his troops. The closest to him in rank are the greatest at causing tribulations. One of them says: 'I have done this and this.' shaytan says: 'you have done nothing.' Another one says: 'I did not leave this man alone until I separated him from his wife.' shaytan embraces him and he says: 'you have done well!'"
Source: Sahih Muslim 2813
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

Thursday, March 2, 2023

Note: Introverted And Socially Selective

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 
📑 Some of the weird things I've done and still do (as an INTJ) which confirm that I'm actually introverted even though I may appear talkative and inquisitive at times: 
1] Feeling indifferent or unsurprised when I discover that a group of individuals went on a trip together or attended a gathering while forgetfully or deliberately excluding me for whatever reason. 
2] Stubbornly refusing to stalk users on social media who upload photos related to their recent outings and get-togethers. 
3] Being resistant to doubting my self-worth whenever I don't receive direct invites, unaffected by the myth FOMO - fear of missing out, because I'm blissfully contented Alhamdulillah with my dear husband and family as well as the select few souls whom Allah the Most Wise destined that I genuinely love for His sake. 
4] Not having any interest in thoroughly browsing around online profiles and websites of individuals whom I've newly met, since I'm not desperate to start my own fan club and overload it. 
5] Usually asking several questions regarding the event when I do get invited occasionally (for example: Who's attending? What's the main purpose of mingling? etc.) and unapologetically deciding to not go most of the time if none of the potential attendees is somebody whom I am truly comfortable around. 
From the categories of people that I avoid for Allah's sake as much as possible: Insecure gossipmongers who enjoy gossiping about others to pacify their insufferable envy or awful guilt of lacking basic good manners, who childishly make fun of people to distract themselves from their own defects, and those who frequently pretend to be whom they're not because inventing absurd untruths about their life experiences is a lot easier for them than disclosing their real identity and motives.
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📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Musa RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, the parable (similitude, example) of good company and a bad company is only that of a seller of musk and a blacksmith. The seller of musk will give you some perfume, you will buy some, or you will notice a good smell (pleasant scent). As for the blacksmith, he will burn your clothes or you will notice a bad smell."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5534, Sahih Muslim 2628
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi
📖 Ibn Hibban reported: Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu said, "A righteous companion is better than solitude, and solitude is better than an evil companion. A good writer is better than one silent, and one silent is better than an evil writer."
Source: Rawḍat Al-‘Uqalā’ 56

Wednesday, March 1, 2023

Tips: Bad Qualities Which Would Cause A Person To Be Undeserving Of Your Trust And Loyalty

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 
📝 Five qualities if found in some individuals would prevent them from being "friendworthy" - they do not deserve your trust and loyalty: 
1❎ Jealous / envious. 
Deep conversations and meaningful connections are impossible to have with those who intensely envy everything about you. You can sense that an acquaintance envies you when they mostly treat you disrespectfully and deliberately exclude you from social gatherings which they initiate, desperate to upset you whenever possible so their disconcerting jealousy overwhelms them less.
2❎ Ignorant / delusional. 
You can't form a stable friendship with someone who insists on doing what's illogical or they see nothing wrong with commiting crimes and acts of bid'ah (religious innovation such as pointlessly participating in birthday celebrations and sculpting or sketching images of living beings etc.). 
3❎ Cowardly / insecure. 
Don't expect an inwardly sad person who frequently acts passive-aggressive towards you and feels so afraid or ashamed to discuss with you serious issues to be reliable. They're likely to abandon you in the future when they notice you in any sort of trouble. 
4❎ Egotistic / narcissistic. 
Long-lasting friendship, support, genuine respect, integrity and reliability can never be expected from somebody who is a lot more obsessed with their wants and overinflated ego than they're concerned with your faith Imaan, safety and overall well-being. 
5❎ Untruthful / deceitful / fake / inauthentic / phoney. 
Why waste your lifetime, attention and energy on clowns who regularly invent lies to impress themselves, too often pretend to be whom they aren't, and even the most deceptive of counterfeit products and forged documents worldwide would be less pathetic than the fables they make up for their selfish agenda.
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📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Musa RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, the parable (similitude, example) of good company and a bad company is only that of a seller of musk and a blacksmith. The seller of musk will give you some perfume, you will buy some, or you will notice a good smell (pleasant scent). As for the blacksmith, he will burn your clothes or you will notice a bad smell."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5534, Sahih Muslim 2628
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi
📖 Ibn Hibban reported: Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu said, "A righteous companion is better than solitude, and solitude is better than an evil companion. A good writer is better than one silent, and one silent is better than an evil writer."
Source: Rawḍat Al-‘Uqalā’ 56
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Sunday, February 26, 2023

Tips: Advice On How To Tell If You've Married The Right Man

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 
🗒️ Question: Are there any signs indicating that I've married the right guy or the most ideal man for me? How can I tell for sure that I'm in a blessed marriage? 
📝 Answer: Allah the Almighty knows best. You can sense that Allah the Most Wise blessed you with an ideal husband when:- 
1] ...it's absolutely easy to forgive your spouse for Allah's sake no matter how many times his responses to a number of your text messages are delayed, how often he may talk to you with an annoyed tone of voice, and how sometimes he forgets to comply with some of your requests simply because he's a human being who goes through various challenges at times just like you etc. Even if he didn't apologize directly for a certain mistake he's done, you've already forgiven him wholeheartedly.
2] ...almost every night and day, you find yourself mentioning his name lovingly in a lot of your Du'as/supplications and prayers. 
3] ...you can't stop yourself from missing your other half and soulmate whenever he's not around. Oftentimes when you're having a meal, when attending a gathering, when outdoors, a few minutes before sleeping, and even while doing the laundry or dishes, you literally miss your husband and wish he was nearby, particularly to observe your fierce loyalty towards him at all times. 
4] ...every time you notice several couples online and offline flaunting how joyful they are in their love life, instead of feeling envious and insecure, you're actually inspired to appreciate and persistently respect your husband even more for Allah's sake. 
5] ...you're truly unable to feel jealous whenever somebody brags about their marriage story or expresses their admiration for spouses with plenty of children. For instance, if someone tells you "so-and-so got married to a Turkish Muslim", "she and her new husband with their twin newborns reside in a ginormous mansion" and "her Saudi partner is taking her to South Korea this vacation", your reaction would be like "good for her. What's important is that she's contented from the heart and their marriage ultimately, with Allah's Will, leads to Jannah Paradise. As for me, Alhamdulillah, my contentment with the man whom Allah the Most Loving wisely chose as my soulmate and husband is undebatable, undeniable and not artificial at all. He's the only soul in the entire universe whom I'm in love with and, if truth be told, I don't regret marrying him for Allah's sake at all." 
6] ...you and others have observed that ever since you willingly accepted your husband's marriage proposal for Allah's sake, the level of your faith Imaan has increased significantly and remarkably. 
7] ...there's a strong probability of not wanting to marry anybody else but him if ever he decides to split up with you for whatever reason. You'd rather have a second and third wedding / Nikaah with him for Allah's sake in the future than to begrudgingly search for a different man.
~•~
📖 Thawbaan RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The best wealth is a tongue that remembers Allah, a grateful heart, and a believing wife to help one in his faith."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 3094
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."
Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbaan 4252
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."
Source: Sahih Muslim 1467
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
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