بسم الله. ربي زدني علما. امين

بسم الله. ربي زدني علما. امين
May Allah the Almighty grant us more beneficial knowledge, accept our good deeds, forgive our mistakes, protect us from fitna, and join us with the righteous believers in Jannatul Ferdaus. Ameen.

Wednesday, June 18, 2025

Note: Random Lessons Learned After Attending 3 Days Event At SM Ecoland Here In Davao Philippines

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم 

🗒️✨ Alhamdulillah the 3 days-event/exhibit at SM Ecoland hosted by the National Commission on Muslim Filipinos (NCMF) went well. 3 quick lessons learned from attending the exhibit on all three days from June 16 Monday to Wednesday June 18: 
1✅ It is recommended and more convenient to perform wudhu/ablution before going outdoors whenever you can before wearing socks that fully cover one's ankles so when it is Salah/prayer time, you can just pray if you still have your wudhu/ablution or perform wudhu then simply wipe over your socks instead of struggling to properly wash your feet while several individuals are waiting for their turn to use the faucet or CR stall.
Although there was a designated area for Muslims to pray during the 3 days exhibit, the bathroom stalls don't have bidet spray or "balde" bucket for proper washing. So it's more convenient, despite the location being several steps away from SM Ecoland, to perform one's wudhu/ablution in the bathrooms of the Muslim community near the Masjid Jamjom 
https://www.facebook.com/MasjidJamjoom/ where females can more comfortably pray at the second floor without their niqab on if they normally wear the niqab when going out and when in the presence of non-mahram males.
2✅ Five different modes of reaching SM Ecoland here in Davao city from Wisdom Islamic School near Dumanlas Buhangin district:
1➡️ Ride yellow pedicab going to SPMC (10 pesos) then take jeepney route 4 (13 pesos) going to Roxas or near Mini Forest Boulevard then take another jeepney in front of the Salmonan basketball court/gym near the pedestrian lane (13 pesos) going to SM Ecoland.
2➡️ Ride yellow pedicab going to SPMC (10 pesos) then climb the bridge to get to the other side near some convenient stores and take jeepney with sign that says "SM Ecoland" to go straight to SM Ecoland (13 pesos) - I tried this mode but since it was very difficult to find jeepneys going straight to SM Ecoland (very rare to find one) we took a regular taxi instead.
3➡️ GrabCar with fixed fee which usually costs from 300 pesos and above. The drivers usually drive fast and often take shortcuts to reach the destination quicker, probably to save on fuel and/or have more time to collect as many passengers as they can so their earnings could increase. From the benefits of taking GrabCar, besides the ride being air-conditioned, is that a lot of drivers let you use their hotspot if you don't have internet data. One time a driver was even friendly and considerate enough to allow me to charge my cellphone with his charger.
4➡️ Ordinary taxi from Wisdom Islamic School or from SPMC going straight to SM Ecoland. Depending on the traffic and on the driver's method of reaching the passengers' destinations, the fee/fare usually starts from 200 pesos something. Not ideal during rush hour and if the driver is inexperienced or uncooperative regarding taking the most efficient routes.
5➡️ With personal vehicle or with a loved one or friend who is very generous enough to give you a ride to your destination for free.
3✅ After the closing program, a number of packed meals (accordingly biryani or kabsah) were being distributed to the attendees but with the officials being prioritized. Seeing how there were more guests and participants than the quantity of packed meals, not everyone at the venue was able to receive a box of early dinner. Alhamdulillah from this I was reminded that:
📝 No matter how much we want something or we're willing to take something, we shouldn't feel entitled to receiving that thing if we didn't specifically pay for it nor actively worked for it and if it was never destined by Allah the Most Wise for us to have it. 
Anyhow, biryani and kabsah can be easily bought from Labbayk restaurant, Dani's Palace, Brew-it cafe of sister Nusaybah 
and Turkish Kebab House, Chef Cengiz Place, of sister Ayse and Jannah's Kitchen (of sister Jannah Javier Umm Muhammad) as well as other sisters with amazing ability to cook a wide variety of delicious meals, including atti Narjis Umm Fatum Lari whose biryani some time after Eid Al-Adha was one of the best biryani dishes I've tried Alhamdulillah in a long time. 

