Poem: When An INTJ Isn't Interested Anymore In Developing The "Friendship"

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📝 When I, as an INTJ, knows you're not worth it - 

Not worth talking about because you can't be trusted, 

When I decide to dislike you, quit building friendship, 

I won't waste my time indulging in childish gossip. 

Instead, I'll avoid you like a deflecting magnet.

~•~

When I despise you for Allah's sake, I won't grant it - 

My full attention, curiosity or interest 

In getting to learn more about your past, how you live, 

And your future goals - I'd be more uninterested

Than staunch non-smokers who refuse to touch cigarettes.

~•~

If there's a program, I won't witness ridiculous

Acting. My attentiveness and support - don't expect

Them if I conclude you can no longer be trusted.

Don't expect me to stalk your Facebook profile, pages 

And vids. I reject content that's false and pathetic.

~•~

You're like an ad on YouTube which I would gladly skip, 

Like dead leaves which busy tourists won't pause for and pick, 

Or a book I check randomly and my thoughts on it 

Are: "these phrases don't make sense.", "the title is stupid.", 

And "I won't bother reading the rest of its pages.".

~•~

Now please don't describe me as "pretentious" nor "snobbish". 

When it comes to choosing friends I tend to be cautious 

And selective so my faith/Imaan is safeguarded, 

And so I don't earn people's sins accumulated

Through lame talks with real liars and experts at gossip.

~•~

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah (The Almighty), hates for the sake of Allah ,(Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala), gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe (not guilty of backbiting, knowingly telling lies, lying about themselves, and deliberately committing injustice). The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. 

By the One (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut 

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https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/11/note-busy-intjs-vs-avoidant-intjs.html 

https://abukhadeejah.com/only-true-friends-and-righteous-companions-will-benefit-you/

✅ Some MBTI tests which you can try taking online to discover more about yourself and other personality types:

https://www.16personalities.com/free-personality-test

http://www.michaelcaloz.com/personality/

https://www.humanmetrics.com/personality/test

https://sakinorva.net/functions?lang=ar (in Arabic language)

https://sakinorva.net/functions 

https://openpsychometrics.org/tests/OEJTS/

https://www.123test.com/jung-personality-test/

https://personalitymax.com/personality-test/

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Poem: When To Give Someone A Second Chance For A Meaningful Connection And When To Say We're Not Interested

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📝 Three clear-cut signs it's time to cut off the connection, 

To quit attempting to connect with toxic persons 

Whose presence means nothing while they're a surplus problem: 

First sign: It's obvious they're guilty of narcissism - 

Their pride is more important than faith, truth and wisdom.

~•~

Second: It's so evident they're not into learning

More about Islam and knowledge to them is "boring". 

Why bother befriending those whose actions and statements 

Generally make them worthy of these descriptions - 

Shallow, unintelligent, vile, fake and ignorant.

~•~

From the nonsense they're mainly good at: Overspending, 

Comparing themselves to others with envy intense, 

Gossiping, inventing lies, laughing at your expense, 

Acting immature, and judging people's appearance. 

Better than chatting with them: Counting eggs and chickens.

~•~

Third sign that some souls don't deserve to be your close friends: 

They repeat past mistakes like it's from their addictions - 

And for them apologizing is more challenging

Than lying often and having promises broken. 

Don't distress yourself by welcoming such distractions.

~•~

And three signs that some could be given a second chance - 

Forgive them for Allah's sake and defeat arrogance: 

One: They're family - your parents, kids, siblings, husband etc. 

Two: You're so alike. Connect so your life is enhanced. 

Three: You both love Allah, and you both oppose shaytaan.

~•~

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah (The Almighty), hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Musa RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, the parable (similitude, example) of good company and a bad company is only that of a seller of musk and a blacksmith. The seller of musk will give you some perfume, you will buy some, or you will notice a good smell (pleasant scent). As for the blacksmith, he will burn your clothes or you will notice a bad smell."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5534, Sahih Muslim 2628

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is not stung twice from the same hole." 

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5782 

Sahih Muslim 2998 

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Hasan Ibn Ali RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Leave what makes you doubt for what does not make you doubt. Verily, truthfulness brings tranquility, while falsehood sows doubt."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2518

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu said: "A righteous companion is better than loneliness, and loneliness is better than an evil companion. A good writer is better than one silent, and one silent is better than an evil writer."

Source: Rawdat Al-‘Uqalā 5

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https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/note-signs-of-untrustworthy-people.html

https://abukhadeejah.com/only-true-friends-and-righteous-companions-will-benefit-you/

Links: PDF Document The Condition Of The Salaf During Ramadan (Worth Reading And Sharing)

📚 Islamic PDF book "The Condition Of The Salaf During Ramadan" in English language (not for sale), sharing this very informative document for Allah's sake as sadaqa jaariya:

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1OLUqU-nqqKIxs0Qhzko91-z_efxUSbkF/view?usp=drivesdk

Note: Sunnah Fasting This Sha'baan 1445H 2024 Thursday And The Three White Days

💎 Today: February 20 Tuesday (10th Sha'baan 1445H) 

⚪ The three white days (Ayyaam al-beedh) this Sha'baan 1445H (February 2024): 

🌼 Sunnah fasting Inn-sha-Allah this upcoming Thursday 12th Sha'baan 1445H 22nd February 

🔹13th of Sha'baan: 

23rd February Jumuah Friday

🔹14th of Sha'baan: 

24th February Saturday

🔹15th of Sha'baan: 

25th February Sunday

~•~

📖 Sahl ibn Sa'd RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, there is a gate in Paradise called Ar-Rayyaan, through which only those who fasted will enter on the Day of Resurrection. No one else will enter it along with them. It will be said: 'Where are those who fasted, so that they may enter?' When the last of them enter, it will be closed and no one else will go through it."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 1797

Sahih Muslim 1152

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Narrated Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: My friend (the noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam) advised me to observe three things: To fast three days of each month; to pray two Rak'aat of Duha prayer (forenoon prayer); and to pray Salat Al-Witr before sleeping."

Sahih Al-Bukhari 1981 In-book reference: Book 30, Hadith 88 USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 3, Book 31, Hadith 202

📖 Abu Dharr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "O Abu Dharr, if you are going to fast three days of the month, then fast on the thirteenth, fourteenth, and fifteenth days."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 761

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani  

Note: Allah The Almighty Is Always With Our Muslim Loved Ones Whom We Miss

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📜 Some tips on how to deal with feeling somewhat upset or disappointed you couldn't say proper goodbye to a loved one, friend or colleague before their travel: 

1✅ Remember all the good times and memorable moments you've enjoyed with them. Alhamdulillah at least you did your best in spending quality time with them whenever you could.

2✅ Recall that negative feelings of sadness and worry are only temporary. 

Inn-sha-Allah it may be an expiation or means of purification for a Muslim whenever he/she feels sorrowful at times. Feeling worried or sad should inspire us to move closer to Allah the Most Merciful and encourage us to increase in saying more Du'as and Adhkaar (especially reading from the Noble Qur'an whenever possible).

3✅ Firmly believe that 

Inn-sha-Allah in Jannah Paradise we can reunite and meet up with them again. It's normal for many families and friends on earth to reside far from each other or relocate. 

Inn-sha-Allah in Jannatul Ferdaus the believers there won't be examined with stress, separation or grief etc.

Be inspired also by how independent (while always trusting Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) and resilient the noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam was when he regularly climbed jabal an-noor (mountain of light) to worship Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala in cave Hiraa, and when he SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam traveled by walking to Taif with one of his companions Zaid ibn Haritha RadhiAllahu 'anhum - at that time away physically from their families and loved ones.

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah’s noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah (The Almighty) than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase 'if only' opens the way for the work of shaytan."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

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https://personalitygrowth.com/heres-how-you-handle-missing-someone-based-on-your-personality-type/