JazakAllahu Khair also to dear sister Sherry (mommy vlogger and one of the moms of our former students here at Wisdom Islamic School) for being pleasantly supportive in subtle ways despite being a busy working mom🌼

Encouraging others including myself to also support Darussalam Bookstore by purchasing some of the books and accessories being sold there as well as at Taharah AlHalal currently located somewhere around Matina:


Sunday, June 15, 2025

Note: Some Productive Things Which We Can Do During Free Time And Vacation

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
💎 From the productive things which you can 
Inn-sha-Allah do frequently during free time or vacation besides traveling to other cities and visiting loved ones:-

1☑️ Regularly reading from the Noble Qur'an and reviewing your Tajweed lessons or learning about Tajweed and how to read the Noble Qur'an with correct pronunciation.

2☑️ Attending online and face to face Islamic lectures or classes, and listening to recordings of reliable Muslim speakers such as brother in Islam ustadh Abu Khadeejah ( https://www.abukhadeejah.com ). 
Playlist of some of his recordings (if it is not deleted):

3☑️ Saying lots of Adhkaar and Dua while pondering upon Allah's beautiful creation in nature, sightseeing and going to various tourist spots if one has the financial means and having picnics occasionally with some families or carefully selected friends etc.
➡️ Some suggested group games which Muslims of the same gender can 
Inn-sha-Allah try to become more acquainted with each other: 
🌻 "Ask And Answer Game"
Each person asks a random question which they must answer truthfully first then all the participants answer that person's query one at a time. After they all answer the question, the next player asks a different question which they and other members should answer within 30 seconds.
🌼 Examples of questions: 
What are 3 things if you see someone do often would make you want to maintain connection/friendship with them? What is something which you tolerate in others but you can't stand it if it's found in you? Which 3 countries around the globe have you not been to yet but, if you could afford, you'd be interested in traveling to and why?
🌻 "Most Similar To Or Most Compatible With Game"
All participants must have a sheet of paper and a pen to write with. They should write the names of all the members on the right side of the page vertically (names on top of each other). Every time a participant says a sentence, those who agree with their statement or find it relatable must raise their hand or hold their pen higher. The person who said that sentence as well as those raising their hands place a check or star next to each participant's name and so on. After all participants constructed at least two sentences (or even one sentence each if there are many players), every participant should calculate how many stars or checks each participant received. Those who got the most number of checks or stars are supposedly most similar to them in terms of likes, dislikes and personality.
🌼 Examples of sentences: 
I'm extremely selective regarding my choice of close friends and I am not ashamed about it.✓
Alhamdulillah, I've been wearing the niqab for more than 3 years.✓
I'm absolutely fine Alhamdulillah if my husband is legally married to up to four wives.✓
I like chocolate cake more than vanilla cake.✓
Although it's enjoyed by many, I don't really fancy matcha.✓
If some individuals act rude or disrespectful, instantly I regard them as either intensely jealous of me and/or inwardly insecure and miserable.✓
As an introvert, you know I genuinely care about you if I go out of my way to request your advice or opinion on something which matters to me.✓

Saturday, June 14, 2025

Note: Some Reminders From An INTJ Muslimah (92)

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم 

Note: Some Lessons Learned To Share From Another Maranao Wedding We Attended

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم 

🌻 May Allah the Almighty always bless the marriage of dear Norjana Disalongan Sarip Lomala Sansarona with her husband captain Candidato Sharief Paduman, protect them and all their Muslim loved ones always and increase the barakah blessings in their lives and grant them only what is good for them in both worlds. Ameen. 

JazakAllahu Khair to dear atti Hamida (Umm Hanan) and her loving husband for inviting us to attend the wedding of one of their daughters which was held yesterday at Sunny Point Hotel here in Davao city from around 1 PM to about 5 PM.

Now I understand better why some people can't always be invited to attend some weddings due to limited seats. The hosts usually prioritize inviting immediate relatives and those whom they believe are most closest to them if the wedding is held at a hotel. 

Weddings held outdoors, say in open spaces or fields, or in a basketball court or at someone's residence, can generally accommodate a lot more guests than weddings which take place at luxury hotels. 

✅ Some lessons learned to share: 
1💎 If some Muslim families or friends did not invite you to a wedding, be contented. Patiently accept Allah's Qadr/Destiny and confidently respect those Muslims' decision. Maybe they had limited seats available or they genuinely forgot to include you in their long list of invitees as they were extremely busy with numerous tasks and responsibilities.

2💎 If somebody directly invited you to their wedding or wedding of one of their loved ones, do not feel tempted to invite several other human beings just because you were invited, because too many guests can lead to some inconvenience for other visitors who were invited to attend the same social event, unless you asked the hosts first if they're absolutely okay with you adding two or three more individuals to accompany you. Yesterday I noticed that several chairs were being used by children while a number of elderly guests were searching for seats. I believe that the hosts specified the right number of guests they can invite so the lack of seats probably meant that some extras (likely from the groom's side?) weren't supposed to be at the event if there's a limited number of seats. It is from good manners and basic etiquettes 
Inn-sha-Allah to not bring along those whose names were not recorded in the hosts' list of limited invitees. More seats means extra charges and we should be considerate enough to not want the hosts to spend more than what is reasonable for them.

3💎 Attend a wedding sincerely for Allah's sake and be kind enough to bring a wedding gift instead of showing up empty-handed. If you couldn't purchase some items to give the bride and groom something useful and meaningful, you can 
Inn-sha-Allah send them your wedding gift some time after their wedding. 
Giving gifts for Allah's sake is another way to strengthen connections. And if you can't give any present due to temporary financial restraints, then you could at least send the bride and groom or their parents/guardians some messages to sincerely congratulate them. 
Don't simply attend a gathering without even thanking the hosts for inviting you.

Being wholeheartedly grateful to others is one of the positive characteristics of Allah's pious Muslim servants.

Friday, June 13, 2025

Poem: My Husband Being Loved By Allah The Most Wise Makes Me Happier Than Any Temporary Luxury

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 
💚 While some wives around the world celebrate with extreme 
Joy when they receive from the husband iPhone sixteen 
Or whatever brand they got which costs loads of money, 
I'm one of those wives who outwardly and inwardly 
Express happiness when my dear spouse arrives safely 
From Hajj or Umrah - or from a different country. 
While most seek affluence, I desire my friend's safety.
~•~
I'd rather smile with contentment whenever I see 
My beloved hubby spending his earnings wisely 
Than to act like silly gold-diggers so greedily 
Demanding my soulmate to spoil me financially, 
Assuming I'm attached to dunya temporary 
When that's not the case at all in actuality - 
I want him to compete with me for Jannah's entry.
~•~
It's fine if the allowance he gives me frequently 
Can't be perceived as "much" or "impressive" by many. 
Alhamdulillah. It's sufficient as long as he 
Strives to ensure his wealth isn't ribaa/usury 
Nor stolen money. I guarantee his piety 
Is much more important to me than material greed.
My husband's firm belief exceeds this world's luxuries.
~•~
My spouse is from Allah's blessings, I firmly believe, 
As loving my husband for Allah the Almighty 
Moved me to write a large portion of my poetry, 
To rhyme creatively and enhance my loyalty. 
Though my husband doesn't preach or teach, he lovingly 
Inspires my patience for Allah, thus reminding me 
To strive for Jannah where bliss is enjoyed perfectly.
~•~
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."
Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 4252
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1159
Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi
Ali Al-Qari said, "That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala."
Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātih 5/2125
📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."
Source: Sahih Muslim 1467
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

📝✨ Sharing my research paper 
Inn-sha-Allah in Arabic language as sadaqa jaariyah (the topic I chose at Markaz Ibn Al-Qayyim Islamic institute was about the negative consequences of divorce): 

✅ Some advice in English language on how divorce is not always the best solution,
PDF document which you can Inn-sha-Allah share as sadaqah jaariya: 

📝 Text: